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Ok 1st of all I would like to say that I am overweight and hunchback. I tried doing a diet with my family and it went well for about 3 days. I just cant do it because I love sweets and other stuff but I dont like veggies other than carrots and celery but they have to be in soup!!!!!... I dont eat salads.... I go camping every week in the summer and I told everyone that I would be half the person I was 2 weeks ago. If you have any siggestions of dieting and getting rid on my hunchback problem please help. Thanks for everyons support!!!!! :D
just to let you know I will tell you wat I do eat and what I dont eat....
here is what I eat chicken, pizza, steak, clams, ham, burgers, carrots, celery, spegetti, rigatoni, garlic bread, roast beef, fish but only at certain resturants, soup, subway, mcdonalds, burger king,mr heros, and alot of resturants.
here is what I dont eat veggies other that carrots and celery, rice, shrimp... There are lots more things that I eat and do not eat but I cant think about them right now. Please help if you can. (link)
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lean your back back at night in bed stick your middle out so u feel it straiten hold it there so your back can get readjusted .hold as long as you can youl feel a bit ofpain in your back chest it shd start to feel right. i do it and its better its just getting back back to its naturalway.
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Im 13 and female. Girls at my new act really, really nice when they want something or need help, ect. but when i wanna just hang out they act like bitches. (sorry for the explict language.) Like just yesterday, i practically did they're whole history paper and then they just snub me. I think it might be because im emo. Can you tell me whats wrong? (link)
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they dnt want to be friends theyre using you.dnt do their hmework
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Everyone knows me as a like funny guy who goes all out for the dress up days in highschool. Can you guys help me think of something like outrageous to wear?? ill wear almost anything! (link)
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a really convincing girl.like get you makeup and hair done by a girl a wig,realy reallike
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Oh my god, I'm sorry this is monstrously long but my life is just in complete shambles right now and everything is only getting worse. I have absolutely nobody else to turn to right now so please help.
I'm 16 and ever since I was 12, I've been procrastinating and it only seems to get worse every year. Now I'm a junior, and its really embarrassing for me to say but last marking period I failed 4 classes because of my inability to do work. I mean I know I am a smart person (despite the grades) and when I put my mind to it I've always gotten near perfect or perfect grades (I'm a big perfectionist). Sometimes to my own pitfall.. cause I'd hand a project a day late to get it perfect and get the same score as someone who did mediocre work because they take off points for lateness. I have terrible time management. Nobody ever really gives any proper advice on how to fix it. I know it mainly has to come from me, but i dunno... I just have some mental block or something. I try to make schedules but have trouble following them.
I don't know why this year I've just lost all my motivation to do work. It's hard for me to tell others my problems, too. Nobody knows the scope of how bad it is in my life right now.. this is definitely the worst time I've ever experienced in my life and I feel bad cause its my fault and I know a lot of others have it much worse and still prevail. I mean, I don't understand why I block out everyone when all I really want is for someone to notice. I try to hide my problems very well, but at the same time I want someone to notice something is not right and persist me to spill the beans. Just because I say I'm "okay" doesn't mean I'm okay. Someone asked me that today and I said I was fine, though I didn't look them in the eyes cause I had tears in my eyes at the time. This past week I've been teary eyed everyday.. I just feel so regretful for what I have done.. and don't know how I can fix it all.
I've become a lot more reserved this year.. my family moved to a new town in the middle of last year and I was more myself then. Very outgoing, got great grades, and everything. I had a lot of people to talk to, too. But this year, I guess its my own fault for shutting people out.. potential friends. I feel bad for it and want to make amends with them, cause its not their fault that I shut them out, its mine I think. I literally feel like I have no true friends apart from a couple people from a forum I go on online. I know friends aren't really important but it just sucks to not go to movies with anyone, parties, have all the inside jokes, or even just someone to talk to everyday in a school period. I'm not the type of person who needs a lot of friends, even just one good friend makes a day a lot better. Most talking I do nowadays at school is with teachers, but mostly with asking questions because it helps me learn better. And I'm a very talkative person.. its hard for me to be so quiet all day, so when I come back home its a huge relief. The first few hours from when I come home are like.. ecstasy. And then reality sets in that I have homework and as more time goes on I just feel guilty which just keeps me procrastinating, and then guilty.. just a big cycle. School is hell and I pay attention and everything, but I'm hoping the time goes by as fast as possible. And school used to not be that way. I used to LOVE school and wonder how anyone could dislike it. Cause I do love to learn but I also feel like I've missed out on a lot of the social aspects of growing up, like best friends, sleepovers, and what not.
