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Mae (pronounced May, just a cooler spelling), Rena, Lynette, Jesirae, Amira, Kiara, Lena, Kaylee, Amina, Rose, Anissa, Liliana, Arabelle, Lilibeth, Ayla, Nikia, Ciana
I like Rena, Liliana, and Lilibeth the best. I like names that are unique but not that you look at them and are not sure how to pronounce them. Thats just my personal opinion tho.
okay this might sound kind of disgusting BUT i need to know!
girls shave the hair inbetween their buttcrack, right?
If it makes you feel more comfortable go for it. There is no harm in it and theres no law saying what you can and cannot shave. Some girls do shave there and some dont so its just up to you personally as to what you would prefer.
about what size breasts do you think she has? i dont care so much about band size just cup..?
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Im gonna go with a C cup. Probably on the smaller side of a C cup.
hey does anyone know the age you have to be to work at autozone. im 16 but im pretty good with automotive knowledge but i dont know the age you have to be to work there.
In my state I believe it is 16 to work in the store, but each state might be different. Your best bet is to call them and ask. Good luck!
This might be long, sorry.
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He's really a great guy, comes from a wonderful family, works really hard in college, etc. He's probably the best guy out there. He's really perfect. I don't have anything bad at all to say about him.
Well, I've been cheating on my boyfriend for about a year or year and a half now. All the cheating has been with the same guy so I'm not like a whore or something. My boyfriend has NO idea that I've been seeing this other guy on the side.
Anyway, the problem is that I'm pregnant. I don't want to lose my boyfriend though!
Now, maybe you are asking, "Well, how do you KNOW it isn't your boyfriend's baby? Why not wait until you give birth and then have the baby paternity tested?" Well, because my boyfriend and I had decided to stay virgins until our wedding night. Yeah, in three years we haven't had any sort of sexual relationship. Yes, he thinks I'm a virgin just like him.
I REALLY love my boyfriend though! I want to marry him! I mean, I just feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not. If I tell him about cheating on him and stuff he's going to think I'm a whore. How can I like feel better about this?
There is really no way to get around this. Obviously if you and your virgin never had sex, and you are suddenly pregnant, he will know its not by him. The only thing you can do that will give you a slight chance of keeping your relationship is to come clean and cut it off with the other guy. You have to tell your boyfriend everything and just hope he can look past it.
You have betrayed your boyfriend in more ways then one here, so I would say dont get your hopes up that he will forgive you. I know if I was him I wouldnt. Not only did you cheat on him for over a year and got pregnant by someone else, but you also promised him your virginity and took that away from him. Im not here to put you down or anything like that, everyone makes mistakes, but I really hope you learn from this one and let it better you as a person in the long run.
Please come clean to your boyfriend. At least give him that. And hopefully it will work out for the best. Good luck to you
I've been huffing for close to a year now probably. I know that huffing kills people. I know that inhalant abuse hurts your brain cells too and it can't be like reversed or whatever.
Over the past year things have fallen dramatically in my life. I feel like I'm dumber even and it's really weird because I can't remember some really easy things that I use to know a lot about. I don't know. I'm not even as happy as I once was. It's like I'm only living for the high now.
I inhale every day now, and a lot more than I started with (which I think is natural to occur with this behavior). I don't inhale things like spray paint or gasoline though. I know those things kill you like instantly, right? I've been inhaling common household products and personal hygiene products. I won't name specifics in case it isn't allowed here, but it's stuff that like EVERYBODY uses so I can't just run away from it or something easy.
It's just things like not being able to leave the house without getting high or I get frustrated, angry, irritated, etc. so easily. I can't spend the night at my friend's houses anymore because I HAVE to huff and I know it's so disrespectful to do it there (I have done it before and didn't turn out so good).
Anyway, I guess I am just looking for the next step. They say you have to admit the problem first and I am. Nobody else knows about me huffing though. I mean, I'm a pretty girl...you wouldn't know I was an inhalant abuser by looking at me. I did do okay in school. I mean I didn't get any Ds or Fs. I've had plenty of boyfriends. I am single right now but I wouldn't be...lots of guys keep asking me out and stuff but it's just...addiction, you know? Can't even make time to be healthy and stuff and they want me to care about them.
I don't want to tell a counselor or whatever because I don't want to get in trouble. I am also really afraid of going through the withdrawals because you just have to know it...I mean...it sucks SO bad to even TRY to leave the house in the morning without huffing. I've tried to cut down on my huffing but it doesn't work...I guess you just have to be in the moment to understand that but you can't just STOP when you want to...it's like...you NEED more and more of that high until you are so f---ed up you can't continue it.
