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I would honestly like it if a muslim on this site answered me this question, no offence or anything but i just think that because me myself is muslim, the person who reads this that is muslim will be able to help me out in this situation, im 15 years old, and im egyptian american, i live in egypt right now, and i put on the hijab(veil) when i was around 12-13.. i was overweight back then, and i didnt really care or think about anything so i just put it on because the rest of my sisters did, and back then i did like it, but only because i didnt know that i would never go out with my hair again, dont get me wrong please, the hijab is a beautiful thing, and a woman often feels more protected with it on, but right now im 15. and the only thing i could think about is how badly i want to remove it and put it on when i feel like i want to, i lost all my weight, my whole life ive always been ugly, and i never even felt pretty, up to today i still feel the same, i jsut want to show off my hair, because i feel like its the only thing that keeps me looking pretty, i dont want anyone to judge me, and honestly i dont really care what anyone thinks of me. i know that in the very end its betweeen me and Allah. i talked to my dad about this before, when i first got the idea and he told me that i should do what i want, and all that, even though you can tell that he didnt want me to take it off but he saw me crying so he told me to take it off to try and see how it feels, and then after a little while he told me i wasnt going to take it off and that im keeping it on and became very controlling, and i fought with him about it and it ended my way.. like either way im going to do what i feel is right for myself. he says hes dissapointed but my dad has never really been around for me anyways, and never told me he was proud of me so his dissapointment doesnt really make much of a diffrence based on the fact that he was never there for me that much. anwyays.. im just scared. i dont know what to do, i really wanna take it off, like, nothing can convince me to keep it on. i just want to know everyones opinions on this, my dad keeps talking about how im going to take him to hell, and i just feel like only Allah truly understands me. im tired of people telling me im going to hell, and others telling me im going to die on my way to wherever i am going when i take it off, i just want to know everyones opinions on this situation, im not asking a particular question, im just asking for general advice. thank you for taking the time to read this. xx. (:
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Hi im not muslim im punjabi but i have a lot of friends who are and have gone through similar situations so i can understand and i can help you because i also helped them. I know its hard when it comes to religion and following through on traditions and all but sometimes traditions can become kinda heavy on you. What my friends do is wear the hijab sometimes like maybe a couple of times a month and to special occassions such as weddings and stuff and at school and work and birthdays and other friend related parties they just keep there hair out that way its kinda the best of both worlds i mean this way your still following tradition and keeping your parents happy and also keeping yourself happy. Ive had friends who wore it when we were in elementary school and then stopped wearing it in high school and there parents were okay with it. It will take time for you and your family to get use to it but i mean your not doing anything bad i mean you still belive in your culture and follow other traditions so not doing this one thing isnt going to make you any less muslim or make you go to hell. I hope my advice helps.
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