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I liked your advice alot, it seemed to most practical and least embarrassing, and the part about maybe asking him to a group thing seems ideal, but really im so nervous and shy that i literally...cant make ...eye contact and my hands shake..no joke...any tips to be less nervous, cause' it'd be so hard to pretend he's not there im totally gone on the guy, and picturing him in underwears out..haha.
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Alrighty..I have anxiety problems and I've been through having my hands shaking so bad I'd be afraid to hold a glass and having that sickening feeling in the pit of your stomach..I guess I forgot to mention that despite playing it cool when I met my boyfriend I was still shaking. We all went bowling and I had to go to the bathroom so I could relax. Then I found out that he wanted to put his arm around me..thought I was going to have a heart attack. I told my friends to tell him not to do it because I don't think my nerves could have handled it. It was an akward 'first date' no doubt. You will have nerves, its going to happen. And let's be real, occasionally eye contact can be akward...well if you're caught staring at him from a distance it is. If you can somehow watch him out of the corner of your eye and wait until he glances your way then you can look up and make eye contact. Try this a couple times. You're going to have to make eye contact at some point. It helps people connect and feel comfortable. So if you need to step away and take a breather..do so. Also with the group thing...yes friends will make you slightly more comfortable but you have to create opportunity away from everyone else for him to possibly start a conversation with you if he wanted. Example: you're at a friends house and everyones in the living room being loud and watching tv, playing games..whatever. Go into the kitchen to get a drink weather you need one or not. Don't linger so long that people start to wonder where you went.
If you still need help let me know. Or if you get a date planned I can hopefully help you get through it without passing out. Haha. Let me know.
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