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I was on the phone to my boyfriend last night, and he suggested that I go on the pill, thinking that it would be quite a good idea. Think this is because we had a bit of a scare after the last time we had sex, as when he came out of me, the condom stayed in my vagina, and there was a lot of spillage.

Anyway, we don't live anywhere near each other... I live on an island, a two hour boat ride and two hour car journey away from him, as he lives on Mainland Scotland. We see each other once a month if we're lucky.

But I hadn't even thought about the pill, as we see each other so little, and being 15 is also an issue. He's 17 by the way. I always thought just using a condom was fine... And there is no way that I would be able to get the pill easily here, everybody knows everybody and everybody's business on the island.

Do you think that it would be worth my while to seriously think about it? And if I decided to start on the pill, is it possible for me to ask somebody else to get it for me? Advice would definately be appreciated. Thank you.

I don't think that at your age you should be concerned with the pill. It has too many side effects that a girl your age wouldn't like. But, if you and your BF feel that you have that urge to have sex. Than do so, but make sure that like last time you use a condom. You did the right thing by using a condom, it may have slipped off or whatever doing intercourse, but normally it won't. Plus what's the point of taking the pill if you only see him barely once a month, I can understand if you guys did it like DAILY. So don't use the pill, just stick with the condom and if your BF knows how to use it properly it shouldn't come off and you should be protected.

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There's this boy that I've been crushing on since my freshman year. I'm a junior now and he's a senior. I feel like he likes me but I'm not sure. And I want to know if he does before he graduates, and if he does like me, I want something to happen. I want to tell him that I like him but not really tell him? Like I don't want to bluntly state, hey, I like you. We're both in IB, we have no classes together, and we're both busy almost everyday.

Also, if he says no to anything (No, I don't want to hang out, No I can't hang out, No I don't like you, etc.) what should I say? How should I act?

Thanks!
16.f

Well I can relate to you and how you feel. So I'm going to be honest with you, If I were you I would wait until there is a month left in school, and seeing as how he won't be in your skool next year, just ask him? And if he says no, than you really have no reason to be afraid of rejection, but if he says yes, than it's good news for you.

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When you get fingered does the guy put his finger in the same hole aswhen you have sex?
This is really confusing me. :(

Yes he does. The same hole the guy fingers is the same one you use during sexual intercourse.

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what do i use for my face under my makeup to prevent pimples white/blackheads or anything else thats bad that can happen to my face for using makeup everyday?

like some kind of cream or moisturizer you girls use or...?
WHATS YOUR SECRET!!!
please and thanks im BREAKING OUT :/

Other people will tell you to buy something like ProActiv or HydroClear... I'm going to tell you some advice that will cost you nothing out of your pockets. It's really simple. You say you use make-up very often right? Well, when you get home and your ready to wipe the make up off your face, once you get it off, take some soap and a rag and rinse your face thoroughly with fresh water about 4 times, than apply the soap to your face and scrub, this will get all of the excess make-up from off of your skin, than rinse another 2 times, and this should prevent the make-up from seeking under your skin and causing pimples.

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17/f. I dated a guy for roughly three weeks. He acted like he really liked me a lot (paid for everything, opened every door, always let me pick the music, let me drive his nice car, told my friends how much he liked me, etc). Then exactly a week ago he broke up with me, saying that since we go to different schools that it's unfair to me that we can only hang out on the weekends. So I totally understood and told him that I still wanted to be friends. However, two days after that happened, he was a total asshole to one of my friends. He also told my friend that he never even liked me at all. Besides that, he is now about to date this other girl, who he started talking to while he was dating me. We have been broken up for exactly a week. I'm over him because he's a douchebag. But it makes me feel really stupid that I dated such a jerk. So I don't know how to react at all... this was my first relationship ever. Is it normal for guys to start dating other people that quickly? I just keep thinking about how much of a moron I am for letting someone do that to me. I don't want him in my life whatsoever (not even as a friend), but should I still be mad at him for doing that to me or should I let it go?

