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I come from a small town in New York called Fulton. not many people in our high school maybe 300 something. But I still love it here. I am most like any other 17 year old girl but I am not all that girly, I grew up with all guys except my best friend who I meet when I was 6. I love to dance, I also love the UFC! I am the biggest dork ever and I just dont care beucase I love it! There are very few people in this world that I love with all my heart. I still act like a little kid most of the time. I can't stand people who are fake and who casue drama. I get along with just about everyone and I tell it like it is.

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OK so I've been dating this guy for a year and I'm totally crazy about him but I'm his first girlfriend and I've dated 2 guys in the past. One of them I dated on and off for almost 2 1/2 years and we are still really good friends. I've only kissed my bf, not like madeout or ne thing but my old b/f and me made out a bunch of times. My best friend thinks I am being dishonest by not telling my new bf about what me and my x have done but he's never asked and it's never been a problem so I don't see why he needs know. Question: am I being dishonest and does my new bf have the right to know or should I leave it because it's in the past?

Leave it in the past if he cares about it he will bring it up if not then its all good your being dishonest at all. just if he ever brings it up tell him. if not no biggy and its only making out its not anything major

sorry its long
Me and my mom have a really good relationship We never fight or anything i love it. But the only thing is i dont think she trusts me and she is really protective. I think its because im the youngest in my whole family, like cousins and nephews and everything. I never lie to her because i dont feel the need to and she knows it(plus if i did she would probably catch me anyway and it would be worse) But my mom never lets me go out and do fun things. She will let me go out locally because i live in a small area. But like if i want to go to concert in the city she wont et me unless there is "adult supervision" She never did that to my sister! Or if i wanna go vist my friend because she lives 4 hours away my mom wont let me take the bus over there so i never get to see her. What can i do to get my mom to let me go out and have fun?

You just have to sit down and talk to your mom about it and try and make her understand you wont go and do something dumb. Try and help around the house more and do stuff when you are not told. let her see that she can trust you.

my dachshund has a white wisker already abd hes only 5 or 6. is it normal for them to get white whiskers/hair this early????????

Yes it is normal it all depends on the family just like humans and my family has raisd and use to breed dachunds so it is all ok. dont be worried.

i hav dirty blond-well brownishh hair and greenish blue eyes...
i was wonderin what kind of makeup i should wear cuz ive been expieramenting and i cant find any i like. oh yeah i dont have fair or tan skin but somewhere in the middle.
got any ideas??
thxx

I think you should try to buy the almay Intense i-Color i have it and it works wonders really brings out your eyes. everyone i knows who has bought it and they all dont have the same color eyes and they love it.

i am doomed as a junior in high school.

can anyone name some good jobs that pay all right?

well there are so many jobs out there you just have to think of what you like to do and see what you can do with that and just go for it. like if you like working with kids then be a teacher if you like working with wood and building be construction worker it all depends on what you like to do. no can tell you that.

i have REALLY REALLY REALLY fat thighs, and i look HORRIBLE in jeans, and pants and anything! my thighs like touch at the top and are really fat......what are good excersizes 2 get rid of the fat on my thighs?!

thnx in advanced!

Stiff leg deadlift - Stand upright with your feet slightly apart and your legs straight. Bend over at the waist until your back is parallel to the floor. Grasp the weights (barbell, dumbbells, milk jugs full of water) firmly in your hands and carefully, slowly rise to a straight, standing position. Be sure to exhale as you rise. Slowly lower the weights to the floor, bending at the waist, until your back is once again parallel to the floor. Repeat this 10 times. Note: Although this is an excellent exercise for your lower back, hamstrings (backs of your thighs), and your bottom, lower back injury can result if this exercise is performed improperly. Be sure not to strain your back muscles when lifting the weight. If you feel pain. Stop. Do not perform this exercise if you have lower back pain or problems without talking to your physician first.

