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I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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Well I dont mind performing witha friend but since i have to do one act alone im like very scared i was thinking of actintiong out a puppet show you know so people could not see my face.Pls help i neeed it fast. (link)
A puppet show is a good idea or demonstrating something like martial arts or art or something your good at doing or you could dance or sing those are a lot of the things ive seen at talent shows in the past that have been big hits. Good luck :)


ever felt like you couldn't turn to anyone? I think I'm suffering from depression but dont have the courage to speak out, I'm afraid of the stuff that comes with it... medications, being treated like a psycho and just the constant eyes wathcing your every move in case you take your life. I'm tempted just to end it all and let them all find out the hard way... What should I do? Please only give honest advice you would take yourself, not what you think I should hear or want to hear (link)
you need to talk to someone because a lot of people think they have depression but most times they dont there just really upset about something and because they have been bottling it up they become depressed and self diagnose themselves with depression one thing you need to know about depression is it doesnt always involve medicaton and being treated differently most times just talking it out is enough to make a person feel better so sit down with a friend or family member or even someone here on advicenators im sure there is someone who can help you.


Iam going to my boyfriends sister's wedding on may 14th and Iam not really big on dresses do I have to get dressed up and if I do do I have to wear a dress can I wear jeans? (link)
Jeans is probably not the best way to dress up for a wedding and especially your bf's sisters because this is going to be kind of a first impression so you want to make a good one so if your not big on dresses maybe go for dress pants and a nice top or just find a dress you feel comfortable in but dont wear jeans.


With my cousins and my siblings, it's always revenge. Whenever we do something bad to someone, whether accident or not, we always do something worse to that person. All except me. I think what they're doing is wrong. What can I do? (link)
It just they way some people are and it can even be called a habit and its hard to change that and no matter how much it bothers you and you may want to change it the truth is you cant they have to grow up and change and eventually they will but what you could do it help them realize that what they are doing is hurting eachother and that they should stop.


15/f


I'm afraid of true tanning, but I have to admit it--my legs are simply glow in the dark. If I use a self-tanning lotion, a gradual one like Nivea, will it make my legs a strange color compared to the rest of my pale but not sickly skin, or will it be the same as the rest of me? Will I have to use it in different quantities on the rest of me to get even, natural results? Whatever I do I refuse to use it on my face as my face is very sensitive. I don't even wanna be tan, just a little darker on the legs so that I don't glow.

I have some time to experiment, but hopefully it's something that one get blotchy with pool water, as I have a summer camp in July that I'd really like to wear shorts/flip-flops to. (link)
Foundation is a good way to go and adding some primer to it will make it last but it wont be waterproof but its a good way to go and a lot of people do it and its just a lot safer since your not going to be using harsh chemicals on yourself hope that helps.


17/F

I'm a very cynical person. I ALWAYS think that people are just selfish and manipulative. This is obviously a problem because it prevents me from being close with others. Also, it's the cause of most of the fights between me and my boyfriend. How do I fix this? I don't want to think so badly of everyone all the time...I just have this constant "everyone is out to manipulate me" idea. How do I stop thinking this way and become more trusting of people? I just want to be happy and assume the best of people. Thank you for any advice. (link)
Your not the only person with this problem a lot of people are like that and the best way to deal with it is think of how you would like to be treated before thinking badly about someone think of how you would feel if thats how someone felt about you before you decide on how a person is try and get to know them tell yourself that you dont know enough about them to think there bad basically thinking before acting will help. Good luck :)


My family says i make the best chocolate chip cookies ever!! But i wanna try something new. Does anyone have any really awesome cookie recipes?
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please and thank you!! (link)
I just made these cookies and i absoloutely love them and my family and friends thought they were the most amazing things ever heres the link to the recipe

http://www.joyofbaking.com/CheckerboardCookies.html

enjoy :)


I currently have a Sony Cybershot 7.2. I want a new one and the ones I like are the Nikon Coolpix s4000 and the Samsung pl200. Which one is better? I've never had a touch screen camera before, does it work well/easy to use? Also, which one takes better pictures like while moving and stuff? Does the flash not make you blink in both? (link)
i have the nikon coolpix s400 and it is by far the best camera ive ever owned it takes amazing pictures with perfect quality and is simple enough to use. Touch screen is easy to work infact i think its much easier than a regular camera and like i said before the nikon takes amazing pictures there very clear and the flash is not that bright so you should be okay.