In my old town I still had a friend problem but at least I could trust the friends I had grown up with since I moved to that town when I was 6. I talk to them now rarely.. I really miss some of them but I feel like I don't know what to talk about with them, aside from saying "miss you". I hardly ever talk to anyone on facebook or text/call anyone cause I don't know what else to say. like if I know someone from volleyball i dunno what to talk about aside from volleyball. school 'friends'.. i dunno what to talk about aside from school. I listen to pretty obscure music (indie rock.. not that obscure to people online but a lot of kids my age like a lot of mainstream stuff), and I'm interested in the world and what not.. I just feel like I'm not on the same wavelength as most other teens in my town, unfortunately. even in my old town it was still similar. I'm originally from the UK and my family is from Cameroon so maybe that could play a part with it? I miss England a lot.. I feel like I'd fit in more with British culture than American. I'm not the type of person to try to change myself.. I just try to find people like me that I know exist, because I talk to some of them online from around the world and of different ages.
Last summer I tried initiating things.. to hang out with people. I've only hung out with 1 person from school in nearly a year now. Cause I invited her to a concert that I won free tickets to. We both really loved that band. When I was new she talked to me a lot. Now she never even talks to me or says hi to me anymore, even when I occasionally say "hey" she just ignores me. Now I don't even know if I'm close to anyone to be able to ask to go to that sort of thing. I try being nice.. but I just feel like no one, apart from my family, truly cares about me. So I've just come to expect people to let me down, but at the same time I keep trying to find someone who wont. And it makes me sad because I care about everyone else.. even people I hardly know. I shut people out now because its very hard for me to be self confident and bubbly when my grades are so horrible. I have big dreams, to go to a good college and become an economist.. but I just feel silly when I think about it now, and tell people my dreams, with my grades being the way they are.. because I'm in a new school maybe my teachers think its always normal for me to get grades under Bs when thats not true. That is not what I expect for myself. I don't want them to think I'm stupid though I feel stupid for not doing my work. I know its my fault and I should put the blame on me and keep telling myself that.. but it just makes me so confused cause I don't know how to just change myself like my parents say to do. My parents don't help at all, they make me feel like crap and make me even more afraid for the future, and even more likely to procrastinate cause of myself feeling bad. They don't pressure me to get perfect grades though, just do to the best I can. I think it just comes from me.. but I don't know why I feel like I need perfect grades and for everything to be perfect. I feel guilty about procrastinating and all my stupid decisions everyday. Even little things. You don't know how hard I've wished to turn back time to just finish an assignment instead of surfing the web, watching tv, or wasting my time in that sort of way. And yet I still procrastinate worse and worse. Some classes I hardly turned in every work. I write down the work in my planner and everything.. but I just can't get myself to do it. I've looked up things online.. i dont know if I have ADD, fear of success, or depression. But I don't feel depressed.. or I don't know. I'm just self-analyzing myself so i dont know if I'm right. I dont know anyone who'd really care enough to listen to all of this to really help me. Though that is something I'd do. I'm not a pushover or anything, but whenever someone has a problem I try to give them good advice. I dont know why I can't give myself good advice and actually follow it.