I guess what's made me realize all of this was a big deal was me getting really sick and stuff last night after I huffed. It was really bad and I'm amazed I'm not dead. I threw up some times, peed myself, hallucinated, and passed out completely until this morning. This is going too far and I know. I know I'm dying.
I don't know. Can anybody help? I think I've already hurt my brain cells. And I really, really don't want to die...what do I do?
First off, I want to say good for you. It is very hard to admit you have a problem and even harder to try to seek help. I dont have any experience with huffing addictions but I do know alot about addiction because I got a DUI and the state mandated me to do a series of classes on addictions and my mother is also an alcoholic. Based on my knowledge, you really only have two options. First is to quit cold turkey, which takes alot of self control and ambition. Taking that route, you will have to deal with the withdrawls on your own and fight the urge to huff on your own. That is very difficult, but it can be done. The other option would be to contact some type of help, whether it be counseling or some type of facility. You would not get in trouble. They are there to help you, not cause problems and if they did that no one would ever go to help. Counselors and treatment facilities also have privacy policies that they cannot discuss any patient that they are helping, so no one would know but you and whoever, if anyone, you decided to tell. Like the person below me mentioned, there are drug addiction hotlines. Ive never had any experience with anything like that but Im sure they would at least be able to give you advice. Some numbers I found are: 1- 800 784 6776
1- 800 511 9225
1- 877 235 0400
1- 800 622 HELP
1- 800 553 7160
1- 800 400 0900
Also, Look in your local phone book because from what Ive read there are other numbers that are for different areas. The ones I gave are national numbers.
Good luck. I commend you and I will keep you in my prayers. You already took the first step, so dont be afraid. Once you get help, you can start the rest of your life.
My boyfriend and I are both 17. I lost my virginity to him not too long ago and we've been having sex for about 3 months. We have sex A LOT. With protection of course! Well I think it's a lot but we both have really high sex drives. I enjoy all of it and never feel pressured into doing it. This past week we've had sex 9 times in 7 days. That's about average. The first time I slept over at his house we had sex once at 3am, again at 7am and again at 9. We went on vacation together recently and made it our mission to have sex all over the rental house. We did it 6 times within 3 and a half days. We're not even kinky people we just do it a lot! We've been walked in on by friends a lot who all have the comment "you two f*** like bunnies". He always tells me that he can't believe he found a girl who has the sex drive of a guy yet still looks so innocent. He doesn't even have to do anything to turn me on, he can be covered in dirt working on a car and I'll think about how much I love him and it just makes me want him so bad and I know its the same for him. We do other stuff too like go fishing,movies,out to dinner,cooking at home,shopping,go for drives/walks,party...its just that we always find time for sex somewhere in the day. We'll both be going away to college in the fall and don't know how we'll deal with being apart. Neither of us would ever cheat but it's going to be hard.
But is this much sex really normal for a teen couple? We've talked to another couple that we're friends with about this but they said they were only like this when they first started having sex and they've slowed down a lot now.
Its perfectly normal. Its new to you guys so theres no shame in wanting to experience it all the time. It is true that it might kind of become "old" to you guys but it also may not. Its different for everyone. But dont even worry about it everyone is different and has different sex drives. At least you guys are the same way about it and its not like one of you has a very high sex drive and the other does not. But good for the both of you! Just make sure your using protection.
Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?
People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?
I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.
Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.
I understand and agree with how you feel. While I was not a super huge mega fan of his, I do know his music and I do like it. I feel like people werent fair to him and didnt give him a chance. Yes,there were alot of accusations made against him for alot of different things. But that does not mean that they are true. And who is everyone else in the world to assume that they are? People can make accusations about anything now a days, especially against celebrities and I think its because with the economy being so bad, people are sue happy and are willing to try anything to get some money or their 15 minutes in fame. I think its a shame that there are people in this world that are saying such negative things about MJ but in a way, it almost doesnt even matter because I believe that there are millions more who are mourning the loss of his and remembering him for his talents, not the accusations.
Just remember that people are gonna talk. They have nothing interesting to say about their own lives so they talk about other people. No body knows the truth about MJ but himself, and he is now gone, so just celebrate his life and keep him alove in spirit, by listening to his music.
