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Okay, tonight, my mom got really mad at me. Like REALLY mad. And it was all over this stupid box of macaroni that she asked me to make for dinner. I read the instructions wrong, and thought that you had to let the water boil for 10 minutes before putting in the macaraoni. So anyway, she flipped out on me. And started screaming. And she slapped me twice. And i really wanted to hit her, but i didn't, i just grabbed her wrist's really hard. So she flipped out on me contiunously, and after i made dinner, she went on to say "i dont even like this crap anyway" and didn't eat all of it.

This isn't the first time she's done stuff like this and i dont know how to deal with it. what do i do? (link)
If stuff like is going on and has been going on you need to get her help. She needs to talk to someone to deel with her anger issues. I know you might not want to hear this but what she is doing isn't right. The best thing you can do is talk to someone you trust about this. Someone you know can help you get her help.


What is the best foundation to use? (link)
There are two I would recomend. Sheer Cover or Bare Minerals. Both work really well. If you have a birth mark, mole, an acne problem, rosatia etc. They cover it up. Also if you have rally sensitive skin they work with that to. Trust me!


First of thanks to anyone who tries to help me. Your not waisting your time as I will rate and give feed back for all advice. Here goes. My husband lives in California, I live in North carolina, he flew down here to marry me and I'm going to live with him in a couple weeks (we lived together before but had to return to nc for custody issues with my daughter from a previous marriage) I am having serious trust issues with him and I don't know why. Every little thing he does, I find something wrong with it and want to start an argument and call it quits. I dont know why I do this, as I love him with all my heart. A couple months ago we broke up and I miscarried, he didnt call me the whole time and i think I have alot of anger torwards him for that. Is there any way to get over this? Please help me. I do want to make this marriage work. p.s. I'm 24, he's 26. (link)
The time that he didn't call you, you should talk to him and tell him how that made you feel. If you want to make things work the best thing to do is be open and honest about your feelings. You said you had a previous marriage there are probally trust issues because of that. You should talk to a therapist and work through the issues concerning your previous marriage and relationships, then he/she can help figure out what you need to do to make this marriage work!


My boyfriend has had sex with many other girls before, and he wants me to lose it to him. I love him but, i want to know the symptoms that might occur after we have sex. I also would like to know how, it would feel and how long will I bleed. I get horny easily but, i will never try to masterbait and, i just want to know if i should endure in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend or not!!By the way i am a female! I also would like to know if i should suck him off!! (link)
If you are this worried about having sex with your boyfriend then don't. Let him know you don't feel ready, and if he really loves you he will respect that. You are only thirteen and that is a VERY young age to loose your virginity. You don't want to make a mistake you will regret in the future. Don't let him make you feel pressured about any of this. In the end it is still your decision though.


Here's the deal: I really loved this guy and I didn't think he loved me back. But on 4th of July, he said he had a confession to make and he said he loved me and asked me out. I said yes! But I haven't talked to him since and it's been two days. What could he be thinking? Guys, Why would he do this? It's sensless.
~Kayla~
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Believe it or not he is probally just as nervous as you. He might not be used to telling people how he feels. Guys can be pretty sensitive. Call him, show him you know what you want and you go for it; that you aren't afriad to take action. He'll love it!


its in the middle of summer and im starting to get lonely. like i want a boyfriend so bad! i want that special someone to talk to and i want to have just someone to hold on to. i really want one badly. all my friends have boyfriends and i dont! ive never had a boyfriend or a real close guy friend. idk what to do. i really want a boyfriend. i asked this kid out but he said "no"! now i feel rejected and stupid. (link)
First of all don't feel stupid. You liked this guy and you at least had enouph guts to ask him out. Good for you :)It probally won't be your last rejection, but that's ok. Everyone goes through at least one or two. I know how you feel with the whole lonely thing. But just keep trying and don't give up because one of these days your going to find your perfect someone.


