Hmm.. I decided to give a bit more detail. I live in the usa, and enjoy having fun. Swimming, dancing, shopping, working.. It's all good fun.. My mother says I have probablems, because I want to save the world.. Now I know, I can't.. But I do know us people who at least put some effort into help someone, makes some what a difference. It may not seem like it, but if you've seen Police Academy, with the apple that was thrown out the window, and started the riot!! Well then, no one knows how these things get started!
WE ARE ALL SUPER HEROS IN OUR OWN WAY.
Don't forget that! It's what we all are, and can be!
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Hey,
So last Saturday I was at a bar and I made out with this guy. Totally normal. I guess I'm "that kind of girl". I do not date. I ended up going back to this guys dorm and spending the night (it was very PG and cute).
well he asked me out on a date, and I am freaking out. I don't date, I don't know how to act.
Can someone share some stories?
Thanks (link)
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I can't share stories, but advice I can do.
Just act normal, and be calm, dress in whatever makes you feel beautiful, also whatever may be apporipriate to the dates location. It's just like being out with friends, except with a guy you really like. If he likes you, and you two have already spent an evening together so you should be fine. :)
Good Luck Love.
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This boy that i like ive been liking him for while now and he knows i like him. You see i have this class with him and usually he be talkin to me or be messing around. But now all of a sudden he dont even talk to me or nothing. Like at first i thought maybe something between us was really happening but now its like nothin. what do this mean. (link)
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He may have felt like nothing was happening between you two. Perhaps he got an off signal, if you're interested in him, just tell him you'd like to maybe hang out sometime out of a school function/class. I mean the worset he could do is turn you down.
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Okay i have this annoying friend that used to be my girlfriend at a time. Now all the time all she does is call me every second and comes over everyday and cries and acts crazy. I mean come on there is a thin line between someone that is actually sad and someone seeking attention an don top of that she lies about everything!! i mean it people this girl is the real deal. she is the biggest lair and pointless drama girl you'll meet. it's to mush to get into detail at this moment. just please help me come up with something to do about a situation like this. thank you in advance. (link)
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I don't know, I mean it all depends on how bad you want to get rid of her. I mean if you don't want to get rid of her, you could just tell her, "I can't be your friend, because I can't trust you." I've told someone that, we're still friends, just more distant. Or if you want her out of your life, just brake out and start yelling at her go all mad whacko on her. It normaly works.
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1m 13f
OK ill start from the beginning, sorry if it is long
i have known this guy in my school since kindergarten, he is a year older then me. at first we were friends then really good friends. i like this guy more then a friend and i'm not sure if he likes me that way too. i'm not sure if this is a hint. he got me rose scented candles for Christmas with love hearts and roses on them for a Christmas present. im scared that if i tell him and he doesn't feel the same way about me that it will ruin our long term , strong friendship!another thing is, he found out like a month ago he has cancer on his brain, its not active but doctors are trying to shrink it with radiotherapy, if it doesn't work they will operate! im also afraid that this isn't a good time to tell him. what should i do?
P.S. he is really sweet and polite. (link)
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He probable feels the same way, and considering he has cancer, telling him you like him and stuff will probable bring you both closer. I really would come clean about your feelings for him, stay close to him threw out this whole episode of cancer, if he makes it I bet you two will be very happy together. :)
It's good he's sweet and polite.
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Is it weird to feel like you don't have a chance with a guy because he's part of this close group of friends? I mean it's not like this is just a bunch of guys its like guys and girls who've been friends for a pretty long time i guess. And all of them i either don't know well at all or I'm merely aquaintances with. I mean I feel ridiculous because first of all he doesn't even know I like him and I'm still in the process of trying to get him to like me, and I don't even know if he likes me. And the thing is it's very possible he does like me but it's also very possible he doesn't, and I'm not going to start to explain the reasons but I don't know everytime I try to imagine the possibilities some thought like this makes me feel like I don't stand a chance. Am I being ridiculous or is it normal to feel this way?
And please don't say get to know his friends because it would be totally obvious and I'm not just gonna randomly talk to them (link)
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Get to know his friends!:D No, I'm messing. It's true you do want to get to know his friends, but it's probable better if you become close to this guy, who if he feels comfortable with you randomly introduce you to his gang of friends.
