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Not much to say about me...But here is a site for those of you that need some advice :) It is anonymous so don't be shy, if you have a problem, tell me about it! If you want to know more about me or who i am, check my xanga site!

My friend is rather cool fyi, heck, but he's definitely not as cool as me.

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I bought a shirt from Abercrombie today and washed it when I got home (I don't like how their clothes smell). Well, when I got it out of the dryer, I noticed that I accidently grabed a Large and it's wayy too big. I don't know if they'll let me exchange it since it's been washed. What do y'all think? I can't just forget about it becasue it was a 48 dollar shirt.

I highly doubt that they will even notice you washed it. Unless the color faded or something. Just don't tell them and it should be fine. As long as there is nothing really noticable that is different then there is nothing to worry about.

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i got a sun burn on my face today..and my face is like kinda red..like along my nose and forehead and cheeks..well i dont really wanna looks so red tomorrow for school....is it possible that i can lessen the reddening by tomorrow? Thanx!

Water. Drink TONS AND TONS of water. If you do, then it will get better even in a few hours. If also is good for your skin, and will usually turn into a tan instead of a burn. If you are still red in the morning then just use a little powder or cover-up to make it more natural looking. Hope I helped :)

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ok so i have this friend, who will remain nameless. anyway we used 2 b like uber close and talk about everything. Now all of a sudden its like shes trying 2 replace me or some10, she treats me like im not there and talks 2 me when its liek convient 4 her. I try 2 talk 2 her about it but she never realy listins. Ill ask her like ok are you avoiding me and she says no, but then leaves. I decided that i just have 2 make her listin, and like in person say what i need 2 say and just find out whats going on. Am I doning the right thing? please help this is my really good friend and i dont wanna loose her.

Hm...When you try to talk to her just dont ask her if she is trying to avoid you. Have a true one on one conversation with her about it. Find a good time when you can have a good long chat with her. And tell her how upset you are getting about drifting apart, and that you really don't want to loose her as a friend because thats the last thing you want to have happen. If you find a time when you have plenty of time to talk, then it should be ok and she wont walk away. I hope I helped and if you need anymore advice please feel free to leave another message.

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I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx

Dont worry at all. I know a lot of people in that same situation. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and never let anyone ever tell you anything different.

If you dont find yourself attractive, then just try wearing a little makeup to accentuate you're good features. Like if you have nice eyes wear eyeliner and eyeshadow. It makes them more noticable and more people find you attractive. Wear flattering clothes too. Black and dark colors are always nice.

As far as being shy, just chime in on conversations that appeal to you. Like if you like a certain movie and you hear someone mention it just say :oh i love that movie!" and start talking to them about it. You get to know someone a lot better and you become more confident. Or if you arent up to that then just be very confident in general. Keep your head up when you walk and dont look down. Laugh and smile a lot because people notice when someone has a great personality like that, mostly guys notice. Guys like girls who are confident, no matter what they look like. Confidence is the key.

I really hope I helped and let me know how it goes! And just IM me for more advice if you need it :) Good luck!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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i look for porn sites on google with my computer...everytime i get on google and i type "p" and the word porn will then flash on to the screen...i dont want to get caught!!! how do i clear the history??? plz help!

Gross first of all...but w/e floats your boat...Just stop looking at porn and it will go away.

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ok. so my friend likes this guyy named cody. he has a gf tho. it all started when he was constantly flirting with her and all at this party so she got into him. also when she had a dare to go kiss every guyy in the circle. when it came to him he kissed her back! so now shes also flirting with him constantly even tho he still is together with him gf. she found out but thinks its a rumor. So cody and his gf still havnt broken up but he told my friend. (the one who likes him and who likes her also) he told my frined that he really likes her but cant because he has a gf. but sounds to me like he likes her. and supposidly he asked he out while he was still going out with his gf. what should she do? And is it right for her to still be flirting with him?