No, it is not normal for guys to start dating other people again, for at least a month or two after they broke up with a girl. The only time a guy starts dating again that quickly is if he's conceited, thinks he's a pimp, just doesn't love the person he's currently dating. So by him doing these things your saying, he didn't love you, he just used you. And also no, you shouldn't be mad at him for doing what he did to you, he may have been your first, but dont be mad, jus forgive him and REMEMBER what he did to you. Just because you forgive him doesn't mean you forget. You use this new taught lesson in your next relationship with a guy in order to know what to do next and to know what's coming. And to know, never to love a guy unless your ABSOLUTELY sure he loves you back. Be the bigger person and be the more mature person and let it go. Trust me when I say you'll feel a lot better. It is going to take some time to let it go, because I know you have so much anger built up inside of you right about now, but when you feel it's time, than it's time.

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im an 18 year old female. i have a best friend, whose a guy. we've been best friends for years now until he got a girlfriend. now i only talk to him maybe once a month texting, barely get to see him and it really does upset me ALOT. last weekend he texted me and we talked for two days straight about so much stuff and last saturday he texted me at like 11:00 and wanted me to come over because his parents were gone but i couldn't. well i guess you could he wants to mess around. don't judge me. anyways he was like lets do something next weekend (meaning this weekend) and i was like okay well you can see me but not DO something with me (meaning sexually) and he was like ok how bout both. and i told him i was going to have my period haha. and he was like ohhhhhh okay yeah haha. so i thought we were going to still hang out this weekend and he didn't text me all week, so i thought he would at least text me yesterday or today and NOTHING. i found out he is in a different state playing hockey for this team he is on this weekend. i don't know if he forgot about it or what? but now im really sad because i had my hopes up of seeing him this weekend and it was the only thing i was looking forward to and now he didn't even talk to me or anything, i dont know if having my period freaked him out or something? i don't know what to do, i don't text people first and everyone including him knows that. i just wish he would of at least texted me or something because now i'm mad... maybe im over-reacting but what do you guys think?

I'm going to give you REAL advice, okay, now you say that he didn't text you back or didn't communicate with you at all right. Trust me, the whole having your period thing didn't freak him out, because if he's ready to get sexual with you than trust me, he knows the female anatomy by now. The reason most likely why he hasnt gotten back to you is because he simply understands that you don't want to mess around with him. And thats understandable seeing as how he already has a GF and all. But, with him knowing that your not willing to do anything with him, he doesn't want anything to do with you. And take my advice when I say, you do like him, because obviously you wouldn't care if you two hung out or not. But, your too good for him if he's not going to keep in contact with you on a daily basis to keep updated with your life. This means he doesn't care, he just wants to love you and leave you, and make you another "girl" that he messed around with and tell to his buddies. So when he's ready to talk to you, than you just sit around and don't even worry about it. Make him make the first move, not you.

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Last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and I started giving him a hand job. I had never done it before with him... or with anyone. So i was doing it for about like 10 minutes and nothing was happening and he just like got up and put his pants back on. Is this the way its supposed to be or did i just do something wrong? Can i improve doing something next time? (we didnt use lotion or anything like that which i was told was good to use when doing that) Please give me some advice. thanks.

Seeing as how you gave him a hand-job with no sort of soother like lotion or oil, it probably hurt him a little and felt kind of uncomfortable. You need to get him to ejaculate, in order for it to be good. With nothing happening, yeah, it was kind of bad, but there is a solution. The next time you do it with him, the hand-job, you should talk dirty to him. Something like, "You like that", "That feel good", And ask him questions of what he likes during a hand-job like, "Do you want me to go faster, slower?" and talk to him about something you know that can make him fantasize during the hand-job, and use some of your body during the hand-job to get him very excited.

