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I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.

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heyy im 13 years old i would like to no something im in bif trouble you see...i kinda stole my moms hair straightner and i used it for a year and now its not working but she never used it anyways she doesn't even no wheres it is...and im feeling guilty i no the best thing to tell the truth but its soo scary im sooo clueless but its eating me up inside i really dont wanna tell what should i say? can i not tell and prmise i'll never do this stuff again cuz i really wont...i mean everyone has stuff they did bad that they keep 2themselves rii please help im soo sad:(

Don't worry about it, your mum obviously hasn't been missing it since she hasn't used or mentioned it in over a year.

Just mentioned it to her, say your realy sorry that you borrowed it without asking, and that it doesnt work now. It's nothing you've done though, electical appliences do stop working after a while, somethings only last a few years, so don;t feel guilty about it x

i dnt know if this is in the right category

i dont know why but every time i think about something that happened and it bothers me i start shaking and i feel dizzy and lightheaded and sick and i have touble breathing and its like im nervous.but its thoughts that are and have been bothering me.
i dont know why and i dont know how to make it stop anyone know wht it could be or why its happening?

thanks ahead of time

As the others said, it's panic attacks. I knew exactly what it was when you mentioned the symptoms as i've been having them now for many years.
What you need to do when it happens is go somewhere quiet to relax. in your home it's easy, go to your bedroom, close the door, if you can put a dvd on, read a magazine, do a puzzle book till the feels go. Also have a drink with you at all times, it helps to combat those sickly feels the panic brings on.
Have a fan helps too, as it helps the dizzyness/lightheadedness.

Go to your GP too for more help, they wont neseseraly put you on medication, thats usually a last resort, see if they can recomend some natural remedies, Lavander is very good for panic.
I have a lavander roll on stick, that i put on my wrists when i panic, and smelling salts/oils too. You can get them from health shops.

These therapy doughs are great too http://www.aromasqueeze.com/ they are just like play dough but with aromatherapy oils in them, so you can smell lavander to help you relax while playing and keeping your hands busy which also helps you relax xxx

hi. ok well i bought some proactiv because my face has been getting a lot of pimples and my cleanser like wont work anymore so i bought some but it wont be here until like at least Saturday and my face looks really bad! is there a product i can buy at the store that will clear up my face really quickly? ive been using stuff but nothing is really working! i need a product that can clear up my pimples in a couple days! if you could help me i would REALLY appreciate it! thank you!!! :)

Valderma cream worked wonders on my spots/pimples.
I was always amazed how quickly they cleared up so I'd deffinatly reccomend that to anyone :-) x

I recieved an e-mail stating,John Hopkins news letter claiming : #1. No plastic containers in microwave. #2. No water bottles in freezer. #3. No plastic wrap inmicrowave.
Is this factual?
Tom

It's an email hoax. I just googled it and there's a statement:

Johns Hopkins Kimmel Cancer Center
Office of Public Affairs
March 2007

EMAIL HOAX REGARDING CANCER

An email falsely attributed to Johns Hopkins describing properties of cancer cells and suggesting prevention strategies has begun circulating the Internet. Johns Hopkins did not publish the email, entitled "Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins," nor do we endorse its contents. For more information about cancer, please read the information on our web site or visit the National Cancer Institute's web site at www.cancer.gov.

Another hoax email that has been circulating since 2004 regarding plastic containers, bottles, wrap claiming that heat releases dioxins which cause cancer also was not published by Johns Hopkins. More information.

-JHM-

i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and he wants to have sex but i dont and he sead ''if we dont then we have to stop going out'' but truely love him and we have been going out for 2 years but if we did have sex he it would be rape right cuz i'ma minnor and thats why i dont want to and i told him that but he still wants to i would have sex but it's illegal so i dont know what to do should i have sex or not (keeping in mind we love each other)????
-Bryona

DON'T have sex with him. Not because if the legalities ect but he is putting pressure on you to do something you are not willing to do and he obviously doesn't love or respect you, i'm sorry.

''If we dont then we have to stop going out''

That isn't something someone would say to someone if they love them., you must be able to see that.

