Hi, this is Kate. I'm 17. My life motto is 'Live Laugh Love', I really think those are great words to live by and I'm planning to have it made into a tattoo. I'm not religious but I love learning about different religions. I write stories based on things that have happened to me because sometimes I have days where I just think 'wow that sounds like something out of a book'. I've finished 3 stories and I'm about to start my first horror story..very exciting. I believe in fairy tale love...the kissing in the rain, staring at the stars on the rooftop kind of love..Why? Because I'm in that kind of love and its been the greatest time of my life. And it didn't come easy.
I'd love to help you with whatever issues come your way. I've been in relationships where the guy was too old for me, the guy was my best friend, the guy just wanted to get some. I've been the other woman but I'm not proud of it. I've been the girl who waits years to be with the guy she wanted.
I come from the type of home where everyone seems okay and then when everyone leaves its chaos. My parents should have been divorced years ago and I can't stand to be around either of them so for now I'm going day by day, only coming home to sleep and counting down the days until I go to college in August.
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16/f
i'm wondering if it hurts when girls lose there virginity. on a scale of 1 to 10. i was also wondering what is dry humping? (link)
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Dry humping is like grinding..in bed.
My pain level was about a 4 or a 5. It was more painful than I. Expected but much less painful than the stories I've heard. You have to be relaxed!
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So here goes...
I asked a guy out and he said no because he had a girlfriend, and he said he would hit me up when he was single, so he did thatt and we hung outt....long story short...we hung outt for a lil bit and he suggested sex, and I said no for an hour and a half, and then we had sexx. now I don't know what to doo...should I leave it alone until he talkes to me...and do guys lose respect for a girl after he sleeps with him....or whatt? Whats your take on itttt!?!? (link)
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I don't really think this guy has respect for women in the first place. You had to keep telling him no, thats a red flag right there. Just the fact that he suggested it bugs me but then he obviously pressured you into it..if you weren't pressured then you must have done it just to shut him up. Guys don't lose respect for girls because they had sex with them, this guy just didn't have respect for you or girls in general. Ditch him.
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i got my ear lobes pierced for the first time on july 18th. the pain stopped that night and get a little sore for a few minutes after i clean and turn them. my left ear is the one giving me the problems. it itches and is more tender then my right ear. my right ear itches and is sore too, but doesnt last as long as my other ear. i clean them twice a day with the after care solution i got from piercing pagoda. i do my best to clean then with q tips, but to make sure theyre clean i wet a cotton ball with the solution and rub over the front and backs with it.
but my real question is, is the itched part of the healing process? it gets a bit red after i turn them but it goes away and is normal color until the next time i turn them. im just so paranoid about my ears right now, i love the piercings so much i dont want them infected. (link)
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You're doing everything right, the only way that they would get infected is if the needle or piercing gun they used wasn't sterile. And all of my piercings (I've got 3 in one ear, 2 in the other)they all itched..and I always thought it was just me until I read this. But yeah they itch a little so just twist the earing and it solved the problem for me. You should twist them anyways throughout the day, it helps form the hole. They're going to get red, its fine as long as they're not bleeding or oozing any gross stuff.
Just so ya know..when I was younger, around 8 years old I got my first two holes pierced and for some reason I took the earings out before I was supposed to and then I couldn't get them back in and my hole ended up closing after a few days. Just make sure you keep the earings in! I had to have mine repierced.
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What hotels in America put chocolate under your pillow? I've never seen it done! (link)
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The Wynn in Las Vegas was the only hotel I've been to that does that. Its mostly very high end classy hotels.
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so i saw this car, but i was in the car so i couldn't get a great picture of it.
all i know is that it's a Mercedes Benz.
if anyone knows what type of car this is, it'd be great.
thankss
http://tinypic.com/r/ezoftd/3 (link)
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It really looks like a Chrysler New Yorker from the early 80's
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i feel like a lump
what do you guys *really* do each day? (not counting eating, showering, sleeping of course)
i hate when people ask me what i am up to because really, i don't do anything except like watch tv. and being at home during the summer while in college sucks bc no one else is around and its hard to get a job nowadays (link)
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I've been feeling the same way. Although I've had a really good summer so far I feel like I've been a huge bum.