Lunges - Standing upright, step one leg forward 2-3 feet. Keeping your upper body erect, and not moving forward during the lunge, dip your upper body down, bending your rear leg at the knee. Dip down until your rear knee almost touches the floor. Hold the tension for a count of 10, then slowly rise back up. Repeat several times before switching legs. Note: This is an excellent exercise for the hamstrings, bottom, and muscles around your hips. However, use caution not to stress your knees. If you feel pain in your knees, reduce the depth of the lunge. If you have knee problems, talk to your doctor before doing lunges.

Standing calf raises - Stand with your toes and balls of your feet on a step, stair, thick book, or block. Stand straight with your knees locked or nearly locked. Slowly lower your heel toward the floor using your calf muscles to balance. Lower yourself until you feel your calf muscles pull--but not painfully. Hold that position for a count of 10. Now, using only your calf muscles, rise back to a level position. Repeat this 10 times. Note: If you feel too great a strain on your heel, foot, or leg muscles, don't push it. A little tension is what you are seeking, not pain. Use a handrail or chair for extra balance if you feel unsteady. As you get stronger, you can try using a barbell with weights over your shoulders to add to the exercise. You should also increase repetitions as you gain strength. If you have knee, foot, or heel problems, talk to your doctor before beginning this exercise.

Hamstring Stretch - Stand erect with legs crossed, outsides of feet together. Bend over with rear knee straight. Reach toward feet or bring torso toward legs. Hold stretch. Repeat with opposite leg. This is an excellent stretching exercise for warming up before intensive leg workouts or for cooling down following your workout. Be sure to keep your rear knee straight!

Inner Thigh Toner - Lie flat on the floor with your stomach up and back on the ground. While keeping both legs straight, raise one of your legs about 6" off the floor. Make a circular motion with the leg, keeping your toes pointed. Make 16 circles, then lower your leg back to the floor. Repeat with the other leg. Try to do it daily! This exercise is brought to you by A.D. We tried it. It's harder than you might think--we could feel the burn!

Leg Lifts - Lie flat on your back with your feet and legs together, hands and arms at your sides. Lift both legs 4-6 inches off the ground and hold them for a count of 2. Spread both legs apart like a "V" and hold for a count of 2. Bring both legs back together and hold for a count of 2. DO NOT LET YOUR LEGS TOUCH THE GROUND! . With your legs still up, raise them until they are about 2 feet off the ground. When both legs are up, hold for a count of 2. Spread and hold for a count of 2. Bring them back together and hold for another count of 2. Bring them both back to 4-6 inches off the groun and hold for a count of 2. Bring them both to the floor. Then, start again! This thigh and bottom toner were provided by Zip who tells us, "This exercise is difficult and the first time you try it, you probably will only be able to perform the first few steps. You work your way up to 3 sets of 10. Add a step every dy until you are doing 3 sets of 10 with the firmer bottom and thighs to prove it!"

My parents don['t like husband to be. i love him with all my heart want do i do. do i brake up with him like my parents want me to, or do i say with him????? he was my 1st and i was his. thou I'm only 19 and he is was 23. nothing bad happen. i did not get pregnant. but i always told myself that the guy i have sex with the 1st time i will married. But he has cheated on me with hes bothers girlfriend. lets just say that he want all the way with her. he lets me that he did not like kissing her. i forgave him. but its hard for me to trust him 100%.
SO PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:(

I dont think you will ever trust him after cheeting on you 100% but if you still love him and know that you do then its true at least thats what i believe so i say dont listen to your parents beucase if he loves you and love him then it shouldnt matter what anyone else says, and if you two make eachother happy then thats all that should matter.

Can someone help me
I need to portray for class a picture with words of the quintessential family portrait
Like okay so far I know its this:
Family – mother, father, brother, sister, dog?
Living in a big house with a white picket fence
Car, suburbs
Anything else?

well you can say the father has a good paying job and mom is a stay at home mother, they can have a cat too usaly, two cars with two car garage. thats all i can think of.