My boyfriend and I broke up last week due to another girl who claimed to like him and gave him the impression that if he were to dump me, she would get with him. Turns out, she was never even remotely interested to begin with and I ended up dumped. We went to the movies two days after the break up and he hit on her while she was sitting right next to me. I didn't mind because we decided to remain friends. That same day, she told him she wasn't interested and just wanted to break us up for some strange reason. (idc about her reasons) The next day, he tells me he wants to get back together. Although I'm still crazy about him I couldn't help but think, "What the hell? He can't be serious." It would be pathetic for me to get back with him after what he did to me. I thought his apology was complete bullshit. (mainly because deep down I felt hurt that he did that to me) But turns out, he actually really is sorry. I learned that that same night, he had called his best friend crying saying that he couldn't believe he got tricked by the girl and that he couldn't believe that he had done that to me and treated me so badly. "I can't believe I did that to her." he cried. So yes, he is very sorry and has been feeling like sh*t for days. He wants me to give him another chance. I'm still crazy about him but because I have some self respect and am hurt as hell I can't bring myself to get back together with him. I know he's sorry and am unsure as to whether I'm making the right choice to "drop him like he dropped me." (his bf's advice) I still really like him so my judgement's slightly impared at the moment. Please help me, I'm confused and have no idea what to do....well I have an idea but I need some advice. thanks.
I understand exactly where you are coming from and I am the exact same way. Its good that you have respect for yourself because if you dont, no one else will. It is a very tough situation because of the fact that you still have feelings for the guy. I understand that he is crying and sorry now but the point of the matter is that you were basically 2nd choice. If you were the number one girl on his mind he wouldnt care who liked him and who wanted to be with him, he would only be concerned about your feelings for him. But that was not the case. You were second best. But on the other hand its not good to hold grudges forever. Should you take him back? Thats depends on your feelings. If you really want to be with him, then it is ok to take him back but I would just give it more time. Show him that you dont just give in like that and you dont take people treating you that way. That way he will learn his lesson and you possibly may even get over him. Good luck!
ok. So tonight it was like 11:35 and my bf and I were making out in his car at a park. We are both 18. All of a sudden a cop comes up to the window, and to make a long story short, took our IDs and then gave them back after going to her at for like 5 minutes and then told us to leave the park. R the cops going to contact our parents?? I will be DEAD if they do.
No they are not going to contact your parents. You are both over 18 so your parents have nothing to do with it. They just do that to look you up to see if you have like warrants or any other charges against you. And trying to scare you. Dont worry about it, your fine.
okay well i'd like snakebites.
some people said id look gorgeous with them, some said i would look not as cute.
this is 40 dollars id be paying, so i need to know what piercing would probably look good
and if snakebites are for me :D
here is my myspace profile.
http://www.myspace.com/toxic_paper_flowers
I would go with the snakebites. I think it would fit well on you and I think you would be able to pull it off. I think that would be a better choice than like the eyebrow or monroe or something.
Go for it!!!
soo.. i just got in a load of shit for drugs. (please dont tell me how stupid i am, i know i am)
i havent smoked in about 3 weeks. but 3 weeks ago i smoked a shitload of weed...
so for my drug test which is on thursday at 4:30 at the doctors office. i want to know if drinking a crapload of water will help me.
also, if its possiable.. how much water would i have to drink?
im going to start drinking a crapload of waterbottles tonight. all day wednesday. and all day thursday.
i read that drinking about a gallon of water will help.
and running. so, how many waterbottles a day should i drink?
please and thank you for the help=]
Water is the answer to your problem. All you have to do is drink water until your pee runs clear, and you will come out clean. You can drink it for days if it makes you feel better, but you really dont have to. If you start drinking water on thursday morning, you will be fine. Ive done it countless times and I have never had a problem.
15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
I want to start off by saying a few things. Im very sorry for everything you have been through and that you are still going through. People make mistakes. Its human nature. And all the people who are critisizing you for it probably need to take a look in the mirror themselves. So dont listen to them. You have gotten an overwhelming amount of responses and may not even really be reading them any more. But I really hope you read mine because I have been through a situation very similar to yours and I made it through. And I want to tell you my story.
