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Had to follow up on your feedback. How do you think mom is going to feel if something should happen to you? Awful. Please reconsider saying something to her. She can get over the fact that you have an eating disorder. She would always have to live with not having realized it herself if you get really sick. Sorry to bother you, I just had to say it. Take care, and keep in touch ,OK ? :) YG (link)
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Thanx for that. Well, I'm really trying to stop the belimic thing. The few times i actually tried made me feel really sick and i just don't want that. I don't think the anorexia is all that bad. I haven't like fainted and i'm actually really used to it. It's been going on for awhile. I think my body would get messed up if i stopped. I wanted to start my new school year off with being better because i was during the summer. But it came back like a habit. I felt soo bad but i've kinda accepted it. I know that's not good but over time i hope i get better. I'm not all that bad because my parents still make me eat at home so i doubt i'll get really sick. But thanx soo much. It helps to talk about this to somebody older. Oh, i'm 15/f by the way, i think i've never mentioned that. Write Back!!!
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You said that religions are all centered around the idea of a supreme being, but this is not so. Some forms of Buddhism are atheistic, in fact. The only belief, then, that seems to bind religions is the belief in "the spirit" or "the soul". I could be wrong, but it seems to me that most religions hold some sort of belief about the mind coming from "the soul".
This isn't really a question, so feel free not to answer it. Just thought I'd chime in. (link)
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Since that wasn't a question, then i won't call this an answer, just a reply. I'm sorry if i was wrong about Buddhism but i don't believe in any aspect of it. You're right saying alot of religions have to do with the soul. Everybody has one even if you don't believe that. Why be in a religion that's atheistic? Personally, to me that makes no sense. I'm a Christian because i believe in God and His Supreme Being over me. But religion requires a lot of faith. That's something you have to agree on there. If you read the Bible, it could totally answer alot of your questions. I'm not gonna try and convert you exactly. But you know what i believe in and i'm strictly going to enforce that. Any more questions/comments you have i'd love to talk. If you want, my sn is the same as my columnist name. Hope i helped!!!
4Him, Disciple
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im 13/m, and im from the middle east, and my family follows the religion Islam. from time to time, im not sure if i completly believe in the ways of Islam. Sometimes im positive that there can't be a God, other times it's the other way around. But besides believing in God, i also find other things i disagree with about the Islam religion. I'm starting to be interested in Buddhism, and I like how the religion is set around believing whatever you want to believe, but i don't know how to tell my parents this, being that they are kind of religious. I'm also not sure if im too young to change my choice of religion.
sorry if its long. ill rate 5's. (link)
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First of all, you are old enough to think for yourself. You have your own opinions so you can decide. I'm a Christian so let me explain a little on Christianity. Islam, if i'm correct, centers around getting to paradise through good works. Christianity is nothing like that. Jesus Christ came to earth and died on the cross for everybody's sins. He did that so we wouldn't have to work to get to Heaven. If we call on His name and trust him to save us from ETERNAL hell, He'll save us right then!!! We don't have to be perfect to get to paradise and be rewarded. But God does want us to try to be just like Him. That's why we read the Bible. The Bible is where God explains what he hates about sin and which ones he despises. Like murder for instance. He also teaches us on how to be more like him. Buddhism sounds cool because it is basically what you want. But that doesn't make sense. Religions are all centered around a supreme higher being, like God for example. Well, i hope i helped ya. If you have any questions at all, feel free to send one to the inbox. I'll pray for you!!!
4Him, Disciple John 3:16
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OK well i think i might be annorexic. I'm about 4'9 and only like 86 pounds. That never seems to be thing enough for me. I'm always trying to lose weight some how or another. Now i don't know what to do...i don't want to tell my mom b/c i'm not sure if i am or not and i don't want to worry her. I'm just scared that i'm getting myself into trouble with this stuff...does anyone have ne suggestions for me? I'm scared...i dont want to end up in the hospital b/c of this...thanks in advance! (link)
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If you think you might be anorexic then you're probably always worrying about weight and how u look, right??? But you sound like you aren't doing it purposefully. It's great to want to stay healthy, but if you're depriving yourself of food, then you're getting into some dangerous stuff. Little things like being worried about weight lead to a need to be thinner and to eat less. You might even start to starve yourself. If you're worried now, start talking to like a really close friend about it. Try to eat consistently or go on a HEALTHY diet. But stop thinking weight-wise as much and more of healthy. Please be careful and you won't get hurt or be put in the hospital. Hope i helped and good luck!
