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my names amanda im 17 years old & i like to help people out (:
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So, this is my problem and my friends are all annoying. All names are made up.I like jim, nikki is going out with mike.
dani likes thomas and is obsessed with him pretty much, well shes flirting with jim to get thomas jealous, and tanny awants her too so she can get over Thomas. This makes nikki mad so shes flirting with him bc she doesnt want him liking dani, which makes mike sad, and shan is also wanting dani to flirt with jim because she doesnt want nikki to do it and hurt mike so now he has these girls all over him and i was talking to him and hes like omg just get off me! and hes coming over to talk with me and dani or nikki comes running over and im like OMG STOP IT and then dani got mad at me and thinks i like jim which i do but she shouldnt know and jim is like thanks and im starting to like him more. and dani wants to go out with jim to get over thomas and he might go out with her. What should i do to:
1-get nikki to stop it with jim?
2-get dani to think i dont like jim, and to stop flirting with him?
3-get jim to like me?
4- get thomas and dani to go out?
5- get shan and tanny to stop encouraging dani?
thanks soooo much and sorry its long! i rate high
alright well this is a bit confusing haha but lets see..
basically, what i think you need to do is tell all your friends that you like jim and that they need to find a new guy to flirt with. and if you're not comfortable with telling all your friends, you need to at least let dani know or else shes just going to keep flirting with him and this wont stop...
after that, talk to jim, dont flirt a whole lot with him, but talk to him like a friend so he doesnt think you're just another annoying girl, and he'll pry start to like you after that.. and then after all those girls stop flirting with him, go ahead and start flirting again with him letting him know you like him.. and then, if he likes you, there ya go! =p
(also you said dani likes tomahs shes just trying to make him jealous by flirting with jim, so she shouldnt have a problem finding a new man to flirt with. and also i dont understand why niki is flirting with jim? you need to tell her to stop being mean to mike.)
15/f
umm so ive been trying to be nicer to people lately, and ive been speaking my mind a lot more recently. however, even though i like the fact that i speak my mind, i dont like the part about how ive been nicer to people. i know crazy right? i feel like im..idk, begging for friends i guess. and this feeling just makes my heart feel kinda heavy with um..regret? regret that i cant just be nice to people and not feel like im begging for friends.. i guess.
and people have been nicer to me lately, even people who i would never expect to be nice [mostly the "semipopular" and "popular" group] and i just feel like..I DONT DESERVE THIS! i dont know why i feel like i dont deserve it. i guess its because i spent 7th-9th grade wanting soo bad to be popular and now that i am actually getting attention from people [girls AND boys] i feel like i dont deserve any of it. like whenever i sense someone trying to be my friend i get excited, then i get turned off like "wow this person must be desparate to want ME as a friend".
now you probably think i have low self-esteem but honestly, i DONT! i think v. highly of myself, its just hard to think that others may think highly of me too, even though it was my goal 7th-9th grade to get others to think highly of me. i think that maybe i just dont like it when people get too close to me. like for example if im really nice to someone i feel like i have to act kinda mean to them the next time i see them, or start ignoring them. i started thinking about it, and i thought maybe this is a case of "i want what i cant have, and i dont want what i do have"? do you agree? and do you have any advice to help me?
i just want to be happy, comfortable, and secure.
thanks for reading
i promise u people dont think your begging for them to be friends with you
and im pretty sure people arent begging for you to be friends with them
you've just been being more YOU lately, expressing yourself, and people like that
they mightve never really talked to you before, but now they are really seeing who you are and they're like hey, this girls pretty cool!
also... bascially its like this
if you want them as your friends, you just stop thinking "i dont deserve this" and you just keep being yourself and make the friends and what not
if you relaly just dont like the attention, then your probably a bit antisocial, and go ahead and be a jerk to them because if you do that, they'll think you're just a snob and youll turn them off
k !
okay so theres this guy that ive liked since the beginnig of school. and tomorrow on valentines day, hes asking me out!
i like him so much, and hes really cute. the only thing stopping me from saying yes, is making out. now when i see him around school, like inbetween classes and stuff, id just peck kiss him. and im fine with that. (ive peck kissed before) but like before&after school when i see him, usually thats when you makeout. now the weird thing is ive madeout once before, in a dark closet so no one saw. now that kiss i thought went well, but im so self consious, so i dont want to kiss someone and then they say im a bad kisser. but my main problem is- i dont want to have to kiss him at school because then everyone will watch, and im afraid ill look bad making out. i know this sounds really stupid, but its just something im not confident doing because i havent done it alot before. im also still not even completely sure of how to makeout! and please dont say "tell him you dont want to do it at school yet, if he doesnt understand hes not worth your time" because i have to do it at school, eventually, when we go out.