Is aeropostale and P.S from aeropostale the same store?
I dont have a P.S from aeropostale store by my house, but I have a aeropostale nearby. I got a coupon that says I have to use it at P.S from aeropostale instead of aeropostale. So that means I cant use the coupon at an aeropostale store?
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well p.s is a part of aeropostale and i think if you dont have a p.s in your aeropostale store then you would be able to use it at an aeropostale store but i think you should go to your local aeropostale and ask them or sometimes the coupon has it written in small writing so check it out.


So ok this is kinda long but please read it

So a week or 2 ago i was going out with this really hot sweet boy but he is very peverted (it kinda turns me on though) So yeah he broke up with me for like no reason and then went out with my friend lets call her brea so i was like depressed a little,but then they broke up and i was like "yes".on friday we were hanging out and i had my legs on his lap and we were talking and having a good time.Ans he leans over and says "i like you still" and kisses my cheek then runs out of the room to leave for our 2 week break.This was also the day a boy i used to like said he likrd me. so i told my friend lets call her jane.She started to tear up and said "well do you like him cuse i really like him" so of course i lied and told her no but i don't know i am soo confused i want to go out with him again but i don't wanna hurt Jane!!!please i really need some advice

THNX IN ADVANCE
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Well i think unless this guy likes ur friend jane and she gets asked out by him or she asks him out i think it would be okay for you to go out with him so i think you should figure out if this guy likes u or your friend because if he likes you then i say you should go for it because your friend doesnt really have a reason to be mad or hurt if he only likes you.


so me and my boyfriend had sex june 23rd through the 26th. we used condoms and he pulled out in advance before he came and there were no breaks, holes, etc, but also i'm not on birth control. i was supposed to get my period around the 3rd or 4th this month but i've just been cramping off and on like its going to happen and then it doesnt and i also have some white discharge. i've been stressing quite a bit that i could be pregnant but considering the circumstances i dont think i am. premenstrual symptoms are almost the same as pregnancy ones so i cant tell. i think i'm just paranoid. could i be pregnant though? (link)
You could be possibly but i would suggest maybe doing a home pregnancy test and after that going to your doctor to make sure im sure you would rather be in the know.


I am a fifteen year old girl and one of my very very best friends is a boy who is sixteen. No. I don't like him. He has always been there for me. He used to be my boyfriends bff but when me and my bf broke up I kind of took him with me... teehee :). Anyway, even when I was dating my ex, my guy friend and I were super close. We tell eachother everything. But I feel like our relationship is sooo weird. Cuz we hold hands and cuddle and I sit in his lap and what not and we flirt with eachother sometimes but we never kiss or anything. We're just really touchy and flirty friends? Haha. But we both like different people. The guy I like right now doesn't really liike the kind of relationship me and my guyfriend have and I guess I can't blame him. I'm not really sure how my ex was ever okay with it... But I dunno, we've always done this. Is it weird?? It doesn't feel that weird to me when we do it but it sounds weird haha I don't know! I wanna make things work with this new guy. He knows I don't like my guyfriend he's just not comfortable with us being so touchy... What do I do? I feel like the touching is just part of our friendship... (link)
Honestly ive never heard of a friendship like that and i dont think that can honestly be called a friendship it seems more couply and i know you say you two dont have feelings for eachother but if this kind of closeness and touchy flirty thing keeps going on then no guy will be interested in you and no girl will be interested in him because it just seems wierd sorry not trying to be mean or anything but you said it yourself its a wierd relationship what i would suggest is maybe going out try turning your friendship in a relationship more than friendship then it would seem normal and maybe even make you realize you do actually have feeligns for eachother just give it a chance.