So my day(everyday)goes like this:
Wake up around noon, take a shower, drive to my boyfriend's house, hang out with him (play pool, watch tv...watch more tv, other bf/gf stuff..) and then I go home between midnight-2am and my parents are asleep so I go on my computer (like I am now) and check my myspace,email,this site,facebook...all that stuff, then I go to bed right before the sun rises and do it all again the next day.
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I liked your advice alot, it seemed to most practical and least embarrassing, and the part about maybe asking him to a group thing seems ideal, but really im so nervous and shy that i literally...cant make ...eye contact and my hands shake..no joke...any tips to be less nervous, cause' it'd be so hard to pretend he's not there im totally gone on the guy, and picturing him in underwears out..haha. (link)
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Alrighty..I have anxiety problems and I've been through having my hands shaking so bad I'd be afraid to hold a glass and having that sickening feeling in the pit of your stomach..I guess I forgot to mention that despite playing it cool when I met my boyfriend I was still shaking. We all went bowling and I had to go to the bathroom so I could relax. Then I found out that he wanted to put his arm around me..thought I was going to have a heart attack. I told my friends to tell him not to do it because I don't think my nerves could have handled it. It was an akward 'first date' no doubt. You will have nerves, its going to happen. And let's be real, occasionally eye contact can be akward...well if you're caught staring at him from a distance it is. If you can somehow watch him out of the corner of your eye and wait until he glances your way then you can look up and make eye contact. Try this a couple times. You're going to have to make eye contact at some point. It helps people connect and feel comfortable. So if you need to step away and take a breather..do so. Also with the group thing...yes friends will make you slightly more comfortable but you have to create opportunity away from everyone else for him to possibly start a conversation with you if he wanted. Example: you're at a friends house and everyones in the living room being loud and watching tv, playing games..whatever. Go into the kitchen to get a drink weather you need one or not. Don't linger so long that people start to wonder where you went.
If you still need help let me know. Or if you get a date planned I can hopefully help you get through it without passing out. Haha. Let me know.
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I know people always say you can love one person, then move on and love another person. I'm not sure how to do that though. What was it like for you (whoever decides to answer this question) when you moved on to another person, and fell in love with them? Did you learn anything new? Do you regret leaving the person you loved before that person? Any advantages, disadvantages? ..Any pointers to help me? .. Any advice at all would be appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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My first love was when I was 14, our relationship got dull quickly and I fell out of love and we broke up. When I had just turned 17 I began another relationship with my best guy friend who I loved already from a friendship point but then it started moving on to more than that but I had fallen in love, he didn't. Again it ended quickly and I was crushed. The most depressed I think I've ever been in my life. I cried everyday until I literally don't think I had any tears left to cry. In an attempt to get my mind off him one of my best friends and her boyfriend introduced me to a friend of his. We're going on 6 months together. I've been through the first love, I've been through falling in love with your best friend but the relationship I'm in now is deep, true love and I'm not going to lie, I had doubts in the begining because I still had some feelings for the best friend at the time but that passed.
To answer your questions:
You learn from every relationship. It might not be something you realize at first. In my first relationship I learned not to go out with someone just because they like you, the best friend relationship I learned that even the people closest to you can be unpredictable and in my current relationship I learned that this is everything I want.
I have no regrets. I don't regret dating a 17 year old when I was 14 despite the shit and judgement I got from family and friends. I don't regret being with my best friend even though we fought afterwards and didn't talk for a month because being with him had some good memories.
I'm not the type of girl to go from guy to guy. I've been single more years than not. There were 3 years between the first two relationships and 4 months between the 2nd and the one I'm in now. I'm not the type of girl who falls in love easily, I don't settle for anyone and I'll be the girl to sit there and wait and reject hundreds until I find the perfect guy so I'm not like the people who date for 2 weeks and suddenly they're in love. And even if I feel love I won't tell them until I'm 100% sure.
As for the advantages/disadvantages:
Love is the strongest drug out there. I've never been so carefree as I am now. I've smoked things and drank stuff that was supposed to make your worries go away but nothing works as well as having someone who loves you more than the air they breathe look you in the eyes and tell you everythings going to be alright.