Okay sorry this is so long....

ight....my name is sarah,im white and im 15...i date this boy named brandon,hes black and hes 17 and i just turned 15 in march and hes about to turn 18 in may...well we been dateing since march 24th-2007 and when we were on the phone he said babe are you ready to fuck me and i told him no because im still a virgin and we only been goin out for 2 weeks.He said i better set a date or its over.So i told him ill be ready friday.Well we just started talking and he was like babe i got somethin to tell you but i wanna say it to your face but I LOVE YOU!!so i said i love you too.WEll he always tells me well be together forever no matter what.Well all my friends tell me were rushing but i never felt this way about a guy befor in my life.I just dont no what to do because my plan was to brake up with him thursday because im not ready to fuck him yet.Hes everything i ever wanted in a guy.The only thing is he wont wait until im ready.and everytime he says i love you and he blows kisses in the phone and always calls me baby...well when ever i hear his say that stuff to me its like i cry all over again and i just dont no what to do with him...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It sounds to me that he is just using you for sex i am sorry i know this is hard to hear but honestly if he is gunna make you have sex with him before you are ready then he doesnt really love you. you need to tell him your not ready and if he leaves you then he does there will be over guys out there that are ten times better. just talk to him and if you are not ready and he really does love you then he will not care and will respect that you are not ready and give you time. I am sorry again I know it hurts.

Does anyone know of any good volunteer organization in (or close to) Westchester NY?? I'm looking for something to commit t...and to get really involved in (I'm 16 years old). I would love to do something involving kids...but i'm open to ANYTHING.

Thanks so much in advanced!!!

you should check out what is big brother big sister program and see what you can do with that or go to the hospital and see if you can candy strip.

my mum is really annoying me such as consistantly nagging on at me and because of this i am shouting back abuse at her! She has told loads of her friends and my neighbours and they dont treat me in the same way anymore and dont bother very much! If they so its " be nice to your parents" i am sick of it i dont no how to get my neighbours and parents friends to like me again? i no the obvious answer is to not be rude to my mum but its immpossible shes always nagging on at me ! HELP! XX

Well just try and not listen to your mother my mom is always doing the same thing and i told my mom right out that i dont like it when you tell all your friends everything about me and she has somewhat stoped. but its still really annoying and i understand that but i just dont listen to her half of the time and just agree with hereven if i dont really i just say she is right so she will shut up.

I've never given or received oral sex. I am 15/f. People say it is normal to do it at my age and I sort of agree. I am afraid of having a guy go down on me because I don't have this kind of experience and I am shy. I'm sort of afraid of going down on a guy because I don't want to do it wrong.

People always say you're supposed to wait until it feels right but I think it will only feel right when I give it a try.

Any advice??

Dont worry about so much you have to do what you feel is right and dont let anyone tell you that you should do this at this age beucase they are wrong you do what you want when you want to. but if you think you are ready just go for it abund you can tell what is right and what isnt. but it sounds to me if your scared of it you are not ready.

my age = 18
his age = 25

after 8 months of relationship, i broke it off 'cause
a - my parents weren't okay with him being my bf
b - he was too old/i kinda agreed too
c - he was causing too much pressure on me.

ok, so he's not educated - at all. he dropped out of highschool and started working straightaway. now he's a truck driver type of thing, i never really knew what he does for work.
he has this mentality that's very similar to the following: you go up to him telling him about your drinking problem and he answers "just stop ... for me". he's sweet and all that, but he uses this weapon to make me go back to him: he cries. and he keeps on going like 'i know i should be a man but *sniff sniff* i just love you ...' and i keep going back to him.
today i had enough and broke it off for good. i just can't have a normal life with him when he's too closeminded and stuff.
how do i tell him to move on without hurting his feelings?
i'm absolutely fine with being single. he was my first bf ever and i have no regrets. i just want to tell him to piss off - in a nice way =(.
i know i sound very bitchy but i just want him to let me go - for gooooood!

thanks in advance, sorry if i made this too long.

just tell him that you dont have the same feelings anymore and that you wish it could work out but its not and say that you need time for yourself and it may be a long time so he just needs to move on and just say sorry that your feelings changed and just say im to young for you and this wouldnt work out you need someone more then me.

does chewing gum add muscle to your face? if it does, does that make your face look bigger/wider?