He also sounds very immature, i'd expect a guy of 15 to say that, not 22.

It sounds as though he would dump you either way, if you dont have sex he'l dump you. If you do hav sex with him, he'll dump you because he obviously doesn't care, love or respect you anymore.

I know it's hard to hear, but it's the sad truth. xxx

I'm 16/f virgin and I've heard about a million things about sex. I've heard from my parents that I should wait until I'm married. I've heard from magazines that I can do it with anyone, but I should use a condom. In movies they make it seem like you can have as much sex as you want. Then you have others saying save your virginity while another group says things like you have to "test drive before you buy" kind of thing.

Who is right? Or because in this day and age that there are so few girls that have thier virginity that it's not important anymore?

Thanks,
A Virgin and proud (or possibly not)....

There is no right or wrong answer, virginity (and sex) is such a personal thing, it's a personal choice and everyone has a different opinion on it.

However, i do think your first time should be with someone special as it's such a huge landmark in your life, you want to get it right and make sure you wont regret it.

Having sex is the closest you can be to someone so (in my opinion) it should be with someone you love and trust.

However, after the first time, some people feel they are ready for some fun and just want to do it with any one. Again thats a personal choice and not for everyone.

If you feel you are not ready, then on't do it. Dont let anyone or anything influence you into doing something you might regret, and yes, you should be proud :-) x

are there any websites with seductive stories/games that can get you horny

http://www.myfirsttime.com/ It's where people tell about their first time (i found it useful when it was going to be mine) but alot of the stories seem made up as they are overly sexy and erotic.

Also, i love the forums on the More Magazine website, if you go in the "Saucy confessions" section, http://www.moremagazine.co.uk/message_chat/messageboards.asp
theres loads of seperate topics, mostly about strangest place you've had sex, best sex ect. It can be quite a turn on.

Hey guys :]

So Im 17/F im 5'5 and I weigh about 100 lbs. im totally healthy, and not like sickly underweight or anything. But I would love to gain weight. I eat a ton but it doesnt really do anything. Is there any supplements or even medicine you recomend. (im looking for something like that bar that Regina eats in Mean Girls) lol. Something that would make me gain alot of weight im thinking at least 4-5 pounds in time for school. THANKSSSSSSS

I'm not sure about supplements, buti had an eating disorder that made me really thin, although since eating alot of bread i've soon put weight on (plus its made my boobs bigger - hehe ;-)so you could try that x

I can't talk on the phone without shaking or driving myself nuts beforehand. I can't communicate with people without sweating or anxiety attacks..it takes me about 15 minutes to work up a hello in a social situation...and when someone doesn't reply or acknowledge it, the awkwardness fills me up and tears me up. I cry a lot over this. Hysterically. I can't be left by myself in any social situations. Usually, I'd have my dad or mom walk with me, get me into programs, register me, talk with my teachers, etc. I've been raised like that for the past 10 years now. I'm in this comfort zone and when I'm tossed out there in the real world, I can't project my voice, I can't go a day without someone going "aww, she's so shy," I can't go a day without disappointment. I feel like I need my parents to lead me and take me by the hand. And I push myself, like..go out there, knock..say hello...say it loudly. I do it and then I feel like I'm a failure. I feel like crying. I mess up relationships with my friends because I like being by myself more than with them. And then I regret it. I don't know what to do. I'm SIXTEEN. And I feel like I'll NEVER be able to communicate with people. I get on with the friends that I have left...but when I talk to teachers or any authority figures, I feel as if I subconsciously put on an act...with a lowered, innocent voice (as if my parents beat and starve me at home..) and I talk like please, please don't hurt me teacher...with closed eyes or something. What can I do?
16/f :(

I have exactly the same thing, it's called social phobia/social anxiety. Mine is so bad that i have panic attacks when it comes to even seeing my own family. I had to ring up a shop today and i had a panic attack on the phone.

There is help available though, it's a treatable fear but it does need treating otherwise you'l end up like me, with no friends and losing that closeness with your family.

I know how difficult it is for you but see your gp and tell him how you feel, dont miss anything out. you should be referrd to a child therapist (it's usually cognative behioural therapy), and because your refferd it means you dont have to pay.
There are tablets for anxiety but those are usually a last resort, especially since you are so young.