4Him, Disciple
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16/f. I'm really into a guy at my school, and we're friends and we chat all the time, talk on the phone and online, and whatever. He likes me too, and we've considered dating. The only problem is, he's pretty overweight. Now, I wouldn't care, I don't just look for visual appeal in a person. But I'm really active, I love to play tennis and swim, and I do a lot of biking and jogging. It would be really nice if a guy that I dated would be able to do all of those things with me, and since he's not an active person, I don't know if we'd be able to. We're both really into European history, and we love to read and do those Cryptoquips in the newspaper, and I have a really good time hanging out with him. But are we compatible enough to build a relationship on? (link)
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Well, you just mentioned some awesome things that you BOTH like to do. Sounds like you have to decide what's more important to you. A more fit guy or somebody who shares just different interests. If you're not concerned with looks, and you both like each other then it sounds like it could really work out. Just as long as his weight doesn't matter to you. Don't worry about compatibility, just do what u know is right and u can't go wrong. Hope i helped and good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple
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ok, i got my braces off today and my bottom front teeth are sore...well the gumm around them is at least. It swelled up really big and is covering like half my tooth. My school starts in like 6 days..how do i get rid of it and keep it not so swollen..haha sry i worded that wrong. :) thank-you (link)
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I don't think there's anything you can do. If you think it's infected, try rinsing with salt-water. But if you have 6 days, it'll most likely be gone by then. So don't worry and just be careful with it. Hope i helped!!!
4Him, Disciple
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ok i was talkin online wuit mi bff 2day and i was
like i got a lighter blonde hair colour cuz i got
blonde hair and she was like iming her cuzzin
and tellin all this stuff behind mi back and i love mi bff 2 death but like shes doin all that kinda stuff 2 me wut should i do? (link)
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If you don't like it, then I would step up and do something about it. If y'all are that close, then she should understand. Just tell her how best friends shouldn't do that to each other cuz it just aint right. If she really IS a good friend for ya, she'll stop. But if she doesn't, maybe it's time to move on and meet some nicer friends. I know that's really hard, but people change. But just bring it up when you're talking to her and be honest. Hope i helped!!!
4Him, Disciple
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how do you say yes when someone askes you out without sounding too...i dont really know what i mean (link)
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Just say, "yeah, i'd luv to" or something like that. You don't have to exaggerate everything like, "omg!!! i would absolutely love to go out with you!!!" ya know??? Just say what comes out first because that'll probably be the best thing for you. Hope i helped and good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple
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how do you dump a guy? (link)
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Try just telling him. Don't like write him a letter or anything. Being honest is so much faster and easier. If you don't feel comfortable with telling him to his face, try doing it through the phone, aim, or email. But be honest with the guy and i'm sure he'll understand. Good luck with it!!!
4Him, Disciple
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Im starting High School in 10 days. Im excited/nervous but whatever. Does anybody know any school supplies that will be needed? Or could anybody recommend school supplies i should have? Except for pens,notebooks and a backpack because i already have those things? (link)
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Besides pens, pencils, paper and stuff like that, you won't need much for the first couple of days. Usually the teachers will tell you what they expect for you to have. Then they'll give you a certain date that you need to have them by. So as long as you have paper and pens, you should be fine.
4Him, Disciple
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All of a sudden last night my eyes started to sting and get wicked watery... Theyve been like that all day since last night... Ive tried eye drops and they dont work.. Its irritating me because my eyes rarely water and now i cant even wear my eyeliner because my eyes keep frigin watering.... I just wanted to know what this could mean if anything??... (link)
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I doubt it's anything really bad. If you're writing this then i'm guessing you spend alot of time on the computer??? Personally, staring at a screen for a couple of hours each day makes mine water for a while. Or if you watch tv too close or read too close, it all has the same effect. You might even just has allergies. But i doubt it's anything bad, so don't worry. Hope i helped!!!