I guess in my life I've developed a hard shell, so I can't admit when things really hurt me... I just brush things off but maybe some things stay in my self conscious. Maybe I took the phrase "sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me" too literally, sending all the pain to my subconscious. So for that I thought I was confident, cause someone could say something looks weird, but if I liked it, I just shrugged off the comment. But maybe I'm a lot less confident than I really think I am. Right now I'll admit I'm really not confident and worry about little things but just overall in my life, even when I thought I was very confident, maybe it was this way. I mean I have little confidence on getting a boyfriend. I dont even feel like I'm ready in my life to have one right now. I mean I'd love to have a boyfriend, but my life isn't the way I want it to be right now. Honestly, I'm a good looking person though a little chubby, but there's people who I don't really consider the best people who are average looking who have had lots of relationships. I've had 0. No guy has even asked me out, and I'd never do it either. But I've never outright flirted with anyone anyways.. I'm too afraid of rejection. I think that came from when I was in 5th grade, some guys played a joke on me.. that I liked one of them I think. I think that had a big impact on me.. cause it seemed like they were saying that dating me would be a joke. That's the impression that was left with me.. that they maybe thought I was too weird or something. I mean it was 11 year old boys.. it probably wasn't a big deal but, ugh. I know things get better after high school but I hardly have any experiences so far in high school ( and I'm a junior!) that I'd truly relish on. 10th grade was starting to go bad w/ procrastination before I moved to my new school and then i started doing great. and now its even worse than I've ver experienced in 11th grade. Also with guys, I don't know if this is really weird but I tend to be attracted to a lot of guys and that freaks me out cause I don't want to appear like I'm flirting with them when I don't want to pursue anything but it feels that way.. though when I think over what happened I know it wasn't like that. but at the same time I don't know whats going on in another persons mind! I dont go after perfection with guys I like, but I do expect we'd be on a similar wavelength with things... a great deal - best friend and boyfriend at once. I don't think I've even had a good guy friend, much less a best friend one though. Once in middle school a guy clearly liked me, and I thought it was creepy. But once he stopped liking me and started liking another girl, I grew jealous and started growing a crush on him. Whats wrong with me? I don't like games and everything but it seems like my mind just does it automatically. I like things to be out in the open but nooo my mind just has to be complicated???
It doesn't help that my guidance counselor doesn't give a crap either. she doesnt notice anything. its hard for me to talk to her when I don't even feel like she truly cares or even truly knows what she's doing. she's the only guidance counselor at school (its a small school) and she also handles a lot of other things like senior stuff and etc. I don't feel like she has the time to really pay attention. Sometimes I wish she'd notice how bad I was doing and get met to talk about it and make me feel comfortable with sharing.. but ughghgh. Should I just go to a therapist? Or can you help me in any way? I have an older sister who's recovering from depression and I don't know how to tell my parents I want to see a therapist too.. if I needed to. its expensive and just embarassing.. I can't share these thoughts with my parents. why is it so hard for me to admit these insecurities IRL, but so easy online.
I don't think I'm depressed.. I still love the same things. I really wanted to do soccer over the winter but cause of my crap grades I couldn't try out. That was embarassing. I had to leave the volleyball team near the end of the fall season cause of my crap grades. that was even more embarassing. there's just so many things that I regret that when I try to look forward and be positive (and I'm normally a very positive person I think) I just think I'm foolish for thinking I'm worthy of that when my grades have been so bad in the past. and how hard it will be to suddenly try to get people to like me again so I can actually get some friends. But I have to be a friend to get a friend in return, so I have to stop shutting people out from my life. But ughghg in my life in general its been hard for me to get together with friends outside of school so I'm still very uncomfortable with it. I know how embarassing that sounds.. but I don't know how it happened, in my life people just didn't invite me for things and I don't know why .I'm a nice person, and fun.. even more shy kids seemed to have more friends than me. maybe its cause most people in the places I've lived were white, then asian, and then african-american? I dont care about race but maybe it made some people not want to hang out with me? I say african-american because they're different from people with recent immigration from africa. also I don't act like a lot of them in the schools I've been to, with liking a lot of hip hop, the way I talk, and what not. I've been friends with all types of people though.. but I just don't know.. maybe other people have issues with other people being different.. i dont know. Also I'm a pretty good-hearted person, and though I can be sarcastic like I'm not the type of person who calls their friend the B word as a joke and what not.. and saying lots of sarcasm and having lots of witty comebacks. at my old school in the northeast there were a lot of people like that. now i'm in texas and people aren't like that generally.. but though everyone was all "southern hospitality"-like when I first moved here, now I feel like everyone ignores me.
