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Marriage without closure?
I met my best friend when I was 8 years old. As we grew, he knew my feelings towards him, but we remained friends. When my parents split up me and my little sister were in a since, taken in by his family. It created a bond so strong I cry when I think of our situation now.
Now at the age of 21 I am engaged to a wonderful man, but my friend refuses to talk me, I haven’t heard from him in two years, I can still communicate with his family but I think that makes things harder. I have always loved him even when I was 8. When he finally admitted his feelings for me I was 16, I can’t begin to describe how much we loved each other. But we never dated, when the opportunity was presented, I shied away. I don’t know why, maybe fear to lose what we had but that didn’t turn out well.
When I try to talk to him I get nothing, his family wont continue the subject, his father urges we both should focus on our current relationships but no matter how much I love my fiancé I have not idea if I will regret not seeking out my childhood love. I don’t know what to do if I cant talk to him, I don’t even know if he still loves me. What should I do?
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It is never a good idea if you have past regrets holding onto you, while in a new relationship. You DO need closure, for yourself, and for your childhood love. Even if it turns up nothing, at least you will know that you tried to repair things between the two of you.
As for your fiance, no matter how upsetting it would be for him, you cannot go behind his back if you decide to pursue closer. He needs to understand that you need to do it before you commit to him for good.
However, if you are NOT looking for closure, but instead wishing to pursue a relationship with your old friend, you need to look at your priorities. Who means more, your friend, or your fiance? If you believe things would work out with your friend, do you really think that it would be worth leaving your fiance for? Consider these things.
But, if you are looking only for closure with your friend, by all means, search it out. Your marriage will be happier without regrets in the back of your mind.
Best of luck, I wish you a great life with whomever you choose.
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I think if you truly love your fiancee now then theres no point in looking back and thinking of what could be because youve started a new life and if your truly love your life now then theres no question about it just live it and enjoy it but if your feel like your love for your friend is stronger and somewhere in your heart you feel that you just cant live without him then you need to go to him and tell him you love him it has to be one or the other and you have to make a decision quick because you dont want to toy with anyones feelings. I hope i helped :)
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