When I was 14 (Im now 21) I started dating a 15 year old boy who also happened to be my best friend. He was amazing. He would do anything and everything for me. He loved me more than he loved him self and I was perfect in his eyes. And I loved him very much too. We were extremely close. We both dropped all of our friends because he said we didnt need anyone but each other. So we spent all day everyday either with each other or talking. About a year into it I got bored, just like you did. I didnt want to lose him but I wanted to experience other things. And I started cheating on him. It was mostly just kissing a few other guys here and there but I actually did go all the way with one other guy. He never knew about it and still doesnt till this day. I stayed with him because he was all I knew and I loved him. We stayed together for a total of 3 years without breaking up once. About a month after our 3 month anniversary I started developing feelings for a coworker of mine. He was 22 and I was 17 at the time. He was very different from my boyfriend. He was older and he was the type of guy that every girl wanted and I was so flattered that he was interested in me. We started hanging out and about the 2nd time we hung out we ended up having sex. My feelings for him grew stronger and we started talking about me leaving my boyfriend and us being together. I was very skeptical because my boyfriend was all I knew and I loved him. He was my safety net. I eventually told my boyfriend of my feelings for the other guy. I didnt tell him we hung out or hooked up but just that I had feelings and was confused and needed time. My boyfriend started doing everything he could think of to get me back. He would show up at work with flowers, bought me a ring, write me letters, leave me amazingly sweet voicemails, but for some reason I couldnt get the other guy on my mind. It was like when I was with my boyfriend I was totally in love with him. But when I was with the other guy I had crazy feelings for him. I ended up going with the other guy but not completely cutting ties with my boyfriend. I played games with him for about 6 months after we broke up. I didnt do it intentionally and I didnt realize what I was doing but now I do. I would pop up out of the blue and tell him I loved him and wanted him. And whenever I would hear he was talking to another girl I would show up at his job and tell him he was who I wanted ( and I did mean it at the time) but then a few days later I would say no I wanna be with Dave (the other guy). I did so much reeeaaaallllyyyy messed up sutff to ghim that Im not even gonna get into but I was heartless to him. I didnt realize it but I was. After about 6 months of putting up with my bullshit he finally said its me or him and thats it. I picked the other guy. I still remember our "goodbye" like it was yesterday. He said he would always have a special place in his heart for me and he knew I would look amazing at prom(my prom was in a few weeks) and he hoped I end up happy. And to this day it brings tears to my eyes thinking about it. After that I was ok for a few weeks. But then I got terribly depressed. I missed him more than I could even put into words, even tho I had this other guy. I started basically stalking him. I would chase him through town just to see him. I would call him all the time with my number blocked just to hear his voice. I would send him emails everyday, even tho he never replied, just to tell him how my day was. It all ended when I drove past his house one night and he was standing outside and I looked in my rearview mirror and he was standing in the middle of the road waving me back and I got super excited so I backed up and he basically screamed in my face and told me I was dead to him and to leave him alone. So I did. Me and the other guy were together for almost a year and then we broke up. I started college at the same place where my ex went and it all started again. I started texting him again, having my friends ttry to talk to him for me. Looking for him all over campus, but still he did not respond to my attempts. So I basically gave up. To this day, I still love him and I always will. And I am currently in another realionship which I have been in for 2 years now. But it doesnt change my feelings for my first true love. He still holds my heart. And tho I havent talked to him in years, I still feel a connection with him. I still cry over him. I still look at his pictures. I still even try to call his old number every once in a while to see if he will answer.
It took a lot of time, accepting, and learning to love myself to heal as much of my heart that could heal, but I got through it. And you will too. Believe me, I know how much it hurts emotionally and physically. I cried millions and millions of tears. I tried taking pills to drown the pain. But none of that will truly help. You have to just come to terms with it and have faith that whats meant to be will be. Cory (the boy Ive been talking about) is still an option in my mind. I still wonder about us getting back together even tho we havent talked in years. But if we dont, im finally okay with that. It takes time sweetheart, but eventually you will be okay, just like I am. You have made mistakes, but thats ok. Your human, just like everyone else. Have faith in yourself.
I wish you the absolute best and you are in my prayers. I hope you will email me anytime and I would be more than happy to talk. Stay strong.