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can some one please explain to me all the sex postions

Please visit this URL: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_sex_positions

this will give you various sex categories to choose from, that will give you hundreds of sex positions for that category such as "in the bed" : "69 position"

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i have a boyfriend that i really like...and i wanna show him how much i like him..if you know what i mean ;]..anywaysz..he alwaysz talksz to me and he makesz it seem that he wants me that way too..and i really want him..i just want to suprise him..like an unexpected thing..the thing is..i have NO clue how to make that come about..and i really wanna get him hott and excited ;]...please..if you have any tips or tricks..please let me know..i rate high =]

thanks :]

Okay I'm going to give you the run-down on how you should get this thing going:
1) When you and him get somewhere nice and comfortable, a place that you believe is suitable for you like a bedroom, e.t.c. instantly start making-out with him for no reason at all
2) Repeatedly tell him that you "love him", and that "your ready"
3) Rub him the way he likes to be rubbed or held, and have him do the same unto you
4) Slowly undress him while your making out
5)When you get down to your underclothes, have him take off an article of clothing for you (This will seriously turn him on
5) When your both naked, just be yourself and let "LOVE" take over from their okay :)

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ok so im a 13 year old girl and the most ive done with a guy is been eaten out and fingered and i dont shave all of my vagina just like the little flaps i shave around butt crack and all those areas but i dont shave like the little trignale looking thing where you can see and my friend goes up to me n shes like so i hear you have bushes and im like eww and shes like i heard it from my other friend(not the guy that fingered or ate me out,this person was a girl and i asked her how she new and shes like because they saw somehow but dont think anything like i let them see because im not like that). so now i dont no if i should shave it all.like if i do i wouldnt want the guy that fingers me to be like wow did you do that recently or what if he doesnt like it shaved i dont think he minded..and please dont say its up to me because i cant choose....how many 13 year old girls do you think do shave all of it..guys your answers too please

Okay, as being a guy myself I would say shave it, and I'm pretty sure the guy won't mind. If he's the one eating and fingering you out than that's up to him. He shouldn't have a problem with you shaving your vagina, it should be just a regular "who cares" thing you know. If you feel that your embarassed about how much pubic hair you have than you shave it. If you don't care, than don't listen to your friends. Leave it the way it is. But my advice is, that maybe you should shave it, not only because I know the guy that's eating you out definitely wouldn't mind but also because shaving is something that girls do everyday, it is normal, and it is what your supposed to do daily. No girl should go too long without shaving anyways.

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well ive been talking to this girl for a while now but not "talking" talking just regular talk and well i like but she seems to think my friend his cute and she wants me to talk to him for her but i really dont wanna do it and i told her that and she got mad at me for it so i told her im doin it to make her happy and so i told my other friend about everything and then outta nowhere she told me that the girl i is confused about guys and that shes mad that when a guy likes her and she can tell and he wont tell her so should i help her with my friend or should i tell her i like her?

Tell your friend that you like her. Tell him to turn her down if she confronts him because you are the one that likes her. If he is a true friend, than he will do so. If not, than he will date her regardless of what you say, and this will determine that he is not a true friend. If he does tell her to lay-off, than this is your chance to let her know how you feel. Think of it this way, I know your afraid of being rejected, but just think, if you don't tell her how you feel about her, than someone else will and you will eventually lose your chance, if she does reject, just ask her if you guys can be friends. You may have to face the noise if she tells everyone that she knows that you attempted to ask her out, but it will blow over in a max of 3 weeks. And if you like her the way you say you do, than there is nothing to be afraid of.

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okay so at a party a guy tried to hook up with me....(just makeout not like actual sex or itd be rape) he basically forced me up against a wall and i couldnt get out of it...my boyfriend of 3 months walked in and he had to saddest look on his face that ive ever seen and he just walked out the door when i tried begging him to come back. my boyfriends friends with a few of my friends and they said that he was so heartbroken and i feel like shit because i feel like i wasnt cheating on him, even though it looked that way. i like him sooo much and i would never wanna lose him but i think i did =( my friends say he said he doesnt wanna talk cause hes too upset...what should i do? =(((

16/f

IT's too bad that the you don't know who the guy was at the party that kissed you like that. As far as your boyfriend goes, you really need to confront him about the situation. Do not do this via text messaging, e-mail, or phone. Simply confront him (face to face) and explain every stitch of detail to him of what happened that night. Normally he would resist in the beginning to not believe what you are saying, but if he trusts you and loves you enough to listen, than he will believe you and hopefully forgive you enough to understand. You should be the one upset seeing as how you made out with a guy at a party with no consent, not him.

