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(Sorry, I wasnt sure what category to put it under) Ok, ever since 5th grade I really started to hate my life. I mean, this large group of girls were doing petty things and were lying to the principal. Alot of people hate me. I lost 25 maybe more, friends. I cant take it anymore. My friends are starting to ignore me and "snub" me! Im starting to feel very depressed and lonely. My self-esteem is 2. Not alot. I cry myself to sleep. My family life isnt any better. My mom is SUPER paranoid, so I cant tell her anything. My dad wont understand. My mom wont let me go over to my friends house and such! Please help!
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Ok um akira is not thinking...if someone actually answers this advice in kill urself now they need help. anyways you have depression. i had it too. anyways since u didn't explain exactly why ur friends hate u I cant help u with that. Just be urself. You'll make new friends. Try to look on the bright side of things. Stop listening to depressing music, watching depressing movies etc..it only makes everything worse. Look on the bright side. really it's like for me I just practically snapped out of depression and I realized how unpleasent I was to be around. Mayb that's why some of ur friends dont want to hang out. as for parents well they r gay...don't worry u just have to find something to keep u occupied and almost away from them. If you can't find anything pleasent in ur life and just nothing works go to ur school counciler or a friend (it really does help!) If u ever want to talk about stuff im me on calihottie46. try to build up ur self esteem too. tell ur self ur going to say hi to someone that day and ur going to be nice to people so they like u. find a trusted friend and ask for help. Lastly, whatever u do never result to commiting suicide..it only makes matters worse and it's very selfish. hope i helped, good luck and remember ppl on advicenators are always willing to talk and be "friends"
I just broke up with my bf. I told him that we'd still be friends but I just wasn't feeling anything. He was ok with it and acted fine. So, why do I feel so crummy? PLEASE ANSWER! I'M BEGGING YOU! I RATE! PLEASE!
Don't worry everyone always feels a tad bit crummy about a break up. You might feel worse cuz ur ex doesn't seem to care. But one thing u need to remember about guys are that the refuse to show emotions. occasionally they do but when it comes to a break up he wont wanna show u that he's feeling pretty crappy about it. Try to do things that get ur mind off it. Hang out with other guy friends and do fun activities. stop thinking about it and everything will be fun. it's tough and u'll feel crummy for a while but then all of the sudden u'll realize ur free or that u want him back :) lol good luck my heart goes out for u lol.
My parent's 25th anniversary is coming up. They are going on vacation and everything, but does anyone have any suggestions on what I could get them?
ohh good question. I really love thegovernors(I think that's the nickname) idea. anyways I went to my friends house once and it happened to be their aniversary. Maybe the day before your parents leave you should do a little something for them. One cheap idea is waht my friend did. She decorated a nice room (dining room if that's ok) and she set them up a candilight dinner. she also made them their dinner. she then gave them a present her and her sister chipped in to do which was go to a cheap store with picture frames. Find a decent one with a couple things. They had the wedding certificate or invintation in the middle and they found some wedding pictures of them. The put those in the frame and they also put a few of themselves. this way ur paretns get a nice dinner, a picture frame, and a pictures of u and them on their wedding day. personally I thought it was a great idea! I hope u like and good luck I know it's tough to find a present lol.
Ever since I was a small child, I have always wanted to be a pilot. However, my vision is terrible and 20/20 vision is a strict requirement of US Air Force aviators. There is the possibility of Lasic surgery, but that is expensive and sometiems unreliable, and it has risks and side effects involved. And it can sometimes be a disqualifier from the flight program of the USAF.
Now, when I was a Senior in High School, I was originally going to sign up for the US Army Warrant Officer program. My counselor managed to persuade me not to. I applied to and got accepted to Saint Joseph's University because of their Air Force ROTC program. Then came something I was not prepared for. As always, there is a lady involved. I found, or actually, a lady found me. We have been dating for the past 4 months and I know I sound like some puppy-eyed immature teenager when say this but I love this woman, and I plan on marrying her when we get out of college. It sounds stupid, but I know what I feel and I know she feels the same way. Now here is my problem. Do I join Air Force ROTC and waste 4 years of my life as an Air Force Officer only to be rejected for my vision to the pilot program when I could be living a nice steady life with my lady? Or is there a small chance that I could possibly get accepted to the pilot program and fulfill my dream? Is that small chance worth it? It pains us both to go to separate colleges, and my lady fears having to wait for me to return from year long tours of duty. And she fears the current war going on as well. What do I do?