I cant really help you in getting over it as im still suffering with mine but ive learnt now to never give up.
If we have family around stay in the room with them as long as possible, but they know if i need a breather then i can go and have my space and then come back.

I always have a drink with me whereever i go as it help the icky feelings that you get with panic.
I would also strongly reccomend aromatherapy oils which you can buy at health shops and online. ones are are for panic and calming nerves, lavander oils are really good for that. You can buy t it little roll on's or tiny bottles so you can carry them round.

Whenever i have family over i put a ton of lavander on my wrists and smell my salts.

I'd just like to say Welldone though, welldone for not giving up, yes it effects your life in such a huge way but please dont give up and isolate yourself, ive been there and it was the worst time of my life.

if you want to email me or need any more advice i'd be more that happy to help you (just send me a private message on here) :-)

Chakra Xxxxxxx

ok so like a week and a half ago my vagina itched but then after a couple days it went away so i thought i was fine. but now i have this horrible pain in my stomach and its really sore and sometimes feels like cramps but usually is just this terrible pain. ive had this pain for over 3 days now!! last night i used some medicine that cures yeast infections and i kno it wouldnt completely sure it the first night but it should have made the pain feel at least a little better but it still hurts really bad and now my back hurts too. i feel really sick and im so annoyed i cant figure out what this is. i looked online and i think it might be a urinary track infection but im not sure. can anyone tell me what it sounds like because it hurts a lot. i know i should go see a doctor but i just moved here a couple days ago and we are trying to unpack my house and we dont know any doctors here yet. its not like a stomach ache like i'm gonna be sick its just like its really sore and hurts A LOT and sometimes the pain makes me feel nauseous. thank you soooo much!!!

Have a look on The NHS direct website http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/help/bodykey/questions/index.aspx?nodes=FlgWPcj%2f1Ow%3d there is a yes or no answer key for you to fill in.
I tried with what symptoms you gave and it came out as possibly kidney stones but you have to see a gp.

If you live in the UK you can call NHS Direct for free and speak to a doctor, if not, you could try calling your local hospital or doctors surgery and speak to a receptionist or doctor about your symptoms.

Hi im 16/f and i only have cellulite on my butt and legs how do i get rid of it fast? I dont like wearing bikinis because im self conscious of my legs. Im not fat though. im 5'6 and i weigh about 135 pounds. I've tried exercising and its not fast enough. Is there any fast solution to this? Thanks alot!

I'm not sure if there is a quick fix to celulite but this video is very helpful, explains what cellulite is, how we get it and how to reduce it, it's very helpful :-)

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-reduce-cellulite

Does anyone know if you can cheat by bringing a pocket laser with you? cause im going for school tomorrow and i really want to kick ***.

Thanks
Nate

No you can't, when you get hit by the laser it vibrates the special vest that you have to wear so you know you've been hit, a pocket laser won't be able to affect the laser vest.

Our class trip is going to Poland and Israel for two and a half weeks
we fly from chicago to Poland, Poland to Israel, Israel back to Chicago. One of the main reasons I do not want to go on this school trip is because I am scared of flights and I suffer from panic attacks. I don't want to embarass myself from getting a panic attack on the plane flights and I'm thinking of taking adenine I think it's called. But the longest plane ride I've been on was six hours and I never traveled over seas before. I need some advice how to handle this situation whether i should go or not.
And to add
How long is the plane flight from Chicago to Poland and how long is the plane flight from Israel back to chicago
And what's the food like in Poland I heard it's really bad and I am a picky eater
thank you

Ok, I can;t help with the flying part as i've never flown but I suffer terrible panic attacks so I can advise you on what to take with you if you do decide to go.

Lavender Roll ons - These are little tube of roll on sticks that you can get from health shops, you put them on pressure points on your wrists that help you relax.

Smelling Salts - I think you can get these from health shops too, they come in a tiny bottle and you smell them to calm you down. I found these to be very effective when i had an extremely bad bout of panic attacks last year.