It is normal to feel this way, but don't let it get in the way. A man should be able to make decisions on his own, with out his buddies going, "oh yeah man she's a winna!" or, "Oh Man she's so lame." You just need to get to know him, and perhaps be spontanious and in the middle of a conversation just ask him if he likes you. :x Don't be scared. He's only a guy, and I seriously believe it's better to put effort towards something, if you know he likes you. So, you're not putting all this work into someone who doesn't like you. :\ Don't you think?
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Ok so this guy just recetly told me he likes me, and he asked me if i wanted to go on a date with him sometime. I said yes, and i really really like this guy alot.
We've been talking for a really long time now and we hang out in school.
So he changed his facebook status to 'Its complicated'
What does that mean?
He didnt even talk to me about it, im not even sure if its me.
Why doesnt he just ask me out? (link)
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He probable hasn't asked you out becuase perhaps he doesn't know what you think about him.
Perhaps he's scared, or wants to learn more about you. Who really knows, I mean guys are so complicated. :x
If you really want to date him, go out with him and maybe he'll ask you out. If not, ask him out. I mean the worest he could say is no, and you stay friends. We all know there are tons of men in the world to date.
It's just a facebook profile also, I mean it could just say that so people know he's not single, and not tied down as well.
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hi, i'm 18 year old and have been with my current boyfriend since october 2007.
i love him and always have but i'm just getting so stressed lately over college, moving home, he's got a job over 1000 miles away from me, money problems and more, i'm just worried it's going to tear us apart. i keep asking myself if leaving him would make things easier for myself and i no it would, but i don't want to loose him (link)
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If this man is suppose to spend the rest of his life with you, he will. If he loves you as much as you love him, this distance and stress will just be another step to make the relationship stronger.
Stop stressing so much about everything, you're only 18. Give yourself sometime to stop and smell the roses. You're only 18 once dear. So, please enjoy it well it's here. :)
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Well, ive known this guy for years but ive never really been great friends with him, a "hello" in the corridors at school is as much of a friendship we have. The other day he added me on msn instant messenger and he was talking to me and flirting, he asked me if i wanted to go for a walk with him, i said i was busy (which was true) and i was sorry. I dont know if he was asking me out or just being friendly. I dont know if i like him like that either. ( we are both 16)
What should i do if he asks me out?
Please help!! (link)
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If he asks you out, why not? I mean it's not like he's being as blunt as, "lets be girlfriend/boyfriend." Just maybe he wants to get to know you? I mean as long as he's not some freak, why not take up the offer to go out sometime, and get to know each other? :\
I hope you two do get to know each other!
Good Luck Love! :)
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hellooo again... ill start over from the begining its been a week of different new emotions for me, started out about a week and a half ago i had this crush on a girl i dont even know, i posted about 3 different questions about what should i do to try and get to know her, it all started out very well sorta.. though we hardly talked in person we talked alot on MSN and sorts. then my classmates pretty much tortured it out of me till i told them that i liked her lol. all the way through this i was really confused about my feelings towards her because iv never felt this happy about some one i dont even know. then my other freind whos actually quite good freinds with her organized a trip last friday into town for a bit of shopping and chatting and stuff, i was looking forward to it all week and so was the girl i liked because we had both said that we would like to get to know eachother better. long story short she didnt come to that :(
now its a new week and i feel... well i dont know its a mixture of dull sadness, realisation and that feeling were you knew somthing was going to happen. on sunday night we talked breifly on msn she didnt seem her usual happy self so i thought i had better leave it, then later on my freind told me that she was seeing another guy... so i felt okay about it because lets be honest... i dont know her at all she can like who she wants and can see who she wants. a little later after learning this and that i had decided i wasnt going to say anything at all to her about it, she started talking to me and apologizing saying that she wanted to tell me herself and that this guy shes NOT seeing is just a friend, i was kinda blasted at this point thinking how does she know i know?? so i just told her exactly what i had allready told myself about her not having to worry about me because we hardly know eachother. she can like who she wants (all that blah). she seem'd quite upset by it all so it got me thinking, if this guy really is just a friend then why so much emotion in what she typed? i knew he was probably someone she really liked so i tryed to prepare my self for the worst...