The only disadvantage is if the love ended because it'll be the worst pain you'll ever feel, yet somehow its still worth it.
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Theres someone I i've just met and like, i haven't really been in a whole lotta relationships and am very shy, and maybe sorta
standoff-ish because im inexperienced, not dated frequently...as most girls my age I have friends but don't ask advice cause i don't want to talk to them about it. I want to become more comfident and calm, and actually ask him out, or get him to.
any advice about being more comfident/calm or flirting tips that subtly tell someone "i like you"? please help out... (link)
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Your description of yourself sounded exactly like me before I met my current boyfriend. Had one previous boyfriend, really shy and I was afraid to get hurt so I wouldn't get close to people. I decided to make a change when I was being set up with my bf. I realized if I wanted a true relationship then I would have to be myself and he's going to have to like me for me but how do I show him the real me when I'm so shy? When I met my boyfriend we were with mutual friends so I forced myself to act like I would if he wasn't around and I was just with friends. I was happy, acted like I was having a good time (wasn't hard, I was with a good looking guy and my best friends) but I wasn't too bubbly or giggly. I still threw in my usual sarcastic comments as often as I normally would. Well obviously he like me, we started dating and I asked him what was the first thing that attracted him to me and it wasn't how I looked, what I was wearing or how I acted towards him (I barely talked to him when we met) but he said it was my smile and my laugh and how being around a happy person made him happy.
So if you can be with friends and with this guy at the same time that'd be good. Don't ignore him but try to forget he's there..I know its hard. It'll help you act natural.
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my bf and i just had a reaaaaaaaaally rough breakup. we havent spoken in about a week 1/2, and earlier i tried to IM him, making peace, i guess. and he never responded.
i know we probably wont get back together, but i couldnt stand it if we werent at least friends. how long should i give it before i just give up? i dont want to, but i know eventually ill have to. he doesnt seem to have any interest to even talk to me. not even through a computer. what should i do? (link)
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I had a really bad break up with my boyfriend 3 years ago. It started out peaceful and then just got really bad. I did the same thing as you and tried to IM him and we'd talk for about 3 sentences before it turned into a screaming fight..it was a huge "F*** you!" fight everytime we'd talk. we didnt talk for six months and then after that had a short conversation that was really sarcastic and still not a normal friendship conversation and then we didn't talk again until 2 years after the break up. It took 2 years of not speaking to finally have a normal conversation. We went to different schools and never saw each other so it wasn't hard to avoid each other and I'm not saying that it'll take you two years to be able to be friends with your ex but it deffinately takes time. Nothings going to be solved in 2 weeks. You can't force a friendship with him because it will only make him push away.
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Does Woodstock still exist or what? I remember some years ago watching the Woodstock concert thing on TV and it was a big mess. I'm not really interested in Woodstock but I was just curious if it still happened and when. I was thinking it was a yearly summer thing but I never hear about it anymore so thought maybe it was completely over with for good. (link)
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Woodstock was 40 years ago. August 15-17th of 1969 in Bethel, NY. I actually live 15 minutes away from the site. Now its called Bethel Woods Center for the Arts and its a concert arena. But it used to be just a lot of farm land that they had the concert at. They weren't expecting nearly as many people that's why it was such a mess. People parked their cars on the highway and walked 10 miles to the concert because that was the closest they could get. The entire county was affected (Sullivan County). Its not still going on but people have small yearly celebrations during the August dates.
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We have to write a short story and I'm really good at English but not making my own stories. But I had thsi really vivid dream and when i think back, I can imagine it like a movie. If I use it, would it be considered cheating? Or should I just think of something else up? I'm not good with due dates when writing a story. (link)
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I'd say it's fine. I think cheating would be reading a book, modifying it slightly and rewriting it.
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do they let 16 year old ship or do u have to be 18 or older (link)
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If you're sending out a letter well I've been doing that since i was six so there's no problem with that but if you send out a package that'll cost money as long as its paid for with cash you won't have a problem.
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17/f
I'm 5'8 and I weigh 90lbs. I've always been very skinny. My mother, grandmother, grandfather and father are all skinny, too. I have two older brothers and they're both skinny. It's obvious to me that being tall and skinny just runs in my family. My family knows this so I hardly get complaints from them.