Okay this boy just asked me out and I said yes. I'm 13 and I'm in 7th grade and he's 17 and he's in 9th grade. That's a 4 years age difference so I'm not sure if I should keep going out with him what do you think? I know he loves me he said he said he will respect me and he doesn't care how old I am. He doesnt want you know what, and he's really sweet. I'm sure he really likes me. What do you think of this? (link)
Any guy who wants to date someone that much younger then them has some kind of hidden agenda. Meaning he might say he loves you and doesn't want sex, but really one day he is going to say stuff like "I love you, you will if you really love me" etc. Dating an older guy puts you in a more likely position to do things you might not be ready for. I know you like him but it would probally be best if you two were just friends.


My friend met this guy and he is the sweetest guy ever and stuff, and im wicked jealous of her, and this guy talks to me about her because they like eachother and they know it and he told her he loved her and stuff and she said it back but idk what to do because im always talking to him about her..like im her best friend so he asks me for advice about what she likes & stuff, but idk...this whole thing is getting to me and getting me WICKED jealous like, its not right to feel this jealous about anything...so what should i do? Should i stop talking to him? should i stop talking about him with my best friend, or should i keep helping them? because this is like tearing me apart...anything helps thanks (link)
The jelousy thing is perfectly normal, trust me, it is how you handle it. You should help this guy get with your best friend. Try your hardest to be happy for her. I know it might be hard but try to put your feelings aside. I hope everything works out ok.


Ok, this question has probably been asked a thousand times before but here goes.. i broke up with my girlfriend because i no longer trust her.. problem is i still love her and i dont see myself getting over her anytime soon. Too many reasons to list y i lost my trust in her but a few of the not so cool things shes done.. i was leavin the state and we hadnt seen each other for awhile.. the last day i was there she was supposed to hang out with me all day.. i wound up getting to see her for about 30 min because she was hangin out with a friend.. was a guy and i know for a fact that they have slept together before.. i went back to visit a couple months later.. stayed for 2 weeks.. seen her for a total of about 4 hours =/.. shes 18 btw so parents arent a big issue. the guy in question just got a myspace that she made for him and right above one of my favorite pictures of her is the question whod id like to meet.. answer: already found her and i love her.. she says that was an accident and shes gonna help him fix it soon.. even as im typein this i know i sound stupid for still haveing anything to do with her but... like i said i still love her even though im not treated the best and maybe shes not lieing about all the coisedences (link)
Trust is a very important thing in any relationship. If you can't trust her, and/or she can't trust you then you can't build a relationship off that. Relationships need trust and love. I know you feel that the love is there but the trust isn't so... the best advice I can give you is to move on. You deserve someone who loves and trusts you as much as you love and trust them.


hey im jackie and im 14. and this question is for my friend. she just turned 15 and her ex boyfriend is 14 and they've been going out since october,(8 months) and they have gone pretty far. hes gotten her to give him a hand job and let him finger her, for the first time. before she went out with him, she hadnt even had her first kiss. anyway, he broke upw ith her 2 days ago and she is miserable! he siad it was b/c he wanted to move on. I ;d like to know how to help her get over him. help pleasee

♥ Jackie (link)
Make sure you are there for her because she really needs you right now. You are going to hear a lot about him for awhile and you might get sick of it, just make sure you listen. Try to plan a girls night out, just you and her, maybe even a few close friends (that are girls), go to the movies, skate, whatever she likes to do. That way you can try to get her mind off of it so she'll know she doesn't need him to have a good time. Let her know there are other people out there; just keep telling her she can do way better then him.


I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing? (link)
I think having a boyfriend at any age depends on maturity. If you feel you are emotionally mature enough to handle the baggage that comes with having a boyfriend, then you should. If you really like this guy and feel you aren't quite ready for the "boyfriend" title, then you should explain to him how you feel. If you decide the age of 13 is too young to have a boyfriend let him know you still want to be friends and you guys can hang out and still go to the movies together. Friends do stuff like that all the time.
Ask yourself one question, "Do I think i'm too young for a boyfriend?" Just follow your heart and your gut feeling, they're always right!




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