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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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I have already done, I told her I am bi and that I like her. She took it well and of course she doesn’t see me in that way. I felt so uncomfortable because I came out to her and told her I have feeling for her. Which she told me she is sexually confused her; (That was last year). Last week at the ice cream shop, she started to talk to me about her teacher (in college) she told me he came out to the class telling his students he is married to a man and proud of it. She told me in her class the teacher played a movie or show about homosexuality. This made me open up to tell her about movies and shows I watch on logoonline.com a GLBT website. She always watches gay anime, basically what I watch too (which is funny. Never knew that till I found out). I couldn’t believe she will talk to me about that. I always wanted to share with her cause she is my best friend about my sex orientation but to afraid to. I still felt like she will judge me but she doesn’t...

why do I feel that way? why did she talk about that subject?

You probably feel that way because that is what you was expecting
You were probably expecting her to be all weird with you and not talk to you, and when she was alright with it I guess it shocked you but now you feel that she is judging you but not to your face.

Dont worry about it, be proud of who you are. And she is obviously a best friend because she hasn't let you "coming out" affect your friendship

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i am looking for an internship in art or design or anything related to the art field in london england starting next may and was hoping if any one knew where to begin! i neeeed this job i really need to leave my damn parents!

I would suggest ringing around a few places and having a look online.
You may be able to get internships at a Newspaper/Magazine company. Im not sure if that would be something you would be interested in doing but if you are then you would probably need to ring a local newspaper or magazine company.
I think there is a college/Uni of fashion design which you may be able to get an internship from, but you would have to look at the courses.
I think you would be able to get an internship on building design but Im not too sure. For that I think you would need to ring around building companies or some kind of job centre.

I found websites which might help. If you need anymore help then just let me know and I will try my best.

http://www.studyabroad.com/programs/summer/london

http://www.1job.co.uk/town.php/London

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So i just got a kitten she's about a month n a half old.. she's like a brown kitty with like darker "tiger strips" almost with little white paws.. i get to name her and i dont know really waht to name her.. i want unique names not like the typical everyday name..

i was thinking
roxy
zoey
chloe
riley

names like that.. but pleast dont tell me which name u like best because i would've picked one if those were the ones i wanted

Here are a few names I like.
1. Rainbow
2. Nola
3. Belle/Bella
4. Roma
5. Cale
6. Abby
7. Alice
8. Alana
9. Eve/Eva
10. Rose
11. Molly/Milly
12. Morgan


Hope these helped a little

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Ok, well, i'm in that phase when i like a guy,but i've never talked to him (ahh,pathetic, right?)
but anyways, i always see him around my school, in the hallways,lunches, and going to class. he's a year older-so thats the only time i see him! I've made eye contact with him, and from friends i've heard he "checked me out" :D

The thing is, i'm not sure HOW i'll go about saying hi to him with out making it too forward or awkward!
i want him to see my confident personality like i have with my friends, but i feel self concious about my weight (i'm a bit muscular, from softball) but i just don't know what he'll think of me.

any tips on how i can go about talking to him, flirting and being more, welll..me around him?!


thanks so much :D!

15/f

As you pass him in the halls and he looks at you say hi or smile, do this a few times and then he might talk to you first or you might feel a little more confident to go and talk to him .
You could just ask him one day for the time, its an ice breaker and then start asking his name and what classes he is in etc
Its good if you have some friends that are his friends this way you have something in common.
I guess if you talk to him for abit ask if he has myspace or AIM (if you have it of course haha) then get talking to him on there.

Dont think I hope he likes me around him, just be yourself and start off being friendly towards him, and then you could see about being more =]

Hope this helped

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me and my stepdad fight all the time, my mom always takes his side even though he is unreasonable. he tells my mother how to parent me and raise me even though i am 16 years old. it makes me so mad how he patronizes me and treats me like im 5, my mom pretends not to notice. i hate it..... ive tried talking to her all she does is tells me he loves me and that i should listen to him.
any advice?
thanks



Instead of talking to your mum about it talk to him, Maybe he doesnt realise he is doing it and if you talk to him he might start treating you more like an adult.
Maybe he treats you like a child because he wants you to stay young for as long as possible. No father likes to think of their little girl growing up into a young woman.

I cant really think of anything else to suggest.

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my eyelashes aren't long but they're not short. Whenever I curl them and put on mascara, they aren't evenly separated, and some of them clump together and some of them are more curled than others even though i curl them all together.

any help with how to get my eyelashes evenly separated and look longer and more noticable??

Curl your eyelashes with an eyelash curler, then apply some mascara (make sure its a good brand, the best ones are usually ones that say they lengthen the lashes), then get an eyelash brush and seperate them all and then curl with an eyelash curler again.

Hope this helped.

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Hi I'm, 17/f and have been playing guitar for a while now.

I would really appreciate if anyone can suggest some songs which sound like 'Closing Time' by Semisonic, 'Glycerine' by Bush or 'Chemical Heart' by Grinspoon. These are the type of songs I would really like to learn more of and anything similar would be fantastic.

Thankyou!