I would honestly like it if a muslim on this site answered me this question, no offence or anything but i just think that because me myself is muslim, the person who reads this that is muslim will be able to help me out in this situation, im 15 years old, and im egyptian american, i live in egypt right now, and i put on the hijab(veil) when i was around 12-13.. i was overweight back then, and i didnt really care or think about anything so i just put it on because the rest of my sisters did, and back then i did like it, but only because i didnt know that i would never go out with my hair again, dont get me wrong please, the hijab is a beautiful thing, and a woman often feels more protected with it on, but right now im 15. and the only thing i could think about is how badly i want to remove it and put it on when i feel like i want to, i lost all my weight, my whole life ive always been ugly, and i never even felt pretty, up to today i still feel the same, i jsut want to show off my hair, because i feel like its the only thing that keeps me looking pretty, i dont want anyone to judge me, and honestly i dont really care what anyone thinks of me. i know that in the very end its betweeen me and Allah. i talked to my dad about this before, when i first got the idea and he told me that i should do what i want, and all that, even though you can tell that he didnt want me to take it off but he saw me crying so he told me to take it off to try and see how it feels, and then after a little while he told me i wasnt going to take it off and that im keeping it on and became very controlling, and i fought with him about it and it ended my way.. like either way im going to do what i feel is right for myself. he says hes dissapointed but my dad has never really been around for me anyways, and never told me he was proud of me so his dissapointment doesnt really make much of a diffrence based on the fact that he was never there for me that much. anwyays.. im just scared. i dont know what to do, i really wanna take it off, like, nothing can convince me to keep it on. i just want to know everyones opinions on this, my dad keeps talking about how im going to take him to hell, and i just feel like only Allah truly understands me. im tired of people telling me im going to hell, and others telling me im going to die on my way to wherever i am going when i take it off, i just want to know everyones opinions on this situation, im not asking a particular question, im just asking for general advice. thank you for taking the time to read this. xx. (: (link)
Hi im not muslim im punjabi but i have a lot of friends who are and have gone through similar situations so i can understand and i can help you because i also helped them. I know its hard when it comes to religion and following through on traditions and all but sometimes traditions can become kinda heavy on you. What my friends do is wear the hijab sometimes like maybe a couple of times a month and to special occassions such as weddings and stuff and at school and work and birthdays and other friend related parties they just keep there hair out that way its kinda the best of both worlds i mean this way your still following tradition and keeping your parents happy and also keeping yourself happy. Ive had friends who wore it when we were in elementary school and then stopped wearing it in high school and there parents were okay with it. It will take time for you and your family to get use to it but i mean your not doing anything bad i mean you still belive in your culture and follow other traditions so not doing this one thing isnt going to make you any less muslim or make you go to hell. I hope my advice helps.


is it healthy to use whey protien shakes as a meal replacement for 1 or 2 meals a day when trying to lose some weight?
what are some tips when using protien shakes as meal replacements?
are they ok to use even when you work out everyday? or are they going to make you lose a lot of energy (link)
any kind of protein shakes are not good to use as meal replacements because the nutrients you get from actual food your not gonna get from a protein shake so i wouldnt suggest it besides protein shakes can actually make you gain weight if you have them more than once a day and if they have too much sugar i suggest to lose weight you stick to exercising and dieting and for dieting you dont have to do anything extreme just take out oily/fatty sugary foods basically eliminate junk food and sugary drinks and combine that with a little exercise and you will see a huge difference in just the first 2-3 weeks Good luck :)


Alright, so my boyfriend and i recently broke up about a month ago, we dated off and on for one year. we have a weird relationship that no one else could really understand.. well I'm in love with him.. and i know he is with me.. but well, its long distance. I wasn't able to see him sometimes for a month, but that's because the person i stayed with went away on business a lot and then i wasn't able to go because of family emergencies.. now i am so afraid to talk to him and i think he is trying everything he can to let go and forget because it hurts.. i haven't been to see him in three weeks, and i am going to see him in a few days because he is my friends relative.. i have tried everything.. and i have guys coming at me every which way.. but no one compares to him, and no one can make me forget him.. he is even in my dreams... almost every night.. and i had to delete his number because i couldn't stand to look at it.. i love him.. and i have no idea what to.. what do i do? do i let him go because i know he can be so much happier i think.. or do i go for the only man i can ever feel the way i do about him? (link)
I know it sucks when the person you love the most is just hard to be with with but like youve probably heard long distance realationships dont work and the reason is because of the distance and the fact that you cant talk all the time or hang out all the time which will create problems i know its going to be hard to forget about him and its probably gonna be just as hard to forget about you but you have to move on because it just wont work out a successful relationship is one that has communication and understanding and that cant happen from a distance so as hard as its gonna be you have to just move on and meet new guys eventually you will find someone who your meant to be with or if destiny allows it you two will find a way to be together at some point in life.