I just don't know what to do but I can't keep living like this. I'm not suicidal or anything.. and I know I should think life will get better. but at the same time it doesnt just change. how do I change my life to get my desired result? I think I have a problem with actually planning out ways to achieve my dreams. I spend too much time dreaming about them than actually making effort to reach them. And I just cant let go of my regrets.. and don't know why I have so many issues with friends, why or if I have low self confidence and just EVERYTHING. This is monstrously long but if I kept this all in one day at school I just won't be able to contain the tears coming from my eyes when I sit in class again with everyone else laughing to their friends while I sit and try to occupy my time without being awkward..and I'll just hugely embarass myself by crying and going to the stupid guidance counselor who'll make me feel uncomfortable as I try to stop the tears to tell her whats wrong though she doesn't truly have the time to listen or really help me like I need someone to. and then news will spread across the school about me being a total weirdo and people wont forget, and my parents will be upset cause they dont want me to become depressed like my sister and just everything will f*** up even more than it is right now and it is very f***ed up right now since junior year is really important and everything and I just have to f***it up so far. And now I feel selfish for wanting someone to help me, but I just don't know how to help myself. It's been too long like this and I really want to change but those things online just saying "make lists, etc" do not help me at all as I have crappy self motivation and a9fuqw390ru9qefoe/ (link)
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think you need a proper therapist and one that you like.what things "should be"arent what is .is your life out of balance?you wrote a long story youve got a lot in your head..talk to a therapist about that incident with the boy when you were younger.what else hurt you?talk about your fears with her.the sooner the better.
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I could be completely fine and just be weird or something, but i feel like somethings not quite right. im 17, female, and ill tell you a little about myself and my symptoms. i was raised in a very sheltered family but somehow became the complete opposite. my parents both waited till marriage to have sex and always want to know what im doing. i lost my virginity and got a tattoo when i was 16. i also steal peoples cars with my friends when the car owners fall asleep even when i didnt have a license. these are things that would have killed my mom but she never found out. after that i began stealing everything out of peoples cars or stores or even my own house. i sometimes pawn my own parents things and ive even sold drugs before to get money. and the thing is i have a job and dont need to steal or sell drugs for money. and i have a car so i dont need to steal other peoples. but i love it. i love the feeling of stealing and doing illegal things i guess you could say. i dont feel bad about it one bit or even think twice about it. its like i have no conscience. i also feel like nothing is ever my fault. im in all ap classes and have a scholorship to uva for soccer, and i would consider myself to be a smart and mature girl. i just have this love for recklessness and im not afraid to die. everyone tells me im going to die or get sent to jail soon but i dont care. nothing seems to bother me or make me even the tiniest bit upset, and ive never felt guilty before. the only things that could ever effect how i feel are my boyfriend of 2 years and my best friend. im pretty sure i love them more than anyone has ever loved anything. nothing else matters. something just seems a little off because no one else seems to really feel this way. anyone know whats up with me?
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you sound like an addict..do u take drugs or alcohol? being responsible comes when your accountable for your actions and coming from a sheltered tfamily you havnt learnt yet.jails not a nice place and you say you dnt care when you do this stuff but you will.ur spirit inside dosent need all that crap.focus on your scholarship!
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How is it a human being can no longer care wether they live or die? I'v been thinking alot and I realized I dont care. In fact i actually kind of want to die. I could never take the cowards way out, but still. i just don't care about anything. Is there a way where i could begin to care again? Why might i be feeling this way? (link)
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you could find something to care about.what about getting a kitten?find a reason .art?music?spiritualality?
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Around 5 to 4 years ago, when I was 12 I let my dog lick my penis twice. I havent done it since then and have deeply regretted it since then. It's recently been plagueing my head because I have this close friend who I care for a lot and whenever she says that I'm amazing and unique I feel bad because what if she knew I did that? Should I feel bad for having her think I'm such a great person even though I did that? Or since it happened years ago it shouldnt matter? I'm a completely different and more mature and wiser person, so should I care about who I am now or what I did? Is she close friends with a freak? Should I be arrested for having done it? She's told me before that she doesnt care about anything I've done and that its not important to her, but everytime she compliments me, I feel guilty. Please help and please answer each question if you can.
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everyone does stuff they regret.its what you do today tht matters
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I'm a 17 year old male. I can never find enough guts to be outgoing and charismatic and all. I think I actually need help because I think it's interfering with things in my life that have a lot of potential. (link)
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you might have social anxiety.. its the easiest mental illnes to recover from. ask your doc
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I thought I got over my depression, but recently all I feel is sad and exhausted. I'm so stressed out and I feel like I'm alone sometimes. I don't have anybody to talk with this about. My parents think I'm overly dramatic and I don't have any close friends anymore. I just can't take it anymore. (link)
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you need to see a counciler.could you talk to your parents ask if they can find you someone?