Hm...well, just get your friend to talk to him. Have her tell him thats she has a lot of feelings for him, but shes very confused by the fact that he has a gf. And yes, she wants to date him, but not while hes dating someone else. Hope I helped.

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I had a bf and he admited 2 me.. that he loves my best friend! So i dumped him yesterday! Well my ex-bf helped me the whole way threw it and He tells me im his BFFL all the time and i tell him that too. He's serious and so am i. well i love him again but everytime i start to like him again and i tell him.. we start drifting apart and arn't that close of friends anymore! Should I confess? Or wait for him to come 2 me (if he ever does) i DONT want to ruin our friendship.. but i love him soo much!

Dont directly tell him, just throw hints. Flirt a little more and spend more time with him. See how he reacts. If he backs away a little then you back away too and wait it out. If he responds well and kind of shows affection, then you should probably tell him. Hope I helped.

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well, i used to like this kid, but im slowly growing out of him ( if you know what i mean)
and well i like this other guy that almost everybody in my school likes. Hes realy perverted and everyone knows he is just kidding(most of the time)
but lately he keeps calling me, sitting near me at lunch and he keeps grabbing my ass..and i dont know if he is just kidding or not..what do i do?

He's totally usuing you...sorry. Maybe you could talk to him about it. Just tell him you dont like him grabbing your ass...cause that is kinda weird...But him calling you and sitting next to you is fine. As long as you talk about normal stuff.

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When I was little I used to be really tan, but now I'm really white, lol. I want to be darker but it's not to easy for me to get a tan. Our yard is covered with trees so there's really no sun in our yard, I can't go to the tanning bed, and I'm not to sure about that stuff you can buy that you put on that makes you tanner... I always heard it makes you look orange, lol. So what should I do? Does anyone have some suggestions? If you need to know my age I'm 15.

Bronzer works. Just don't use to much. Then you will turn orange. I think Nutrogena or w/e sells bronzer. It works really well.

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I have been looking for some shorts for summer. I like SHORT shorts. Does anyone know where I can find khaki or denim shorts that are short? (Lately, everyone has been selling the long, bermuda shorts)

American Eagle, thats probably your best bet. Yeah, all Old Navy has is bermuda shorts, blah.

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I've been looking into several ways to remove hair from my legs and underarms. One of my friends suggested using Depillatory Cream. (Such as Nair, Veet, etc) My question is, does this really work? And is it safe for underarms? What brand or product do you suggest? And how long does the hair stay off?

Creams and hair romoval stuff doesnt work very well. I asume you are looking for a faster way to get rid of hair, instead of wasting time shaving. Well, just use lotion after you shave, it keeps your legs smoother for alonger time. Shaving is the best way, there isnt really any other alternative that works well. Ive tried. Sorry.

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okay theres this guy named ryan. i love ryan. ryan says he loves me.. but me nd him get inalot of fights.. not big ones though they last like 1 hour. soo today is my birthday.. me and him were gonna hang out and i walked really far to hang out with him and then he callz my cell and says he is hangin out with (people i hate) kansa and victorea... (there on drugs) i got mad.. very mad.. nd started to walk home.. then when i get home he callz my cell again and says wanna hang out.. and it was like 8 so i was like no and blah blah then i notice he was ingoreing me.. i got mad.. and i told my friends the story. he hurts me.ditchs me.. they think i should forget about him but idk what i should do i really love him.. i cry myself to sleep every night thinking about him.. every mintue of my class i cant stop thinking about him! should i leave him or no?

p.s me and him are not going out .. we love eachother though.

please help i rate high!

You should really just talk to him about it before making a drastic move. Tell him how much he hurt you and how much trouble you went through on your birthday to see him. These are things he needs to hear. And yes, that was very jerky but just talk it out with him. If you love him, then don't let him go to easily, and if you do make sure he knows why. Hope I helped and good luck.

