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[I'm honest as it is going to get. If you inbox me a question, I don't take sympathy to stupid questions. If it's a question I seen on the site that I did not answer, I will not answer it in an inbox.]Words of wisdom: Life isn't easy, there will always be road blocks to get in your way.
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My Ex boyfriend told me how much i ment to him and how he would never leave me...We were together for *sniffle sniffle* 6 years. I really thought we were ment to be.... i dont want to eat or sleep or anything.. i just dont know what to do with myself...i cry every day and night for the past 3 months..and it never seems to stop.. i love him and i still have one of his socks in my room...it still smells like him.. :'( And i kept a peice of dirt that he walked on in a little plastic baggie to remind me of what he stepped on when he was with me
Things happen and people change. I was with my boyfriend for almost 3 years, he was my first love.. indeed it is hard. I have found better people out there. You need to find the point where you can say enough is enough, and get up one day and be able to be the old you before he came into your life. Join an activity or a sport, go out to the mall and socialize, spend time with friends and meet new people, it's time to move on from this guy and find someone better who will be able to treat you better. Step one is to get rid of the stuff that you have that reminds you of him, such as a piece of dirt in a bag, (that is not emotionally healthy). You need to say enough is enough and be able to walk away..if you don't want to do that or can't do that you shouldn't be asking for help.
If you need anything else feel free to inbox me.
okay so i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend for a while now , we had sex about once or twice now and i'm worried that i might stop developing my breast and my height. i'm a A cup and 5'3. does having sex stop your development?
No it doesn't, if your asking such questions you shouldn't be having sex. Educate yourself about sex before doing so.
Hey sometimes ONE of my hands is cold its really weird and annoying.
Why does this happend
You haven't stated whether your were male or female.
Anyways, I have the same problem with my hands and my toes always being cold. I have Raynaud's disease/ syndrome/phenomenon. It's caused by a blood vessel spasm.
Raynaud's disease is more than simply having cold hands and cold feet, and it's not the same as frostbite. Signs and symptoms of Raynaud's depend on the frequency, duration and severity of the blood vessel spasms that underlie the disorder. Raynaud's disease symptoms include:
Cold fingers and toes
Sequence of color changes in your skin in response to cold or stress
Numb, prickly feeling or stinging pain upon warming or relief of stress.
It's nothing to worry about, but I can't tell you for sure if you have this being that I am not your doctor. For more information I'd call your doctor or you can research more information at www.mayoclinic.com/health/raynauds-disease/DS00433/DSECTION=symptoms
The way I discovered this was being one day during my junior year of high school my finger tips started to turn blue. My mother freaked out when I came home from school and wasn't sure if she should take me to the ER or to the doctor.
It's just part of life and I accepted it, it makes me who I am..and yes people question why I sometimes wear gloves in the summer.. but I just accept my difference. :)
Best of luck, hope I helped!
How to get your computer to stop remembering certain usernames/passwords?
I went to Tools->Internet Options->Browsing History->Delete->Delete Passwords, and it is still remembering my passwords.
Then I went to: tools>internet options> content tab> Autocomplete: settings >
uncheck passwords
Then I deleted cookies but my computer is still remembering passwords.
How do I fix it?
You know when you click to sign in..and it gives you the list of accounts that you use for things such as yahoo, facebook.. roll your mouse over the account you want to delete so it's highlighted but don't actually click on the account, then hit the delete button on your keyboard and see if that works.
15/f
Well......There is this guy me and him are Best Friends even after we went out. He is a year younger than me but we diceied to give it a shot. We went out for like a week we wouldnt do anything like hold hands or kiss that kind of stuff because my cousis were down and they were ALWAYS around us. When we were going out I aksed why he liked me and he said the sweetest thing "I liked you the very frist day i meet you" That was sweet. But now he is going out with this girl a year younger than him and im mad because he said the only reason he is going out with her is becuase she will 'put out'. The only reason we didnt do anything was because of my family it isnt my fault.
