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Hi All, My name is Tara, 22 yrs breathing, and living in Houston, TX. BORN AND RAISED... I am currently a Junior at UH, and work at a school. I am an education major... so as you can see my life is devoted to service and I love watching my students grow in character and learning abilities.... I will try to answer advice honestly and to the best of my abilities....

I've been through alot of ups and downs, but they have yet to stop me... I was that go to friend when my friends had problems as well...

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17-F i went over this boys house today his name is Dan. well he wanted to do stuff with me like give him head, hand jobs stuff like that and I said no but the next thing I know he's on top of me like humping. We have all our clothes on. and he's going faster and faster by the second. so my question is that sex or dry humping??

Dry Humping, but I think he got a lil *excited* by it.... you know... but I say that you shouldn't do anything you don't wanna do! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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This guy likes me, and I kinda like him, but he isn't the cutest guy (if you know what I mean) I want to see if things will work out between us but I scared of what other people will think/say. What should I do?

No you shouldn't care about how he looks. YOU never EVER date anyone because of their looks (well I am against it alot...) Cause the pplz with looks tend to hurt you more than the pplz with no looks. And I say the ones with no looks, are good bf's. And you shouldn't care about whatever everyone else thinks it's them who's dating him, it's you..... If you like him, you should like him for who he is and not what he looks like! Well I hope you make the right decision! Good Luck! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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ok thers this girl that i like and she says that she wants to have sex with me but she is allways saying that but it never happens i would love to have sex with her and i love her alot but she is just shy. is there any way i can make her not as shy? 14/m

HOLD IT UP SON! Yall are toooooooooooooo young to be having sex! But it's your life and you do what you want! But all I gotta say is use protection plz! You dun need to be a 14 yr old baby daddy cause I see it all the time! But you have to wait till she's comfy and ready to do it...she may be scared you jux never know. This is a psychological (if that's how spell it) matter. It's somthing you have to be know that you/she is ready for. Well I hope you make the right decision! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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I really want a boyfreind...I mean one that is dedicated to me..but I think im scared of commitment..any ideas?

DON'T DO IT!!! Cause then when yall start dating and you fall in love with him, and then break up! It hurt's SOOOOOOO BAD! But you can commit when yall have been dating for A LONG TIME, or when there's a RING on that nice lil finger! Well Good Luck! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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ok i really need help my bf dumped me cuz i talk 2 my guy friends and now he wants me back and bad i dont know wut 2 do my friends and fam hate him and he's not the best bf dut i still miss him wut do i do.... help me

I think you shouldn't take him back. I don't know how serious yall were... but if he cared about you like he should have, he shouldn't have dumped you to begin with. And with that I also say, he shouldn't have to think twice about who he with. So I think yall also broke up because it wasn't meant to be...so 4-get him! "Every Ending Is A New Beginning!" Hope this helps! I hope you make the right decision! And Good Luck! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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Hey...I'm just starting the 9th grade..and it sux! Last year I had SO many friends and people I knew in my classes and alot of people knew me...but they split the middle schools into 2 different highschools..and this year there is like NO ONE I know in my classes and at lunch! I can be a really friendly person but I'm really shy and just can't seem to make any new friends? Please Help..

I think you should join lotz of clubs and things like that. And don't be shy because you never know who's falling in love with your smile! So keep on smiling! When classes start (I dunno if yall do this but we all have to intoduce ourselves to eachother) Introduce Yourself to people and tell them your looking forward to working with them this school year. Also introduce yourself to the teacher so they know you have a good heart! Well hope this helps! And make your freshman year an Enjoyable one! I am about about to be a Junior and I'm not ready to graduate next but, GOOD LUCK! And God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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well..there is this guy named Miguel...he likes me...we met through my sis. and well hes like a year older than me..he sounds really nice..and he thinks i am pretty...and he said he'll even transfer schools just to see me. he wants to go out, except the only problem is- i dont know him!!

