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I'm 18 and about to enter my sophomore year of college. Feel free to ask me questions about anything- I'll try to help in the best way possible! :)

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I don't know if this goes here but it is related to music :D

Does anyone know any songs that are related to always being second best or nothing in comparison to another?

Thanks!

Everything I'm Not - The Veronica's


That's all I can think of right now, if I think of more I'll add them!

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me and my friend were with these two guys last night and my friend and one of the guys were gonna hook up. so my friend asks me if i wanted to hook up with the other one so i said yeah sure. so when we get to the point where were about to make out he starts to undo his pants and i was like what the hell? i never said i was giving you a bj and i just got really pissed off because i thought he was a cool guy and not some perv and he turned out to be one. so we sat there and it was so akward and i told to him to go get some other slut but its not gonna be me and im proud of myself for standing up to him but idk maybe i should have done it...also i havent given one either and i have a feeling my friend told him i would give him one because she does shitty stuff like that. was i too harsh on him? ugh im so confuseddd. btw im really sorry this is so long. lol so any advice/opinions would be great :]

thanks guys soo much

No, that's good that you did that! It's better than you forcing yourself to do something that you didn't want to do. Many girls, even boys are pressured to do things sexually and do it because they don't want to stand up for themselves. It's good that you did.

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Can anyone recommend a hair straightener that works well and is also reasonably priced? I know CHI is a good company but i can't afford to spend $150 on a hair straightener.

links would be helpful :]

I've had the Remington Wet2Straight for almost two years. It works good, too. You can get it from Target/Walmart for around $30.

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so me and my boyfriend we making out it bed and i was on top of him and we were making out and i guess i was like grinding with him or something? what was i doing cause i dont know.

Since you were grinding with him, you were basically dry humping eachother or having dry sex.

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14/f Hi i was wondering what kind of hair styles I should wear cuz my hair is kinda short it had broke off alot So know it reaches my chin. And do ya'll know of anything to grow it back thanks

Like the person below me said, if you can pull it off, go for the Victoria Beckham hairstyle. I've been seeing a lot of people with it lately.

http://www.virginmedia.com/microsites/siren/slideshow/celebtattoos/img_7.jpg



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What exactly is the significance of owning something from Tiffany&Co.?

Tiffany&Co is a high quality, expensive brand of jewelry. The significance of owning something from Tiffany&Co is the same as owning a Chanel wallet or a Burberry scarf, it shows that you have the money to spend on those kind of things.

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theres a song at the end credits that begins

"give a little time for the child within you dont be afraid to be young and free"

who sings this?
itried googleing it but it didnt come up with what im looking for.

I looked it up on google and I think it might be 'The Book I Write' by Spoon, but I'm not positive?

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when you have sex for the first time, unprotected sex, is there a chance you can get pregnant???

YES. It doesn't matter if it's your first time. No protection & you have a higher chance of being pregnant.

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What do you think would be a good time to wait for like doing things with a boyfriend
This guys gonna ask me out and were gonna go out, and we've already made-out, but I know that he'll want more, but I don't want to do anything too early, because that makes me look easy.
So what would you consider long enough to:
Feel up, finger, hand job, blowjob, and sex
I was thinking first 2 a month, hj & bj 2 months, and sex about 4-5
Is that a good time? Or is it too long/too short

Just go with the flow. Try not to plan it out & have it expected that you're going to do these things. That way, when it happens it's actually more special and enjoyable because you didn't know it was going to happen - and if it doesn't happen, you're not disappointed.

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After I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend I bled a little and now for the past 2 days I have been bleeding on and off could I be pregnant?

Yea, you could be pregnant. If you don't use protection then your risk of being pregnant is higher vs. if you did use one. If you don't want to get pregnant, use a condom.

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What is the song that plays in the beginning of the hills? Like the song that they play while they show all the people from the show like the into type thing..?

Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield

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Can anybody tell me what "thrusting" means?!

To move your hips like, up and down. Like humping.