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my big toe on both feet
but way more so my left
has been numb non stop for a while now
and it hasn't gone away once
it feels as if its spreading throughout my feet and legs

help?

You said thAt your feet are cold right, well let me see, if you touch your big toes right now or try and move them do they feel thick, or do they feel like pins sticking you when you touch them or pinch them. If so than your toes are just probably asleep. And maybe you should attempt moving around a little. But, if that doesn't work than maybe you should try googling the symptoms and find out that way. Than go and see a doctor immediately.

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i went to this party last night and made out with 3 guys and gave one a handy and some stuff..and i was drinking a little. i cant remember exactly what i did with the one guy, but i kept worrying i had sex with him. im a virgin, and last night was my first time doing anything besides kissing.

well pretty much it was a hump and dump, and he got pissed at me for some reason and all this sh!t. it made me feel horrible. but anyways, im worried something happened..like i would remember if i had sex or he fingered me right? it hurt a little down there, but not too bad. and i remember both guys with there hands there, they were like both laying next to me. and then when i stood up my pants were undone.

then, this morning i find out this guys basically a man whore, and i feel like such a slut. all his friends are like your gonna get some gross disease! ahahah. and no not funny..is it possible i could catch something from making out or hand job i dont even knoww! haha help! =]

I'm going to calm you down and just let you know that, no, the worse you can get from kissing is a Cole Sore. Which is treatable. And hand-jobs, no you cannot.
As far as drinking "a little" than YES you would be able to remember if you had sex or not. But as far as admitting to yourself that you did drink kind of hard that night, than NO you wouldn't be able to remember most likely. You said that when you woke up that it was hurting "down there", well that could have come from them fingering you. Or unexpectedly, you might have had sex with them. It would really help if you could remember when you fell asleep to determine if they did rape you or not. If you fell asleep while they were still in the room than most likely YES. If you fell asleep while they were gone, than most likely NO. What I'm trying to get at is I can't determine if they did it to you or not, but what I am going to tell you is that you need to go down to an anonymous clinic and get tested immediately. And for future reference, dont let it happen again.

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I have a really good friend, a best friend you could say, who is really troubled at the moment. It has to do with a guy she really cares about who moved out of state and who will probably not stay in touch because it's super long distance and because he said he doesn't want to talk to people because it'll make him miss being here. It's hard to know what to do or say to her because she just seems so hurt and affected by it. It seems like I can't say or do anything to possibly make her feel any better. /i hate seeing her like this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say? Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Thank you.

There is nothing you can do for her except be a friend and support her the way you already are. Your presence in her time of need is all you need to do for her. A few words here or there, like "I understand" and "It's okay" will comfort her just enough until she is ready to move on from the subject. The more you try and do it for her, the more she will resist from what you are saying, because you would be making the choice for her, not her making the choice for herself to move on. So all you need to do is, show your support and just be the friend that you are right now until this whole thing passes over. She can't keep in sorrow for the rest of her life. I'll give your friend 2 weeks at the most and guarantee you that she will be over this almost completely and want to live her life normally again. And when it all passes over, words cannot express how good of a friend you have been to her, just for supporting her emotionally and showing empathy, and giving her the choice to move on, and not you trying to convince her to move on. Trust me, it is the way to handle things.

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A lot of people think I have a drug problem. I know I don't. I am 16 and I am unsure how to get everyone off of my back about this subject.

I freaked out on a kid at school because he told me that, he called me a loser and said that I would never amount to anything and all of this bull shit. I used to be pretty cool with this kid. And it came out of nowhere. Its not even like he was being "concerned" he was being a dick. So I called him a few names and smacked him.

But this was only one of about four or five people that has said this to me.

what should I do to get them all of my case?

First of all you need to convince them and yourself most importantly. Now, about them being on your case, some of them are probably just your friends and are just looking out for you. As for the kid who said those things to you, you did the right thing by smacking him. Don't listen to him or no one else, I know kids in my school that smoke and only get bothered by those that are immature, those who are mature simply do not care about what another person does I mean come on its your life, so live it how you want to you know? And if as for everyone who stays on your case simply ignore than, because that means that they have nothing to do with their life so they must butt into another person's life. Which makes them very immature. So live your life, and dont get discouraged because of what 4-5 people say to you. That's normal. someone's always going to talk and only few will confront you. As long as it's not 25-30 people coming to you within a month and saying you have a problem, than your okay.