Well say to him, you'll still consider it, but that you want to take things slow and get to know him better hooking up. At least he'll know to wait and see how things to turn out.... take time to get to know him, don't rush into things (BIG MISTAKE!) Hope you make the right decision! Good Luck! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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ok..heres my thing you guys...

*my best friend lost her virginity last year and alot of people consider her a whore now :(
but anyways...my boyfriend wants me n him to lose ours now for our 1 year anniversary hes 16 and im 14...i really dont know if i should becuz i dont wana be considered a whore or nething like what happened to my friend....please help me in doin the right thing!!
signed,i honestly dont know what to do

I think you should consider sex abstinance. Your too young to be having sex, if he's pressuring you for it, I think you need to think twice about who your are with. He should force you to do anything you don't want to, And I am telling you cause I see this all the time, SEX get's you NO WHERE IN LIFE, but babies... but I jux wanna say, keep your virginity and wait till you get older. Get your education first! And I promise you will get a lot further in life. I am 16 yrs old, and still a virgin and proud of it. Don't do anything you don't want to, and if he pullz this stunt "EVERYONE IS DOING IT!!!!" Kick him in hiz neckbone! Lol, J/K, but I hope this helps! I hope you make the right decision, and God Bless! K.I.T! And good luck! ;) Beebyes! ~1ne~

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what does bust a nut mean

to have an orgasim.... (or however you spell it) lol! ;)

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ok so my best friend is absolutely in love with this guy and a while ago he said he liked me more than a friend...should i keep talkin to him?

I say be a friend, and put your friend first, tell her the truth about the situation, and see what she says, make sure you tell her you appreciate her too, so it won't hurt as bad when you tell her the guy you like, likes you.... Good Luck! Hope you make the right decision! God Bless! Beebye! ~1ne~ ;)

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what do girls do when they start to get sick of a guy?

get irritable, and cranky, and put him on dat silent treatment, BELIEVE ME, you'll notice it, but it dosen't have to be pms either.... just think if she was pms'n and got sick of the guy, I could only imagine what happenz! Well, beebyes! God Bless! ~1ne~

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ok. Me and my ex were back to dating, trying to see if we would get together again. We have been on and off for 7 months but a few days ago have officially ended things. I guess love is not enough to make it work but I'm ready to move on, don't get me wrong I LOVE HIM but i NEED to move on. ok. now here's my dilema:
In order for me to move on I need to forget him EVERYTHING(because i can live off the memories) but I don't really want to forget the past because what we had was beautiful. Can I remember what we had (as just that) and still really move on?
PS: the thing is we do have feelings for each other, we care about each other but as bf and gf we don't work. we can't be friends so pretty much i don't want to forget him because our memories is the only thing we have left. we love each other so its too painful to be friends. advice.

OF COURSE YOU REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES YOU HAD! I know it may hurt now, but 8 or 9 months down the line, when you get over him, you'll rememver the good times you had and use it as memories, I do it all the time! My and my ex aren't even friends, but it's okay to remember the good times you had with your boyfriend. And hopefully you can also share good times with your next boyfriend as well! Good Luck! God Bless! ~1ne~

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What is your view on long distance relationships? I started one today.. and I am nervous because I've heard both positive and negative things about them...

I don't like them, I jux got my heart broken over a long distance relationship, and then he fact that he was my first boyfriend, made it worse. I mean if you really like the guy that much, go for it, but then later, yall are gonna start missing eachother, and then yall will be complaining and fighting to the point when one of you will move on, I say try it but if you do, be careful! Jux my opinion! Good Luck! God Bless! ~1ne~

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my boy friend cheated on me. should i dump him? hes really srry and i really like him but i dont think he should get away with it

Dump Him I think, If he cared about you like he should've, he shouldn't have cheated on you to begin with, but it's your decision and I hope you make the right one, good luck! ;) God Bless! Beeyes! ~1ne~