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Homework, relationships (platonic. I can't even get past the friend stage, I'm afraid of not finding the right guy), and other general life things. I can't reach my goals and I'm just fed up because this has been a growing problem these past 3 years and I'm just sick of myself and I socially isolate myself even though I desire friendship from others (I just can't comprise who I am in the process.. I feel like I'm different from everyone in my town. I've been living here for 3 years and I still feel like an outcast) and try to be nice (but then sometimes I feel like I'm being mean or awkward, even when I'm trying to be nice, friendly, and pretend everythings ok. I'm 17 and a senior if that makes a difference. i've essentially f***ed up my high school years and i'm just so g9ep0oej. im not suicidal or anything but im just so sick of repeating the same stupid mistakes and getting further into procrastination and perfectionism to where I can't even accomplish anything anymore. like i planned on fixing mistakes this year and I'm nearly about to fail a lot of classes this first semester. im intelligent, and interested in world affairs and everything but I just self-sabotage and limit myself. I have big dreams but I have so much trouble starting them.. and I don't know why. here I am on the internet because I literally have no one to talk to about this. my parents would just criticize me (I'm very sensitive to being overtly criticized) and I have no friends in this town. I feel like I rely on other people too much, though. like I see relationships in a practical way almost but I don't like it. I'm too rigid at school when I'm really fun and everything like at home or w/e. nobody at school really knows me yet. and it's been 3 years! what do i do what do i do what do i do. i cant live like this my whole life, i have too big, yet attainable (if I can work hard) dreams
I'm so socially awkward with relationships I don't even know how to harness friends that I can hang out with or anything, from school. I haven't hung out with anyone from school (outside of school activities) since 10th grade, and I'm currently in 12th grade. that's how bad it is. family friends is easier, but i still rarely meet with them. like i've missed homecoming, prom, etc cause i feel like i dont have anyone to hang out with and I dont want to feel lonely or like i have to cling to someone else or w/e. im just a basketcase right now and its ridiculous. i feel like i cant relate to other people very well because a lot of people have lived in this texas town all their life, or in nearby towns, but i've just come here from the northeast and i've lived abroad and traveled abroad.. so i have totally diff music interests (indie.. people only listen to lamestream here), and etc (like i'm very interested in world events and i cant even hold a convo with most people about current things
I feel like people want to pigeonhole me into a stereotype, too, because I'm black. like I feel they think it's weird im not into "black stereotypical" things when it's just what I like.. I don't understand how it's so hard to think that people are unique and not caricatures of racist ideas (link)
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i think you need to get outside yourself maybe start by being helpful ?take some time to do something for someone else to get out of urself.smile at ppl more .maybe make a gratitude list everyday.acceptance of ppl places things."if i focus on a problem,the problem increases,if i focus on the answer,the answer increases."the movie/doc"the secret"really lifechanging too.
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okay so i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend for a while now , we had sex about once or twice now and i'm worried that i might stop developing my breast and my height. i'm a A cup and 5'3. does having sex stop your development? (link)
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no
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My better half has decided to go on an unusual and strict diet of water and rice. He is 34 years old and around 14-15 stone but would like to be 12 stone.
He works 5 days a week at a local mini supermarket but all he does is have water until tea time when he has one bowl of rice.
It was day one yesterday and the result was he lost 3lb but had no energy during or after work and was feeling faint.
I personally don't think it is good for him health wise and it has already began to affect our communication as he is very quite and a little touchy.
Is there any better diets out there for him that involve him eating more but without putting any weight on?
After work he usually works out upstairs with weights and general stretching. (link)
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not healthy..why dosent have fruit during the day?or have something green with his rice.
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I've known this guy named Kyle (age 17) for almost three years, and I've liked him for two. He seems like the sweetest guy in the world. He flirts with me, just the other day we were standing in the school parking lot dancing to my radio, and when we text we play silly games, like texting haha, hehe, and Lol repeatedly, and we tease each other, and he says he loves me all the time... but everytime I go on facebook, I see him seeming to flirt with two other girls, one of them being my best friend. He swears he doesn't like them, but he does like someone, and I told him I liked him and all he did was grab me and hug me... My best friend swears he likes me, but I think he might just be a total flirt... I also asked him to the homecoming dance, and he said maybe... a week ago, but still no definite answer, should I give up? or is he just too shy to say he likes me? (link)
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sounds ilke he likes attention and he shdnt be taken seriously...move on if he realy wants you hel make the effort.