17/f
in 9th grade i was bestfriends with this gurl Alyssa and this new guy came to our school his name is Emo and when i first saw him i liked him but Alyssa got to him first and so i had to push my feelings away and force friendship...and soon all three of us were really good friends..but one day Alyssa got into a car accident and the impact from the back of the drivers seat crushed her nose and part of her face so she was in the hospital for a very long time, mean while it used to be Alyssa,emo and me walkin down the halls but now it was just me and emo so we were both going through a lot of pain, which without her, it made us closer emotionally...and she got better but then not long after she cheated on him, and by this time he could tell me anything...so it was hard because her being my bestfriend i was telling him that she would never cheat on him, but i was wrong so it hurt me that i lied to him for her soo then he broke up with her and i didn't like Alyssa very much because she hurt him so me and Emo became closer and not but two weeks after we started dating...being with him was the best feeling i have ever felt...which was almost two years ago...he made me feel incredible..i can't recall a happier time...so anyways then we dated for almost four months and i heard rumors that he cheated on me with Alyssa and it was true he even told me...i was upset but he wasn't sure about our relationship he felt bad and so he broke up with me and i have had bad months trying to get over him he was able to move on but i havn't dated since we broke up which was nov. 28, 2007 and i had lots of drama with Alyssa but we are friends again today..and then i was finally getting over him. (2008, May) i was hangin with my parents when suddenly he called me and told me he wanted to be us again but shortly after Emo had gotten into some trouble and had to move half-way across the state (he is in foster-care) so we have been writing eachother back and forth thru mail and we started fallin for eachother again everytime i got a letter i cried..cuz i was happy and the lastime i saw him was in march or may of 2008.i cried cuz i wasn't over him....so he is supposed to come back July this year (2009) and its been a lil over a year i havnt seen him but yesterday Sunday (6/7/08) he was in town for a grad. party and i went with my friend Alyssa to see him and i had planned to tell him we were just gonna be friends but once i saw him memories came back and my adrenaline was pumping and i noticed the only reason i was to tell him we were just friends is because thats what everyone else wanted even my mom but i can't let him go.. and we didn't talk at first but he was tryin to get me to talk and hug him but i was afraid i would cry...overall he didn't want me to leave he kept makin excuses for me to stay but i cudn't and so when we left i cried so hard when i was walkin down my road to my house all i could think about was being with him and i didn't want his feelings to leave me again so i had thoughts of suicide because i just knew i cudn't be with him without someone being mad at me....i don't know what to do??? so PLEASE PLEASE give me advice i will never forget it Bless You
These situation are very hard because no matter what, no one can tell you what to do. You cant help how you feel. The best that I can tell you is to sit down and really reflect on the past few years and try to sort your thoughts and feelings. Think about what the ideal outcome of all this would be for you. And then take a step back into reality and think about what outcome would benfit you and your life the most. You obviously have very strong feelings for this guy and that does show something. But just dont let any one take advantage of you or walk on you. Its okay to give someone a second chance and let them back into your life but just be cautious. keep your guard up for a little while.
Im sorry I cant give you better advice but Ive been in situations similar to this before and I know that no one can tell you what to do and even if they try to chances are you will still do whats in your heart. My best piece of advice is its okay to love, but just always make sure you love yourself more.
I wish you the aboslute best and feel free to message me anytime.
I just got my first car and I totally love it but I don't really know anything about cars. I know that from time to time there is work that needs to be done to them like oil changes (and more than that, I'm sure).
Anyway, how do I know when my car needs an oil change?
The oil needs to be changed in a car every 3 months or every 3000 miles. Its better to do it every 3000 miles because its not guarentees how many miles you will drive in 3 months. Oil changes generally cost about $20 to $30 and only take about 15 to 20 minutes depending on how busy the place your having it done at is. But you do want to make sure you get it done every 3000 miles because doing so improves the quality and performance of your car.
This is going to sound a little stupid probably, but my boyfriend has lied to me about something small and now it's totally made me wonder if I can really trust him.
Basically, he told me that he couldn't really afford to go crazy and all-out on our one year anniversary day, which I was completely fine with, but then he kept going on about wanting to buy this Playstation 3 game that was something like $70. Anyway, I found out that he bought it a couple of days ago, but he told me it was only $10 because he had traded in some games at the same time; however, he accidentally left the receipt for it in the living room, which showed that this was not the actual case--that he had actually paid full price for the Playstation 3 game.
Now, before you think I'm crazy or something, my boyfriend and I have had problems in the past and have been working on getting our trust back for each other. (He had a wild night out with the boys once that totally crushed our relationship for awhile) It bothers me that he couldn't just be honest with me about this, I guess. I mean, it wouldn't have been a big deal at all...why lie?
Do you think I'm overreacting?
I do not think that you are overreacting. It would bother me too.