SO PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE (AND INCLUDE YOUR ADVICE ON HOW TO MAKEOUT)
dont worry about if other people are watching..
and if you like NEED to makeout at school, just go with the flow. when he goes in to makeout with you, just do it! i mean you guys are gonna makeout some time or another, so if your guna do it at school, just go for it! nobodys guna watch you or think "WOW that girl cant kiss!" trust me.. the first kiss might be a bit awkward, then after that it'll be hott ;]
there's this guy who asked me out today after school. he's okay but i don't want to get into a relationship right now. i don't know if this is the guy i've been waiting for. how will i know what to say... Valentine's day is coming up and i don't want him to be heartbroken. what should i do???
well, if you dont know him very well and if you dont want a relationship just let him know that you dont really want a boyfriend right now, but youd love to get to know him and what not. maybe you guys could have like a "date" for valentines day to get to know him?!
ok so i had sex for the first time the other night. i know i was ready so please don't tell me any of that. but we didn't use a condem, yes, i know i'm stupid. i know he didn't come in me. i know i have a big chance of getting pregnant, buuut - i had stopped my period that morning. after i stop my periods i usually just spot bleed for about 2 or 3 days after, & i have been doing that after i had sex, so does this mean i'm for sure not pregnant ? pleaseee help me.
alright im no expert but
ive been having sex for over a year with no condom, my boyfriend just pulls out before he cums
you are probably NOT pregnant if your boyfriend didnt cum in you
it still is possible and you wont know for about a month
but dont stress too much on it..
plus, idk if your saying you had sex while you were on your period? but , there is a lot lesser chance of getting pregnant when you have sex on your period because of the ovulation and what not
So, i had sex today. and i ended my period a little over a week ago; well me and the boyfriend didn't use a condom,so he busted his load all in me. should i be worried about becoming pregnant?
SHOULD YOU BE WORRIED? UhhH YES.. duh?
Hi, Im a girl and 18 and I'm a virgin, I've never had anything inside of my vagina, not even a tampon...i do masturbate but never stick my finger inside of me....today i thought i tried cus my boyfrined and i have gotten serious..well when i inserted my finger inside of me it really really hurt and i tried again later and it really really hurt again...im scared is there a reason why its hurting so much besides ive never had nething inside of me....
its just because you're very tight for never having anything inside of you..
you should try fingering yourself a few more times to try to losen yourself up a bit and to be more comfortable when he does it
goodluck!
14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex?
i met a guy who i really liked at 14, we knew eacthother for about a month, and we did EVERYTHING together and then finally had sex! it was great, and now we've been together for almost a year!
if you really want to, and think your ready for it, GO FOR IT! =]
hi um i've been having sex with my boyfriend for about a year and i'm having a terrible problem with my urine. it burns really bad and i get urges to pee when i can't. i've went to see if it was a urinarytractinfection but it's not. could it be a yeast infection? if so, how can i get help without telling my mom or going to a gyno!
ive gotten this like 3 times
its a bladder infection..
you need to see the doctor, even if you dont want to tell your mom, if you dont take care of it, it could get worse and turn into kidney infection, which is a MUCH more serious problem
Okay, right after I shave down there. Its always really itchy and I get alot of little red dots on the side of my thigh, what wear people get bikin waxed. A few monthes ago, the same thing was happening, so I stopped shaving. And, the itchiness dissapeared, along with the dots. I dont want to stop shaving, cause, you know....But, any advice on whats happening and what I should do?
thanks
the first few times i started shaving i got razor burn also.. try using a different razor.
speed3 triple blade razor is what i use, it works very well, and use a shaving gel (skintimate shaving gel works great)
dont use a single blade, if you are that could be the problem
i usually shave my pubic hair every so often but it hurts when i shave it.
then when it starts to grow back it gets itchy.
does nair work?