No i doesnt adds muscle to your face after all how long have you been chewing gumm for over years now right, so you would already have a bunch of muscle then if it was true but its not.

Can someone tell me the answer to this?

1. The scale of two similar quadrilaterals is 1:2. The perimeter of the smaller quadrilateral is 80 centimeters. What is the perimeter of the larger quadrilateral?

A. 40cm
B. 80cm
C. 160cm
D. 320cm

THANKS!

if the smaller is 80 and the ratio is 1 to 2 it is simple it would be twice the size of the smaller so the bigger would be 160 beucase 80 x 2 = 160.

Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know when I will get my period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. I feel so left out because all my friends have had there period and I have heard that your breasts get bigger when you get your period. WHAT ARE OTHER SIGNS OF WHEN I WILL GET MY PERIOD BESIDES THE BASIC ONES! I am so insecure at this stage of my life and I do not know what to do!! HELP! Thanks

well there arent really any signs i can think of, but everyone gets there at differnt times Im sure you will be getting it anytime soon. but dont be to worried its nothign great. believe me and most girls will tell you the same. You are fine my friend was about 14 when she first got hers some people are as old as 16 before they get theres it all depends on your body.

What is your definition of skinny enough and is my mom saying that I was overweight before and now I am skinny or am I reading too much into this: STORY TO REFRESH YOUR MEMORY: I am thin and A FEW DAYS AGO when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough. "

i personly think that being skinny enough is being healthy and that all depends on your height and age. but your pants can like get bigger beucase most pants will stretch out through out the day and my mom does that too and it does annoy me alot but anyways im sure its just being concerned about you. but I think skinny enough is being healthy and haaving you feel comfortable in your own skin.

14/f

my school's track team is starting this week, and well around this week is when my next period is due. I am sick with an illness and my doctor told me to take it easy with sports. Well my basketball team is having a big tournament next weekend and the coach wants me to play, but not to take it too hard.

I've had my period about a year so far (maybe a little longer) and I tried a tampon once, lets just say it didn't go so well. So I just stick with pads. Well my mom is gone on a business trip and I don't want to try a tampon when she is not here... So my question is if I am active a lot (doing track every day after school for 2 hours, and then basketball practice mondays and wednesdays and then also a basketball tournament that lasts from friday to monday) is my period most likely to be heavy or light? or maybe normal?
like will a lot of blood come out when I am active? or is it just the same? or less???

And another question- The next time I try a tampon.. well how do I make myself less nervous because I know that the less nervous you are, the easier it is to insert it... and i can't seem to make myself not nervous. so how do i do that??

THANKS!

well the best advice mi can give you is to use a tampon beucase when you are active there is a bigger amount of flow like during the tournament durnt half time you can always go to the bathroom. i dont know how to tell not to be nerbous but there isnt a big deal about inserting it just dont think about it so much everything will work out fine. if you do insert it right.

13/f
ok well I really really really like this guy. I'm not going to see him (on a regular basis, like i mgiht run into him once or twice) until july. Also, he's a few years older than me and it probably won't turn into anything.
I also like this other guy. He's my age and we're pretty good friends, but he's like IN LOVE with this other girl, and i'm really not his type anyway.
Which one should i go after?
How should i go after them?
Thanks!

well I think you should go for the guy your own age. Start showing an intrest in what he likes. that doesn mean you have to do change yourself. Start trying to firlt with him. You never know he might end up liking you a little bi later but if it doesnt work out dont give up there are many guys out there.

well i know its possible.
but i dont exactly know what schools
give scholarships for dance.
either as a major or as a specialty school.
either one.
im just curious.
THANK YOU.

you can always go to collegeboard.com you can serach by majors see what scholarships they have.

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