I've been trying to think of songs that are like closing time, its the only song I have heard of that you mentioned (btw I love that songs)
You could just try and listen to other songs by the bands I mean most of the time all the songs on albums sound similar. Its the only thing I can really think of.
Sorry but if I do think of any I will let you know.



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Alright, so I am going to Prom on May 24th, 2008 and I really wanted to get tanned and stuff to look nicer since my dress is bronze. I was wondering what would be better a spray on tan or use a tanning bed (is it too late, would a month make a decent tan?) I do get sunburned a little easier, so i dont know if thats of use, i just figured i wouldnt stay in the tanning bed that long if i chose that.

If you have fair hair and fair skin DO NOT use the tanning bed. It can give you burns. A tanning bed would give you an alright tan in a month depending on how often you use it (Dont use it everyday though).
If you are going to use a tanning bed only use it for 2-3 mins the first and second time, third time you could try 5 minutes and go up each time. DO NOT go over 10 minutes, this is when you start to burn and peel even if you have dark skin your skin can still peel, which wouldnt look very attractive in a prom dress lol.

I would go for a spray tan, that way it is even all over your body and less harmful than tanning beds. Go for a spray tan a couple of days (3-4) before prom. Sometimes having a spray tan can turn abit orange at first but if you do it a couple of days before it has a chance to fade a little.
I would suggest going to a salon where you are thinking of having it done and asking whether they have different shades of spray tan that they use and ask her advice of how long before prom you should get it done.

Hope this helps, sorry its so long and have a great prom
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F/13
Im 13 and im a 7th grader. At the end of the year there is a sunsplash trip and i wight like 165 and i want to wear a bathing suit but i cant right now and iv'e tried eating well i went to fitness camp but still kno resuts.
please help. if u kno wut i shoud do please tell me

You could try the childrens atkins diet, BUT talk to your parents first!
Hope this helps
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I am sixteen years old, 5'7 and I weight 185 lbs. I know that I am overweight and need to change my ways some to change that. I am so busy with school and clubs. I gave up all my sports (I used to be in track, basketball, and volleyball) to be in clubs and am currently so busy with 8 clubs that I usually don't have any time for exercise or eating right. I usually eat whatever I can whip up quick and the only exercise I usually get is between classes. Are there any fast, easy exercises I can do with very little time. Also, what are some fast snacks/meals to make with little time as well? thank you =]

Doing about 10-20 sit ups before bed or when you wake up in a morning can help, doing 20-30 minutes of a workout video can make a difference.
You need a routine, then you get used to exercising and making it a usual thing.

Read the article on the website below, it gives some good exercises like skipping.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Burn-The-Fat-Feed-The-Muscle---Exercises-For-People-That-Are-Busy&id=1059163


And the website below has some good ideas like making extra so you can eat the rest of a meal the next day

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Cooking_tips_for_busy_people?open



Hope this helps
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Is Marfan's Syndrome a gamete or body cell disorder? Does it start as an adult or as an infant?

It is a disorder of connective tissue
It is inherited so starts at birth

Hope this helps a little, I just looked it up
=P

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first off im 16/f and okay so ive been going out with my bf for almost 6 months, hes like in love with me and everything but i feel like im not totally in love with him. Like i only started going out with him because i love his personality, but physically im not too attracted to him and i feel like maybe there should be more to it if i was in love with him, you know? like he says im the one for him and he wants to like be with me forever, but the truth is, hes my first bf, idk who i want to be with forever, im just experimenting with relationships and i guess maybe im not ready for a fullout commited relationship and im scared to disapoint him and say anything. but then theres this other guy who ive just started becoming good frinds with and hes like extremelyyyyy hottttt and hes nice. and like im physically attracted to him and he likes me. and im soo tempted to be with this really hot guy. and like i feel like with my boyfriend im restrained. well i guess thats what happenes when u have a bf but i feel like i wanna be able to see other people, but i dont want to break his heart and i still wanna be good friends with him, i dont know what to do. im sorry this is so long, but if you could help me that would be awesome and it would make you feel good to let you know you helped someone and possibly helped me make a great choice and guide me into the right direction. thank you again

Okay well first of all I think you should go out with the new friend.

Your only 16 and you dont need to be in such a serious relationship with your boyfriend.
I know he is in love with you and you dont want to hurt his feelings but you dont seem very happy in the relationship.
If you do decide to break up with him tell him that you would like to stay friends, but understand that it may be quite hard for him to do that. He might need some time to get used to things.

I hope this helps.
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I will be attending college in the fall. I am looking for some cheap alternatives to decorate my room (everything is so expensive) I am looking for lots of cute ideas for my wall/ door etc. We aren't allowed to paint the walls or anything and I can't nail anything to the wall.. I have to use that sticky poster hanging stuff.. I want it to be super personalized but even posters are like $15-$20 a pop.

