Hey everyone! I'm an 18 year old girl from a small town in the Heldaberg Mountains in upstate, New York. Right now I'm a senior in high school but will be gradutating in June and attending college in the fall for forensic science. I have gone through alot, and I mean ALOT in my life, especially with friendships, my love life, and just social lives in general. My friends seem to always come to me for advice, and I'm always happy to do what I can to help. You can pretty much ask me for advice about anything, because I've heard just about everything, and chances are I'll be able to give you some awesome advice on it. Hope I'll be able to help!
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Well,.. kissing sucks.
Really, why wasn't I warned? I have waited my whole life for that moment, I have been nervous and excited and spent so many classes ignoring the teacher and dreaming about it - and it sucks. Not because he was a bad kisser, just cause.. well its nothing special. It's SO OVERRATED! Like, really, am I the only one who feels this way? In movies it looks amazing - time stands still, sparks fly, it's impossible to breathe - but noooo. Not at all.
Why'd I waste so long waiting for that kiss? I turned down lots of great guys cause I wanted my first kiss to be REALLY SPECIAL. But itwasn't. I'm so dissapointed.
Does it get better? Or is it really not that great and people just make it sound great cause they're in love? (link)
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Trust me, it definitley gets better! Actually most people's first kisses are usually not very good. Like with mine, the actuall kiss itself was good, however, the guy turned out to be a totall whore, druggie, alcoholic, and general asshole and was totally using me just to try to have sex with me. So trust me, you have nothing to worry about, it's going to get much much better! :^)
And as for the movie thing, movies always make every single thing in life seem like it should be absoltuley perfect. But really, the little imperfections in life is what makes life so much fun.
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hey. ok so i'm 14/f. and i've put some questions on here before about this, but i'll begin from the start so it all fits together. so a while ago i started going to this church that 2 of my friends go to. well, there was this guy there and from the start he was really nice to me. but he was also kinda weird, so i wasn't sure if i liked him or not. then another day when i went to church, we talked and i decided that i really did like him. so when i told my friends..we'll call them.. Trina and Kim. so when i told them, they like flipped out and was like "omg!! i can't belive that you like him!" "he has done so much bad stuff!" and "he used to do drugs and he's already had sex!" and stuff like that. but something about me didn't seem to care. so then one day Trina told him that i liked him, and he said he liked me to. then he asked for my number. oh yeah, by the way, i'm shorting this a little bit. anyways, that night he called me, and we talked, and then he asked me out. i didn't say yes right away though because i wasn't sure. so i told Trina and Kim and they said i should say yes. so i said yes. and then the next day i find out that Trina and Kim never wanted me to go out with him, and that it was a "life lesson" and it was supposed to teach me to not go out with bad guys like him. i thought that that was a load of crap. but for a while i thought they were right. so i decided to break up w/ him. and when i tried, i ended up telling him the whole story about the life lesson. in the end, i didn't break up with him, but i told my friends i did so they would stop giving me crap bout it. so one day, my parents had to go to work, and so i snuck him over to my house, just so we could talk. i ended up having my first kiss. and he video taped it on his camera, i didn't want him to, but in the end i just let him. so then a couple days later, i just didn't feel the same w/ him, and i felt like we were moving to fast pace. so i decided to break up w/ him. he was sooooo pissed. he was telling me that he was going to tell everyone everything and stuff. i was really scared. but a couple of hours later he cooled off and said that he would never want to black mail me. and then he said "this is your last chance, do you want to try again?" and i said yes.. but not for a good reason. i said yes so he wouldn't tell people everything. so the next day he called me, and it just wasn't the same, and he relized it. so that night he was like "things just haven't been the same since you broke up with me, so maybe we should just break up, but still be friends" and i was like "ok, i'm really sorry, and i was never trying to hurt you". and he was like "ok" so then we hung up. and today i just got back from Iowa, and yesterday i went on a walk with my 10 yr. old cousin and while we were walking he called me. the fone kept cutting out,and i was trying to spend time w/ my cousin cause i like never get to see her. and he kept saying "why r u being such a b****?" and stuff like that and i was like "i'm not! just call me back later, k?" and he was like "whatever bye" and we hung up. he sounded kinda mad. and he hasn't called me since. i'm just really scared that i'm going to make him mad and he is going to tell my friends everything. if they find out, the rest of my life will be ruined. i'm starting high school this year, and if people find out i will have the wost years of my life. everytime i think about it i get a really weird feeling in my stomach and i feel like crying. i can't have people finding out. i feel really bad about lying to everyone, including my parents, and i wish that i wouldn't of done any of it. what the heck do i do?? i feel like my life has just changed so much ever since this. this is like all i can think about, and i feel like my attitude has changed, and i've become more depressed. i'm not one who usually cares what other people think of me, but this is just getting out of hand. i really really really do not want people to find out!!!!! what should i do?? there is no one i can ask, so this was kinda like a last resort. please, please help me!!! thank you. (link)
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Ok, first of all, If he's going to be an ass and treat you like this he does NOT deserve you. You are so much better then him if he's going to try to stoop that low. That's pretty pathetic of him.
And as for him threatening to tell everyone what happened and stuff that didn't happen or whatever, if he tries to say you guys did anything more then kiss, just blatently deny it, because that's just it, you did nothing more then kiss him so...he's the liar why should you look stupid because of it? And if ppl see the tape of you guys kissing, well, you can be like "yeah, we kissed, but nothing else, because he's being a jerk anyway so I wouldn't even do anything more than kiss him"
I really hope this helps! Good luck! If you need any more advice on this feel free to ask another question! :^)
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what does TLC stand for?
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as in the term TLC? Well in that case, tender loving care. As for the tv station....haha who knows....
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does cold water make hair smoother? i know it makes hair shinier, but i heard it makes it smoother. is this true or just a myth? just wondering, thanks! (link)
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ok, so I definitley know from personal experience, that as you said yes it does make it shinier. However as for making it smoother, it depends on your hair type. Like if your hair tends to be more dry, rinsing your hair with warmer water will stimulate your scalp and release a bit of the the oils into your hair to keep it smooth. But if your hair tends to be oily, cold water is definitley a good idea to rinse it with. Hope this helps!
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lol this is embarrasing and as soon as i tell you what happened you'll know who this is...but i fell into the creek during the memorial day party and basically i took my shirt off to wring it in front of two guys and one guys was like woahh hide and the other was like so what...is there any way to make this situation not awkward everytime i see them and they're like "yeah your the girl who fell in the creek and took her shirt off...haha!"? (link)
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hahah well....I don't really think Ryan will care too much, he's a pretty nice guy, like if you asked him to seriously try and not mention it again he probably would....oh yea nd then he's kind of leaving the country in a few weeks (*sad face*)so then it won't really be awkward anymore lol. But as for the other guy....hahahh....hmm...well tony is tony, and as you said, he didn't really care, and he has a gf anyway so that makes it at least a little better (because rebecca wouldn't like kill you, i mean hello, you were dripping! lol).
overall pretty much just ask ryan not to mention it and see if that works with tony too, and if it doesn't just ignore him, he'll get tired of making fun of you for it eventually :^)
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