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I am a person who loves meeting people and giving them advice at their most vulnerable moments. I don't don't give advice for anything rather than my want and need to help people. I just feel happy when someone feels clear or has weight lifted off their shoulders when i give them advice. I am not saying I am perfect or mother Teresa but I can say that with life you get knowledge and the power to give someone advice on something using both your heart and mind. I have a wide range of advice I give because I believe that anyone with a soul can find someone else that needs help an answer. Technology,love,and limitless troubles are something that I love helping with. Whether someone is 14 or 45...I don't care. People are who they are. They are not perfect because they are indeed human. With that I know I have a lot of advice to give.advice
I am in a situation where I care about my boyfriend a lot and I love him a lot but I know that I am not in love with him. I have reason to believe that he is in love with me. The thing is that I really don't want to hurt him because I know that we will not last forever but I think he thinks that we might make it through high school and stay together for a long time. But at the same time I don't want to break up with him because I DO like him. I just don't know what I should do sometimes.
Maybe youre looking at this the wrong way. You like him so dont break up with him. Just tell him you want to take it a bit slower, because youre not sure you love him. If he loves you enough he will wait for you until your true feelings show up. So tell him! I have a question for you though.
If you guys think you're not serious later after high school then why are you together? If he loves you then maybe he shouldn't be having those thoughts. It is as if he is planning something.
Dont you think?
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Life is with struggles at your best
On average, how much weight do u lose in a week with doing track every weekday for 2 hours?
Track would cause about 1400 calories a day you do it so about a pound because 3500 calories are in a pound.
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my boyfried i just had sex or the first time within two weeks, it pretty much hurt the whole time, because we haven't in a while. and i first had sex only like, 2 months ago.
two hours after having sex, i went to the bathroom and was bleeding out of my vagina..
is this normal?
please help me, i'm freaking out!
It could be that you were dry during sex which caused the pain. That is why girl have to be wet for the guy so it will be way more pleasure than pain. You vagina could be teared so be careful. It looks like you will be ok but continuing the sex like this wont be good for you.
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Okay I'm goign to participate in a 14 hour walk at my school and it's for cancer (cancer is hard, and walking is isn't and I suck at gym so i don't volunteer for marathons but this is walking so how great is that?).
Well you have a group of 12 and at least ONE member from your group must be walking on the track during the 14 hours. And I don't think I'll be sleeping either (starts at 5pm, end at 7am next day). Two years ago I used to stay up til 2am and it's no problem but on school nights I'm so exhausted and it's only 10pm!
And tips and stuff? I'd really hate to have a rare condition of fainting or something and causing trouble/embarrassment, thanks.
Do not use sugar, because after a while you will drop due to sugar drop.
I suggest you get a lot of sleep the day before and get some caffeine in your sleep. Not too much though, because that will make it worse. it is a good cause you doing so be careful. Also relax the day you walk and wear something comfy, because it will help you stay awake more.
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Hi i am a mother of three, and just like many moms i fear that i might be making so many mistakes. Although my husband tells me that i am a good mother, sometimes i lose my temper or feel like i yell at them too much and im afraid that i may be verbally abusing them. I barley spank or punish my kids, but i feel like i give them attitudes when i should b a little more patient. i dont have many complants regarding my children becuz all and all my kids r really good kids. Im sure most parents make the same mistake from time to time but i dont want my kids to have any reason to become too distance and or feel like they have no trust in me when they become teenagers. How can i calm down and not take my frustration to a level that may hurt my kids emotionally.
Ok. What you need is a teens opinion. It can't be an adults because they dont understand how kids feel at all, because they barely remember their childhood. I think you children just miss you. You should be yourself and give them time to understand that your just trying to be a mother and raise their kid right. Maybe you should give them a word before you yell at them. For all you know you could be mistaken. Just give them a chance first and dont yell at them like normally, because it can cause child trama. You can make it worse with verbal abuse. It can make their teenage lives difficult for them. Just be careful, bacause someday in the adulthood lives they will have kids and do they same things, because they grew up with you. Dont make it something that is passed down by family.
