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Q: ugh.So my best friend [he's a guy im a girl] says he's gay, the thing is i dated him like twice and even thought we knew things couldnt work out it made us closer like seriously hes my best friend but the thing is i still have feelings for him i know i dont have a chance [obviously] i just dont know what to do he knows i like him and that doesnt change a thing about our friendship.but he doesnt know if hes gay or just "curious" he just got out of a 5 month relationship [w/ a girl] and i dont know if its a rebound thing, what do i do?
This is all too familiar for me. I dated two guys about 3 years ago who were friends with msot of my friends, and also friends themselves and everyone said that they would turn out gay. They denied all the vicious rumors and I also defended them because I had feelings for them and thought well.. if we dated how can they be gay? Well, its senior year now, and junior year they both came out as being gay. One of them, said he was bi, then straight, then to gay. Its a very difficult time deciding if you are bi or gay. Even though you have feelings for him, still be supportive. Some of the best friendships I have had was with a gay guy friend. It's also common to come off a relationship with a girl that you are extremely hurt from and feel that you might have feelings of being homosexual. Generally when this happens, they tend to turn bi or gay. The reason he may be doubting it or "not sure" is because hes scared of how people will react. It's a big step. Just make sure that even though you have feelings for him, that you continue to be there for him as if nothing has changed. When I came out as being bisexual, I needed my friends to fall back on for support and I didnt want my friendships to change, and they didnt. Which is probably what he might be scared of. Offer alot of love and support, and whichever happens (bi gay or straight) make sure that you are there for him either way. He might feel that because of your feelings, and not wanting to hurt you, he might sway his decision and say that hes straight so you dont feel like its your fault. thats why you have to sort of remain neutral, as if you dont care either way, to best support his decision.

Q: ok i failed 2 finals before & im afraid that will affect what colleges accept me. i'm just not a great test taker, but even with F's on the final, i still managed to get all A's and B's for all of my classes as my final grade & still have a 3.4 GPA. any opinions or experiences??

thanks!!
Some people are really smart but are just really bad at taking tests. If this is the case you can have yourself tested for test anxiety, and then begin to have your tests given to you orally. My mom had that problem when she was in high school and she wasnt stupid, she just couldnt take tests. When they began reading them to her orally she would get them all right. No matter how hard you study or what techniques you use, if you have test anxiety, it wont help.

Dont worry about colleges. There is so many other things that they factor in when choosing to accept you. For example, clubs, extracurricular activities, sports, community service, awards you've recieved. Things of that nature.
Also, your ACT's are a big portion of it, which you are also able to have given to you orally.

Talk to your guidance counselor and see if you're able to use this method of test taking, and ask her about the ACT's. I know that I have to be taking them soon and I'm super scared because its a big portion of deciding what college im able to get into.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Q: 14/f

Waaaaahhh! I am so fat. I am 5' 2" and 178 lbs. My stomach lingers down over the top of my pants and I have fat rolls along my sides. I want to know tips on how to disguise this without avtually losing weight. Are there girdles or something that will make me slim, beautiful, and stunning by next friday? I need to impress this guy. Bad. Help me. I am so fat!
I disagree with the person below. Baggy clothes make a person look bigger rather than smaller. Black is a slimming color. & Stripes or plaid draw attention to heavier people. Avoid pinstripes & wear black.

There are corsettes that you can buy that suck everything in basically. i'm not sure on the prices but they cant be too costly.
You just put them on around your stomach and tie them up I believe and it pushes everything up towards your boobs, hah.
Go to a store where they sell dresses and ask for one, and if they dont have it ask if they know of a place that does for cheap.

The best way to impress a guy, though, is with your personality, not your looks.
If you have to get his attention with your looks then the relationship is based on something shallow, and will most likely not work out.

Accentuate your flaws though. Wear something that will make you look classy, but not too out there. Draw attention to yourself, but not that much that it will be turned into something negative.
Put on makeup, do your hair all nice and find the perfect outfit for your body shape. You can even go to stores and ask them what type of outfit and colors would look good with your body shape.
They're experts on that thing ;]
Good luck!