now its monday still feeling a bit down from the night before and still confused about it all, i went to college. i had a full day today and she wasnt in for any of it i thought it was kinda wierd because she's never normally off ill from what i know of her (which isnt alot so its not hard evidence) so the day went past slowly, i get back home sign into msn and hope shes online, she was. i said hi and asked were she was today and that i hoped she was ok. all she said was "I'll be fine" that was it, no hiya, no yeah im ill or somthing just that... so i felt quite down again, i got all edgey and fed up of sitting here hoping for an answer back from her that i just said k then see you tommorow or somthing im gonna go out or find somthing to do. i went out and skated under a bridge in the rain on my own just me and my thought's. it was a really relaxing exprience the light was perfect the weather was warm and the rain was pounding. so that got my hopes up a little bit and i was in a better mood that when i started. after that i got back home, i havent tryed talking to her yet since that .. "amazing" conversation i had with her after school... i talked to my friend for a while, she later told me that shes mad at one of her freinds becaus of somthing or another so shes pretty pissed off. then she went on to tell me that this other guy (that she's apparently not dating) she loves him... so im back here.. confused, feeling out of place and alone hoping that anyone can give me some advice to help me help her. dont worry about me this isnt the first time i'v been rejected before i'v even started iv gotten used to being unlucky in love. but i want her to know that i really dont want her to worry about me or somthing... i dont know im still pretty messed my self..
this is gonna be a loooong week...
thanks for your help. (link)
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Hello Love,
Look this girl sounds interested in you, and yet you keep hearing all this gossip about her and some guy. Which blah really sucks, and I'm sorry about that. Other wise, why not stay friends, it's the least you can do right? I mean you could stay friend get in close, and maybe she'll fall for you, and this guy she isn't "dating" but apperently "loves" will just vanish? I really don't know, I'd feel icky after such a hard fall, working up all the courage, but deffently the rain storm and lighting makes it better. It's the most beautiful perfect weather ever, right? lol.
I would serious stay friends, keep your options open though. There are plenty of women in this world! :D
I really hope you find the best, if you need anything else feel free to get ahold of me ^.^. I really enjoy trying to help you out. :D
{P.s (lol) it's sweet you ask fer me! -blushes-}
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16/f
i've been 'dating' this guy for about 4 months...when we first started this whole thing, he told me that he wasn't planning on us being boyfriend-girlfriend. i understood because he had just been dumped by his ex and to tell you the truth i like dating better then being boyfriend-girlfriend.
my problem with this is that he doesn't think twice about ignoring me, ditching me, or going days without talking to me. i also don't like not being able to say anything when girls are all over him. i called him on it once and he confessed that he liked the other girl too. that really hurt me and all my friends tell me to break up with him but i won't. i really really like him and right now he was actually supposed to be hanging out me...instead he's 'studying' with his bestfriend, who is also my ex just to put the cherry on top, which usually amounts to them playing basketball & guitar hero.
i'm also REALLY bad at being mad at him. we've only been in one fight & it was about that girl. i hate being disappointed and even though i totally prepare myself for it, it still hurts.
what should i do? (link)
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Well seriously, I'd so be like dumb him and move on with life right? Like anyone would, but sence you like him so much. Why not try to ignore him, and not take him up of offers when he wants you. Also could try flirting more with other guys infront of him. Sence he feels the need to be flirtatious with other women well in your presence. Who knows, maybe flirting will land you in the arms of someone way better then this man you like so much. :\
Seriously just my opinion.
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Okay so I'm a 16 year old female.
I don't really have a question, it's more of I need advice on my current situation.