Any ideas for a girls dorm are totally appriciated

(I am super girly, outgoing, bubbly, loves dancing, gymnastics, cheerleading and sports, and lots of color)

You could buy some magazines and cut out the pictures or you could get wallpaper samples (all different ones with cute designs) cut them into quite large sqaures and stick them on the wall or maybe gift wrap with cute designs (such as hello Kitty) stick them all around to make the place more colourful, and it should be quite cheap.
They will be like posters or wallpaper if you stick them all together

Hope tthis helps
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for school we have to research jobs that we would be interested in...i can't choose between an actress and fashion desighner...which would be eaiser to research?

I think a fashion designer would be easier to research
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i am stuck here in the middle east (saudi arabia ) and i want to get excersise. problem is, i am canadian so everyone will stare at me if i go outside of my home!DX i rlly want to be fit and to exercise!!!!!!!!!!
here are some of my reasons:
A) i have to wear an abia which i can do any phisical activity in.
B) there is no gym or swimming pool nearby my house.
C) i am not in a compound so i could have more chance of getting run over by a car.
D) there are weirdos out there. my mom was walking my dog once, and the a guy in a truck whent on the sidewalk! she had to call the police!!!
so , i rlly want to be in shape, so TNX so much the people that help!!!!

Hi.
If you dont really want to do exercise outside then you could do alot of exercises inside.
Here are a few you could do:
Sit- ups
Press ups
Jogging on the spot
Star jumps
Step ups
Exercise videos
Skipping

If you want to go for a jog or a run then you could ask your mum or a friend to go with you.

Hope these help.
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So my prom is next week friday,
and I have no idea how I'm going to do my hair..
it comes a little past my shoulder.
I want it up, and stuff, but I dont know what to do with it.

Um does anyone have any pictures, or things of cute hairstyles that arent that hard to do.
Like anything thats curly or that has teasing involved is good.

thanks!

Hope these pictures help. A few look pretty difficult to do yourself, you could ask a friend to help you or you could go to a hairdresser and take the pic and ask them to do it for you.
I know some arent completeley up hairstyles, some have abit of hair left down. but I really liked these styles.
The last website has lots of galleries to look at
HAVE A GREAT PROM =]



http://photos.weddingbycolor.com/p/000/001/660/m/512/p/thumbnail/1976.jpg


http://suite7salon.com/images/updo-prom-bride-hairstyles-is064_120x180.jpg


http://www.brides.com/images/editorial/2006_brides/05_06_p426_loosenup/00_main/002_sec01.jpg


http://www.prom-hairstyles.org/gallery/gallery.htm


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alright so my hair was never like this before so its not like i was born with natural frizzy hair.. but like i started scrunching my hair with gel and now my hair is kinda frizzy and like.. i cant keep my hair down without putting something in it because it will get really frizzy.. what can/should i do to make my hair go back to being nice?

Try washing your hair with anti-frizz shampoo and conditioner (Im not sure where you live or if you can buy this but I always use Frizz-ease by John Frieda).

www.johnfrieda.com

Try not to put products on your hair but If you need to try the John Frieda ones. They are specially made to tame frizz and it really does work.

Hope this helps

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Okay, I live in Florida, and my prom is on May 10, 2008.

This is the dress I bought:
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=299536&CategoryID=35707

But I need help with what color shoes and which kind of shoes I want!

I've been thinking either silver, white, or clear shoes. I'm not sure though.

Give me your honest opinion please! :D
Don't forget to look at my dress, thats the link above!!

Thanks,
G.

I think silver BUT if you wear silver shoes, it will look best if you have a silver bag/purse or a piece of silver jewelry

BTW I love the dress
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14/F

i just read in a magazine that your supposed to accuntuate your best featire. and i think mines my waist. ive got a mdeium-big butt, and otherwise im flat.

what are some outfits to accentuate that? or that are right for my body type?

thanx!

High waisted jeans or highwaisted denim shorts with a t-shirt tucked in looks great on slim girls
Have a look at the link below

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/167/481399468_332fb4382f_o.jpg

Also other clothes that would suit you
1. Pencil skirts are meant to make butts look smaller.
2. Long tops with either jeans, smart pants and or leggins OR alone with a belt around the waist looks lovely.

Have a look at the link below

http://bp3.blogger.com/_HBkungoU4uw/Roff2JEK_YI/AAAAAAAAAJg/j6U2-qSfa8Q/s1600-h/Blue-Wavy-Long-Top-w-Belt-L.jpg


Hope this helps
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Hi to everyone.

I'm going to a wedding on Saturday, and I have everything under control except for my bangs.

I'm only going to be wearing my hair down, and straightened. I just don't know how to have my bangs/fringe.

It's grown out, and is down to my chin. My everyday hairstyle is right now just long with a part in the middle. It looks hideous on me, and doesn't suit my face. If I tuck them behind my ear, it looks gross on me and it's so short it really sticks out from behind my ear.

So what should I do with them? Like how should I style them? I think they're short enough to have REALLY LONG bangs, but they're not very nice.

I'm also asking for styles pls, and not to cut them as I'm trying to grow them out for a certain style without bangs. They're too short at the moment for that style though.

Maybe you could wear it as a quiff sort of style or just clip it straight back without the quiff.

http://interioroffice.files.wordpress.com/2006/11/cimg0080.JPG

^^ Hope that link works


I think that style always looks nice
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