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When life gets hard you adjust to appreciate the hard things in life.
how can i get our makeout more interesting?
my boyfriend and i have french kissed, but is there anything i can do to make it more intimate or passionate? when i kiss him it's hard for me to keep my thoughts straight and i don't want him to feel like i'm not interested if i don't respond. i'm the first girl he's kissed so i don't want to leave him with trashy memories but are there any little tips that could help me with this? thanks!
YOU WANT TO SPICE IT UP?
You can spice it up by either..
kissing him sofly on the lips first so you can heat things up.
Add more sucking to his neck area.
Biting a lip makes boys hot.
Caressing his chest.
okay, so im a sophomore and i haven't had done french kissing yet, i have a feeling this is going to happen soon with this new boy im starting to fall for. excatly how does it happen? people say its instinct. Like i get the fact when a guy shoves his tung in yours what are you suppose to do with yourss? its embarrsing to say to him that i've never done it before with him thinking i've already had the experience.
thanks.
Dont worry. When the time come he will either suck on your bottom or top lip or lick you as if asking for intrance. It is a good feeling so stop worrying and be YOURSELF.
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okay, so i have been dating this guy for 4 months now & he never wants to take me out and do what i want.. it's always what he wants. i feel like all he cares about is himself. so on our 4 month anniversary i said we should go to a movie and he said he didn't feel like it.. and we have only gone to a movie 3 times in the 4 months we have been dating and to dinner 4 times and one out of the 4 times he had a free meal. and i'm always willing to do something if he wants to do it .. like go to parties with his friends but if i ask him to come to a party with me and my friends or if he wants to go to dinner with my sis and her boyfriend.. he never wants to. because it's not convenient for him and not what he wants to do. BUT i just really feel used because we have been dating for 4 months and he has never picked me up at my house and took me anywhere. but when we hang out he usually wants me to just drive to his house and we do nothing he doesnt take me anywhere.. we have sex and i have leave the next morning after breakfast.. i am 20 years old and he's 18 and just feel like he should be doing more for me and making me happier .. are most relationships like this or am i overreacting?
Look. The guy your dating doesn't think about you. Think! A guy should treat the person the care about like you with care and compassion. So if he doesnt maybe your with the wrong guy. Do you have other guy friends. I think you need to gather up some strength and tell him that his is selfish and the it might not be workking out. If you stop thinking about him for a sec maybe you will see a friend or someone you know that is guy that will treat you like a .... precious jewel. Everyone is afraid to start all over again in a relationship, but they have to gather their courage and do what they think is right. Make a choice. It is either now or later. The more you wait the fast it will Hit you.
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Becareful and Let YOUR voice be heard. Not his. DOnt be the controlled person in an endless relationship.
YOU ARE NOT OVERREACTING! YOUR HUMAN THAT DESERVES RESPECT AND LOVE!
okay this is kinda long but I'm just desperate for answers. okay there's this guy that I liked since last May and before I started liking him, he would always stare at me, whenever I would pass by him, he wouldn't look at me until I turn around to look at him then I see him looking back at me and when I told him on msn that I liked him, he said he had a girlfriend but after that, he would still stare at me so we spoke on msn a couple of times after the incident. thing is, he's confusing me because sometimes it seems like he's avoiding me and sometimes it seems like he's not. we spoke on msn last december and we were talking fine, he asked me if I had a date in mind for prom and I told him not and I said: do you? and he said: I think so, then today I decided to msg him on msn and we spoke for a little bit then I said something last and then he set his status to away and he didn't reply for over an hour then he signed off...i don't know if I should just get over him or just keep trying to talk to him to get to know him better btw, he seems shy. my friend is planning on hooking me up with another guy who she knows and I think the guy is cute but he reminds me of my crush...they look too much alike:S I don't know if that's healthy for me...what should I do?
Ok. First chill out! If you like the guy give him some space. Just try to hook up wiht the other guy. You know the sating," I didn't know I needed her until she was gone". When you hook up with the other guy maybe your crush will feel that way.If he doesn't then he doesn't deserve you. You should see what happens and don't let life keep you down. Destiny has its ways everytime.