Well, I have an afterschool job as a hostess and a waiter, James* and I have been flirting, I guess for the past couple of weeks. The only thing is that he's 21. I know "I'm 16 and he's too old", but it's this strange type of attraction that I've never really experienced before. And honestly age doesn't really matter to me, because I act quite a lot older than I am, haha. Both of my parents know about him, and I've told my two best friends, so I'm very open about this I guess. Just not to him..I have no idea if he has feelings towards me, it could just be me over analyzing it. But he has a petname for me, and I him, haha, it's kind of grossly cute. And he always smiles at me when I pass by him, and asks me how my day was and how school is going and just simple little gestures like that. I dunno. I may be crazy, but I'm pretty sure he's into me? His friend is dating a 16 year old, so I don't know if that means that he'd be down for it, or if he would feel like a total creeper haha. Again, I'm probably way over-analyzing this. I guess I'm just wondering if this is maybe, wrong? In a weird sort of way. Once again, I don't really have a question..more like I'm seeking advice on what to do about this. Should I ignore it, just keep on 'flirting', or what. I've never been in this type of situation before where the guy was 5 years older than me, which seems like a lot right now, but it really isn't later. I don't really know what I'm rambling about, haha. Help? I'm way confused. (link)
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Well, I know age is just a number, my parents have like a 14 year age difference.
Anyways if he is single, and you're interested totaly see if he's interested. The worest thing he could say is, "I see you more as a little sister." Which is still cool, but at least you'll not have missed the chance to find out if he likes you likes you. ^.^
Just got to take a deep breath and be straight forward/blunt with him. :x
You can do it! Don't be scared!
Good Luck.
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This is gonna be long...I'm just looking for opinions here, this is obviously something I need to figure out for myself. But, I need some outsiders to look at this situation for me. I'm too stuck in the middle to step out. I'm 21, and a girl.
Guy #1 - Jeremy. He's 23.
Jeremy and I have almost three and a half years of history together. Unfortunately the history isn't all positive. He was emotionally abusive for the entirety of our "official" relationship, and caused me some major issues (depression, anorexia). We dated for awhile in '05-'06, but broke up because he was having depression issues and couldn't handle our relationship on top of all that...but we never really broke up. We stayed friends with benefits for two years after that. We both felt that we had no time for a real relationship, and it wasn't really one until recently. At some point I realized he wasn't treating me well enough, so I wrote him a goodbye letter and told him I never wanted to see him again. He gave me back my key, and left. A week later, he called me and begged me for another chance at friendship, and after much hesitating, I agreed. He was like a completely different person. It seemed that he'd had some sort of epiphany while I was gone, and changed for the better. He started complimenting me, being really sweet, and just...yeah.
That would've been fine, except that Jeremy's family hates me. They threatened to cut him off financially if they ever saw me again at one point. He's had some major issues, including ankle surgery, a...sexual problem (blocked vein, or something), and because he's been couch-ridden and all that, we haven't been physically very close lately, and I've been hanging out with other people. The thing is, recently, Jeremy has become the sweetest man I've ever met. The other night, he came over and brought my favorite wine with two pounds of strawberries. We melted dark chocolate chips I had and dipped strawberries in chocolate all night, and cuddled. It was, like, perfect. He's doing and saying all these things now I used to dream about him doing, including playing with my hair like he never used to.
Guy #2 - Erik. He's 27.
I work as a barista in a coffee shop. Erik's one of the regulars. We started really hanging out one night after I'd come home from Jeremy's house and gone straight to the coffee shop, upset after having been kicked out by his parents. Erik asked why I looked so upset, so I bitched to him At some point, I said, jokingly, "I need a drink." He said, "well I can't help you with Jeremy's parents, but I can definitely help you with that." So that weekend we went to the bar and he bought me a drink. We talked, and connected, and he surprised me a lot. My first impression of him was quite wrong, as he came off as kind of a computer geek and nothing else...but he's really intelligent, strong, cute, likes to have fun, likes to laugh...He's also an amazing kisser. When I was little, I used to write little romance-type-stories, and the guys always used to tangle their fingers in the girl's hair when they kissed, and Erik does that exactly the way I envisioned it. He's like, freakishly perfect for me, aside from being a little out of shape...but guys I date always wind up at the gym with me anyway. Only problem I seem to be having is that he's shaping up to be quite possessive. Erik has been in California for a week. I hung out with Jeremy once while he was gone, AT my coffeeshop. Erik's friends called him and told him I was hanging out with Jeremy. When I called him later, I had nothing to hide, and I was about to tell him. But he was being so cold, I finally asked what his deal was, and then he said "I was informed that you were hanging out with Jeremy." I feel like his friends are stalking me, and it's a little creepy. Then again, I've never dated a guy who didn't become possessive and jealous if they didn't start out that way. Yes, I've already discussed this with him, but it's still a factor...it's drama I don't want or need. I'm in my last semester of my undergrad, and the last thing I need is to be distracted from my schooling.
