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My parents are divorced and i am 13. they both remarried. My step mom is really nice and all, i've had he since i was 6. We always go places together and all that. Recently i have joined a church youth group, and we always go to those things now. Ever since we started going, she always picks out my clothes and does my hair. She tells me to wear these certain things and sometimes i HATE the outfits she puts on me. Nobody wears them and she always does my hair the way i dont want it. I know she just wants to help out but i dont know what to do because i have no self confidence in me anymore when i wear those things. I dont want to tell her i dont like it or i dont want to wear it because i know it will hurt her feelings, she loves picking out clothes for me. She buys them when i'm not there and then she makes me where them. Any idea what to do besides tell her?
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try suggesting going shopping together...she might think you want to spend more time with her...
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either do what the other 2 advicenators said, or you can just like flaunt it. I mean, it doesnt matter what clothes you wear, people are more drawn to personality than your clothes. maybe your mom was trying to teach you that, or idk. whatever her reason is.. well i guess if you dont want to wear them that bad, then like maybe come to a compromise, like where you show her what you'll wear and if she likes it, you can wear it, and if she doesnt, then no. i mean, and its to church, so its not like you'll be wearing like shorts, short skirts, and like risque clothing or anything. gosh it sucks.. but sure it will hurt her feelings a bit.. but i think she'll appreciate the fact that you were being honest about it or something. hope something works out anyway. just remember that like if it doesnt work out, act like you're wearing like the best clothes ever, and all that junk. clothes shouldnt be that much to make you lose your confidence.. well i guess if they were really bad, but just try to like go with it or something, lol. good luck~
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does your stepmom have kids? she prob doesnt and thats why shes doing this. she wants to be the best "mom" she can be. just tell her can i pick out my outfit this time? and i saw this hair style i really want to try out and see if it looks good. im sure shell understand and will probably once she sees how you like to do your hair and your clothes she might start doing it that way :)
hope i helped! :):)
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Well, the only way you're going to get her to stop picking out your clothes is to tell her, because if you dont wear them it will hurt her feelings, like you said. I can suggest talking to her about it and saying something like.. "i appreciate the fact that you go out of your way to pick out clothes for me, but maybe we could go shopping together and i could show you the things i like, and we can pick them out together". That way, you two can still do things together, and she wont be upset. Also suggest to her some ideas about hairstyles that you might like and ask her if she knows how to do them. Just throw ideas at her every once and a while so she has a feel for the things that you're interested in so she doesnt buy the wrong thing or style your hair the wrong way.
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