Hi, I call myself Ignatz after Dan Herriman's character in the old "Krazy Kat" comic strip. I'm 44, father of 3, husband to one, crazy about music and books and food and movies and history and martial arts. I've had some wild and crazy times in my life, and I figure I might as well put in some of my perspective.
I promise not to talk down to anyone or make fun,and I promise not to BS anyone. If you're old enough to ask a frank question, you're old enough to get a frank answer. Oh, and if you ask me a question directly, please be patient. I'll get back to you as soon as I can. My life's a bit hectic. :-)
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Okay I know that when I guy does everything his gilrfriend says, they call him whipped, but what you call a girl that does everything her boyfriend told her to? (link)
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'Doormat' is good.
'Future domestic abuse statistic' is better...
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I know it's probably really stupid to ask but is Julia Childs a real person? I watched the Julie/Julia movie (starring Amy Adams and Meryl Streep) with my friends a few days ago and was curious if it was like based on a true story or anything. I don't know anything about Julie Childs or whatever if she is real so I'm pretty clueless if these things really did happen...does anyone know? (link)
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Yes, she was a real person. She really did work for British Intelligence during World War II and attend the Cordon Bleu when it was almost exclusively male. She wrote dozens of cookbooks and made French cooking accessible to generations of TV watchers. YouTube no doubt has hours of clips of her shows. She's one of the reasons I learned to cook.
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Okay I guess I'll just jump right in here...
I am a girl, first off. I am 19 years old, and ever since I was really, really young (age 3 or 4) people have ALWAYS commented on how much older I look then I really am.
When I was 15 I once had a police officer hit on me while I was on vacation with my family because I looked that much older. When he found out how old I was the officer was mortified and kept apologizing and left... (It was at the beach)
It didn't bother me because he wasn't mean but it bothers me that I seem to look so old. That is only ONE out of the thousands of situations that have happened like that to me for the last 16 years or so.
It's not because I wear make, or even how I wear makeup because I don't wear makeup often and when I do I use very little, I don't use eye shadows or anything; I normally only wear foundation with SPF because I have sensitive skin and don’t want sun damage, and MAYBE some mascara.
I am on the taller side, I'm 5'7" but that's not freakishly tall, there are tons of other girls that I know or have met that are like 5'10" and they don't have the same problem I do.
I am heavy weight wise and I try to wear clothes that complement my body type, by covering up more than most girls my age and also normally needing to wear older women’s clothes because I can't fit into the "teen" stuff, plus I like the classy look... But again, I know and have seen tons of other girls that wear the same "older women’s" clothes and don't have my problem.
Today really pushed me over the edge because when I finally thought that at the age of 19 I was starting to look my age and blend in with my peers I had my whole class (in college before my professor came in) tell me that I looked at LEAST 22!!!! I look at least 22?! So that was there nice way of saying, I look more like 30 at the age of 19?
I know I sound like I'm being over dramatic about this but I swear I'm not, and I'm not trying to sound like it's the end of the world, but honestly, if that was all you ever heard, it would get on your nerves too. I mean when I am 30 am I going to look like I'm 50? My feelings are just really hurt and I don't know what to do about this.
My class today said they thought I was older because of the clothes and the makeup I wore but I think it's only because I unintentionally noted that I was not happy to hear how old they thought I was, and I already explained the clothes and make up factors above...
So, can anyone please give me some serious advice about this, even someone that has maybe experienced the same thing? I would truly and greatly appreciate a different peace of mind about this hurtful fact.
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I'm a man in something of a similar situation as yours. When I was your age, (I'm 39 now) I looked about seven years older than my actual age. Thing is, as I got older I kept looking about the same. I still look about the same as I did when I was 28, and I'll probably stay that way for a while. The point is, you're going to catch up to and then pass your apparent age. In about 20 years you're going to look about the same as you do now, while everybody else starts looking saggy and poochy.
Unfortunately, the pressure on women is to look as young as possible. The cougar trend notwithstanding, you're not supposed to be attractive if you're 30. Forget it. Wear what makes you comfortable and happy with yourself, work what you got, and enjoy life.
