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i am so frustrated.
16/f
i've been 'dating' this guy for about 4 months...when we first started this whole thing, he told me that he wasn't planning on us being boyfriend-girlfriend. i understood because he had just been dumped by his ex and to tell you the truth i like dating better then being boyfriend-girlfriend.
my problem with this is that he doesn't think twice about ignoring me, ditching me, or going days without talking to me. i also don't like not being able to say anything when girls are all over him. i called him on it once and he confessed that he liked the other girl too. that really hurt me and all my friends tell me to break up with him but i won't. i really really like him and right now he was actually supposed to be hanging out me...instead he's 'studying' with his bestfriend, who is also my ex just to put the cherry on top, which usually amounts to them playing basketball & guitar hero.
i'm also REALLY bad at being mad at him. we've only been in one fight & it was about that girl. i hate being disappointed and even though i totally prepare myself for it, it still hurts.
what should i do?
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Hello,well I dont actually see too many differences between the whole dating thing and the relaitonship thing. I think he chose that over a relationship because he simply doesnt want to commit he wants to have you and know that you are there but still have the freedom to talk and flirt and whatever else with other girls. The way you are feeling seems as if you want more and right now I cant see him doing that. If he really wantee that he would show it, I mean by him ignoring you,saying he likes another girl he isnt showing that he fukly cares for you. You want someonethat is going to respect you and care about you and he obviously is doing neither,I guess the dating thing would be fine if the guy actually cared enough about you to never ignore you and show that he cared some what and giving you the attention you deserve. Frankly I do not hink he deserves you from the way he is acting he isnt showing that he wants to be "dating" you. You should definitley lay off of him for awhile and see what happens it is always excellent and very heplful to talk to him about how you feel about this situation becuase I doubt if he even knows you are upset or if he even cares. You also dont know how he is feeling about the two of you because he says he wants to date you but the way he is acting does not show it at all and as the say "actions speak louder than words". Communication is important and without out it you can not have a stable relationship whether it be with a friend or a boy so be open and honest and you will get far. You are young its no fun to fell this way about a boy that might not be worth it. I hope this helped and if you have any further questions I would be happy to answer them on this topic or any other topic for that matter,just send me a private message and I will be happy to help you. Just remember to never settle for just anything,you are worth having the best!!!The best of luck to you
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Well seriously, I'd so be like dumb him and move on with life right? Like anyone would, but sence you like him so much. Why not try to ignore him, and not take him up of offers when he wants you. Also could try flirting more with other guys infront of him. Sence he feels the need to be flirtatious with other women well in your presence. Who knows, maybe flirting will land you in the arms of someone way better then this man you like so much. :
Seriously just my opinion.
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