[15/f]
DONT USE NAIR
i have experienced this firsthand, used it to make the pubic hair not so thick but it ended up burning like hell, even for about an hour AFTER using it
use Speed3 triple blade razors and shaving cream/gel (skintimate is great) this is what i use, i shave about once a week and it doesnt hurt or ich at all!
Hi im a 14 year old female and i am about 4foot9 in height and i only weigh like 74.6 pounds and i really want to fit a size 0 or 1 in skinny leg jeans because all of my jeans and school pants fit way too lose and when i finally find a pair of pants that fit tight enough they are too short and when i find a pair that are long enough they are too big and i dont have an eating disorder or anything (i eat alot by the way)so when i asked the doctor what the problem was she said that my weight was steady so i cant gain or lose weight so i just wanted to know how i could go from a size kids 12 to a regular 0 or 1 please and thank-you!
well.. you dont want to try to gain weight by eating a lot of fattning deserts, because then if you do gain wiehgt, it will be fat, and then you'll get celulite.. i really cant answer this question because you probably are just built small, trust me.. my sister was skinny, she started eating a shitload, fast food/cookies ect.. she gained weight, but now shes like.. chubby, be happy with your body, eat meat and workout((lift weights to tone and build muscle)) that will help you fit better in your clothing
okay so im 5'4" 140 lbs, i wanna tone up mainly my thighs and stomach but my arms too, i know i need to eat healthy and exercise which will have no problem cause softball season is starting, but how long do i have to cut down and diet to lose about 15 lbs? pleaseee help me , thanks
15/f
with softball you'll deffinately be doing a lot of running, so just go to the gym and run on the treadmill and lift weights.. do the weight machines on your arms and legs, and just eat healthier, meats and veggies and a few fruits and youll lose weight i promise. thats what ive been doing for the last month and i already look great
i had a relationship two years ago with a guy 3 years older than me. it ended after 4 months with a mutual decision to break up just because we lost interest in each other. he had another girlfriend by the end of the day and as you can imagine "shocked" was an understatement for my emotions that day. we didn't talk again for about a year when one day at around 3am we both happened to be online so we talked. then i didn't talk to him again. this week he's texted me everyday and we've been talking but its weird. its just like "whats up?" "nothing you?" "nothing....soooo" and then we don't talk until the next day. i didn't even know he still had my number because i deffinately did not have his. ok on to the question. what does he want?!!? why would someone randomly want to talk to their ex. its not like we hated each other, we just didn't talk. he's been with the girlfriend he had when we broke up ever since so im wondering if he's only talking to me because they broke up? but im not sure if they did and i dont want to ask because i dont want him to think i like him or want him back or anything. sooo why is he talking to me? i don't mind im just trying to figure out what he's thinking without asking him if thats possible.
i would say that he probably misses you.. just wants to talk and maybe hang out and even date again..:)
i was thinkin about makin my own tattoo, before you say anything about how dangereous it is to do it and how itll look bad well im already an artist who sold a paintin for 20,000. but im only 15 so my parents wouldnt let me buy a tattoo gun so i'll probably use a needle adn heat it up to sterilize it, and dip it in some ink, and mkae my moon/star tattoo. but how deep do you have to put the needle in your skin? and after your finished do u have to put a bandage over it? if so, for how long?
You shouldn't tatoo yourself unless you've learned/taken a class on how to do it. If you have to ask these questions, you shouldn't be doing it because you might stick the needle in too far ect...