Trust me and your friend. She cares about you and is trying to help you. She knows more than you think.
Lifescomplicated.
P.S There are many fish in the sea!
16/f im in love with this boy kyle. and we were dating for about two months. actually we broke up on our two month anniversary. "/ but anyway. we have known each other for about two years. he says he loves me too but he thought it was for the best. hes two grades above me and is a senior this year at a different school. he was completely mature about the break up and it couldnt have gone smoother. he said the sweetest things like hell always love me and i made a mark on his heart and hell never forget me. but i cried so hard when we broke up and i didnt think i would ever stop because he was the most amazing boyfriend i could ever ask for. he was respectful, nice, funny. basically the perfect guy. but we hadnt seen each other in a little while. he went on vacation and was gone for five days (which killed me) and then hes in the band and works two jobs. so we probably wouldnt be able to see each other for a while but we would. i mean if he loves me he would be willing to wait to see me. am i right ? i need to be with him. im so in love with him. how can i get him back ? please help. im miserable without him ):
OK so you love him and he loves you. When a guy tells a girl that they should break up they want to break up for a big reason. So JUST DO WHAT YOU USUALLY DID BEFORE YOU GUYS WERE TOGETHER IF YOU CAN REMEMBER. THE GUY NEEDS SOME SPACE. SOMETIME WHEN TWO PEOPLE LIKE EACHOTHER AND BREAK UP THEY WILL GET BACK TOGETHER. IF HE MISSES YOU HE WILL BE BACK. IF HE DOESN'T YOU WILL STILL HAVE MEMORIES AND MEET ANOTHER GUY. THERE IS STILL MILLIONS ON FISH IN THE SEA.
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Okay, so yesterday I went swimming at my boyfriends. We were in the pool for a while, and after so long my eyes started to burn really badly. We went to my house to watch a movie, and I just put soothing eye drops in, which really worked. That night, my arms, shoulders/back, neck, and scalp really started to itch. Like I barely slept they itched so bad. I guess his pool is starting to turn green, so they put this algae thing in it, but not too much chlorine. The next morning (this morning) I took a bath and felt a little better. Later, I took another one, then a super hot shower, which made me feel really good. After the shower for about two hours it wasn't nearly as bad, but it's starting to itch really bad again. Could I have had an allergic reaction to something? I guess they didn't put much chlorine in tho?
My skin isn't bumpy, but I've been scratching my skin so much, i start to get little red circles/spots on my skin, again not above my skin tho. It itches sooo bad and it's constant. What could have happened, and how do I make it go away?? I tried lotion, but I'm afraid it will make it worse or something.
Help!!! It itches so bad and I don't know what to do, it's driving me crazy! I'm afraid to go out tomorrow because it's embarrassing lol.
Thanks so much for any help lol
OK so when people go swimming and the pool is something of cantaminated you have some side affects without the chlorine. So what I say is go to the doctor and ask what is wrong with you. It might be something little or serious. It depends on how serious it is by the side affects. The dermetologist or someone else will know what to do so hurry and go to the doctor.
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I had sex without a condom and shes on the pill I didnot cum inside her. However, she missed a pill this mouth will she get pregnant.
Well probably theres a fifty percent chance.It is half and half because if you cummed then it's likely but if you didn;t it's also likely. There is a reason because when you have some sperm coming out but you don't cum you don't know. Some time you have acess cum that comes out any time without a condom and you don't know when it comes out . Normally with people who don't have condoms they take a risk with the access. You girl might be pregnat because you could of had access but you need to know. Make her go to a doctor or if she tell you then you'll see.
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I've noticed that when I'm having sex someone, their eyes often are rolled into the back of their head. This is a little oogey. Is it normal?
Ok yes it is normal. When people are enjoying what they are doing and are over excited they do that. You don't need to worry it just normal. I know a lot of things about it if you have other questions. But you don't need to worry about it there is a lot to sex then how it goes. A lot of gestures are made like this in having sex. You do it too when you have sex with a guy so it's normal and iyou don't know when you do it. Guys are more likely to do it cause they are enjoying it. So stop sweating and just enjoy your life.