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Okay so I tried shaving 'down there' just like around the edges, bikini area, I guess... but now it's SOO ITCHY and red and uncomfortable and I don't like it!!
But I get soo selfconscious about down there. And I don't know what to do about it :[

Maybe your skin is sensitive, or maybe it's because this could be your first time shaving "down there" and being that your skin has never been bald since it's been growing it could be irritated. So my suggestion to you is, if you are doing this for something like going to the beach in a bathing suit, maybe you should wear a full body bathing suit that covers up everything except your arms and legs. If this is just something you wanna do, than I suggest trying a different shaving cream, something less irritative towards "down there"

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What do you do in a Taiga?

you have to be more exact with Taiga, becuz a taiga is the name of different forests, and is also a Japanese television network, u choose...

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on saturday, i got to hang out with my boyfriend for the day. i haven't seen him in 4 months. when we first started out our relationship, i promised myself i wouldn't get in over my head, and i wouldn't get too attached. i have had boyfriends like him, where they tell me that they are a player, and don't want me to get hurt. i usually ignore it. tell them to not get too attached.
but when i saw him yesterday, the way he held me, the way he pressed his nose to mine, and the way he carefully held my tiny hand in his giant one, made me fall for him. way too deep.
later on, when i got home and he got to his, i was emailing him. i noticed he was giving me one word answers, so i asked him what was wrong. he was honest, and straight to the point, and he said "i like someone else..."
when he said that, my heart dropped. i called him to ask what had happened between when i saw him just a couple of hours ago, and then, he said that he liked her FOR A WEEK.
this has happened to me multiple times before. i don't usually react. i don't usually care. but this time, i was screaming at him, saying sorry to him, crying, throwing up, begging him not to go, wanting him to die, wondering what i did wrong, and i literally lost it last night. my whole world felt like it was crashing down, over something stupid. and i knew it was stupid then. luckily all of my friends helped, and i stopped crying and talked to him again, and this time, he didn't even want to be my friend. because he was "trying to rid [himself] from all temptations"
thats when i got MAD at him.
if he doesn't like me like that anymore, why the fuck am i a temptation?
i just want to be his friend. he was and still is one of my best friends. i just feel so confused. so lost. so alone. so cold. so heartbroken.
help?
(other than "he's a dick!" "there's other fish in the sea". give me REAL advice.)

Now listen up, I'm letting you know now that whole "I'm trying to rid myself of all temptation" thing is BS. Don't believe it. He said that because he obviously just doesn't want to be with you. And if he feels that with him like someone else, that he has to leave you, than I'm letting you know right now (RealTalk) that you deserve way better than him, way better!!! Don't believe that without him you are nothing. Another guy will come really soon, and treat you with much more respect than him "Who loved you, and left you". You should confront him face to face, not via e-mail. By e-mail he knows he's safe from you personally. And he won't have to deal with all of the fuss by confronting you. That's why he made up with you and left like everything was okay. But knowing that when you guys got on the internet he was free to say his mind. If he wasn't afraid of you he would've told you when you guys confronted one another. So you need to confront him and talk about it, don't beg for him to leave, if he wants you he'll come to you. When you confront him, you simply discuss why he's leaving you for her, and ask him politely can you guys be friends. If he declines than let it be and move on with your life.

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Okay. Well December is coming up and I need some ideas. I want to know what I could get for my boyfriend. He loves Anime. Also he loves hoodies and Green Day and some things from the store Spencers (not the perverted stuff but other things) I'm pretty sure he also likes to read. Any ideas?

Well definitely don't give him a book, but look at the things that you know he likes.
That being Anime, and Green Day. (Hoodies)
Now let's see if we can combine these things. Why dont you get him an Anime comic book, that is in a series that you know he likes that he's never read before. Or even an anime movie, that you know he would like. As far as Green Day goes, why don't you buy him a Green Day hoodie for fans. Or even a hoodie with Anime on it. These things are definite to impress him.

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