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Q: okay im 15 and i was was going to dedicate a song to my step dad showing thanking him for everything he has done for me more than my real dad.
you see my real dad has never been in my life, until now he has been trying to talk to me i dont wanna to talk to him but my mom said o should get to kno him but anyways i just wanna let my step dad he is the number one dad and he wont ever be replaced.
thx and my dad is into country :))

Okay there is a song called you didnt have to be. I believe thats the name of it. go on you tube and find it it talks about the different guys their mother dated until the last guy who seen the boy sitting on the steps and invited him to go and one night he hears him propsing to his mom its adorable. its also a country song!!

Q: 19/f I'm looking for suggestions and/or tips on how to lose weight. I'm 5'10 and the 230lbs (the last time I was weighed at the doctors which was months ago) I would really like to lose weight in my stomach area, my thighs, and my arms. I eat fruit everyday and water and pineapple juice is really all I drink. I attempted to start the Special K diet, but I've kind of given up on that. I also consume sweets all the time, its like a constant need, so any tips on how to curb my appetite would also be helpful. And exercises that I could do at home, I do go walking on the trail with my friend 2-4 times a week for about an hour. Thanks all suggestions and comments will be helpful

You have to have will power to want to do this and maybe a support system. You are going to have to cut out sweet weather you like it or no. I first cut out soda, then sweets, then I started watching my carbs and calories. You have to exercise at least an hour a day while doing this it takes time dont get discouraged

Q: So, I started my period last thursday on the 8th, and usually my period lasts a full 7 days. which means i wouldn't be off of it until tomorrow, the 15th. My first 2 days are pretty heavy, and then i have a regular day, and then the rest of the time is really light, or even almost nothing at all. (but still necessary to wear a tampon just in case) Or i always do until im sure its over. Anyways, monday I wore a tampon, and took it out later in the day and it barely had anything on it (sorry for the gross detail) same for tuesday, so i thought i was off of it early which i usually never am. so i didnt wear anything today and i was releaved to find i didnt bleed at all..so pretty much i went 3 days without bleeding at all, and then when i got home from school today at 4 i went to the bathroom and when i wiped there was blood. just a little, and it was a lighter color. but wtf? I thought i was off of it. Idk why this could be?
anything helps..

Anything can cause your period to change a little. diet, stress, exercise, pregnancy etc. I had a regular period for a long while then i got pregnant after i had my son i had a irregular period ever since.

Q: hey.. im only 13.. i want to be with god. i dont want to live anymore. BUT hey thin about it.. wouldnt it be better with him. no drama no bullies no nothing bad!!!!! yes. i should live my life but. thats kidan hard when i wanna die. i need help. please. please. please. help me........

If you believe in god you would no that suicide is a sin. Now a few other things I would like to point out about what you have wrote you stated you age, "yes i should live my life", I need help please" This tells me that you don't want suicide but you want someone to help you deal with the pain you are going threw. Growing up is hard. I used to be over weight kids picked on me then I lost a ton of weight and i still had enemy's no matter what you do people can be hateful. I am now 20 years old and have barely any friends. i have one who is my next door neighbor but we BBQ together we don't really talk. You have to find that group you click with add friends to Facebook and you have to remember people say hateful things because they are insecure with them self's. Now counsling can help you deal with the depression but play a sport or join a group a school. God doesn't give us things we can't handle sometimes it feels like it.

Q: ~Female;
Could I get pregnant from sucking a mans dick?

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well i go to a mostly black school and I'm black and asian, I have friends but some kids (mostly girls)like 10 or 11 of them make fun of me cause of my eyes
Well when I was going to the girls Gym locker room,they were were all like "look its that asian girl!" and started laughing. People always make fun of my eyes, they say my eyes are too squinty and narrow and etc. Why do people do that? :[

There are a couple of reasons.. Jealousy, Immature, just do it because someone else it. I would tell your friends you dont really like when they make fun of your eyes. Its something you cant help nor change.

Q: is talking to another female about her virginity and losing it to another person but u dont go out with that someone but your girlfriend says that is cheating. Do u consider that cheating?

Talking about sex with any other female isn't something anyone should to while in a relationship if you can openly talk about sex with someone else what else might you do.

Q: If a married woman is cheating with a married man and she hears him tell his wife he loves her and 5 minutes later is having sex with the other woman what does this mean?

It means he is rude and terrible. If you are married and are in a committed marriage than you should only be with that person. Not sleeping around or talking to other females that disgusts me. This man is two timing his wife and if he isnt happy with his marriage he should tell his wife that and not be with her.

Q: I am having trouble accessing certain advice columns (that are not my own) on the website. When I click on the name of some advice columnists, basically it shows the website in the url area like normal and the rest of the top toolbar area, but the rest of the screen is white. This problem has been going on with me for a few weeks. I was just wondering if anybody else has had this problem or if it is fixable. Thanks!