Aroma Dough - This is like play dough but it has armoatherapy oils in, i have the lavender one as Lavender is very good for calming. You can play with it and squeeze it like a stress ball while the aroma calms you http://www.clearviewshop.co.uk/shop/catalog/browse?shop_param=shop_overview_pager%3D2%26cid%3D2%26

These are all things that you can fit in your carry-on bag, which leads me to...

Comfort bag - I used to take my comfort bag everywhere with me, you can use your carry on bag as yours. A comfort bag is something you can put all your comforting things in just incase you have a panic attack, it also helps just knowing that if you did have a panic attack then there are things with you to help you.
You could put some aromatherapy oils in it, a drink or 2 is essential if your aloud drinks on planes, i don't know if you are (preferably water or dilute as water helps you especially when the panic brings on sickly feelings), puzzle books and magazines to distract your mind from the panic. If you are concentrating really hard on a puzzle or reading then the panic dies down because it's in the mind. A little games console just to distract you, and tissues because if your anything like me you'll get upset when you panic, also panic can cause phlegm in the back of your throat so i find its always best to get it out rather that swallow it.

I think you are so brave to even contemplate taking this journey, if you really want to go then dont let your panic attacks stop you. But if you think it will make you ill because you'll be stressing out and extremely anxious and panicy about the flying and whole trip then i wouldnt go. You'll be a long way from home and wont be able to go home if your panic attacks makes you ill, so you need to have a long hard think about what will be making you panic (if it's just the flying or is it being away from home too) and speak with your parents about it. Make sure you know and do what YOU want to do, and maybe make a pro's and con's list too about the trip.

I would like to know if you would date someone online and then eventually meet them? As for me, There's a couple different issues to this matter. Here in my area, there aren't a lot of nice girls around here, but when I'm online, I find someone who is nice and hot, but they live too far away. It's probabily someone I wouldn't meet either way. What are your opinions on this matter?

I have strong views on this subject because I have met 2 serious boyfriends via the internet.

The first, we dated ove rthe internet and phone before we met, which sounds so geeky and i wouldnt recomend that again but we had every intention of meeting.
We met, in public which is very improtant, it was kind of a wierd date because we arranged to meet on a mini break, it meant my family had a holiday and got to meet him too and we spent the days together and then i slept in my familys acomodation without him.
That was best for us as my mum had his mobile number so we kept in touch and she knew where we were at all times.
Anyway, to cut a long story short, we fell in love and were engaged for 2 years.
We split but that was for health reasons.

I met my current boyfriend on www.love.lycos.co.uk, (which is where my mum met her new husband too ;-)) we didnt date over the net, we became friends first in real life, and fell in love. We live together now and have been together for 3 and a half years.

So yes, it can work out beautifuly, but that doesnt mean you wont meet horrible people too and people who say they are something they're not, but that can also happen if you meet someone in a pub or a library, theres always risks whatever the situation.

I wouldnt recomemd Internet dating" tho, ie where you are boyf and girlf before you've even met in person, it can be a horrible suprise when you meet up if you dont like your new girlfriend.
Dont forget, if you do meet up, do it in a public place, for the first few dates atleast, and make sure you tell someone where you are going, who you are going with, and let them know you are safe.

Good luck :-) xxx

I think I may have aniexty but my dad doesn't seem to think or take it very seriously.
I'd like to see a doctor to check it out,what kind of doctor would I go to?

I suffer terribly with anxiety too so I know what to do, you go and see your normal doctor first, the one you see when you have a cold or virus. Then he/she will decide what is the best thing for you.
Tablets are usually a last resort, especially in young people. If it's anxiety that is effecting your everyday life, you'll be refferd to see a psychologist or therapist, but the doctor will sort this out, not you, and let you know when and where to go.
If this happens you'll have 1 session to start with and then if the therapist decides you need more you'll make your appointments through her.