Q: when in the color ipod video going to come out?? because i might get it but i dont wanna get the black one if colored ones are coming out soon. so does anyone know?
I'm not sure what you're talking about because I have an iPod video and its definitely in color.. so I believe their already out in 30, 60 & 80 GB.

Check apple.com and see what they have available on the site in regards to ipods.
I dont know of any video ones that are black and white.

Q: How do you go about getting tested for depression? What do they do?

Because I'm tired of being unhappy.. I have been feeling like this for years and I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.

Do pills really help making you "happy" or is it just a waste of time?

I just want to be happy again..
I can't do anything I like anymore. I oversleep and I'm still tired.. All I want to do is lay down and I keep canceling plans with friends..

And my confidence is low.. I dont know anymore..
You go to the doctor and they will give you an evaluation. A series of questions usually to see if you have the symptoms of clinical depression.

There are pills to lift your mood. Ive had some friends that were on them and I suppose they are worth it but personally I wouldnt want to go on them.
I just deal with my depression and force myself to go places and do things because i know if I wasnt feeling like that I would enjoy them.
The pills, however, basically make you unable to feel sad. They give you no negative emotions. Something bad could happen to you and you wouldnt be able to draw negative emotions out of the experiance, which I dont like because it feels fake.
Doctors dont suggest taking them forever though, they are just a temporary cure, and very addictive. After maybe a year when they see a signifigant change in you they will try and "ween" you off the medication. Which is what they are currently doing to my stepdad because he became addicted to his anxiety and depression medication.
After so long of being on the medication, you dont know how to deal with sad things unless you are on them. Thats why the suicide rate for taking them are so high, because if they miss a doss and some tragic event happens, it will be a stress overload and they go comit suicide.

I dont recommend going on them, & I personally never would.
Depression comes and passes most times.
If you really feel that its a growing problem, though, go to the doctor and get evaluated and ask for some other alternatives then depression meds because you dont want the side effects.

Q: one of my friends told me that you can transfer music from limewire to itunes to put on your ipod, without paying the itunes price for each song.is this true?.if you can transfer songs from limewire to itunes, how do you do it?

thanks!=]
When you're in limewire, go to your options folder. Have all your songs download into your "my music" folder. Once you've done that, go into the folder where you keep all your music and drag and drop them all into the my music folder. Then go into itunes, and go to file, then import folder, then go through and find my music, click it & hit import. The songs will then begin loading into your itunes library. Once the songs are in there, connect your ipod, hit select all, and drag and drop them onto your thing that says Ipod
They will begin uploading themselves onto your ipod :)

Q:
16 f. chicago, il
if i have sex with a 24 yr old male.. and im not unwilling either (i know. i'm horrible.)
what would the police do to him if neone found out?
thanks
Well, 16 is the age of consent in most states.
If you were to have sex with him you are at the age where its technically legal.
If the police found out the only way they would be able to do anything was if your parents were to take him to court.
& Even if they did that, you are able to have a voice in court, and you could verify that it was consentual.
Therefor: nothing would happen, lol.

Q: hi
ok so out of suriousity.. is there a way to make your own myspace layouts without photoshop?? not like layout generators but like something original??
Yeah.
Take a basic stylesheet from createblog.com
and then go to http://img100.imageshack.us/img100/7010/untitled9ij.png

those are hex codes, or color codes.
go through the layout and everytime you see
font color:
background color:
and then numbers like ffffff
imput your own hex code, and edit it to your liking.
you can also add codes from
myspacescripts.com
into your about me section, to make it original.