Hello i have a 4 month Toy Fox Terrier the vet said he doesnt think she's gonna get much bigger. I want to put a collar and her rabies vaccination on her collar but i cant because she'll bite it. I also want to put an ID tag on her but once again she just chews. Any suggestions? (link)
What i suggest doing is getting a spiky collar thats what i did for my dog and he stoped because everytime he would go to chew it he would get hit by the spike and would stop. If that doesnt work keep it busy with chew toys and stuff but ya dont worry about it chewing it up if you stop it eventually it will stop as it gets older so dont worry about it. I hope this helps :)


I subscribed to Seventeen magazine about two or three weeks ago. How long does it usually take for them to get the subscription? I tried entering one of their freebie contests on their website a day after my dad sent the subscription in the mail. I accidentally signed up for a trial subscription, and it was canceled the next day. I was wondering if that could have possibly interfered with the subscription that I sent by mail? Is there any way I can find out? (link)
It takes about 2-3 weeks for them to get the subscription and no dont worry it didnt interfere because you did it after you sent it so dont worry just wait a little while im sure you will start getting your magazines but if you still want to make sure they got your subscription go on the website and find out there contact information and call them or email them and ask them. :)


really random question - im evan and im 15 years old and im basically done with puberty. why does my voice still crack all the time??? what makes it crack and is there a way to stop it from cracking? (link)
Your still in the phase of puberty actually and you will be for another year or two and some things you can do to prevent it from cracking is to relax Your voice naturally gets higher when you are tense. If you are speaking before a crowd, try to relax and take deep breaths. Try not to be nervous, this will cause involuntary spasms in your voicebox, causing the pitch to fluctuate. Calm down. Secondly give your voice a rest. Try not to scream. Bellow (from the diaphragm) if you have to, but don't scream (or squeal). Get a microphone or cup your hands. Thirdly if you are a screamer, take it easy on the icy cold water. Drink lukewarm water instead. Imagine getting doused with ice water after a workout. You involuntarily tense up, no matter how awesome it feels. Fourth drink water if you will be talking for a while it reduces stress on the chords and lastly try making a hot water and honey drink to calm the vocals. Thats what seems to work for a lot of people at the time of puberty.


I think that i cut my gum above one of my teeth on the top of my mouth. its like my third tooh from the middle. my gum is red and it hurts, but only by that tooth.

is there anything i can do to help it heal? anything besidse using salt water? is there anything like an antibiotic ointment for your skin that can be used on your gums? I don't want something just to numb it, i want it to heal! (link)
Ice helps just as much as salt water if not more so you should try that or try really cold water anything cold will really do and try not to put to much pressure on that and ya just keep doing that and im sure eventually it will heal it might take awhile but it will heal so dont worry. If you feel like you really cant take the pain go to your dentist see if he/she can help.


I met my best friend when I was 8 years old. As we grew, he knew my feelings towards him, but we remained friends. When my parents split up me and my little sister were in a since, taken in by his family. It created a bond so strong I cry when I think of our situation now.
Now at the age of 21 I am engaged to a wonderful man, but my friend refuses to talk me, I haven’t heard from him in two years, I can still communicate with his family but I think that makes things harder. I have always loved him even when I was 8. When he finally admitted his feelings for me I was 16, I can’t begin to describe how much we loved each other. But we never dated, when the opportunity was presented, I shied away. I don’t know why, maybe fear to lose what we had but that didn’t turn out well.
When I try to talk to him I get nothing, his family wont continue the subject, his father urges we both should focus on our current relationships but no matter how much I love my fiancé I have not idea if I will regret not seeking out my childhood love. I don’t know what to do if I cant talk to him, I don’t even know if he still loves me. What should I do? (link)
I think if you truly love your fiancee now then theres no point in looking back and thinking of what could be because youve started a new life and if your truly love your life now then theres no question about it just live it and enjoy it but if your feel like your love for your friend is stronger and somewhere in your heart you feel that you just cant live without him then you need to go to him and tell him you love him it has to be one or the other and you have to make a decision quick because you dont want to toy with anyones feelings. I hope i helped :)




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