My problem is dealing with boyfriends/friends/random people. I've never seen a person run up to an overweight person that they don't know and say, "Dude! You're fat as hell. Do you have an overeating disorder or something??" But I've had random people on the street and in stores come up to be and say things like, "Holy crap. You're so skinny. Are you anorexic or bulimic or something?"
I don't have any eating disorder. In fact, I eat extremely healthy. But can you imagine if someone did have anorexia/bulemia and someone randomly said that to them?
Every time someone gets angry with me, they call me anorexic/bulimic. It's extremely irritating because it makes me self-conscious and makes me think that people are always thinking those things about me.
I have so much trouble with my current boyfriend about it. He asks me every single time he talks to me about what I've eaten since the last time he talked to me. He has to know that I don't have an eating disorder since we go out to dinner together and eat together often.
I feel very unattractive due to people criticising me over my weight. When I meet people, they say one of two things, if not both: 'You're so quiet' or 'You're so skinny'. Usually both at some point within the first few minutes of meeting me.
How can I explain to people like my boyfriend, friends, and random people that don't know me that it's very insensitive to talk about people's weight. Yeah, we all know overweight people usually develop a low self-esteem when messed with about their weight; why don't people think the same would go for skinny people? I can't get through a day without two or three people making comments about my weight, asking me what I've eaten, or saying things like, 'You're so skinny it's nasty' or 'Do you have an eating disorder?' or 'You need some meat on your bones' or 'Guys like girls with curves'
I already know all of these things, yet random people feel the need to tell me about it. I try to be nice/friendly about it, but half the time I just want to say, 'Oh yeah? Screw you.' I just don't care. If everyone left me alone about it, I wouldn't even think about what other people thought about me. I honestly don't care if people think I'm too skinny. I just don't want to hear about it all the time.
So, I guess what I'm asking is, what should I do about this? Am I being too sensitive? I think it just bothers me because I've been dealing with it nearly every day for seven years. I'm getting sick of it.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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I used to be 5'6 and about 90-95lbs and I would get all the comments about being too skinny. I would eat healthy but deffinately wasn't afraid of junk food.I got so tired of having to convince people that I didn't have an eating disorder and just had a fast metabolism that I basically forced myself to eat twice as much as I usually would and I loaded up on junk food and protein shakes. It took two years but my highest weight got to be 119lbs. But..from all the junk food I had been eating I developed Hypoglycemia which is a blood sugar disorder and now I can't overstuff myself or I'll be sick so my weight dropped to 112lbs which is my average now at 5'7. If I want to bulk up I do so by building muscle.
If you want to change your image I suggest working out and protein because it's a healthy way to gain weight. As far the rude comments go, I've been there. You can't really control what people are going to say about you or to you. I've thrown back a couple "F*** you"s to people who caught me on a bad day and just felt the need to add a "Go eat something" or "you're just skin and bones". I actually had a teacher tell me to 'go eat a sandwich' one time. Thankfully my friends know I eat more than most of them so they don't give me grief about it anymore. You're not being too sensitive!! Its annoying and rude and we both know if someone was obese a majority of people would not go up to them and ask them if their obesity was due to an eating disorder. It's still something I struggle with and I'm trying to gain another 5-10lbs so my arms aren't so tiny. I'm not trying to tell you that you have to change but if you want to that's how I gained some weight and dealt with the issue.
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i'm seventeen year old girl & i'm not making this up.
if your a logical person, stop reading.
i'm almost positive i can predict death. :/ i know that sounds so crazy, and to be honest, i've just admitted it to myself about 3 months ago. I've realized about this since 5th or 6th grade. (now in 11th.) i'm not like some creepy weird sad girl who sits in the corner all day and cries or something. i'm really normal, and it doesn't really affect me.. yet atleast.. its honestly so embarrassing admitting to myself, its embarrassing even typing this out, even to a bunch of random strangers. i'm not a different person really or anything. i like all normal stuff, i dance & cheerlead, do ok in school, have lots of friends, have a lot of crushes, like parties, all normal regular stuff teenagers like. it's really hard for me to even open up to about this. because if someone ever told me this, i probably wouldn't believe them.