It depends on your relationship. If you guys have a strong relationship..don't go to this academy. it's not worth it. or at least I dont think it is. being a lady myself I would never want my future husband to leave me for war. i wouldnt be able to handle the stress if my love was too strong. I'd be a wreck everyday. Whichever one u can live without u should not do. if you can live without ur lady go to war. if u can live with one program go for ur lady. by the way ur talking about getting rejected u dont seem to have much hope in war u talk as if u want to go to ur lady but there's something itching the back of ur brain. if ur religious pray to see what God wants for u and I'd say go for the lady. but whatever floats ur boat u should do. good luck, ur in a might tough position! i hope u do well
Well, i thinki might be starting an eating disorder. It started when i was trying my hardest to go on a Diet..and i just couldnt lose weight! i jogged for 20 minutes every day, drank about 7 bottles of water every day, and did 200 crunches every day. and within 2 weeks, i lost 8 lbs. And i ate strictly salads and small portions. I know im overweight (5'4 148 lbs) and im 13...so, one day i just threw up my food. i waited a few weeks, then i did it again. And now its becomming ruitene. Every day after school i PIG OUT on choclate/chips, eveything i can find. Then about 10 minutes later, i barf it up..anyone know if this is serious, or how i can stop?
I'm going to have to go with yes this is serious. but at least ur able to acknowledge that and bring it out into the open wanting to stop it. I've had a couple of friends who are bolmemic. First I'd just like to say ur not really overweight. yea mayb most of ur friends are smaller but I'm 14 5'4" and I weigh about 130lb. and personally if u looked at me u'd think I was about 115lbs. Stop throwing up that's the first step. if you use the trick of putting your finger down your throat find something like nailpolish or something that taste horrible and coat ur finger in it. that way whenever u have the urge to force ur finger down your throat u might think twice. Stop concerning about ur weight. u should only be losing 8lbs in 2 weeks. that's the problem with most americans we wanna loose weight to look good and we want it to happen now. Also stop pigging out. don't eat as much food that's a common mistake of bolemics. just eat healthy. If you want to look at all the risks of bolemia I can tell u...ur esophagus wears down and when u get addicted to throwing up u look gross. Try finding a trusted parent/friend to help keep u acountable..mayb even a sister. they will watch u to make sure u dont throw up. if u ever need anyone to talk to just IM me on calihottie46 I hope i helped. good luck and try to stop throwing up ur not overweight!
Hey ... im a cutter and i have been every since the middle of 6th grade and i am just starting 7th .. its mostly cuz of boys and some cuzza my home life . it makes me feel good wen i hurt myself and i dont know why :( my mom dont know nd idk wut to do please help just I M me at YellowKissez207
I know life's tough. I have major problems with home and boys but I don't cut. Please try to stop cutting. I've had friends that do it and you could seriously hurt yourself. Plus it leaves scars. Try to take your frustration, sadness, lonliness w/e in a postive way. I found taht it was easy for me to write. Whenever life feels like it just whipped me in the face I write poems or something to help. I liked the earlier suggesting about cutting a pillow or something. Try talking to someone..if you ever need help on anything IM me at calihottie46. I'm in 9th grade now and I totally understand how tough middle school can be. Find good friends and tell a friend who you REALLY trust so she can keep you acountable. If you aren't confortable with that I can help. Listen to music, watch movies, or anything to take out your anger. I hope i helped and I hope that you feel better!
okay so im a prep. Its my style. But some really big bitch that tries to be 'gangster' and trust me i have no problem with the people who are true gangster, rips on me and my friends. Not that i should let her bother me every1 knows shes a whore, but what can i say back to her when she leaves bitchy things while im on away message.. like for xample shes like yahh you think your hot with your skinny ass and your no thighs and no boobs? Like wtf everyone knows im short but i do have an ass and boobs thank you, maybe not the biggest but pretty damn average, wtf is wrong with her and wtf do i do not to start a huge fight but to get her back?? or maybe give me good thoughts to ignore her?
Just ignore her. People who make fun of you are actually the ones with really low self-esteem. If they make fun of you then they are the ones with the problem. Everyone who sees her making fun of you will just think about how big of a jerk she is. There's nothing wrong with being a prep, people are just jealous because you're so gorgeous to them. Let it go and she will get tired of it.
Hey, I'm 21 years old and female. I have a problem. My boyfriend of 4 years (5 October 3rd!) and I havent had sex yet. He is really not that kindof guy to ask for sex or anything. He's really patient and all we have do is makeout. We were best friends for 2 years before going out and he really respects me. I am ready to lose my virginity to him, because after 5 years of going out shouldent it be time to have some fun? lol I have been on birth control for 2 months just incase when I do ask him if he wants to have sex, he will say yes. I want to tell him I want to lose it on our anniversary but I'm really scared because how am I gonna start the conversation of sex? And since he really respects me and cares for me I think he wouldent want to. But I'm not 16 anymore, I'm a woman and I want to do this. I love him a lot and I just dont know how to ask if he wants to do this! We are talking about marriage so should we just wait till were married? Help!
I would say just wait till you're married. You're so close already to getting married. Most likely he hasn't brought it up because he wants to wait till he's married. I know you want to do it but sometimes you just have to resist the temptation and you will find something even better. Maybe your relationship with him will be a lot better if you just don't have sex till your married. They always say it's not a good idea to have sex even when you're engaged because if you break up you have a tight emotional bond toward him and you already gave everything to him. Just stay strong hold it out and maybe even talk to him about it, he'll understand. I hope I helped! good luck