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gay or curious?
ugh.So my best friend [he's a guy im a girl] says he's gay, the thing is i dated him like twice and even thought we knew things couldnt work out it made us closer like seriously hes my best friend but the thing is i still have feelings for him i know i dont have a chance [obviously] i just dont know what to do he knows i like him and that doesnt change a thing about our friendship.but he doesnt know if hes gay or just "curious" he just got out of a 5 month relationship [w/ a girl] and i dont know if its a rebound thing, what do i do?
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Hmm interesting, well you could one day sit him down and ask him weither or not he's gay or not. I know this sounds blunt, but if you really want to know drastic measures should be taken. Hope this helps
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This is all too familiar for me. I dated two guys about 3 years ago who were friends with msot of my friends, and also friends themselves and everyone said that they would turn out gay. They denied all the vicious rumors and I also defended them because I had feelings for them and thought well.. if we dated how can they be gay? Well, its senior year now, and junior year they both came out as being gay. One of them, said he was bi, then straight, then to gay. Its a very difficult time deciding if you are bi or gay. Even though you have feelings for him, still be supportive. Some of the best friendships I have had was with a gay guy friend. It's also common to come off a relationship with a girl that you are extremely hurt from and feel that you might have feelings of being homosexual. Generally when this happens, they tend to turn bi or gay. The reason he may be doubting it or "not sure" is because hes scared of how people will react. It's a big step. Just make sure that even though you have feelings for him, that you continue to be there for him as if nothing has changed. When I came out as being bisexual, I needed my friends to fall back on for support and I didnt want my friendships to change, and they didnt. Which is probably what he might be scared of. Offer alot of love and support, and whichever happens (bi gay or straight) make sure that you are there for him either way. He might feel that because of your feelings, and not wanting to hurt you, he might sway his decision and say that hes straight so you dont feel like its your fault. thats why you have to sort of remain neutral, as if you dont care either way, to best support his decision.
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if hes your best friend, you should understand that he is thinking about things, like if he's gay or not because that is a big issue/decision for him. show him that youre there for him and will help him cope with it. don't make any sudden moves on him unless he's sure he's not gay. if he likes you than he'll make the move.
good luck and i hope i helped
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