So....my question is How do I deal with this i really like him.....and i wanna go back out with him but he is goin out with a girl 2 younger than me and 1 year younger than him.
Your 15, you don't need to be 'putting out' at that age. Guys who are looking just for that at 14, are clearly heading down the road for some disasters and heartbreaks.
Walk away before it's too late, you clearly have more self respect than a 13 year old who is going to sleep around.
So I just got my report card back and I got two A's, but then I got two B's and a C+. The problem is with the B's and C was that I started a couple weeks late because I switched from another school and they had put me a grade ahead because there was some stuff I had already learned. I was really really upset and I spent about five hours crying. I just wanted to know if my grades count for anything. If they do I will go throw myself off a bridge (I'm twelve and a very distressed eighth grader).
I'd talk to to a school counselor about your grades, they know more about it than we do. But don't hold back just because of it, you have another 5-6 years til you graduate.
I will be turning 21 in less than 6 months, which to some may seem a little bit far away, because I still have most of autumn and winter left before my birthday in early spring. As my main birthday present my mom, sister and grandmother are going to be taking me to Atlantic City. My family has this thing where they want to share my most important milestones with me, I guess, like most families. While we we are at Atlantic City my boyfriend, my sister and I are going to be going out drinking, I think that it's a really good idea that I have my boyfriend with me because if either of his girls get drunk I know that he will look for us (he's a big guy, he's really strong – a former high school football player, who still works out quite a bit).
My biggest concern about drinking is the fact that I have never been drunk. I don't know what my limit is, which is bad because if I decide to be stubborn and I probably will be if my sister or my boyfriend, tell me, “I think that's enough.” Even though I am quite proud of that fact, I feel like nowadays too many people get drunk under the age of 21... it's probably always been that way. My sister who is 26 (will only have a month and a few weeks left herself, before she turns 27 on that occasion) and my boyfriend whose 22 (will only have a few months left to go on that occasion before he turns 23) have both drank before they were 21.
I have too, but it was under family supervision and they never let me to drink enough to know what it was like to be drunk... which is a good thing.
I'm just concerned about actually reaching the point to meet the difference between drunk and tipsy. I don't even know if I should be tipsy, because my mother and grandmother are very old-fashioned and tend to be prudes on certain things such as women getting drunk (even though my mom has admitted to us that she's been, my grandmother has never been). The main problem is that I have some drunks in my family, and we also have alcoholism in the family.
My paternal grandmother was a functional alcoholic, I don't want to end up like that when I turn 21 I still think that I have my whole life to live for, and I don't want to upset those who care about me. My maternal grandfather's father was an alcoholic who used to drink the money away and his wife (my maternal grandfather's mother).
How do I know when I'm reaching the point of having one too many? I really don't want to end up blacking out... which as you can tell would be very dangerous in my case. I actually do want to be able to drink socially. I do believe that my sister and my boyfriend would try to get me to stop drinking if they saw signs that I was about to black out.
I know that your BAC (blood alcohol content) depends on different factors such as your body weight, time between drinks, if you ate, etc. I'm 131 pounds and around 5'4", so I'm fairly skinny.
Thanks!
I'm your exact height and weight, and I just turned 21 last March. Anyways, I rarely drank under 21..where I was to get drunk.. so like you I was a tad scared, but I knew when I was actually tipsy but I was never actually drunk.. I wouldn't let myself drunk for a lot of reasons.. anyways, just pay attention to what your body tell you.. you will be able to know before they do. If they try to stop you, just tell them they were 21 once.. and this is a start to a new milestone. Make them let you live your birthday the way you want it.
can a girl become pregnant if a single sperm is gone in her mouth?
To become a pregnant it has to be inside a vagina.
Honestly, You sound not so ready to be having sex if your asking these type of questions.
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How can I get this photoshop effect?
http://www.aplacefortwiggs.com/2011/05/random-stories-i-need-a-break/
I love how light and airy the colors of the pictures are.
