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How to get over everything...
First of thanks to anyone who tries to help me. Your not waisting your time as I will rate and give feed back for all advice. Here goes. My husband lives in California, I live in North carolina, he flew down here to marry me and I'm going to live with him in a couple weeks (we lived together before but had to return to nc for custody issues with my daughter from a previous marriage) I am having serious trust issues with him and I don't know why. Every little thing he does, I find something wrong with it and want to start an argument and call it quits. I dont know why I do this, as I love him with all my heart. A couple months ago we broke up and I miscarried, he didnt call me the whole time and i think I have alot of anger torwards him for that. Is there any way to get over this? Please help me. I do want to make this marriage work. p.s. I'm 24, he's 26.
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Well I am 14, so mabye my anwser is dumb, but I'll give it a shot.
I think your trust issues come from a previous failure in marriage. You don't want that to happen again, so you worry about what's going on in the relationship. Just try relaxing and finding a different focus in life. Call him and let him know you want to make things better, do something special for him.
However, you are not the only one at fault. Looks like he did wrong too and he owes you an apology. You guys need to get together and have a long talk. Good luck!
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well honestly the reason he probably didnt call u at that time coulda been cuz he was sick of you lookin for a reason to fight....no guy can stand a girl thats always lookin for problems....just relax and realize that if you want this to go on and for there to be love between you guys you need to let go of little things he does that annoy you a lil..if its big then you go confront him and try when you confront him about things that piss you off to go in yelling with an attitude.....try to look all cute and sad and make him get why you dont like what hes doin....
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The time that he didn't call you, you should talk to him and tell him how that made you feel. If you want to make things work the best thing to do is be open and honest about your feelings. You said you had a previous marriage there are probally trust issues because of that. You should talk to a therapist and work through the issues concerning your previous marriage and relationships, then he/she can help figure out what you need to do to make this marriage work!
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I'm sure you are having trust issues because you love him *ofcourse* and your afraid that he'll find someone else. You just have to let go..and know beleive that he wont do anything bad. If it continues..maybe you should see a phsycologist for married couples. Hope this helps!
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hello,i am also 24 years old,so i think we may have more same ideas, i am a Chinese girl, i am now in beijing . i have the same experience like you .i think you had better make yourself more independant and braver, listen to some soft music may help you to adjust your mood,dont let those bad things affect you more.lucky
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