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Two be or not two be.
It's an odd story, but I met this guy online. Turns out we are both 19, and he goes to school only 50 minutes away. Ironically the school I want to transfer too. The last week, we have been texting back and forth a lot. It was easily seen that we both liked each other a lot. But we agreed we wanted to get to know each other better first. He is really honest and seems to have a really good heart. He was willing to be anything I wanted, whether it's friends or friends with benefits. When we talked about how it was shown so clearly we both liked each other, he was honest and said he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship right now or not. Though if I wanted to be in a relationship, he wouldn't want to take that opportunity from me. While half the time I feel as if he is trying to just get in my pants, the other half says "your crazy for thinking this." He knows I just got out of a 9 month relationship of being cheated onh. and had my heart play yo-yo'd with, anyways. He'd call me babe and such. We were dicussing clothing and I go "so your preppy, eh?" and he's like "is that a problem? :P" and I go "no not at all, I used to be preppy." and he goes "what are you then?" I go "Me" and he asked me to define that, so I did. Basically I rather sleep an extra hour than put my face on, I hate pink but I love hollister. I'm obsessed with my hair but I don't straighten it everyday. He told me I made him smile and that I was honest and cute. He came back for the spring semester, and we decided to meet. We laughed and joked and had a great time. I laid on his shoulder and barely rubbed his leg. He said it tinkled, and then later on said he was thinking. I asked what, and he said I knew what. I responded, "I want you to say it." Moments later, he grabbed my hand and placed it on his penis. In shock, he laughed at my reaction, and said I started it. I was practically blushing and in complete shock that I was unsure of what to do next. He just sat back and I started to barely do anything, and he adjusted himself and I asked why I was I even doing this? He said that I didn't have to if I didn't want to, so I stopped. Moments later out of habit, I poke to see if it was still hard or not. Which it wasn't, and he said "It's soft, hold on.." Then I proceeded to actually want to do something, I asked for a kiss and I got such a soft one, I wanted more and he said he wanted me to do some more in order for another kiss. I kissed his cheek and proceeded, and whispered that he was such a tease. He turned his head away and smiled. For a full neck right there for me to kiss, which I then kissed passionately. In the process of kissing his neck, he grabbed my ass which turned me on completely, then he started to slid his hand underneath my sweatpants and asked if he was crossing the line at all. It made me smile that he had asked me that, Afterwards, he gave me a gentle rub, and a few more soft pecks. With a really big hug and a passionate kiss, then shortly after goodbye hug, and a kiss. It's been 4 days so far, and I've yet to hear from him..why is he doing this? Some say he is shy and doesn't know what he wants, others seem to think that maybe hes testing to see if turn out psycho or something.
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Perhaps he just wants to test the waters, but it seems like he just wants one thing and only one thing. I'd be careful, I may be wrong. Maybe he was just playing around placing your hand there to get the awkwardness out of the way. He could be playing hard to get, but he seems like he's only interested in sex. He isn't worth it. If you need anyone to talk to about this, feel free to talk to me. Good luck&Be careful. :)
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Oh geez. This is the first question I've answered in years, and probably the last one I'll ever answer. I wasn't going to, but I can't help myself. Your story's so similar to mine.
I don't want to get into it because it took me an INSANE amount of time to get over that guy, and he's been such a painful memory. So I will just leave you with a warning, and the rest is up to you.
IF YOU CARE ABOUT YOUR HEART, LET GO OF THIS GUY NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LIKE HIM. It'll suck, but this way the story ends with "I walked away because I knew better" and he'll remember you as someone who respected herself. My story ended with "I got used" and he probably remembers me as just another girl who did stuff for/with him, if he even remembers me at all.
Gahh.. I guess maybe you have to learn the hard way like I did. I'll admit it made me smarter and I'm amazingly wise with guys now. But still, a part of me hopes you won't go through what I think you're about to.
Good luck sweetie. If this boy ends up breaking your heart, please don't hesitate to message me. I won't say I told you so, I promise. I'll just be there. I'll listen to your story, because I remember how badly I needed someone to hear mine, someone who could explain where it all went wrong, and tell me that everything was going to be OK.
Just let me know how it goes, okay? Be careful!
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Do you want a relationship with this guy, or do you just want to hook up? If you just want sex, then this is your man. If you want a relationship, turn around and run the other way. No gentleman who cared any amount for you would GRAB YOUR HAND and put it on his crotch. He only wants sex. My prediction is if you give it up to him you'll soon be looking at the back of his head as he drops you and walks away. But all of this is something you have to find out for yourself, so trust your instincts, decide what it is you want, and then be prepared for any outcome. Good luck.
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