Thank you! :)
Try playing with the hue, contrast and saturation. perhaps as well blending layers if you know how to do that.
Any other questions don't hesitate to ask :)
Would a guy have a girl with kind of bad acne? I have been having acne since elemetary school, and it never goes away. I've tried dermatologist and eveything and the doctors say that the medicine I use gets used to my face and the acne comes back. Sometimes my pimples get really big and I feel like my face is disgusting with scars and zits and then my face clears up and gets worse again. I think I have cystic acne. There are a few guys that have liked me, but I never talked to them because I think they may think my face is disgusting. And there has been guys that have made fun of me and have just been rude to me and call me zit face since elementary, so when a guy tells me he likes me, I just don't believe him. Would a guy date a girl with kind of bad acne?
I have acne, where it comes and goes.. and honestly I have felt that way sometimes.. but I have gotten over it. I've had a boyfriend who has loved me for who I am for 2 years. It doesn't change anything. Every guy is different.
What does it mean when a girl sticks her tongue between two fingers?
As a girl, I find it trashy when girls do this.
and I have hated it when my boyfriend would do it to me.
The gesture means to give oral to a girl.
I need help there are these three fantastic guys thet like me.
#1 his name is cody we have been dating for a couple weeks. he is amazing hes the type of guy that tell me im beautiful not hot. and in stead of making out all the time we hang out and have fun. witch ny the way makes the romantic moments even better. but he also has had a tendincy to cheat in the past even though hes never cheated on me he has cheated on others.
#2 his name is david. he is so sweet and random. plus he has a nice body! not that he would need one for me to like him. Any way he came up to me in the middle of class and was like " would you think about breaking up with cody to go out with me?" and i was like idk i wouldnt do that to cody but at the time i didn't tell that to david! i felt like a slut for the rest of that day!
#3. me and nick meet a long time ago but never talked. then we both ended up going on a trip to hermit island*a campgrund on the beachin maine* with our friends who are brother and sister. Me and nick started hanging out. we would go to the beach and when him and my friends brother were playing football he kept dropping the ball* nt something he would normally do* later when me and my bff went back to the campsite to make sandwickes she told me that he was looking at me the entire time! so for the rest of the week we were hanging out dwn by the kelp shed plyn volley ball and pool. btw he kicks but at volley ball! anyway he would do little things to show off you know how guys are. any way later at night it was a full moon and we were hangen out on the beach my bff and my bff's bro was byen ice cream at the shed. me and nick were on the beach talking and he told me that i was beautiful! my heart was going like 5 miles an hour and he bent down and kissed me! like full on kissed me. Then when we got back we were sitting on the couch watching the fillies ply cause nothing else was on tv. then his parents showed up so we kissed good bye and he walked out the door. than he came back in cause he forgot his hat.we kissed again then i followed him back outside. while his dad was talken to bffs dad he kissed me in front of both of them plus my bff and my bffs brother. *btw he was super jelouse but hes got rly bad temper* then his father said something to nick and nick flipped his dad off and keept kissing me! then got in the car said good bye and he left.
Idk who to choose. i still talk to nick but hes in a grade below me even though hes like 6-10 and im only 5-1. rly short compared to him. so id never get to see him cause im a freshman and hes 8th grade. david is in my grde and almost all my classes. cody is amazing but in non of my classes btw dosent matter to me. who do i choose cody david or nick? pleese help me.
From my personal experience.
-Once a cheater is always a cheater.
-A guy would not come up to you and ask you to break up with someone to go date with them, it shows they have no respect for who you are, and it often shows they just are interested in one thing.
-For the last.. he seems like something real.
Follow your heart, only you know what is best for you.
-Hope I helped.
I cant flirt....i just cant. Theres a guy that I really really like and he told me that I should just stoptrying to flirt...i know I cant flirt but how do I get him? He talks to me all the time and he tells me im pretty and hes the only person who truly understands me.....it just caught me off guard that he thought I was trying to flirt...plz help
Just be you, honestly..I can't flirt for my life..it's too obvious that I like a guy just by the way I look at him..but I just try to be myself. If you want to flirt a tad, just wink occasionally and focus on his talking, bite your lip and laugh. It's all accidentally flirting it comes naturally without thinking, often gets other people to think your interested in someone when your not.