With that said, I do think you should say something to him, but dont cause a big argument over it. Just calmly tell him that you saw the reciept in the living room and you dont understand why he would lie over it. Tell him it wouldnt have been a big deal but now your upset and a little hurt that he lied to you. Just tell him how it made you feel to find out he lied and that you dont want to have to worry about stuff like that. If he doesnt give you much of an explanation just end it with saying that you would really appreciate it if he could just try a little harder to be honest with you, no matter how big or small it may seem.
Good luck!
My nephew, who is 12-almost 13, decided to buy me a gift for my birthday. It was a great gesture and I really appreciate his efforts but I really am not sure what to do since I really hate the gift.
So, I am very into gardening (flowers) and my nephew bought me a metal statue of some flowers. The problem is that the artwork is very large and, well, absolutely hideous. The coloring doesn't really match with my home interior so it really stands out if I do choose to let guests view it.
I know he meant well but I really do not want to display this in my home. It's very unattractive. Should I tell him that I did not really enjoy the gift (maybe even allow him to have his money refunded?) or display the gift in my home despite my feelings towards the appearance of it?
Dont tell him you dont like it. Hes only 13 and its the thought that counts. Display is a hidden area of your house or keep it put away and only bring it out when he comes to your house. But definately dont tell him you dont like it that would be very rude to a 13 year old and hurt him feelings.
My boyfriend's parents are really strict Christians, to the point where some of their rules are ridiculous. I respect that, though, so I don't complain.
However, there is one thing they do that is driving me crazy. My boyfriend's brother has five kids. Him and his wife live on the property, so the kids are always at his parent's house, so they watch them a lot.
Sometimes when the kids act up, they hit them. I understand maybe spanking here and there, but even then I'm a little iffy, but they take it way beyond that. His dad will hit them in the head for the smallest things. Usually he won't hit them very hard, but I feel like he shouldn't even be doing that at all. I'm afraid it can cause some kind of damage since they're still growing and everything. I haven't said anything yet because I don't want to cause problems, and any time someone says they have a problem with something he does, he'll pull some quote out of the bible to "justify" it. What should I do?
Another problem I have with them is they treat one kid way better than the others. There are two girls and three boys, and one of the boys had open heart surgery when he was a baby, but they still give him much better treatment than the others. He's around 6 or 7 maybe, but acts like a baby. He throws fits when he doesn't get his way, and pouts. I've never seen him get in any kind of trouble like the others, and they always claim he's the best, when honestly I think he behaves the worst. My boyfriend's mom even admits she spoils him, but she isn't doing anything to try to stop. So, basically, the other kids act up they get smacked in the head, but he always gets his way. What can I do about this, too?
Im very sorry to say this, but I dont really think that there is anything you can do. If you tell them that you dont think they are treating the kids right, it will just cause more harm than good. I highly doubt they would change the way that they treat the kids and it would just make things akward and may even make them not like you. I understand where your coming from, it would bother me too, but I think your better off just biting your tongue and maybe try to not be around as much when they are watching the kids. Its a shame, but I think its probably best.
Good luck.
well i broke up with my ex
were not friends anymore
still love him, in the way that i always will. because he was my first true love.
i feel as if i dont have the capacity in my heart to love like that ever again.
i feel as if i gave him all my trust, and theres no more to give to anyone else.
i feel as if i wont be as confortable with another guy until i get married. (me and my ex were extremely close. too close for my age, and it got too serious so i broke it off)
i have lost hope for the future.
i dont know what my question is, maybe, does anyone have anything to say that can ease this empty feeling?
Its always extremely hard breaking up with someone your really close to. You have to have confidence that what is meant to be will be. Take a good long look in the mirror. Take notice to all your qualities and realize that you have alot to offer. The right person for you will come along.
I also just want to say that since you guys only broke up because it got too serious, its possible that maybe you can get back together when you ready to have that serious of a relationship. If you realize down the road that your not getting over him and he is the person who you love and makes you happy, then dont deny your feelings. Who knows, Maybe hes your soulmate?
Good Luck!
ive been dating this guy for 3-4 weeks now. I go on my facebook this morning and he changed his relationship statues to single, and changed his myspace. I called him two times and he didn't answer either. He took me of his tops (i was his number one) and that was yesterday, and now he has some other chick as his top 3. and on his statues it says m.w. (like the girls initials).what is going on? he is like ignoring me, i don't get it. i just didn't think he was like that. can some one please give me advice?
He dumped you in a very immature way. Best way to be is act like you dont even care. Dont try calling or messaging him. Just act like its nothing. Maybe say hi every once in a while if you see him somewhere or in school but thats it. This guy is immature and you dont need that. Good Luck!