Anyway, Erik's family appears to like me. Erik and I think alike. We're both Scorpios (not that I put much stock in that...Jeremy's Cancer.)...Erik has a job, has his life together, and doesn't mind whipping out the credit card every so often. He lives with his parents, but he's looking for his own place.
Jeremy has no income, still lives with his family...but even with all the crap going on in his life, he's taken me out to lunch, brought me strawberries, brought me chocolates...he's trying really hard to do everything he can for me...but I can't help wondering if he's not doing it because he thought he was losing me, and he'll just snap back to taking me for granted as soon as I commit.
Both guys know about each other. This is all out in the open. I took my time telling Jeremy about Erik, but when I finally did, after agreeing to not contact each other for a week, he said, "I'll be damned if I let Erik prance in with his contact lenses and web design and take you from me." Which, I hate to admit, is kind of romantic, in a way...Jeremy is a guy who doesn't apologize, doesn't chase girls, and doesn't beg, but he's done all of that recently for me.
The idea that the bad-boy is trying to be a good-guy to keep me close to him, is willing to overcome his commitment phobia and commit to me, has even threatened to leave his parents' house and never speak to them again if they didn't back off about me, and has basically turned into prince charming, is pretty enticing.
But I also feel that I can't ignore the fact that I have a thing for Erik...can I? I mean if my relationship with Jeremy were what it was supposed to be, that wouldn't have happened, would it? I'd like to just kind of see them both and figure out who I really want, but they both gave me the "me or him" ultimatum, so I have to make a decision quickly.
I admit, I'm a little afraid that going back to Jeremy will turn into what it was before. I'm afraid to lose him, and I almost feel that if we did get back together, it would be for good. I've had dreams about marrying him...
I'm also a little afraid that Erik will turn out to be some horrible jealous, possessive man, and that I'll be in a worse hell than I was before.
At least Jeremy can back off. He's willing to give me a week apart, knowing full well that I could be hanging out with Erik, and trusting that I'll make the right decision...but our history has been bad - he hasn't treated me right in the past, I've tried to kick him out, his family gives me headaches, and I just...argh.
I don't know who to pick, which way to turn, or how to go about picking.
Help me... (link)
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Alright, I'd the same thing in a situation such as its self. I'd ask for some direction, but anyways.. I was always brought up to never let a man or anyone for that fact to lay a hand on me. I really don't think Jeremy is what you need in your life, especially if you plan to have kids in the near future and all that good stuff. He's only changed because he doesn't want to lose you.
Erik sounds like a really great guy, and considering your first impression was that he was a computer geek or something, I really really highly doubt that he will be anything like possesive and abusive. He sounds like a really laid back kind of guy.
I know that you may not want to let Jeremy go, because you've been with him so long, but as you said.. It's been a bad past. I'm going to really suggest the man that is actually going some where in life. He's got a strong head on his shoulders girl! He sounds like an amazing man, someone who is going to be there for you threw the rough times and stuff. Just be careful with your decisions, I mean do you really want to settle down with a man, who you know has a higher percentage of falling back into old habits, compared to a man you know nothing about how he acts??
:x I hope you make the right choices, whatever choice you make will be right. It is your choice to make lol. Deffinetly let me know how it turns out.
>;:HotSauce:;
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ok im 14/f and i have known this guy that since 6th grade. 7th grade we had this fling. we would hang out after school and do intiment stuff then he told me if i gave him a few days to think he might ask me out. but then he wound up going out with this girl who was supose to be my friend. but 8th grade came along and they were together for the entire year. they were almost to their 2year aniverery but they broke up. and now he wants to do a fling again and im all for it. but im afraid hes going to break my heart again. any advice? (link)
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Fling (intimate stuff) Not (girlfriend/boyfriend stuff). As much as you want to do this fling thing. I wouldn't, he's looking to use you. If he had really "liked" you, he wouldn't have dated a "so called frend!"
You'll just get your heart hurt.
Have a fling, but do not create emotions for this guy.