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Hi! I m 27 years old Male young guy. From last one year I am suffering sexual problem. I want to having sex with my own Mother. So tell me how can approach her for this? She is 42 years hot women. Plez suggest me for the same. (link)
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thats something you can never take back.sugest u speak to a sex psycholmgist look up onear you.dnt cros tht line.
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so all my life i always loved dressing up but i was somehow shy to appear in public looking all dressed up. one of the reasons i love dresses but i don't actually wear them outside. but this winter i want things to change. i just need a bit of help. i want to know how to dress casually but at the same time,looking good. any form of help will be appreciated :P ! thanks. (link)
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if it winter a good pair of jeans that last and some ughh boots(or some other comfy winter boots) look nice thse essential cause you can wear your boots with other pants or skirts and jeans go with everything.a nice jacket too that you can wear with anythng and keep you warm.
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I've been modeling for years now, wouldn't you think I'm super into myself and love what I see in the mirror? Wrong. I'm SO ridiculously self-concious it ruined my last relationship. I loved my ex boyfriend so much but we rarely had sex just because i was always said no. Obviously I want to because I love him, it's just I can't stand being naked and i have no confidence in the bedroom and he didn't understand that so he left me and it hurts but anyways I was wondering how to become comfortable in my own skin and not be so nervous about getting intimate? (link)
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when your home alone,dance crazy naked in front of your mirror pull funny faces.when your in bed maybe dim the lights or have them off and spend a lot of time under sheets kissing and cuddling.if you dont feel ready maybe go down on him or stroke him.. take it slowly.
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im messed im 26 female in aa australia been soba 3 yrs i cld be a petifile i have had those bad thoughts and i have a character like one(indulgent)neva done anythng neva wil i fuck with my own hed i mess with my thts im past wanting to die i runing outa options.any ideas? (link)
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thnk u need to breath.and see a professional
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I am a junior in high school. Although everyone says it's time to get serious once one reaches junior year, somehow I don't know how to adjust to it. I can be very lazy and seem to be pretty "chill" about this year. I don't seem to give a crap for the life of me and I just can't get my mind focused and out of the "summer zone", the zone where I just don't care about anything.
I feel so shitty. I feel like already I am going no where in life! At all! I don't know what I want to do after high school, and I just feel so lost. I realize everyone probably feels this way sometime in high school or later in life, or even earlier, but I just feel so...ugh. I don't even think I can afford college.
Not that I am putting excuses on others, but my childhood was very difficult. My father was never there to teach me or tell me about life in high school, and I was never raised to be independent, anyway. Half the time, my mother was going crazy, and she sunk down into a deep depression, as was I when my father abandoned us. Up until freshman year, my life was very dramatic and lonesome. I don't know anything about financial things, or even living on my own for that matter. I feel like a sorry excuse for a teenager and like I will never be able to live on my own and handle myself. I am very forgetful, lazy, and indecisive. I have difficulty paying attention and I try to stay focused and get what I need done, but I don't have much motivation. I'm smart at times and I have so many goals, I also love to write and stuff, but I never figured out what I want to do in life.
I need some guidance. I feel scared to go to my parents about this, and I just can't find anything to ease my worrisome thoughts.
I'm sixteen, and I'm a female.
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u need a goal tht u r rely excited for "the secret" movie/doc rely helpful.sumthng tht gives u a reason to slog it out for.
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i have an on-going flirtation with this one guy that i go to school with. we openly flirt and will most likley hook up within the next month. i know he thinks im attractive and all but he recently said that i was a 9, as in a 9 out of 10. i dont know whether to be flattered that he gave me such a high number or insulted that he doesnt think im a 10. any opinions on this would be great.
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10 would prety much be perfection whch is unattainable by human standards cause we human!and 9 rely high..must be unnerving to be rated
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What are your top...lets say 3...reasons to live? What makes you happy to be here? (link)
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Learning ,growing,giving back
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