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this is just for the girls! im 15 years old and i am in 10th grade i started haveing periods in the 7th grade. it is now august and i havn't had a period since january. I know, i know the first thing that comes to mind is R U PREGNANT well no i know this for sure because i am a virgin, i have no clue what is wrong with me and i really need help. i have went to the doctors about it and all they did was send me to a gynocologist (however u spell it) i haven't went to that appointment yet but it is in a couple of weeks. is there advice you can give me or does anyone know what could be causeing me this?? please respond

It could be stress causing you this because the same thing happened to me, and yeah I suggest you go to the doctor, cause I never told my mom, and I ended up getting my period for 4 months STRAIGHT and that was hell. All they are gonna do is give you somthing like a pap smear, a pregnancy test, do some blood work, and give you birth control. Sounds like alot, but the birth control does regulate your period. So good luck and I hoped I help! If you need to know anything else, feel free to ask! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~

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im 14... and i dont really have a lot of gurlfriends, i from a family with 9 boys.. im the only gurl, anywho... Well i play the guitar in this band i'm in and i have the biggest crush on the singer *Brandon he is like the ultimate guy, we hang out all the time.. he calls me and stuff were really close!! and i just cant seem to find the right time to tell him, or anything and i have NO idea what to do cuz he's like my best friend... ya know!! i just really like him a lot and dont wanna blow my chance, or plussss do you think i should even tell him??? pleaseee help me i am sooo confusedd!! please ILL RATE!

signed,
what should i do.

TELL HIM!, TELL HIM!, TELL HIM!! If you really think about it, what's the worse that can happen? ... I know it's hard but when you let it out, if feels like a heavy burden comming off your chest. If he says no, his loss, but at least he will know the fact you did like him, and later, he might see somthing in you, and if somthing was meant to happen, it could happen now or possibly later. You jux never know, and he'll never know if you don't tell him! Well hope this helped! God Bless and GOOD LUCK! ;) Beebyes ~1ne~

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My best friend is a guy. I've known him for a while and we're really close. He sleeps over my house a lot and hang out together a lot. But for a while i've been having strage feelings. I look in his eyes and wanna kiss him right then and there. I hug him and i never wanna let go. Im starting to think about him all the time. And i really think i like him. But should i tell him? I'm afraid if he knows what i'm thinking, he'll be afraid to hang out with me anymore and we'll stop being friends. And that would be the worst thing in the world. What should I do? xo0x ANO

I was jux where you were. I say tell him....but if he cares about like a best friend all he would say is "I love being friends with you, and I am sorry I can't share the same feelings in return." But if you get lucky, yall can possibly date. But jux tell him, What's he worst that can happen? Losing your life? No! Jux tellem! If this was meant to happen it will! Well good luck! And God Bless! ~1ne~

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I usually straighten my hair before i go party!! But by the end of the night my hairs flipped out the ends...and puffy..any girls know some good ways ( using house hold items) to keep the straight flowing as i party all night long!?!?!


p.S i have a party soon soo i need help!!!

I think a clothing iron works really good! but cover ur hair with something b4 using it... and also spritz ur hair! So it will hold... and when the party is over, wash your hair so you don't get those flakes well beebyez! ~1ne~

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I like a boi and when i get around him i get all weird and i dont noe how to handle it very well...wut should i do

TELL HIM! What have you go to loose? Your life? Think about it! But yeah! Hope thiz helpz cause I know who u are! Lolz! beebyes! ~1ne~ Good Luckz!

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I am going to this Volleyball day camp for 4 days and I really really like it but I'm terrible at it cuz I'm new and like everyone else can spike n stuff. I probly won't make the team next year but i really like the sport. Wut can i do?

Practice Makes Perfect but at the same time HAVE FUN! There's nothing more than HAVING FUN and also making new friends so they can help you out! And don't doubt yourself about making the next year's team, if you try hard enough, I'm sure you'll make the team....thingz happen when you least expect it! :) Good Luck through this years Volleyball Season! God Bless! Beebyez! ~1ne~

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