4Him, Disciple
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hey...well within the last year i have become christian. but lately i have been having my doubts. i have depression, and have had it for about 2 years now. i pray so much but i dont seem to be making any progress to becoming happier. i dont understand why my prayers arent getting answered. (link)
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I'M A CHRISTIAN!!! so no way am i gonna tell you He isn't real, because He is!!! Wow, i'm soo happy you're part of the family, but about your question. I understand going through that depression. I did too for about a year and i prayed and got mad at God alot because i felt like He was totally ignoring me. But the best thing about Him is, everything that goes on in our lives is seen by Him. Everything has a purpose. God is always nearby and listening. And alot of times, He doesn't answer prayers immediately. One of the fruits of the spirit is patience. He wants to develop in us a patience and a strong faith. Just keep believing and praying because He hears everything and will never leave you!!! I know it's soo hard to think you're not getting anywhere, believe me, i totally understand. But even though you can't see it, God is working through this. Keep reading your Bible. Try Proverbs or Matthew. Those are my two favorite books. But keep praying too. I hope i seriously helped. If you need, my sn is my columnist name. Feel free to talk to me anytime about this. I'd luv to help ya!!!
4Him, Disciple
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im sure everygirl has the problem but i am confused me and my bf were at a party on the golf course and there was the bench like away from everyone he asked if i wanted to go up there with him and i said yes...so we went up there and all he did was sit there and barely even talked...i was kinda let down if u know what i mean.. but finally he started to talk and all of our freidns came up there being there nosey little selves........it seems like im making the first moves ..... i know he likes me but how or what can i do to make him come out of his shell (link)
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Try giving the guy some time. He might have been having a bad day, that's all. Just don't worry about it because i'm sure he wont do that again. As a gurl, you can only do so much to get this guy talking. He'll have to come out and really make the first move. I'm sure he will, just give him some time and don't worry so much. Hope i helped, and good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple
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Okay, Hi
Im having a bit of a problem, my friends brother, we'll call him mark, has a MASSIVE crush on me and I'm not sure i feel the same way.. I might a little bit, but definatly not the way he feels about me! I stayed at his house for a few days this summer because his sister is my best friend... or one of them, and i came in looking like myself, i am big on makeup and hair and stuff, but i came out with none, if not hardly and makeup on, a couple zits and limp hair that was a little greasy. I didnt look to good and a week or so later he said that he thinks that im beautiful - not hot, beautiful. On my first night there, my friend fell asleep on the couch and so it was just him and i, we talked for three or so hours and it was so easy to talk to him, and i could tell he was sooo happy he got to talk to just me... im not sure if that means anything but just thought i would share that with you.
Please help, im so confused as what to do!
and i cant ask him out because my friend would kill me! (link)
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First of all, really decide if you feel the same way to this guy. Say you do and u really want to ask him out. Try talking to your best friend first about it before you do anything. Just mention that you and her brother have been getting along really well lately. Start hinting that you two might be interested. Be honest with her and if she's a good friend for ya, she'll understand AND support whatever you two decide to do. Maybe even have her brother talk to her. But there are a ton of ways to work with her. Don't let one person get in the way for both of y'all tho. Hope i helped and good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple
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I hear a lot of crap about me being over weight & fat from a bunch of people. I try and brush it off like I don't care & usually I have good comebacks. I don't want to insult them back, because that's just stupid and I think arguements just full of insults are stupid, what's something I can say to them, that would make it seem like I really don't care what they have to say about me? Thanks a bunch, I'll rate you five no matter what. (link)
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You're right, insults are stupid and will most likely make things alot worse for you. If you want them to drop it, then dont make any remarks. They'll eventually get the hint that what they're saying doesn't bother you. Try just sitting there and smiling. I know that'll be hard, but eventually they'll shut up. Who cares what other people say anyways. Don't worry or let it bother you. Good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple
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Ok well I started school 2 days ago, and already I'm hating it. But not just because of the classes/teachers. I hate it because I don't have many friends in my classes. In 4 out of my 7 classes, there's only 2 ppl I like (my bf and this one girl). The problem is that all the teachers seat us alphabetical order, and my last name isn't close to my bf or friend. So, basically I'm sitting by people I'm not really friends with. I have known these people that i'm sitting with for a couple of years, and although i can talk to them, Im not really friends with them. They're ok people and all, it's just I feel left out and lonely sometimes.
