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Q: Hey. Well, I was wonderign where they sell those "PINK" sweatpants at Victoria Secret. Do they sell them at Victoria Secret or sowewhere else? Thanks!

They usually sell them in the stores, but if your mall has a particularly small store, you could check the Victoria's Secret catalog.

Q: I straighten my hair with a flat iron at night, but when I sleep on it and wake up in the morning it looks greasy. I don't have time to do it in the mornings i already wake up early enough... any suggestions?? thanks!

Try using less conditioner when you shower the night before or use less products in your hair like mousse, hairspray, or even frizz-ease products. That should reduce excessive shinyness and the oily feeling when you wake up.

Q: my boyfriend is the type that flirts with girls and when I first started going out with him I was hoping he would stop doing that because he has a girlfriend. But since then..my friend saw him feeding food TO HIS EX GIRLFRIEND!! wow that made me really mad..and I let him know!! but we worked it out and he said that he would never do anything like that agian. But, just a few days ago one of my friends saw anouther girl sitting on his lap!! So I talked to him about it and he said that she was only sitting on his knee and that they wern't even talking. Things keep happening like that and I don't know what I should do about it..or tell him. If you were in this situation what would you do/ tell him? Thanks soo much!!

I would tell him that you'll give him one more chance to stop expressing his friendship with the opposite sex on a physical way (hugs, sitting on laps, feeding food...all of that) or he's gone. Since he's already done it twice, I say three strikes and you're out. If he cares about you enough, he should have no problem with keeping his hands off other girls.

Q: okay i have a very werid problem...i have two periods a month and they each last 8 days...is this strange and/or bad for me? ill rate 5's unless its mean

I would go see a doctor if this has been going on for months. They might need to put you on birth control to regulate it, but just see what they say. Remember to try to schedule the appointment on one of your off days.

Q: This isnt a real love life kinda question but like ive heard that chewing gum actually makes your breathe stink? is that true?

Umm...in my experience, it usually helps your breath rather than hurts it. Like if my boyfriend pops some Orbit in his mouth after dinner, his breath smells minty fresh and his kisses taste minty fresh too. :) It's much better than having dinner on his breath, I swear.

Q: okay so theres this guy. him and my really good friend were going out but then she dumped him like a month or two ago. ever since then ive had feelings for him. while we were talking online once i asked him who he liked. he didnt want to tell me, because he didnt think she likes him back. im really starting to like him, but i dont know if we could ever go out because of my friend. so what do yall think i should do?

I would talk to your friend about the possibility first and then if she's okay with it, go ahead. Speaking from experience, I know what it's like to have a friend start dating someone you previously dated, and it would be nice to have a little input.

If she agrees, then keep flirting with this guy and see if he might expose some feelings for you, maybe even ask him about it.

Q: right this is so hard to explain here i go well theres this boy called james who when i first saw him i thought yes hes nice and well he asked me out i said no because another boy in school asked me out lets call him Alex. Well i grew to really like alex and alex asked me out and i said no because off james. James took me home the other day and well he tryed to kiss me and he basically tried to force me to kiss him and i really did not like that because i decided i did not want to kiss him but we touched lips not a proper kiss just like a touch. Now i feel kinda bad because i really like alex. Alex is the one i want to kiss but i just can't when he goes to kiss me i kinda back away i think what if i do it wrong will he still like me? ahhh and my friend asked alex for his number and he never gave it to her i was sooo happy... Alex says he loves me all the time and james shows no interest.. What shall i do. But the thing is i like another guy in school who ive never talk to and i kinda told his friend i like his friend and im not sure whats going to happen now. Thank you in advance.x

Well, I say sit down and really try to think about who is right for you. It doesn't help to lead all these boys on if you don't plan on dating them. I suggest making up a Pro/Con list for each of them and see who comes out with the most Pros. Try to be really honest with yourself on the list too so you don't end up with a tie or something. Good luck!!

Q: when you have sex and your pregnant and you have it unprotected..
is there a chance of like getting twins or something??
like you know you have the chance of getting pregnant when a guy gets in you
but when you're pregnant and a guy gets in you is there a chance of getting pregnant again??

stupid question...

No, there is not. Once you get pregnant, you have no more eggs dropped until you give birth and start your cycle again. Twins are made at the original time if made at all.

Q: My friend Sam started going out with Nate at the beginning of the school year. Nate sat at our table at lunch, and some of his friends did too. One of them is Andrew. We all got to know different people because they were going out, and Andrew and I became friends fast. Last Tuesday, I found out that Andrew liked me, but I didn't really think about it. Tonight, he asked me out. I was SOOO surprised. We only say each other for a few minutes after that, so I managed to avoid answering, but I can't avoid him forever. Please HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I like him more as a friend than a boyfriend, but people keep saying to give it a chance. What should I do???

Well, if you think you could grow to like him as more than a friend I say give it a go...it could be fun. But don't toy with his heart if you think that you really are JUST friends. He'll be disappointed that you don't feel the same way as he does, but he'll appreciate the honesty, I promise.

Q: Is it true that drinking a lot of milk can make boobs bigger?

No, there isn't any food or drink that will increase the size of your chest. I know that some of those supplements sold in stores engineered specifically for chest growth help a little, but not by much. I say just appreciate what you have because having a big chest really isn't all that great.

