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i need him.
16/f im in love with this boy kyle. and we were dating for about two months. actually we broke up on our two month anniversary. "/ but anyway. we have known each other for about two years. he says he loves me too but he thought it was for the best. hes two grades above me and is a senior this year at a different school. he was completely mature about the break up and it couldnt have gone smoother. he said the sweetest things like hell always love me and i made a mark on his heart and hell never forget me. but i cried so hard when we broke up and i didnt think i would ever stop because he was the most amazing boyfriend i could ever ask for. he was respectful, nice, funny. basically the perfect guy. but we hadnt seen each other in a little while. he went on vacation and was gone for five days (which killed me) and then hes in the band and works two jobs. so we probably wouldnt be able to see each other for a while but we would. i mean if he loves me he would be willing to wait to see me. am i right ? i need to be with him. im so in love with him. how can i get him back ? please help. im miserable without him ):
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Hey. First of all, I'm really sorry for the difficult situation you're in. It always seems like when we find the perfect guy, there's going to be something to keep him away.
The thing is, it sounds like he's doing this for the best, if you don't already at least understand/consider his reasoning. He probably wants you to be able to experience someone who has enough time for you, and will be able to see you a lot more. He's also probably under a TON of stress at the moment, it being his senior year, and having two jobs and being in the band. Adding a girlfriend to all of that really leaves a lot on the mind, and makes things very strained at times. The fact that he said he'd still love you kind of shows this. (Assuming there's no underlaying reason, or anything like that.)
It's not that he wouldn't wait to see you if he loved you, it may have been that he COULDN'T. It must have been very difficult for him to make this decision, and he's probably very, very mature to do this for the better well being of both of you. To make things easier on both of you, I'd say to try to be friends for the time being, and see where things go from that. It'd make things a lot less stressful for him, and would give you the chance to see if there's anyone else out there who seems to have the same effect on you (Hard to hear now, but it's possible!).
However, if you absolutely NEED him back, it's going to take time, and a lot of convincing. Depending on his personality, it may be very easy or extremely difficult for you to convince him to get back together. He'll either stick to his very difficult decision, since he took the trouble to actually go through with it, or he'll give in once he sees how you're reacting.
Let him know how you're feeling/why. Be very mature about it, and say that you understand his reasoning, and you're willing to compromise and wait for him, if he'd give you the chance. Make sure he knows you'll be patient, and you'd rather have him like this than not at all. You have to make him understand that you're willing to do anything to keep him around, and that he thinks he's helping but it's really hurting you. At least ask him for a chance for a few weeks--just to see how things work out. Don't make the situation very stressful, and it's likely that he'll listen and be willing to compromise.
I really hope this works out for you, and if not, everything will be fine! It'll all play out the way it needs to over time.
XOXO
KAT.
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OK so you love him and he loves you. When a guy tells a girl that they should break up they want to break up for a big reason. So JUST DO WHAT YOU USUALLY DID BEFORE YOU GUYS WERE TOGETHER IF YOU CAN REMEMBER. THE GUY NEEDS SOME SPACE. SOMETIME WHEN TWO PEOPLE LIKE EACHOTHER AND BREAK UP THEY WILL GET BACK TOGETHER. IF HE MISSES YOU HE WILL BE BACK. IF HE DOESN'T YOU WILL STILL HAVE MEMORIES AND MEET ANOTHER GUY. THERE IS STILL MILLIONS ON FISH IN THE SEA.
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DONT LET IT GET YOU DOWN
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