No i haven't had any problems i use fire fox. If you are just using internet explorer that can cause problems.

Q: Would a guy have a girl with kind of bad acne? I have been having acne since elemetary school, and it never goes away. I've tried dermatologist and eveything and the doctors say that the medicine I use gets used to my face and the acne comes back. Sometimes my pimples get really big and I feel like my face is disgusting with scars and zits and then my face clears up and gets worse again. I think I have cystic acne. There are a few guys that have liked me, but I never talked to them because I think they may think my face is disgusting. And there has been guys that have made fun of me and have just been rude to me and call me zit face since elementary, so when a guy tells me he likes me, I just don't believe him. Would a guy date a girl with kind of bad acne?

Of course they would. You have to find the right guy. I know scne sucks trust me I never had a pimple before and i got pregnant with my son and my whole face broke up I freaked out. I no its hard to deal with but you cant give up just try new things look it up online because they are coming up with new stuff for acne all the time. You have to keep your head high and think positive and dont let no one tell you you arn't beautiful because everyone is

Q: i am a 14 year old girl. My mom always yells at me for things that she thinks i did, but she wasnt even there for. for example i was teasing my little brother, and he WAS giggling and smiling. my mom was listening from the other room, called me in and told me i was making him feel small, being a bully, that i was a little brat and i was a mean person. this happens on a very regular basis, like at least 5 times a week. my self esteem has gotten really low, and i have apparently started to act differently. my mom told me i should b the me that everybody loved, and toldme i had promised not to turn into one of those dumb teenagers, but i was breaking my promise. i snapped and said "oh thanks, so now i'm dumb" and she accused me of not being able to take a joke and said this was exactly what she meant about my change in attitude. once i tried to stand up to her. i showed her how my hands were shaking because i was so scared to talk to her, but she just told me that was because i knew i was wrong about my feelings. she then told me she was human too, and she deserved to have respect. i have been scared to talk to her ever since. so basically my mom doesnt like my new clothing style(which isnt trashy because they let me dress like that in a catholic school) my new attitude and actions that i didnt even know i aquired, and i lost her trust. please tell me how i can get through this!! there is no way i can talk to her obviously, or my dad. my siblings listen but nothing changes. i dont know what to do. i have actually concidered going through extremes to escape this.

It sounds to me as you are the oldest? Your mothers first born child? She isnt ready for you to grow up. It sounds to me that your mother is wanting to spend time with just you. She doesnt want you to just grow up and forget about her not do anything with her. I would ask your mother if the two of you can spend some time together just the two of you weather its just going for a walk. Your mother also sounds depressed or stressed. Ask her if anything is bothering her or if she would like to talk.

Q: Im 16 years old in 10th grade and it seems my weekday routine is Step #1:Wake up. Step #2:Do not kill self. Step #3:Sleep. Step #4: Repeat. I have 1 or 2 "friends" at school that aren't really close they are just "friendly" to me. I have some close friends that I hangout with every weekend but during the week its so hard for me to get out of bed and go to school so i am low on attendency. I don't necessarily get bullied but I do see people pointing and staring and talking about me a lot which really makes me REALLY upset. I guess I am very sensitive. I usually come home for lunch and cry then go back to school and ill often cry at night. My parents and friends are aware of this and I go to a counselor but it doesn't seem to help at all its been getting worse and worse. I think im so ugly and I know i have a good life im not poor and i have family that loves me but I'm just so sad and I want to die. I don't want to commit suicide but I've definitely thought about it before. If I don't have something to look forward to at all times I get really depressed I usually look forward to the weekend and hanging out with my friends but now its just to hard to make it through school the whole week because it seems like I just get judged. My grades are getting low even though it seems like I try so hard I can't get them up. I try to do little things to motivate me to get myself out of bed like doing my hair a new way and things like that and it worked for a while but not anymore. I like to sleep a lot because cant feel sadness when I'm sleeping. I've never done any drugs. I'm not good at anything (seriously)I hide my face with my hair and I am emo I cut myself sometimes. I'm just tired of living....I just want to love myself but no matter what I do I just cant.

I don't think these people are really pointing and talking about you. I think you have a low self esstem and it makes you think people are staring at you. I mean there are ways of fixing this with out changing yourself. I mean dress a little different make yourself happy with your apperence chances your self esteem.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and we are just perfect together. We agree to get married but not yet, so he got me a promise ring and we are waiting a bit. He is my world and I am his. He has brain cancer with a pretty big brain tumor though. He has had it for around a year too. He was brought back into the hospital at the moment too because he lost his memory and went extremely blurry at practice. It kills me to always see this and I am back into depression, also relapsing with old PTSD. I feel horrible because I cry so much and he never does, i just think I am bringing him down but he says its the other way around. How can I bring myself back up and stop being so mopey and depressing to him? Also what could I do to cherish the time we have and just chill out and have couple fun? Any advice for either me or him on anything is greatly appreciated..18

I think you should spend the time doing things together anything or if he has things he would like to do. You have to remember you have to be strong for the two of you. Just think about now and not later. Make a list together of everything you two want to do and start completing it.

