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Im scared of my mom
i am a 14 year old girl. My mom always yells at me for things that she thinks i did, but she wasnt even there for. for example i was teasing my little brother, and he WAS giggling and smiling. my mom was listening from the other room, called me in and told me i was making him feel small, being a bully, that i was a little brat and i was a mean person. this happens on a very regular basis, like at least 5 times a week. my self esteem has gotten really low, and i have apparently started to act differently. my mom told me i should b the me that everybody loved, and toldme i had promised not to turn into one of those dumb teenagers, but i was breaking my promise. i snapped and said "oh thanks, so now i'm dumb" and she accused me of not being able to take a joke and said this was exactly what she meant about my change in attitude. once i tried to stand up to her. i showed her how my hands were shaking because i was so scared to talk to her, but she just told me that was because i knew i was wrong about my feelings. she then told me she was human too, and she deserved to have respect. i have been scared to talk to her ever since. so basically my mom doesnt like my new clothing style(which isnt trashy because they let me dress like that in a catholic school) my new attitude and actions that i didnt even know i aquired, and i lost her trust. please tell me how i can get through this!! there is no way i can talk to her obviously, or my dad. my siblings listen but nothing changes. i dont know what to do. i have actually concidered going through extremes to escape this.
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sorry to hear that, first of all who do you think whose mistake it is? and i consider that how about you listen to your mom for couple of weeks and check how it changes her. you don't need to worry because this happens to lots of people.
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I sometimes go through this. Very often, like you.
But one way you can do this and get it over with, is write down everything in a letter, how you feel or how you feel about your mom's actions and what they're doing to you.
Don't feel like your a bad person. You seem to be very nice and sweet and just trying to make life interesting.
But one thing, never raise your voice to your mom no matter how bad things get. Each time she tells you someuing about your actions say something like "Yeah, i understand."
Or maybe just sit with her at a table. Ask if she can take you out just you two and talk there in public just jot so everyone hears. That way she wont react a certain way.
Well, hope i helped. :)
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It sounds to me as you are the oldest? Your mothers first born child? She isnt ready for you to grow up. It sounds to me that your mother is wanting to spend time with just you. She doesnt want you to just grow up and forget about her not do anything with her. I would ask your mother if the two of you can spend some time together just the two of you weather its just going for a walk. Your mother also sounds depressed or stressed. Ask her if anything is bothering her or if she would like to talk.
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