- Hope I helped.
If you have anymore questions don't hesitate to ask! :)
whats wrong with me? im 14 and ive never had a boyfriend or even a friend which is a boy, i dont get any attention eventhough iseek for them sometimes. about 3 people have asked me out through 'facebook' but i somehow dont trust it becuase its not safe and why is it that i get asked oout socially through the internet but just not in reality? help pleasee
There is nothing wrong with you, if your being asked out through facebook it probably shows that they are shy and nervous to approach you. Your 14 though, focus on yourself and have fun..you have plenty of years to have a boyfriend, I myself did not get into a relationship until I was in my first year of college almost 19 years old. You have years ahead of you.. stay young while you still can.
I'm 15 in 10th grade (high school)and I go to a small private school where everybody knows everyone and i recently broke up with my bf and on facebook his status went from being in a relationship to single, but now some people who are his friends are commenting on it and they are calling my a slut and more horrible stuff. Is this cyber bullying? What can I do? I've been crying for a long time and I've always been bullied (verbally) by people for as long as I can remember. I told my parents and they said to do something to take my mind off of it..but I cant! I want to switch schools to a bigger school. I feel like people are just ignoring me when I tell them im bullied, I only have 1 friend really and I don't have many classes with her. I'm really tired of this and I'm starting to hate my life...Please help!! please!!!:(
It's natural to have guy friends say that stuff, because they don't want a girl in his life to distract him from his buddies. It has happened to me when I broke up with my boyfriend.. it's part of nature.. yes it hurts, but you'll get over it.. you will most likely deal with that with every break up, and your friends will say the same thing sometimes, when they are happy you may have broken up with a jerk. It's called support that's all. Hold up your head and walk proudly, don't act like it bothers you and it will shut them up from saying things.
im in 10th grade and hes in 12th im really shy and don't talk to many people he would make fun of me all the time and thats how we became friends i switched schools but still live near him hes told me i need to come back but anyways we've been talking alot lately and one night i told him i liked him and he said he thought i was cute and i got really happy but then i thought about it and realized he didnt say he liked he back just that i was cute so im not really sure what to do now and im scared to bring it up again
Just talk to him, hang out with him.. act like the normal you and see where it goes day by day, but don't rush into anything..and don't over think it. Your only 15/16.. he's 17/18.. your still young.
So i asked this guy out cuz i really like him, and he likes me. He says yes and the next day, hes a ootal jerk. I was just wondering what im supposed to do, beacause i really like him. (P.s. please dont trash talk him, because hes my boyfriend)
Do you have more to this story.. because there's not much we can tell you.. every guy can be a jerk here and there.
I've kissed quite a few people before and they had never told me that I was a bad kisser. Most of them continued trying to kiss me and I thought I was a pretty good kisser, I can even tie a cherry stem if that means anything. Not too long ago I kissed this one guy and then we stopped because my friend came up. I tried to kiss him later on but he told me no because he had just finished eating. I knew he didn't want to kiss me so I was going to get off of his lap but he didn't want me to. A few minutes later he iniciated the kiss and it got pretty steamy. When I was talking to my bestfriend she told me that after our first kiss he told her I was a bad kisser but he kept kissing me because he didn't want me to feel bad. If that were true, why did HE start kissing me later? Does that mean the other guys thought I was a bad kisser and didn't want to hurt me as well? I've never been told I'm a good kisser but I've never been told I'm a bad one. All of the other guys seemed to enjoy it a lot, based on their reactions. Later on that guy seemed to like it? My friend didn't mention anything about the second kiss, just the first.
Just because one guy says something, doesn't mean everyone else thinks it's true.