does anyone no any stores that i could get aviator sunglasses that are like mirrored/chrome ?
like these

http://www.led-watch.com/images/aviators/charlotte1W.jpg

I found some you can buy online, but I'm not sure about what shops you can get them in as i don't know where you live x

http://www.sunglasses-shop.co.uk/aviator-sunglasses.asp

http://www.coolbutcheap.com/aviator-sunglasses.asp

http://www.asos.com/Jeepers-Peepers/Jeepers-Peepers-Retro-Metal-Sunglasses/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=257463&cid=4624&clr=Silver&Rf-100=Sunglasses&sh=0

http://www.missselfridge.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?catalogId=20555&storeId=12554&categoryId=68919&parent_category_rn=63782&langId=-1&top=Y

http://www.promod.co.uk/accessories/sunglasses

I guess this comes under meantal health...
Ok well i used to be a cutter last year.
Bad i started about 3 years ago and stopd lasted year.

The thing is ive got so depressed lately all i want to do is harm...
I just want to get a knife and go deep.
To be honest im waiting for someone to cut me by accident or whatever. (if you get what i mean)

Im not a type of person that takes the wrong road twice so i really dont want to go back to it.
ANd im full of advice for everyone... except me.
I just want that red liquid to emerge from my skin.
To trinkle down my wrist.
To feel the stingy numbing pain....

Please point me in the right direction

Vikki

I once watched a v show that helped me alot when i was going through a really rough time, there was a famous psychologist on who gave some great cutting advice.

If it's seeing blood that makes you feel better, then drip red paint on your wrists, colour them in in felt tip, red shower gel ect

If it's pain that makes you feel better then use an ice cube on your writsts and do a cutting motion, it will sting like hell and go numb but wont actually harm you

Any opinions are appreciated.

So, I was invited to a birthday party last Monday that was set to happen Saturday. I told the girl at school, Gina, that I would be there. I know Gina through Key Club. She's a sophomore, I'm a junior, and I don't really consider us friends and I only see her at club meetings. Anyway, when I woke up Saturday morning I had a pretty bad sore throat and I didn't really feel up to going to her party, so I called about three or four hours before and told her. It probably sounded totally bogus, but it was true that I was and still am sick.

Today at school, three days after her party, she came up to me with her friend while I was walking with mine. I thought she was going to ask if I was feeling better but instead she said, "Hey, do you have my gift? Cause my birthday is tomorrow." I just said, "Not with me" because I was in shock that she would ask for a gift from someone she wasn't really friends with and someone that was unable to go to her party.

Does anyone else find this rude and insulting? What should I do the next time I see her? My plan is just to say my mom donated it after I couldn't attend the party: will that work?

Thanks.

I'm not sure what to advise you on what to do when you see her but saying, "my mom donated it after I couldn't attend the party", won't work because if you couldn't attend then you'd just give your friend the present another time.

I think you are right though, it is rude though asking you for a present. Maybe you could just get her something really cheap that looks like it cost more, like some earrings or something.

If she demands a gift from you though, just don't bother getting her one, doesnt sound like she would appreciate it anyway and theres no love lost between you x

I really do.

Here are my symptoms:
-I hear a constant ringing
-I hear a heartbeat plusing in my right ear. (This isn't constant, it comes in phases of 20 minutes or so.)
-I become irrationally angry with people
(This happens in public a lot. If I go somewhere I've never been, I can become very angry for no reason at everyone I see. I feel my heartrate increase and overall rage.)
-I see small animals like birds and squirrels that others claim not to see
-I get overwhelmingly dizzy
-I have a reocurring dream of this guy called Patrick who is very bad. He manipulates people in the most horrible and nasty way. I am scared I might see him in real life.

Any psychology experts, can you assess what might be happening to me?
Am I going crazy? What is going on?

There is a condition called Tinnitus which causes ringing and hissing noises in the ear, it can also be acompanies by dizzyness.
You really need to see your doctor about this, noone here can diagnose you.
If it is Tinnitus, you'll most likely be reffered to an ear,nose and throat specialist.

If you are in the Uk you can call NHS direct for free and speak to a nurse about your symptoms and they'll advise you on what to do but since yours in a long term thing you really need to talk to your GP.

yea hi, my penis is 7 1/2 inches when erect and im 14. is this good or bad or like what the hell is it? i dont know what to make of it

Thats actually above avergae. The average size is 6 and a half inches.

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