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hey i saw one of your answers how you lost ten pounds by using the 2,500 calories a day.
how long did that take?
ok first you need to confuse your metabolism making yourself lose weight. Now to do this people who want to lose weight have 2500 calories a day. They do this by having things that will speed their metabolism. So you need to decided either 2000 or 2500 calories a day. It could also be something in between. When you follow the calories then your ready to have an hour a day of excercise. That is how you lose the weight and stay fit.
every time i have sex i have to pee really bad afterwards, is this normal?
thanks
19/f
OK if you have to pee alot afterwards then it;s normal. It means when you have sex you top part is tickilish from the sex with you and your boyfriend. It is ok to feel this way. It just means your a normal person having sex.
well i really like photography. particularly photography on buildings and/or nature. things of that sort...
is it possible to get photography as a major? and what collage would be best to go to for it?
Ok, yes you can get photography as a major but you need to pick somethin that will carry it out. If you take phoography youll need more skills from a different class that could involve photography in any way. I don't know any colleges but look it up on google or ask.com and you will see a lot of colleges with this course.
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do u wear a thong under ur swimsuit bottom. do guys like it?
Well if your that kind of girl that likes to have crazy fun and is trying to boost her sex appeal with guys yes. Normally though if you wear a thong under a swimsuit in the pool then chlorine will mess it up. But if you buy a thong for a cheap price or etc. you can wear it and forget about the chlorine. Second of all if you wear a thong under a swimsuit the guys won't be looking under water so you have two choices. Wear the thong and make it noticable for the guys. Not wear it but still be noticed by the guys. If you pick a cool swim suit noboy will be lookin at your thong.
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im moving and im seriously in love with this guy. wat do i do?
ok, so you say your seriously in love and you know it. If you have to move then sit down someplce and talk to im about it for as long as it takes. If he loves you he will say that he'll wait for you but if he doesn't he might think this is a good idea for you to meet other guys. If you ever heard of a distant relationship then offer that in your conversation with him. Tell him that you will come visit him somethimes and he will visit you sometimes. If you relly loved someone then you know when it is time to let them go and one day you will understand what I am saying to you. But do not i repeat do not leave without a goodbye and converstion or you will regret it.
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YES IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A LAST MEMORY OF A BOY THAT YOU REALLY LOVE A KISS TELLS IT ALL. BEFORE YOU LEAVE THE KISS WILL TELL YOU THAT I CARE ABOUT YOU AND WILL MISS YOU A LOT SO YOU CAN DO THAT IF YOU NEED TO. BUT BECAREFUL TO DO ANYTHING THAT CAN MAKE YOU REGRET IT.
Okay, well i really like this guy. and im in 7 th grade and hes in 9th grade. Last year he was on my bus. and everyone told him tht i was inlove with him. and i asked him out, but he said no =[. and we got some stuff in common. his sister is a year younger then me and we are friends. she tells me that hes mean and stuff like tht. but i really like him. and he knows who i am. we talk sometimes but never in person. only on AIM and we may say like 4 things to eachother. how do i get him to like me? i really like him.
Ok, if you want to make him like you than ignore him for a while.
Make yourself busy for a while. Ignore him when you guys chat and talk to his little sister if you guys are friends. Talk to his little sister only. If his little sister want to hang out at her house say yes but only hang out with her. Ignore him unless he offers you a drink. Do this for a month or two weeks. If he misses you he will come to you and not you come to him. You'll se if he likes you or not. If he doesn't then we'll see.
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hey there. my last period had ended july 8th.. i had unprotected sex on the 18th.. and today is the 21st.. is it possible it could be implantation bleeding? the color is faded red.. and its not like a period.. but when i go to the bathroom and wipe (sorry) , it's there.. its been going on for a day. can someone shed some light on this please? thank you
If your having this bleeding it could be many reasons. You and your boyfriend could have had hard sex. It cold also be a tear in your vagina. It could also be sex transmitted disease. Its ok to freak out but you should see a professional dooctor quickly to see what's wrong. Its also a good idea to stop sex for a while until you go to the doctor.
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