A guy I was talking to just called me a slut, does that mean I am one? No.. and he knows I'm not.. he was just saying that to hurt me..which in the end made me laugh because he's mad he couldn't get in my pants.
Anyways.. back to you.. just because he told your friend that..doesn't mean it's true.. or perhaps your friend was just jealous and made that up to hurt you. Don't go by what one person said.. you have a world of fishes out there.
Female 16,
So I have this guy friend and I recently have discovered that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to put myself out there and make things awkward if he doesnt have feelings for me. He also guy out of a complicated not-quite relationship with this girl back in December. He has since then said he has given up on dating. How do I make him notice me as a possible relationship?
You may hate for me to say this but your young, let him be ready on his own. The more you may push him into realizing that he could be in a relationship, you may just end up pushing him away for good. He's scared and doesn't want to get hurt and etc. No person wants to jump into a relationship after being in a complicated one. It may suck to hear it, but it's sadly true. He is isn't ready and he said that he's given up on dating because he knows that he isn't ready. Does that make sense? If you need anything just let me know.
It's an odd story, but I met this guy online. Turns out we are both 19, and he goes to school only 50 minutes away. Ironically the school I want to transfer too. The last week, we have been texting back and forth a lot. It was easily seen that we both liked each other a lot. But we agreed we wanted to get to know each other better first. He is really honest and seems to have a really good heart. He was willing to be anything I wanted, whether it's friends or friends with benefits. When we talked about how it was shown so clearly we both liked each other, he was honest and said he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship right now or not. Though if I wanted to be in a relationship, he wouldn't want to take that opportunity from me. While half the time I feel as if he is trying to just get in my pants, the other half says "your crazy for thinking this." He knows I just got out of a 9 month relationship of being cheated onh. and had my heart play yo-yo'd with, anyways. He'd call me babe and such. We were dicussing clothing and I go "so your preppy, eh?" and he's like "is that a problem? :P" and I go "no not at all, I used to be preppy." and he goes "what are you then?" I go "Me" and he asked me to define that, so I did. Basically I rather sleep an extra hour than put my face on, I hate pink but I love hollister. I'm obsessed with my hair but I don't straighten it everyday. He told me I made him smile and that I was honest and cute. He came back for the spring semester, and we decided to meet. We laughed and joked and had a great time. I laid on his shoulder and barely rubbed his leg. He said it tinkled, and then later on said he was thinking. I asked what, and he said I knew what. I responded, "I want you to say it." Moments later, he grabbed my hand and placed it on his penis. In shock, he laughed at my reaction, and said I started it. I was practically blushing and in complete shock that I was unsure of what to do next. He just sat back and I started to barely do anything, and he adjusted himself and I asked why I was I even doing this? He said that I didn't have to if I didn't want to, so I stopped. Moments later out of habit, I poke to see if it was still hard or not. Which it wasn't, and he said "It's soft, hold on.." Then I proceeded to actually want to do something, I asked for a kiss and I got such a soft one, I wanted more and he said he wanted me to do some more in order for another kiss. I kissed his cheek and proceeded, and whispered that he was such a tease. He turned his head away and smiled. For a full neck right there for me to kiss, which I then kissed passionately. In the process of kissing his neck, he grabbed my ass which turned me on completely, then he started to slid his hand underneath my sweatpants and asked if he was crossing the line at all. It made me smile that he had asked me that, Afterwards, he gave me a gentle rub, and a few more soft pecks. With a really big hug and a passionate kiss, then shortly after goodbye hug, and a kiss. It's been 4 days so far, and I've yet to hear from him..why is he doing this? Some say he is shy and doesn't know what he wants, others seem to think that maybe hes testing to see if turn out psycho or something.
Perhaps he just wants to test the waters, but it seems like he just wants one thing and only one thing. I'd be careful, I may be wrong. Maybe he was just playing around placing your hand there to get the awkwardness out of the way. He could be playing hard to get, but he seems like he's only interested in sex. He isn't worth it. If you need anyone to talk to about this, feel free to talk to me. Good luck&Be careful. :)