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Ok so i'm a 15 year old boy and there's this girl that i havent really met....but i see her around A LOT and shes very hyper and goofy around everyone and shes just idk seems special, ya know? and she has this battered up worn book which i think is called 1984...it has a white cover with like a blue eye on it. Every now and then i catch her rereading it. I think its her favorite, so i was wondering whats the book like about? is it some chick book? and like what does it say about her? (link)
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'1984' is a very famous book by Aldous Huxley, describing a country in the grip of a dictator called Big Brother. The country is in a perpetual war, everyone everywhere is under surveillance, and there is no such thing as freedom. It's ultimately a very depressing book, because there is no happy ending. It's well worth reading, though. This girl is probably politically and socially aware, and pretty smart. Read the book, then go up and talk to her about it. You're in for some pretty interesting conversations.
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I am really getting into watching anime. I'm watching a few anime series right now, like:
Bleach
Code Geass
Spiral
Reborn
Kamichama Karin
Ghost hunt
Fate stay night
Kyou Kara Maou!
I'm looking for an anime were the main character gets stronger throughout the series though. Preferably they have a power of some sort and they don't know about it at the beginning, you know? They learn about themselves throughout the series and uncover a lot of hidden abilities.
I don't mind fighting scans or action, but not all the time. I need a short line! Mystery and suspense are good additions in an anime too. The plot has to have twists and turns keeping me on the edge, of course, otherwise I will just get bored with it. I guess that's why I am drawn to the ones where the main character is finding new traits about himself/herself. Yeah, it doesn't matter if the main character is male or female.
Sorry that is sounds like I'm so picky when it comes to anime. I just REALLY want a GOOD one that I can get into and enjoy. I like the ones I'm watching but I am still looking for more, of course. Any suggestions? (link)
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Go old school: Ranma 1/2. It's pretty lengthy, but very funny. Basic premise: Ranma Saotome and his father are highly skilled and competitive martial artists. They go to a special place in China to train, but accidentally fall into some magic springs. Now when Ranma has hot water poured on him, he turns into a girl until doused with cold water. His father tunrs into a giant panda. Add the various members of the Tendo Family School of Unrestrained Grappling, and hilarity ensues. Here's the Wikipedia article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ranma_%C2%BD
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Ok
So my fiancé and I live in these apartments. We have lived here for about a year.
The office management advertises a "year round" swming pool, however, it's been open maybe 1 or 2 months total this whole year.
For the past month, the pool has not been touched. It is severely green and puts off a rotten smell. We have to walk by it to check the mail.
I was mad that we haven't ever gotten to swim, but I got over it.
It fiancé and I were talking about it to his parents and they said that a pool in that condition is hazardous to you Health because or airborne toxin and suggested that we call the health department right away.
Are they right? Is this somehong that needs to be acted upon??
Thanks in advance for your advice. (link)
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Another thing to consider, depending on where you live: mosquitoes.
Any standing body of water can become a breeding ground. Mosquitoes can carry malaria, encephalitis, and West Nile virus, aside from being annoying. An untended pool is vey much a health hazard. I'd call the board of health.
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I have this male coworker and I'm female. He seems like a pretty friendly guy. During my training I was told that I wasn't ever suppose to touch another employee as it could be taken as sexual harassment--even if it was just a little touch that meant nothing to me. I guess I understand that. A meaningless touch from me could make somebody else feel uncomfortable if they thought more of it.
Anyway, my coworker keeps rubbing on my shoulder as he passes me in the hallways and such. (You know, "Hi! How you doin' today?" while touching the shoulder, passingly.) I wouldn't mind because I know he's just being nice and friendly but he had the same training that I did about this, I'm sure. He should be well aware of the rules. The touching doesn't bother me but I don't want somebody else to take the matter to extremes or something. I KNOW he doesn't mean anything by it but I don't want him to get in trouble for his friendly gestures. I'm positive that he's doing this to other coworkers (male and female) as he passes them in the halls because I've seen him a couple of times.
