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My boyfriend wont get back together with me!! I really love him and I don't wanna loose him!! He's really nice and sweet!!

please advice to help me get back together with him!! I really want too!!

Thanks everyone,

From,
Boyfriendless

I went threw the same thing a while ago. What I did was stop talking to him for along time. After that some time passed and we started talking again(as friends), Soon being friendly turned into flirting, and now were are going out again. We stoped talking in the 8th grade, got backtogether in 9th and we are still together and I am on my way to 11th! The point is if you two broke up it was for a reason. Its not going to be easy but you have got to leave him alone, if he still likes you he will come crawling back (trust me), and if he doesn't you have to give it time, talk to him again later, and see if it works out. What ever you do dont go after him because this will make him get over you quicker. If I knew more details about why you broke up I could help alot more, If you want send me a comment on why you guys broke up and I'll help you out as much as I can, I know breaking up with the person you love is really hard. But I am here to help you through this if you need my help.

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13/f
A lot has happened to me: parents have cancer, getting a divorce, was rapped (twice), have depression do drugs, smoke and i told my friend alex and he can relate (depression and sorda my supplier) and i told my BEST FRIEND allie and one more person cuz she said she new ppl who are on drugs and i needed some more..and she told.a bunch of people AND the school councilor alex tells me she was trying to help but ive been getting a lot of questioning lately and i hate it.but then again, i wanted an adult to know, but i dunno if i should be mad at her i mean i AM REALLY PISSED!!!!! but still..PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
much love..

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No, dont be mad at her she was just trying to help. And if people are bothering u tell them that you rather not talk about that, its something personal and you would perfer if they would not ask anymore. My mom has depression, it runs in her side of the family, she is not taking any drugs anymore because she says that you dont need them. You sound like you have depression because you have gone threw alot. I suggest to get involved in things, volunteer, join a club. Do something you like to do and have not done in a long time, it will make you feel alot better.

Hope I helped =)
If you want more advice just ask me in a comment =)

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Sorry this is long but I WILL RATE!

Ok so my friend we'll call her Kim liked this guy well call him Bob. Well Kim was kinda scared to talk to him and see if Bob liked her so I did. He wouldn't tell me if he liked her or not and that not a hard question so for the next few days my school had some field trips and he was on my buss and the buss ride i kept asking who he liked if he liked her or not, still he wouldn't tell. So then i told him i'd annoy him till he told me, and he was like what ever. So then for them on for like a week i'd see him in the hall and for about 2-3 minutes for the next week i'd annoy him. I could see he was getting annoy so i kinda stopped a little. And since then i stopped and recently he said told me that he was getting annoyed and i don't get how i havn't mentioned or asked who he likes or Kim since Friday. I just don't get it i stopped annoying and he's still annoyed why?! And he'll IM like everytime he's on and I usually talk and he just says on or two worded answer then signs off when i start to talk him. And my other friend keeps bring the whole subject up and I just don't know what to do should i talk to him about the situation (i don't relaly know him to well so that might be hard) or should i just stop talking him or just forget the whole situation or even something totally diffrent.

Please give me some advice!! I WILL RATE!!!!!!!!

Well if he is annoyed dont even talk to him until he cools off, infact dont talk to him till he starts talking to you normally. Its great that you want to help out your friend, but bugging this guy is not helping at all, I suggest you guys just leave him alone for awhile and if "kim" feels like she has to know, she is acting pretty despret. Honestly if the guy likes her, he should tell her, girls should never be chasing after guys it will make them less intrested, especially if he gets annoyed. Best thing to do is act like he doesnt exist for awhile. Then if he really likes this Kim he will let her know, and if not hes a wuss and she should find someother guy. Oh and ther reason he says he feels annoyed when you stopped annoying him is because since you say you do not know him that well, thats how he got to know you, as annoying, now whenever he sees you or hears from you he thinks, "oh its the annoying girl", so you should deffinetly not talk to him anytime soon.

Hope I helped =)

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I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)

I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think?

Well I am a teen and yes I am sexually active. I am 16 years old now, I lost my virginity at 15 and I was ready, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. I have to say that it is not about age, there is no right or wrong age to have sex. As far as the "sex ed" us teens recieve it is mostly about women and thier periods, and the sperm fertalizing the egg. They need to be teaching more important things. I have heard a million crazy questions, recently my friend came up to me crying because she thought that if you were a virgin and you have sex for the first time you cant get pregnant, and now she was. We dont need hear every year about how our eggs get fertalized or how we can get stds, everyone knows already. We need to know how to protect ourselves, the diffrent options, and all our questions need to be answered before we make mistakes.

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one of my labia's is about 5 times the size of the other. not only does it cause me emotional discomfort, but it hurts after sex or after my boyfriend fingers me... and sometimes even during. is this normal, and what should i do?

Yes that is normal, alot of women have that. If it bothers you alot there is surgery to make it smaller. This is definatly not something you should rush into but just an option. The best thing to do is to go to your gynecologist, if you dont have one, this is probably a good time to find one.

This website might help there are before and after pictures of labia surgery, so obviously if you dont want to see that, dont click on the link.

http://www.labiadoctor.com/

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Okay, I really really really want to have sex with him (a.k.a. my boyfriend) but everytime we are about to "do it", I chicken out.

I don't know why, I guess that it's because I'm a virgin.
But I wish I weren't so scared. And I can never figure
out why I back out.

What should I do? Wait to have sex? Or just hold my
tongue and get it over with?