I am sexually active.. and i have had a problem for a little while now and im unsure what it is. It's a white color discharge that comes out in mass amounts sometimes it smells like mayo.. it know it sounds gross... lol sometime i feel like i just got my perod then i look and its all this white stuff rarely it burns it doesnt hurt to have sex its just gross and embarrassing so i try not to.. it doesnt itch at all.. what is this?
girl.. i get the SAME thing.. idk if its from sex or what but i would like this question answered also :) [[sorry for not answering ur question]]
I'm 16 and a girl and need a little help...This 1 boy asked me out by a note and i didnt know what to say especially since i only liked him as a friend and nothing more. i would feel really bad if i told him no so i just didnt respond. now this year when he sees me he'll look at me and smile at me and i just dont know if he still likes me like that and if he does, what should i do?hes nice and sweet and stuff but i only want to be friends.
if he keeps looking at you like that then yes he probably still likes you. but if you only like him as a friend dont give him the wrong idea. next time you see him try to talk to him and either tell him you just want to be friends or if thats too awkward give hints. be nice, but dont flirt because that will give him the wrong idea and then you'll break his heart =[ but if he asks you out again, just tell him you want to stay friends
f/16
Last night. My boyfriend and I were alone together in his car. There was no one around at all. We moved to the back of his car and things got pretty heated up, but he knows not to try too much because I've told him that I'm not ready to take my pants off at all yet.
But. He took my hand and put it down his pants.
Since I like him... I wanted to at least try. But I just ended up pulling my hand out and getting really scared. I stopped him from doing anything else. We just stopped completely. I guess that was a bad thing. Because then we just sat there silent in the back of his car. He asked me what was wrong but I couldn't really explain anything. Wasn't it obvious? I guess he needed it spelled out for him. When I couldn't do that he got really upset.
He ended up getting really pissed and not even talking to me and overreacting. He started pacing and then just told me to get in the car. At that point I was ready to cry.
So he's driving me home, completely upset and frustrated. And he speeds and runs a red light. A cop pulls us over and he got a ticket.
When I got home late my parents bitched at me and took away my cell phone.
I tried to talk to my boyfriend about things but. He. I don't know. I feel like what he said to me was just.
He told me that he's scared.
I told him that I was upset still and his response was. Well I just got a ticket.. so...
I guess I just. I wasn't ready for what he wanted me to do. I know he probably would have been cool with slowing down but I couldn't communicate and that made everything worse.
Please tell me what you think about everything. Help me figure out what to say to him now, because I don't know how to tell him what I'm feeling. I don't feel like he'd even try to understand.
Thanks.
well first of all you told him you werent ready.. and if hes getting upset that you wouldnt take your pants off/do sexual things with him then you dont even need to be with a guy like that. if hes getting that upset over what you explained, he doesnt seem like a very nice guy =[. if YOU'RE not ready for it, dont be pressured. and even tho you couldnt exactly explain it, he should beable to understand that you dont want to/arent ready, and if he cant.. and gets that angry? then forget him
Okay, so yesterday one of my girl friends(Tess) and guy friend(C), told me that this one guy(Steve) who I've liked on and off for about 2 years liked me. S has liked and went out with my best friend (Ash) about 3 times, but S didn't like A any longer. Well last night everyone at this party kept telling him to sit by me and make a move, but I guess he was too scared. Ash knew I kind of liked S but still seemed to do what she always does, rub things in. Later that night, she was telling me that they were going out, which earlier he just told her to act like they were because this weird guy wanted Ash. But she called me saying they kissed and that they were going out. This always happens, whenever I like someone she starts to like them or she does something. The one time a guy who she previously liked started to like me she made my life a living hell. So, later later on that night I texted him and said, hope that kiss with ash was good. Do you think that was mean and uncalled for, when he just told my friends earlier that night he liked me.
I'm not exactly sure what my questions is except, do you think I was wrong for getting semi-mad at him(steve) and her(ash), more at ash though. Also, do you think he likes me still, or does he like ash, because he also told my friends that he wouldn't get with ash and gave a yeah right look at them.
Anything else you have to say will be appriciated. Thanks so much !
15/f
well first of all ash doesnt seem lyk a very good friend.. she probably "thinks" she likes him just because when she found out you and him liked eachother she got jealous. so she jumped right on him before you and him could. and he probably is only doing this to make you jealous. ive had a similiar experience. if he said those things to ur friends taht he liked you and that he didnt like ash, then hes probably telling the truth. i think the text was a good thing, it will make him feel bad about what he did.
As a rough percentage.. what are the chances of getting pregnant by pre-cum when there was no penetration, no penis/vagina touching.. just fingers touching lips which didnt enter either
There is no way you could get pregnant. He wouldve had to enter you or his precum wouldve had to slide into your vagina some how?