What should I do? (link)
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*puts on federal manager hat*
Ahem. The key to this is perception. This would only become an issue if someone reports him for harrassment. The first step in dealing with harrassing behavior is to address the person in private, then escalate only if the behavior continues.
Obviously, everyone received the same training. He may not see his behavior as a problem. In your place, since he is a friend, I'd mention it breifly, but not make a big deal of it. His behavior is ultimately his responsibility.
Hope this helps.
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My favorite kind of music is the singer/song writer acoustic music. The john mayer, jack johnson, jake coco, ben harper, ben folds, jason mraz, dave barnes.
Question:
Are there any more unknown artists that i can find music like this from? I'm not a fan of the main stream music... and no DMB please. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Definitely check out Seth Augustus Quittner at sethaugustus.com. He's a little weird, but definitely good stuff.
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iv took guitar lessons and my boyfriend has tried to teach me guitar but its still hopeless. i realllllly wana learn its ben two years and i still suck is there anything else a musically challenged kid can do? lol (link)
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Take out some of the strings. Six-string guitars can be difficult to play. Take it down to three strings and play around with it. Mountain dulcimers and the McNally Strumstick both work on this principle, and they're dead easy to play. And if you think a three-string guitar can't rock, check out The Presidents of the United States of America. Three-string guitar, two-string bass.
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i am going to do open mic night at this coffee house ( i play the piano) and i need two or three songs that i can just play solo, i want very light songs, not ridiculously intricate, stuff that i can play by myself that people will recognize or at least enjoy. (link)
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If you want light, funny songs, check out Tom Lehrer. "Poisoniong Pigeons in the Park" is a pretty big crowd pleaser.
"Song of Bernadette" by Leonard Cohen is pretty simple, and very beautiful. The first verse usually grabs people.
An of course, Patsy Cline's "Crazy" is a classic.
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Okay. In YOUR opinion, who are the greatest punk bands EVER created? (link)
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You seek knowledge. This is good. (/cheezyness)
Most people would point to The Sex Pistols and The Clash as the big names in punk. So would I, at least as far as the UK scene goes. But don't miss out on The Damned either. Punk was born in New York City; check out Richard Hell and the Voidoids, The New York Dolls, and The Ramones. California gave us the Dead Kennedys and the Crammps, and we ain't giving them back.
Women were influential in the early formation of punk; check out The Slits, Siouxie and the Banshees, Patti Smith and The Runaways.
If you want to get really deep, proto-punk acts include The Kinks, MC5 (Kick out the Jams!!!), and Iggy & the Stooges.
HOpe this helps.
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my friend abbie is 16 and we both live in pennsylvania. she is adopted and she hates living with her mom. her mom is just so rude and always complaining saying adopting abbie was a mistake...abbie has 2 underages and a caseworker. my dad wants to adopt her so she can live with me and my dad. is that possible? how do we adopt her? and etc? are we able to adopt her? will her caseworker allow it? i need as much infomation as possible! thanks! (link)
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You may not have to go through anything as formal as an adoption. If your father and her mother can come to an agreement, she may simply be able to move in with you until she turns 18. Her mother would still be responsible for support and would have to authorize any medical treatment she'd need. Your friend may want to consider emancipation: here's a page on emancipation of minors in PA. http://www.nwls.org/emancipation_of_minors.htm
That way her mother won't have any hold on her. Your friend deserves to live in a place where she won't be considered a 'mistake'.
Hope this helps.
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im 17 years old and 5 weeks pregnant.
my boyfriends family wants me to get an abortion.
my family doesnt want me to get an abortion.
i don't want an abortion.
my boyfriends family are saying if i keep the baby then he has to move out and there disowning him.
i feel guilty.
i dont know what to do.
adoption ISNT an option.
hes scared and doesnt think were ready, i don't either but happened.
he's worried hes going to have to sell everything and not have a life or go to any parties anymore.
How do i convince him that he can still have a life? and how do i convince him that abortion isnt the right option? how can i make him see that there is a life, part of him inside me and we shouldn't kill it just because we made a mistake?
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I have to weigh in on Siren_Cytherea's side here. Having an abortion is not an automatic ticket for depression, guilt and suicide. In many cases, it's the best option available. Check out http://www.fwhc.org/stories/story1.htm for a collection of stories by women who chose to terminate their pregnancies.