Q: Well it's my birthday and I'm getting a cellphone! The plan we use is cingular, and I heard theres a hot new phone called Chocolate or something. Could you find me a picture of it? Can I get that phone with the Cingular plan? Thanks a lot!
Yess, the phone chocolate is adorable, but its only available for verizon phones. Its a verizon thing =[ heres a picture anyway though

http://www.mobileguerilla.com/articles/2006/07/31/lg-chocolate-launched-by-verizon-wireless.php


Q: Okay, if a girl is under 16 and a guy is 18, is it a legal for them to date? Someone told me that it is as long as you don't do anything with them but someone else told me that you can't date at all until the girl is 16. What's really legal?
It varies from state to state but here where I am, ohio, and in most states, the age of consent is 16. The only thing that is "illegal" is sex to minors and someone who is over 18. If a 15 year old wanted to date an 18 year old, its fine. If they have sex its considered statitory rape, but only if the family presses charges. So I suggest that if anyone under 16 is going to date someone 18 or above, they should make sure that their parents are aware so that there isnt any legal matters. You could check for your state to see whats legal and what isnt. Just google legal age of consent, and see what comes up.

Q: Hey. I've recently decided to go vegan. I'm new to all of this and I dont know what to buy in terms of food. I know they do not associate themselves with animal products at all. This is going to be a challenge for me because I like cheese. But for the animals' sake, I'll do it. So can anyone tell me what ingredients in foods, and makeups, etc. etc. I should be looking for. Also, a site that has vegan recepies on it would be a big help as well! Thanks Alot!
http://vegweb.com/index.php?action=recipes

http://www.veganchef.com/

I would list everything that they should watch out for, but its an extremely long list
and this website has it all


http://library.thinkquest.org/20922/what_not.htm


Q: is this from a movie or something "straight out of compton" .. i hear people say that all the time? what movie is it from
Well.
1. It's a movie from 2005
& a song by N.W.A

Q: I've had my period since I was 11 (16 now) and they haven't been getting regular. Sometimes I didn't get my period for 2 months at a time but I wasn't worried at all because I hadn't had sex. Since I was 14 I've been on the pill. Almost 2 months ago I had sex with my boyfriend. We used a condom but I havn't had my period in almost 3 months. I ually gain weight around my period but I'm concerned because of the missing of my period for a longer lenth of time. Now I'm getting worried because the pill is supposed to first of all prevent your chances of getting pregnant and second, keep you regular. Is it possible that I'm pregnant while on the pill and after using a condom? Thanks for your help.
Well. It is possible to get pregnant while on the pill, seeing as though my mom did it 3 times. If you used a condom and are on the pill, then I highly doubt that you are pregnant. Condoms are usually good for preventing pregnancy, if nothing was done to damage the condom, but if you are really concerned about it, I would buy a home pregnancy test just to be sure.

As for the regulating periods thing, my friend was on the pill and it extended her periods, and made them even more irregular than they already were, so its not always effective for that nature.

Q: How can you tell if a product is not tested on animals? Will it always say it on the bottle (*Not Tested On Animals*)? And if it DOESNT say that on the bottle, does that mean they DO test on animals?
The best way to tell if its tested on animals or not, is to look the product up. Generally, they are supposed to provide information on whether or not it is tested, due to the fact that some people are against it.

If it doesnt say on it, theres a good chance that they do test it with animals.

Products with a label that says "not tested on animals" or "cruelty-free" are usually developed without animal testing or without harming animals.

They dont allow products on the market if the product endangers the animals health or it falls under animal cruelty, though.
So its nothing to really be concerned about if they do test on animals.

Q: Well there is this boy that i really like and think about 24/7! his name is Victor! But hes is really bad in school and he got in school suspention twice a month does that mean hes expeled from school???????

Oh yeah does Expelled mean that you cant ever go back to school for a certain time or forever????

Please help i really am in love with this hottie dude!!!!!!!

~deprested
It varies with schools. But suspensions are different from expultions.

If you get a suspension it generally means you arent able to come to school for a certain period of time, depending on the severity of his actions. Its generally between 2 - 7 days.
If you get an ISS(in school suspension) its just an all day detention, nothing severe and will most likely not lead to expulsion.

If he gets expelled it means that he cant come back to school for the duration of the school year.
If he did something REALLY bad like bring a gun to school or something, he would most likely be expelled forever and not allowed to come back to that school.

All schools vary with their punishments and how they go about dealing with them. If you really want to know, I would ask your principal on what his policies are for suspensions and expulsions.