Anyway, i guess now to tell you how it happens.. its happened about 9 times. when i look at the person its like something clicks in my mind.. or its like a flash or something. & if i can see the person very very very clearly in my mind, like just some random image, i know its coming soon. i can still see all the people/things in my mind perfectly clear. it hasn't just happened with people, its happened with animals & even two insects. its usually people/things who i either know very well or people i've only met about once. i've never been wrong before. it hasn't bothered me yet, because it hasn't really been anyone that close to me. (except for my dog.. but thats when i didn't realize it.) like, it happens really fast, & i've actually missed it a few times, but after they die, i'm like ohhh yeah. its very hard to explain. i'm actually kind of a more logical person, i don't really believe in all that kind of stuff. i just really needed to open up about this, & know if anyone has any kind of thing like this. & i just need help dealing with this.
thanks. (link)
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I have deja vous about once a month and it really freaks me out sometimes. Or I'll dream something and then it'll happen. One example, I was dating someone briefly in October/November of 08 but it was never serious, then I had a dream within the first week that me and this guy were together and in the dream I was with this other guy and I didn't know his name, had never seen him before but it was dark and rainy and he told me he loved me. My boyfriend and I split in mid november. In February of 09 I was set up on a blind date and a week later we started dating. When he told me he loved me for the first time it was midnight and in the rain and I got that instant flashback from my dream. I hadn't realized it when I first met him but my boyfriend was the mystery guy from my dream. I was freaked!!! I never told him that either. The only person who knows that story is my best friend, along with other deja vous experiences.
Theres nothing you can really do about it. Just embrace it, I was really freaked out at first but now I think it's kinda cool. I'm still freaked about "the man of my dreams" though. Do some research on it, maybe you can learn how to control it or something crazy like that. Good luck!
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how do i keep my eyeliner from smearing like all down my eyes and staying in place?
i use an eye pencil because liquid never stays even remotely close to on my eyes
any and all tips would be fantastic :) (link)
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those little cover up sticks work wonders. i have one from Covergirl and i put it under the lower lash and then i put it on like eye shadow and rub it in and it holds the eyeliner and keeps my eye shadow from clumping at the creases..good stuff.
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How do you know when you are ready to have sex with someone? I've had a boyfriend for a year sort of. We started dating in July last year, then he broke up with me in April of this year. We got back together in May after he realized he didn't want to be without me. He's not really pressuring me into sex. I know he wants it, but he claims to care too much about me to want to pressure me into doing anything I'm not ready for. I've given him head before but he hasn't done anything for me yet. He's tried, but it didn't go the way we wanted it to. Sorry if I included unnecessary information, but I'd just like to know when or how you know you're ready to have sex. (link)
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Alright I had a best friend (guy) that I loved. We had been best friends for about 4 years, he knew every detail, good or bad, about me. He would know what I was feeling before I knew. I can't even describe how close we were. Anyway! When things finally worked out between us back in October there was one night and we were so close to having sex. Like down to underwear (barely) and in the heat of the moment. I was sure that it was the night I would lose my virginity. What better way than to have sex with your best friend who you'd trust with your life right? Well when it came down to it I was telling myself to go for it but my body completely shut down and I couldn't do it. I tried telling myself that it was alright and that was what I wanted and althought my mind was convinced my body wasn't. Two days later we split up.
A few months later I met my boyfriend. We talked about sex since day one and he always said that he'd never pressure me and he's not expecting anything and he was true to that. Sex was my idea. I reconvinced my mind that I wanted to have sex and this was the guy I wanted to do it with but I was worried that my body would lock up again when it came down to actually doing it. Well the time came and he lit the candles, played the music and put in some real effort into making it really special and memorable for me. My body didn't freeze up like the last time, there were no voices in my head, my mind was clear and free and yeah I had butterflies but that's going to happen. You just have to know the difference between butterflies and nerves. I think nerves tell you something's wrong, butterflies are from excitement and love. Also I always told myself I'd wait until I was at least 17...and I did. If you're under 15 please don't do it. 16 is alright. I think 17 is perfect.