You're fortunate in that your family is apparently willing to support you in your decision. A lot of girls in your situation don't have that support. Ultimately, it's your decision what to do; your boyfriend's parents cannot force you to have an abortion. The biggest problem here is your boyfriend and his family. They feel that you're trapping him with the baby and that you have no consideration of what he wants from his life. They're also concerned that they will have to pay child support. Either they'll get past it, or they won't. You may lose him. If you want a positive father figure in your child's life, a resentful teenage boy may not be the best choice. If he's not willing to take on the responsibilities of being a father, then it's not a loss.
Again, ultimately, it's your choice. You have to be willing to accept the consequences of that choice, including losing your boyfriend, being limited in the jobs you can find and the education you can pursue, and being dependent on your parents for a VERY long time.
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One of my bosses at work keeps giving me mixed signals. First, he stares at me A LOT. I have a friend who works with me who says he checks me out a lot, sometimes when Im not paying attention. 2. He always talks to me or finds a reason to come around my area. Sometimes it feels like he follows me. Like today I was waiting at work for someone and he was quite a few feet away but all he did was stare and then when me and my friend go to leave the building he is right behind us and so close behind me that his feet accidentally kick mine. Then he asks me what I bought and stuff like that. The same thing happened yesterday also! One thing I should mention is that he is married! And him and his wife just adopted a baby! PlUS I have a bf who actually works with me and these 2 guys know each other! My boss is around his early-middle 30s and I just turned 21. He also mentioned to my boyfriend that he was upset that me and my bf werent having a baby right now cuz he wanted to adopt it. No idea what that means. Should also mention that my boss is known as the Jerk at work, so it is quite odd he is so nice to me. He jokes around with me a lot too, always making small talk. I dont know he just always seems to be the same place I am, always making small talk, staring, etc....what is his deal??? (link)
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Sounds like he's flirting with you, rather clumsily.
What he's doing is inappropriate on several levels. He's married, so he shouldn't be flirting with other women. You're involved with someone else, so he should respect that involvement. He's your boss, so flirting with you is not appropriate. He could get into real trouble for it.
The next step is up to you. If you want him to stop, tell him to stop, and that you'll report him if he keeps doing it. If he keeps doing it, go to his boss or to Human resources at your work (if there is such a thing). What he's doing could be considered harassment, which could get him fired and the company sued.
Of course, if you're cool with it, then just let it keep going. It's your call.
Hope this helps.
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Ok I was at a party and I was kind of fliritng with this girl. We were both sober. Later that night we sat next to each other on the couch and she let me put my arm around her. Then the two of us made out in the rain. When I left the party I texted her later that day and asked what her favorite part of the party was. She replied it was meeting me. Is there more to this or is this just like a party hookup kinda. (link)
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I think she likes you. Otherwise she wouldn't have replied to your text. At the very least, I'd say ask her out. Go easy, see what develops. There's no rush.
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is there a website where you can make an account and all it's really for is to put your pictures on it?? and other people can look at them and comment?? (link)
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Flickr.com is popular, as is Picasaweb.
Hope this helps.
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Does anyone have a really good pizza crust recipe that they can share? I want to try making my own pizza but I haven't ever done that before. I know you can buy jarred sauce to put on the crust so that can make things a little easier, I'm sure. Personal recipes that you know work well only please... (link)
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This is enough for two large pizzas:
4 cups bread flour
1 teaspoon yeast
1 3/4 cups + 2 tablespoons warm water
1 teaspoon sugar
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon oil
Bread flour is best for pizza crusts because of the high gluten content. Mix the sugar, water and yeast together in a bowl until they're dissolved, then set aside. The yeast will start eating the sugar and reproducing, and in about 15 minutes you'll see it start to foam. Measure out the flour and sift it. If you don't have a sifter, put it in a small strainer and shake it. This filters out any clumps that may have formed and aerates the flour, which makes for a lighter crust. Put the flour in a large bowl, then add the salt, oil, and water. Mix it just until it comes together (it'll look pretty shaggy), cover it with a towel and set it aside for about 30 minutes. This is called autolyse, and it allows the flour to absorb the water and form longer strands of gluten. It also cuts down on the kneading time. On a clean surface, sprinkle a good bit of flour and then turn out the dough. Knead it until it's smooth and springy, about 7 minutes. Clean the mixing bowl, spread a little oil around in it, then put the dough in. Cover the bowl with a damp towel and let the dough rise in a warm place until it doubles in size. (45-60 minutes) Punch it down to release the gases, et voila, pizza dough!