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Alright, so I started falling for this guy in my second hour class pretty hard this year. We flirt all of the time, and sometimes I get the impression that he wants to ask me out, but the one thing holding up the relationship is that he has a girlfriend. Only I'm so confused because when he talks to me, he acts as if he doesn't have a girlfriend at all. & I know he wants me to flirt back with him. & I can tell that he likes me. & I think he knows that I like him too. We're not in the same grade; he's three years older than me, but I really don't see age as an issue. This situation has been driving me insane for months, and all I really need right now is some good advice on what I should do.
Should I flirt back? Just go for it, and not care? Or back off and be respectful towards their relationship?
I know I probably should be the better person and not flirt back, but you're only a teenager once and I'd rather be naughty now then naughty later.
Thanks. xx3 (link)
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You're exactly right. You are only a teeager once! Be naughty nao! lol
If this guy is flirting flirt back. Who knows maybe he'll realize you're way better then the woman he has.
Flirting is completly innocent. So go for it. All men will act like they're single if they can. Do not get emotionally attached though, because he may not want to date you and just flirt, and that could hurt.
So flirt, be free, be a teenager!!
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I've never understood the whole emo cutting wrists thing at ALL. But when I think about it, I get sick and almost throw up. LIke right now. So don't think I'm trying to learn how. I just don't understand how and why. Do they do long cut marks or what? No idea.. please inform me. (link)
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Why do they do it? :| Easy, there is always the reason for attention. There is also the reason they feel so much pain on the inside they feel they need to let it out, and cutting is the only way they know how.
Cutting can be long or short cuts. There are many different ways and spots someone can do this in.
Cutting is kind of like... diabeties for some people, or being blind... The only differece they can stop with help and onthere own.
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15/f. I don't have a problem talking to guys. But I never seem to get asked out. Idk if it's a problem with how I act, or something. Any help? (link)
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Guys are weird, don't even worrie. You'll be asked out soon enough. If you get antsy though, and find a single guy you like, just ask him to chill/hang out sometime. Guys sometimes like a dominat girl. Someone who isn't afraid to ask them out.
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Sorry, I dont know if this is in the right category. Is masturbation bad if you are a Christian? (link)
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Techniqually it's suppose to be. Don't let a religion get in the way of feeling good though. It's only human nature to want to feel good. Considering you asked this I am going to guess twenty to one you're a virgin. If you masturbate, when you finally do have sex, it won't be to awkward, even though occasionally everyones first time is.
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What would you do if you and your good friend had an issue with each other and then as you were working out the issue with this friend, all of a sudden you found out your friend is avoiding the situation in trying to work out the issue. and that friend deletes you off their friends list on a social networking site without any reason telling you why. You tried emailing your friend and all and he/she ignores you. What would you do? (link)
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If they ignore you then don't worrie, if they want to work it out they'll come back and talk it out. There is no reason for them to act like a child over something.
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okay so im 17/f and my bf is 18/m and we tried to have sex but we didn't actually fully do it. we used a condom and he only put it in alittle and then took it out and he didnt cum or anything and it was over, but before that he was fingering me, so what are the chances of being pregant? cause im freaking out helpp (link)
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No. This is really quite impossible, he only fingered you and stuck it in once "covered" and didn't even cum. No. You are not pregnat. Don't even worrie.
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I'm 17/f and recently I've been having feelings towards my basketball coach (He's 26). A couple nights ago the whole team including him went out to go bowling. It was like we weren't even there with the team, there was flirting and you know the whole "bet I can beat your score", and random touches when we passed by each other. And it's not just on his part it's me too. What should I do? Should I talk to him about this?
Thanks
Confused Basketball (link)
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Well I know that age is just a number to alot of us, but I hope you're turning 18 soon.
Talk to the coach? Seems like that could be realy awkward... Or at least that is how I feel.
Sure though explain to him out of school, try to keep it private. Tell him you have feelings that are kind of surfacing, and you feel perhaps he's been looking your way somewhat. :\ Maybe if you're almost 18 he' totally be interested.
Also, you may not want to, this man can lose his job over such a little thing. Or he could be convicted as a child molester even if you are almost 18. Be careful, and think your moves threw.
Be Safe.
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