Q: Well, I don't know what to put this under. So I am 22 years old and I am just now getting a bit more comfortable accepting my body dysmorphic problems. As far off as I can remember I've always wanted to be a boy. I was born female. Growing up was terrible for me, kids made fun of me up until junior high, for acting and dressing like a boy. My parents put a stop to it and told me to "act normal" or else I would never have any friends. For the longest time I've felt very confused, I just always wanted to appear more masculine to others and I don't really know or understand why. Putting sexual orientation aside. My parents and brothers and sisters would pick on me and thought maybe I was a lesbian. But when I told them I liked boys over girls they began to laugh. My mother even once told me, "Let me get this straight, so my little girl is really a little homo." Yeah, well putting that all behind me now, I finally moved out but I feel very distraught about it all. Living alone means I can finall wear what I want. Meaning male clothing. But I am very nerve wrecked about shopping. And about cutting my hair. In high school for my junior year when I cut my hair I was called a dyke all through out until graduation.

So I guess I would just like some tips or sites or books that can point me in the right direction of passing as a boy rather than having people view me as a butchy lesbian. Not that I have anything at all against them. I just feel terrible having to force myself to look all female. I've done some searching online but all I find are ftm but "lesbian" wise. Nothing on "transfags." One more thing is,I work with two siblings of mine in my mothers catering business. So of course I see them everyday for a few hours. I feel uncomfortable about it all with my family for obvious reasons. Everyone else in my family is, "normal." Meaning straight. At least that we know of, so it only makes me feel more alienated. I don't know what to say to my family about it if they ask. My youngest brother is support of it, he always asks me about it, and he states. "You'll make a handsome gentlemen one day sis." lol But as for my sisters and elder brother, they tell me I'm disgusting and to just be normal. Otherwise I will never get married or have children. Which honestly I don't care much for finding anyone, I just want to feel comfortable with myself and understand myself. I mean you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first, right?

Well I'm sorry if this is long and hard to understand. But any help at all, thank you for it.

It just means your a tomboy. you are a girl you is more comfortable dressing like a male. You probably get along better with males. You probably like to play sports?

Q: why iam alive

God put us on this earth to accomplish something. We all have that chance no weather or not we take this chance to do so is our choice. If you think about what you really want to do in life and that thing makes you happy do it think positive think that you can do it be strong and show everyone god put me here to do something and i have done it. I dont go to church but i believe in god.

Q: hi, i am 19/f.i feel very insecure about my body, i have picked up alot of weight since i had my child 2yrs ago. my boobies arent firm anymore,it is hanging down their already..when my husband and i watch a movie together and their is sex scenes then id rather look away coz i see how he looks at their boobs.. i am too shy to even stand naked infront of my husband, my hips are wide and ive got alot of love handles,whenever we about to make love i make sure that it is dark befor getting undress. i cant even look @ myself in the mirror anymore it breaks my heart to see my body like this.what can i do about my insecurities?

Eating healthier and a lot of exercise. Although I am in the same position you are in it makes me very depressed. I have had 2 kids in 5 years and my body is not that same it used to. You just have to set your self to exercise and eat better all the time.

Q: I had a dream last night I saw a black snake. Me and my friends were scared. It went down the steps into the backyard. My friend went behind it and killed it. What could mean?

sorry but i cant compete with Zane on this on. He or she has good adivce it has something to do with your future

Q: does getting braces out of your mouth hurt?

I don't know personally, but from what I have been told by friends. No it does not hurt.

Q: just tell me how to end my life..

Suicide is not a way to go. Finding help or someone to talk to is. Clearly you have some sort of depression don't do something so stupid and hurt those who do love and care about you.

Q: 13 f
i go to a cstholic school i live a great life my dads a dentist my mom doesnt work and i have a lil sister hoo is 10. i was wondering if it is normal for my dad to spank my butt alot and squeeze it and go "oooo look at them buns" in a wierd voice he just spanks my butt and squeezes it alot he is catholic and a dentist but is this molest??? help!!

It is not being molested, although if you don't like it you should really tell him this. Its more like being Sexually looked at I forgot the name for it but a lot of fathers do it no a days to there children. Honestly he may not know in his mind he is doing it in that manor. Just talk to him in front of you mom because you dont want to be alone and say it and him get upset. Just ask him to please stop spanking you butt and saying that to you.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.