[p.s.] i'm a female, 16 years old

I know exactly how you feel, I went through the same thing. Listen it sounds like you have a pretty good boyfriend because he has stayed with you regardless of sex, thats great. Now theres alot of things to think of. I remeber I was about to do it like 3 times and I just couldnt go threw with it. I was scared that it would really hurt, and I just got all nervous and tense. I lost it to my boyfriend when I was ready and it didnt hurt at all, I have alot of advice I could give you so it wont hurt if you want to know just tell me in the feedback section(to get to it you rate the answer I gave you and there will be a little comment thing on the bottom). If you do decide to do it I have to say this DO NOT DO IT IF YOU ARE TENSE, if you do, it will most likely hurt. Make sure you love and trust your boyfriend, and he probably knows that you are a virgin if you backed out at the last second before, you really should tell him before you do anything though.

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so i am a female at age 13 going on 14. and about a month ago when i was working on a project with two guys(nerds). anyways he started asking why i had a mastache. and yes everyone has hair their but it shouldnt be noticable like this is? how do i get rid of this problem?
please dont say ignore them
xoxo KML

If it really bothers you, you would have to wax or bleach it. but once you start you have to keep it up because otherwise it will look worse. Waxing does make hair grow back a little thicker around the upper lip and eyebrow area, and when you bleach, the hair grows and then you have to bleach again otherwise you will have roots! ON YOU UPPER LIP! yea its kinda weird, I waxed and then regreted it because it actually wasnt that bad before. Now every month I go to the salon to get hair riped off my upper lip. So think about it, if you can live with it upper lip like you have it then forget about what those losers said.
Oh also bleach can leave your skin irratated and you lose some of your skins color, I wouldnt recommend it if you have tan or dark skin. If you have the money for it laser hair removal would get rid of it in a second and you never have to worry about it again. DO NOT SHAVE!!! IT WILL LOOK REAL NASTY IN ABOUT A WEEK OR TWO IF YOU SHAVE! JUST DONT DO IT OR YOU LOOK LIKE A GUY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE . Hope this helped =)

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My boyfriends birthday is in a couple days and he made my birthday absolutely AMAZING beyond belief so i wanna try to make his special for him.. i'm not really sure what to do though.
(obviously get him presents & stuff, but i already got all that)

I had the idea of making a little scavenger hunt for him in the morning before he goes to work to find his presents but i'm not really sure how to work it out, or to hang signs or what they should say or anything.

His sisters said they'll help me put the stuff around the house the night before after he goes to bed so that wouldnt be an issue.

help please.. sooner the better. his birthday is in two days!

thanks.

The scavenger hunt issss cute but it could be a bit of a hasel, for an easier yet cute real idea before he gets home from work decorate put his present on his bed and put ballons around it, then if he has a fan you can put confetti on it so when it turns on it'll go everywhere(not too much confetti lol) Or instead of confetti little messages or papers with X's and O's, hmmm you could even hide under his bed and pop up after he is all surprisede and give him biiiiiiig kiss.

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Why is it that when your emo/rock/punk/gothic or whatever that people call you fake when you wear something that's like pink or from the mall? Isn't the whole point of being emo and stuff to be original?

No being emo means being "emo"tional, listening to emo just means u like the emotional music, what you wear has nothing to do with it, it just kind of hard for people to imagine a kid who listens to that to be wearing pink so they call them fake, If you are truley original you wouldnt care what those retards think.And ironically once you dont care they think your cool and thats when they all start acting like you. Lifes weird like that.

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I'm 13 and I've liked this guy for a year now, and I'm beginning to wonder whether I should tell him I like him. I doubt he likes me back in "that way", but I'm 99.99999...% sure that he likes me as a friend. We're good friends. Not like unseparably devoted best friends, but we talk a lot. I'm not sure whether telling him how I feel is a good idea. Can anyone give me their thoughts?

WOOOOOOOH! hold on dont just tell him. If he is your best friends suddenly telling him that could be a real shock maybe even scare him away. You need to flirt a little and see how he reacts.If he flirts back or smiles or something then continue to flirt (not too much flirt like every other day)for about a week then, when your ready, tell him.

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Alright. So for about three years i had the same best friend. We were really close and nothing ever got in between us. After three years though, i met another girl who kinda took her place. We were best friends for about a year and a half, but then i met ANOTHER girl who also took the place of my other best friend. After a very short time, me and that girl got too much of each other. I really dont know what to do. It's like i can't have a best friend but i always have at least 5 really great ones. Can anyone relate or give advice on how to get used to my best friend's flaws?

Well I think the best thing to do is make all your friends friends with eachother, if you cant have one best friend treat them all equally dont have on take the place of another. Have a group of close friends. It works out for everybody.

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Ok, I know this is a weird question.

I'm just curious, I'm not trying to get a bigger ass, but anyways, if you really exercise your gludius maximus (aka butt muscle), will you get a bigger butt?
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Excercising definatly helps, it makes your butt lift and get a little bigger. Having protein (not too much) helps make the muscle grow. Heres a tip do squats 3 sets of 15 reps, go down slowly and back up slowly. Then do lunges 3 sets of 15 reps on each leg, once you got the hang of it you can add weights. Whenever excercising its good to have a little something to eat something to eat to give you energy before you work out(I have fat free yogurt), and a healthy meal after. I always had a nice ass but I did this (like my mom told me too she has an awsome body and she is 44! so yea I listen to her, she has a big butt too)and my butt got bigger I LOOOOOOOVE it now.Hope this helped

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