The stuff freezes well: just wrap the dough in plastic. Leave it on the counter the night before you plan to use it; it will thaw out and start to rise during the day.
Hope this helps!
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so me and my boyfriend are planning to go to the city in about a week
weve been there before but we just want to make sure we get to everywhere we want to and what not
the problem is though were not really sure where everything is
we definitely want to go to places like
soho (the apple store, urban outfitters)
st marks place (trash)
central park
canal street
and we probably want to get like a sushi dinner or something
ive been trying to find good maps with everything but its not going too well
because we also need to coordinate it with the subway?
so if anyone can give me addresses, or maps, or more places to go, help with figuring it out with the subway, a good sushi place
it would be appreciated
thanks!
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Your best bet for bus and subway information is www.mta.info; there's all sorts of info there, including maps and a trip planner.
Personally, I find most Japanese/sushi places in Manhattan to be rather expensive, but that's just me. The Larmen Dosanko chain has good noodle dishes. FOr best sushi, look here: http://www.10best.com/New_York,NY/Restaurants/Japanese/.
If you're going to Chinatown, there are two things you must do: get dim sum at one of these places, http://gonyc.about.com/od/restaurants/tp/topdimsum.htm, and get ice cream at the Chinatown Ice Cream Factory http://www.chinatownicecreamfactory.com/. No arguing, just do it. :-)
If you want funky shopping, you might want to consider getting out of Manhattan and heading over to Brooklyn. The Greenpoint and Williamsburg neighborhoods are what Greenwich Village and SoHo used to be. (I can personally attest to the quality clothing available at the Salvation Army store in Greenpoint.)
Hope this helps!
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I'm looking to start a new series or trilogy similar to Eragon. I want something adventurous and exciting, but not too much like Tolkien. I love Harry Potter, but I'd like something a bit more mature. Are there any websites or online book clubs that recommend new books weekly maybe? Could someone recommend a new book series similar to Eragon? (link)
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Paolini is heavily influenced by Ursula K. LeGuin; check out her Earthsea series. Lots of magic and dragons. The first book is "A Wizard of Earthsea", and there are four other novels and a short story collection. She's written a whole bunch of other great books and short stories; "The Compass Rose" is one of my personal favorite collections.
For a more complex and mature treatment of magic, check out the Bartimaeus trilogy by Jonathan Stroud. Lots of shifting viewpoints, unreliable narrators, and intrigue.
Of course, any discussion of fantasy series must include Terry Pratchett's Discworld series. Thirty novels and counting, each one funnier than the last. Start with "The Colour of Magic". You'll never look at orangutangs the same way again.
To continue with the funny, Daniel Pinkwater's "The Neddiad" and "The Yggyssey" are excellent urban fantasies. Pinkwater's screamingly funny and off-kilter, and any story that has a Navajo shaman named Melvin automatically gets my vote.
Madeline L'Engle's Time Quartet novels("Wrinkle In Time" et al.) are all quite good, even for more mature readers (I'll admit to rereading them on occasion, and I'm 38).
Christopher Stasheff's "Wizard in Rhyme" series is pretty good reading too. "Her Majesty's Wizard" is the first book; your public library probably has a copy.
Hope this helps.
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How do you get a light bulb out of a socket if the clear glass part of the bulb is broken off? :\ Preferably without cutting your hand open... (link)
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Another option is to turn the power off, then slice one end off a potato. Gently push the flat end of the potato into the broken end of the bulb. The sharp points and edges will cut into the potato and give you enough leverage to turn the bulb out of the socket.
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