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Okay so I've read that the guy MUST wear a condom while receiving a blow job... WHY??
aRnt condoms to prevent pregnancy??

f\15

Yep, you're right that condoms are used to prevent pregnancy. But condoms are also the only thing that prevents STDs. That's why people use them while having oral sex, just in case if they have STDs. Also, if a girl doesn't like the taste of cum or the idea of it in her mouth, sometimes that's why people use condoms during oral sex.

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before i made out with a guy for the first time, i was nervous and i'll be honest, looked up how to make out. i didn't end up needing any of that advice- it came naturally. it was fine.
then i was freaking out about being felt up, but that too was just natural.
so my question is this: i see sooo many questions on here about being fingered/giving handjobs/oral sex/ACTUAL sex.... but in the end don't all those things just come naturally? like just go w/ the flow and i'll just know what to do?

You're right. When you're in the middle of doing all that stuff, you aren't going to be thinking of all the tips and stuff that you learned on websites and on advicenators. You'll just be going with the flow of what you're doing. I used to read those websites before I made out with somebody, too and when it happened none of that stuff really mattered. You're right, those things do come naturally! But sometimes it's good to get some info before you actually go through with doing something, so that you're more comfortable with doing it.

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well, i'm only 13, and I am just being honest
with you, I have a big butt. ( but like, i'm
skinny ) I have had my period since November
and so far, my boobs havent grown since like
two months ago! I'm getting worried, my period
is always heavy & frequent... but my breasts
just arent growing like they used to. I'm
pretty flat now I guess. So whats wrong?

Oh, and my family all have large breasts.

This is normal! You're going through puberty and your body's gonna be pretty messed up for awhile. Everybody goes through it. Even though your breasts were growing and they've 'stopped', they probably haven't. You have a few more years until you're done growing. Maybe up to 5 more years. My friend didn't get boobs until this year, and she's sixteen. She was flat before. Everybody in her family has large breasts, like yours. Just give it some time and you'll sprout eventually.

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my cousin wants to know if having sex ok for a twelve year old, well she isn't doing it with a boy, just an object. Because her Vagina is hurting. She doesn't want anyone to know , so do you think it is bad?

That's masturbation, not sex. And yes, it's normal and healthy for a twelve year old to explore and try out new things.

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If you went to the doctors for your vagina, could they tell if you had sex or masterbation.
if they do how and if they don't thanx.

Since you're going to the doctor's for your vagina, I can almost guarantee that they'll ask you if you're sexually active. If you are, make sure that you tell them. On the other hand, they don't care if you masturbate and I don't think they can really tell. They know that it's normal and many people do it. They don't ask either.

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14/f (9th grade)

I need a tote bag for school. It doesn't have to be big enough to carry a bajillion books (i still have arms and boys :] ), but I want it to be able to carry some books and stuff.

I like PacSun's bags (minus black and a lot of them aren't big enoguh :[ ) and I kind of don't want to pay $40 for one (coughAbercrombiecough).

So can you give me a link or a place to look at some cute totebags?

Thanks.
-Hater of akward backpacks


I just got one from Victoria's Secret for $15 and it's cute. It's big enough to actually carry stuff too, I bring it to a friend's house if I sleep over instead of like, a duffel bag.

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=3B-214777&page=1&cgname=OSPNKJWLBAG&rfnbr=3657

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whats the most important thing when having sex

There are many important things you should always remember when you're having sex. Make sure that you ALWAYS use protection. There's always the risk of pregnancy and diseases. Make sure that you trust your partner and you love or care about them enough that you want to have sex with them. NEVER have sex just because 'everyone else is doing it', or being your partner is pressuring you to do it. Just wait until YOU'RE ready.

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i like this kid from my school. he has fingered me and i want to return the favor but i dont know how. wat do i do do any guys out there like anything special. please give tips. i have never done anything like this before. if possible give step by step instructions.

thanx,
i appreciate the advice

We can't give step by step instructions on here on how to perform sexual acts. You'll have to google it.

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