Or get out a school handbook and read about it.

Q: i had braces for 6 years and my teeth are very straight. i got them off a few years ago. i would like whiter teeth, as they have become yellow due to lack of brushing. are there any home remedies for teeth whitening? thanks in advance
My friends used to buy a nightguard thing, to prevent grinding at night, and then put baking soda+peroxide in it, and soak their teeth in it for 5-10 minutes. They did this everyday for a month and got noticable results. You can also use bleaching products and put them in the nightguard retainer thing, and do it that way.

But baking soda & peroxide works the BEST and gets really great results

**edit**

yeah, i think that would work. I dont think the peroxide+baking soda would damage it any. but you can ask your orthodontist just in case. happy thanksgiving =]]!

Q: For the past 3 years, ive met 3 guys.
We would get really close and they'd call me all the time, IM me all the time, and wanna hangout all the time and stuff.
They would flirt with me on the phone , like CRAZY!
So i thought they liked me so i would flirt back
[becuase i liked them]
then when people asked them if they liked me , they said no and they said that i was " too good of a friend"

I dont get it!
Whats the problem here?
Well. They may feel that you guys have gotten too close in a friend aspect and they dont want to jeopradize that by dating you. I would suggest just keeping them as friends, because if a guy cares too much about you to ruin the friendship by dating, hes a really good friend and someone to keep around for a long time. Theres nothing wrong with you or anything, they just cherish being your friend and dont want anything to happen to take that away. As for the "flirting", maybe its just friendly gestures and you're taking it the wrong way? I'd just have fun with being their friend and casually throwing in something flirtacious every once and a while. Run with the friendship thing and see where it goes. They might change their mind down the road, you never know.

Q: My parents are divorced and i am 13. they both remarried. My step mom is really nice and all, i've had he since i was 6. We always go places together and all that. Recently i have joined a church youth group, and we always go to those things now. Ever since we started going, she always picks out my clothes and does my hair. She tells me to wear these certain things and sometimes i HATE the outfits she puts on me. Nobody wears them and she always does my hair the way i dont want it. I know she just wants to help out but i dont know what to do because i have no self confidence in me anymore when i wear those things. I dont want to tell her i dont like it or i dont want to wear it because i know it will hurt her feelings, she loves picking out clothes for me. She buys them when i'm not there and then she makes me where them. Any idea what to do besides tell her?

thanks
Well, the only way you're going to get her to stop picking out your clothes is to tell her, because if you dont wear them it will hurt her feelings, like you said. I can suggest talking to her about it and saying something like.. "i appreciate the fact that you go out of your way to pick out clothes for me, but maybe we could go shopping together and i could show you the things i like, and we can pick them out together". That way, you two can still do things together, and she wont be upset. Also suggest to her some ideas about hairstyles that you might like and ask her if she knows how to do them. Just throw ideas at her every once and a while so she has a feel for the things that you're interested in so she doesnt buy the wrong thing or style your hair the wrong way.

Q: where is a good website with quotes?!
♥ thanksss
http://qm.your-memory.net/

most AMAZING site everywhere
it has EVERYTHING
movie quotes, show quotes, celebrity quotes
and then has quotes in categories
check it out [:

Q: Im a female
im about 5'7 and i weigh 145 lbs.
But im muscular
Do i need to loose alot of weight?

I've been on a diet for like 3 years
but i have like an over eatting problem , so you know...

Average weight for someone who is 5'7" is 135 pounds, so you're not necessarily overweight persay.
If its muscle, muscle weighs more than fat, and youre fine.

I dont suggest losing ALOT of weight because I dont think that would be necessary. Just exercise and do crunches/situps/ & run to tone your body. That will turn the fat into muscle & might make you weigh a little more but you'll be healthy.

If you feel like you have an overeating problem then limit yourself. Discipline yourself if you feel that youre 'overeating'. Maybe put a rubberband on your wrist and snap it whenever you feel an urge to eat more than you should.
Then reward yourself when you lose a pound by treating yourself to a snack or something. [:

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