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Strange Birthday Gift Situation
Any opinions are appreciated.
So, I was invited to a birthday party last Monday that was set to happen Saturday. I told the girl at school, Gina, that I would be there. I know Gina through Key Club. She's a sophomore, I'm a junior, and I don't really consider us friends and I only see her at club meetings. Anyway, when I woke up Saturday morning I had a pretty bad sore throat and I didn't really feel up to going to her party, so I called about three or four hours before and told her. It probably sounded totally bogus, but it was true that I was and still am sick.
Today at school, three days after her party, she came up to me with her friend while I was walking with mine. I thought she was going to ask if I was feeling better but instead she said, "Hey, do you have my gift? Cause my birthday is tomorrow." I just said, "Not with me" because I was in shock that she would ask for a gift from someone she wasn't really friends with and someone that was unable to go to her party.
Does anyone else find this rude and insulting? What should I do the next time I see her? My plan is just to say my mom donated it after I couldn't attend the party: will that work?
Thanks.
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Wow,
THAT WAS VERY RUDE!
I would stick with the excuse you have at the moment,
Or you could just buy her a cheap gift :)
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Honestly i would not get her anything. It was rude of her to ask you for a gift and completely out of line. It makes me think that that was the reason she invited you in the first place, for her own benefit. You two are not really friends in the first place, and even a friend would not ask such a question. If you asks for it again I would tell the truth and not get her anything.
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Yeah, thats a pretty rude thing to say. But because you called on the day of the party she probably assumes you got her a gift. Giving an excuse could work, or try going through your closet or something. Maybe theres something she'll like! Thats what I did last weekend. Lol
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I'm not sure what to advise you on what to do when you see her but saying, "my mom donated it after I couldn't attend the party", won't work because if you couldn't attend then you'd just give your friend the present another time.
I think you are right though, it is rude though asking you for a present. Maybe you could just get her something really cheap that looks like it cost more, like some earrings or something.
If she demands a gift from you though, just don't bother getting her one, doesnt sound like she would appreciate it anyway and theres no love lost between you x
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It's obvious why she invited you to her party.
People came to my sweet 16 without bringing gifts, but i had so much fun with them there that it was okay. I had invited them because I love them and they're my friends, not because I wanted something material from them.
If you don't care too much about this relationship, I'd be honest with her. Tell her that you don't understand why she expects a gift from you and tell her that you feel used.
If you do care, then yeah, say you made a donation in her name or something.
Good luck and feel better.
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