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well where do i start? im going out with this boy right,(let call him sam) anyway. and of course im atracted to him. but we sed that we were going to try and have an open relationship to bring us closer because weve done everything with each other and he suggested that if we got with other people then it would make us appreciate each other more. and so far its working. we dont share what we have done but we tell each other that we are doing it. so far it working. when we het back together its amazing (just thinking about it and im short of breath if you know what i mean? lol!) nyway ppl found out about it and keep telling us that we dont care bout each other and that its disgusting. we have tried explaining but no-one else seems to understand. what do you think? is it right?

Well, I guess that is a good idea in a way. Nothing is more important than cherrishing the other person more and more. But be careful about getting with other people. In the end it might hurt the relationship. Now that you know that you have strong feelings for eachother, you can probably stop getting with other people because you appreciate eachother more. Ya know? Your friends arent completely right, its not that big of a deal, but just be careful.

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Ok, i don't know what to put this under ..
Prom is coming up and i have my dress and all ..
But it shows my shoulders/back .. I brake out on my back SO bad i can only get it cleared during the summer b/c i lay out in the sun/tanning bed ..
Any way to get it clear in like 1 month or less ??
Thanks Bunches !!

There is nothing really special like certain creams or anything. But if you just get a loofa or scrub brush and wash your back really well then that should clear it up really well. You would be suprised. Hope I helped and have fun at prom.

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For health class i have to pick an anti-drug..like yeah kno...sports.. my anti-drug, but i can't think of any. I don't wanna use sports cuz sum1 already has it? does any1 hav some ideas? thnx

Music...my anti drug. that ones always cool. Have fun with it ;) Hope I helped.

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I am so confused with math. We're doing addition and subtraction of positive and negative integers. Can anyone please answer the following problems and explain how you got that answer? I rate high!

-20 - (-10) =

-35 - 16 =

There's also a sort of word problem one too. Tell me what the math sentence would be and the sum.

Start at -6. Face the negative direction. Move backward 2 units.


Please help!

-20-(-10)= -10
-35-16= -51

Basically with negatives if its a negative minus a positive then you add more to the negitive number. such as #2^^ And if its a negative or positive minus another negative, then it changes to a plus sign. So you just add them...like #1^^ It's weird at frist but once you figure it out its uber easy. Let me know if thats confusing and I'll see if i can explain better.

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Besides the University of Illinois Fighting Illini, what else is a good school, we all know the Illini rock, but just curious whos a far 2nd..

Hm...Im going to have to say OU. DUH. Boomer Sooner...nothing better.

~Ren

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So Like, omg, I'm 5' 5'' and 135 lbs! Should I lose weight? Am I fat? Am I fatter than most girls my size?

Nope, you;re not fat at all. Well, it depends on what percent is fat. If most of it is muscle then you're fine. If you are mostly fat...then just get a little toned. It really depends on how you feel about yourself. Do you feel healthy? If you are really concerned about it then just run every so often or do some crunches to get toned. You definitly arent fat though. Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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i have a boyfriend but the other night at the movies i fell asleep on another boy is tht slutty ? what do i do ? rite back soon please !

Did you fall asleep on him on purpose??? Because that could completely change the answer. Either way you arent a slut. If it was purposeful, then you are just...none...trustful i guess. But if it wasnt on purpose then just tell your boyfriend "hey, im sorry about the other night, i didnt mean to do that but the movie was boring as crap and i drifted off and i guess i just fell onto him. Im sorry." Im sure he'll understand. Hope I helped. :)

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1)what is your favorite color in a male zebra?
2) is an inchworm really an inch long?
3) Did you know that hostess is going out of business?

i think you know who this is.. we talked about this at lunch.. but no one else will answer my questions....

Hahaha, I heart you Sarah :P

1) No idea
2) yes, coolness isnt it?
3) HOSTESS WILL NEVER GO OUT OF BUSINESS! NEVER!!! :P

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