My question is- what do I do? I mean, iv'e been trying to make friends with these people and it's not working. Help please!!! (link)
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Making friends takes a long time. People are intimidated when it comes to making new friends. They like going through their regular routine with the same people. Try just striking up a conversation with somebody who looks really nice. Open up and give them time. It takes a while to really build up a good friendship. I was new to my school last year and didn't know a soul. Now i know a ton of people because i just started talking to them. Try that and give it time. Hope i helped!!!
4Him, Disciple
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i recently meet this guy. hes great and i really like him but i cant stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend...i really wanna get back 2gether with him and at the same time i dont cuz he wuld always blow me off and never see me and the guy i met he likes me alot and i like him 2 and he wuld do anything for me.but everytime im with him i end upp think about muh ex...what should i doo? (link)
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You yourself said your old boyfriend would most likely blow you off. Compared to this other guy, the second guy seems so much better for you. He cares for you and sounds like he'd never do anything to hurt you. Start focusing on him and really try to forget about your ex. I know it's hard to forget, but sometimes you just gotta move on. I hope everything works out for ya!!!
4Him, Disciple
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Hi. I'm a 16 year old girl and I have a huge problem. I often times wonder about God. I'm sure that I believe in him but at times I have doubts...is that normal? And also, is it true that God has a plan for everyone and some people are bound to go to hell? (link)
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I'm 15/f and sometimes i get mad at God and wish he didn't exist. But he does. Have you ever heard of predestination??? It's where God knows who will go to heaven and who will go to hell. He 'foreordains' it meaning he's planned it. God wants nobody to go to hell but many reject him and his mercy. God does have a plan for everybody whether Christian or non-Christian. And yes, people are going to go to hell if they don't accept him as their Lord and Savior. But Christianity is faith. Faith means believing in the unknown so yes, it's definitely hard to believe in Him through certain circumstances. But He's still there always beside you. Don't give up because God knows what He's doing in your life and you just gotta believe in Him. His wrath will be taken out on sinners but as Christians we dont' have to worry because our names are written in the Lamb's Book of Life, as in we are God's children for good now. God is love and fair. So don't worry but God does exist. Look around at the world and really ask how anything could exist without a superior Creator in charge. Hope i helped!!!
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You cant get into heaven by works alone...you must be a child of God.
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There's this guy that I really like, and we're in a couple classes together. The problem is, we never really talked last year. But I'm really shy. How can I get over my shyness and just talk to him, or even say hi? Rate 5's for good answers. (link)
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There isn't exactly a formula or exact thing to do to get over being shy. You just gotta take a deep breath and go for it. Just introduce yourself and act really interested. See him more as a friend if that helps you feel more comfortable. Being shy is all mental. Just remember that you know this guy and you dont have to feel shy around him. Well, good luck and i hope i helped!!!
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All my friends seem depressed expecially my one friend who talks about "Killing her parents with no remorse" on her xanga. Im really worried for her. Thing is, she says she would do it but I know she wouldnt. She talks more about suicide and how terrible her life is. Her life really isnt bad, her parents just have really strict limits which I know can drive a teen crazy. She doesnt seem to know that there millions of kids out there with way worse situations than her who make it through everyday. She keeps repeating it alot probably for attention (Maybe shes asking for help, I dont know) Im just really not sure what to do anymore... (link)
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First of all, don't suppose she would never do anything. Sometimes people have more going on in their lives then what they tell you or anybody. She might be doing it for attention or she might really be struggling with it. Maybe have her talk with your school counselor or somebody who would understand. If her life isn't all that bad, then just ler her cool off for a couple of days. If she's still acting weird, talk to somebody about it. She might need a friend or some real help. Hope i helped!!!
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