Q: Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

Of course not...it's just sonething that comes naturally to some people. Just be sure that you're honest with yourself and those around you though, because you don't want any mixed signals or anyone's feelings to get hurt.

Q: I'm wondering, I'm only 14 at the moment, but girls my age seem to go for the bad guys and the biggest jerks. Why is that? I am a gentleman and I am as nice as can be and they always tell me that but why do they go for the jerks?

Well, at this point in life, girls want to have a little fun an be rebellious...eventually they will realize that it's not as much fun as they thought, and they'll come flocking back to you. :)

Q: My boyfriend and I had sex last week and my period usally comes on around the 24 or 25. It is the 27 and my period still haven't come on. I have been have cramps and back pain. So am I pregnant or not?

Wait awhile before you think you're pregnant. I once had a scare like that and got my period like 8 days late but I still got it...the cramps and back pain could just mean you're going to get your period soon, I had the same thing.

Q: Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering about something...
I know its normal and not exactly their fault and everything, but when a girl goes through monthly stuff, what are we, the guys, supposed to do. I really don't mind it, but sometimes I feel like I need to help out my g/f with whatever the problem may be...but I can't. Should I just be there to talk and listen? That's what I've been doing so far. I mean I can't think of any good advice other than lie down, take some medicine, try to relax, and stuff like that. Should I try to help, or just stay out of the way? Is there any way I can help or no? I know I don't or ever will understand what it feels like or anything, but I'd still try to help with anything. Will rate, thanks in advance.

I would just suggest asking her if she needs anything...maybe if she's feeling sick, drop by and drop off some soup or something. Otherwise, she might just want you out of the way. Every girl is different.

Q: 16/m. You've probably heard this topic before, and might even be sick of it, but I am curious to know what any and all of you think a 'nice guy' is. Is he a pushover? or is he the one who will lend a should to cry on? I want to know what you personally think a nice guy is, what qualities and personality traits would follow him, if you would want to have a nice guy as a boyfriend, and should there be more of them. Sorry it's a long question, but because too many people have so many different views on what exactly a nice guy is; I think this will offer everyone a chance to see things from a different perspective - nobody is right or wrong in this one. I'm not complaining saying its a bad thing or praising them either, just curious. Thanks

Personally, I think a nice guy is one who is well-mannered. I would classify my boyfriend as a nice guy. He opens doors, pays at dinner, movies, etc., asks me about my day, and is there when I need him. But if he was only those things I would also think he was a bit of a pussy. To me, he's pretty perfect because he has those things but also knows when to take charge, like making plans or in the bedroom :). It's check and balances that make for a really good guy.

Q: I love Seth Green and his acting, and just about every movie I saw with him in it I liked (such as Without a Paddle, Rat Race, all the Austin Powers movies, etc.), so I was wondering if anyone saw the movie "Can't Hardly Wait". I want to see it, and I'm wondering what all your opinions are about it. I also want to know if it's an appropiate movie, like does it show "anything"? I know it's rated PG-13, but I'm just wondering if it has anything really bad in it, and I dont want to waste my money on a stupid movie.

Thanks so much! I rate fives and give feedback!

Well, I think it's a good overall typical teen movie...nothing too bad in it but Seth Green has a very very minor sex scene in it (don't think more than his shoulders are shown) but I think it's worth it. It's cute and it's not raunchy.

Q: My guy friend sat down next to me an put his hand on my knee and said let's play "Are you nervous". I have no clue what that is so i didn't do anything. What is it and how do you play?

Thanx

"Are you nervous?" is when each of you start with your hands on your knees and gradually move your hands closer towards the top, each time asking "Are you nervous?". Basically if you really get into it and no one says "Yes, I'm nervous", you could have a make out session and maybe something more...

Q: hey guys.. well pretty soon my friend is having a keg party(drinking) and inviting everyone because her moms going to be out of town that night.. and i want to go but im scared that the cops will come and we all will get busted.. shes done a lot before and never gotten caught by her mom or anything but since its this big of a party im not sure if i should go or not it would be a ton of fun but i dont want to get totally screwed.. so let me know what i should do, thanks...

I totally understand where you're coming from but this is the time when you want to really have fun. If she's a close friend, then why don't you help her plan it out. They key to not getting a party busted is not having the music or people too loud. You can't always control the people but don;t blast music and don't invite people you know will go buck wild and threaten the party. Otherwise, just try to have fun but keep yourself conscious so you can enjoy the festivities! lol...have fun :)

Q: I've been with my girlfriend for a bit over 6 months. We're very romantically close, and quite physically close(we've only kissed, but we're still very physical). She has a bit of a confidence problem, but I've mostly got that controlled. I'm wondering, what can I do to make her feel more sexy? She does a lot to make me feel sexy, but I think I need to do more to let her know that I think she is too.
Thank you in advance for your help.
16/m

I think just outright telling her she's sexy is really helpful. When I first started dating my boyfriend, he would tell me I was sexy but I didn't want to believe it. I mean, I would believe that he thought I was but I didn't think I was. Eventually, him telling me sincerely really helped me believe that I was. Also, he would say that he liked just sitting and looking at me or into my eyes which really helped. Just keep your focus on her and say how sexy you think she is. It might sound cheesy at first but she'll love it eventually.

Q: what does it mean when someone calls you a cookie cutter??

That technically means that you are just like everyone else. When you use a cookie cutter, they all come out looking the same, so its saying that you are the same as everyone else by looks or personality.