I didn't write all that to bore you with my stories I just wanted to make the point that even if you're really close with someone it may not be right to have sex with them. I don't think you'll really know until it comes down to that moment.
~K~
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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This is why I don't agree with relationships that have an age difference of more than a year. And I was in one, I wa 14 and he was 17. You're in different stages of your life. He's preparing for life on his own in college and is a young adult looking for a serious relationship while you are a young teen obviously still playing mind games assuming the other person will react the way you want so you can get your way. you said the relationship got boring but most adults know that a dull patch in a relationship is just another stage of falling in love. Its when you've finally become truly comfortable with each other to live your life with the other person. You don't see married couples having exciting days everyday of their marriage..yet they're still happy and don't find the need to start a fight or cheat just because they're bored. For me I think cheating is the worst thing you could do in a relationship and then you yelled at him and made it sound like it was his fault? And you're still wondering why he tried to move on. I would have done the same without another thought about going back, he doesn't deserve that even if he is less popular than you..who cares! He's still a human being and the real world isn't a populatity contest. Your relationship was over when you cheated. Even if you did get back together you can never expect it to be the same and for now and a long time everytime he sees you he's going to see 'the girl who cheated on me'. If you do see him don't try to act mature, you have to be mature. Which means you have to look deep inside yourself and change your way of thinking. You wanted a fight and you got one but you got way too far over your head with this one.
So, my advice is to move on. You caused this man so much pain he can't even look at you. I've been in his shoes and the best thing you could do for him and in turn yourself would be to move on and grow up so you can prepare yourself for the next relationship. Mature relationships...honest and true love relationships are the best thing ever and you will not be in one if you are 15. It just won't happen. Its something that comes from wisdom of the ages.
I know you're grounded and can't get out with your friends which would help with the healing process. So try and discover a hobby for yourself. Discover the arts or writing. You have to live your life.
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I am going to be flying by myself overseas this summer. I have flown overseas before, but never by myself (the last time being last year).
I am not afraid of the actual flying part, but I am pretty scared about getting lost in the airport (I might be flying through Chicago... that airport is HUGE), missing my flight, having my stuff stolen (especially once I'm overseas).
I'm smart and I do have common sense, but I would really like some tips and maybe even some stories of your own travels.
Oh, and yes I do know that there's people at the airport I can ask for help, but I would be more confident and feel more accomplished if I'm able to do as much as I can by myself.
Thanks!
18/F (link)
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I've been flying just about every year since I was three years old and in two weeks I'll be flying alone for the first time. I think the key is to be totally organized and get to the airport really early (2 or 3 hours before your flight). Have all your tickets/boarding passes organized in the order of your flights (if you're taking more than one). I know Chicago is a huge airport, if I remember correctly they have either busses or trains that will take you from one end of the airport to the other. If you have to take one make sure you get on the right one. Airport signs are really usefull with finding your gate so pay close attention to them. Since you're going overseas make sure you know the language. I was in the airport at Paris in an elevator and had mixed up the words up&down. Ended up lost on the wrong floor looking for a door that wasn't there.
So organization is key. Don't put valuables in your bag that goes under the plane. Stay close to your gate, (my mother always goes wandering off and we always end up getting on the plane seconds before it leaves because we have to go find her).
Good luck!!
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i know how to give hickeys, i think they're pretty fun. the thing is that i want to give my boyfriend one, but then we're still in school. the reason why it's stopping me, it's because we have the same teachers and they all know we're going out. because we seem to have a safe relationship around school, because you know the rules.. no PDA-ing. but the question is, even if i don't give hickeys or just start kissing his neck.. how can i make it seem pleasurable for him? whenever i kiss or suck on his neck... he seems ticklish. is there a way where i can change that into something pleasurable? thanks (: (link)
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my boyfriend LOVES when i gently bite his ear lobe. Also if you're kissing his neck and just breathe on it with hot air and then blow on it so the air is cold, the change in temperature makes the nerves in your skin (girl or guys) more sensitive and it'll turn him on. As far as the hickey thing goes, my boyfriend and i have this rule about only giving hickeys where they cant be seen so for us the hips are a common place. The chest works too but coming into summer tank tops dont always cover them.
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