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Q: i comfort eat a lot, how can i stop this its starting to make a difference in my weight. thanks appriciate it

Whenever you go to get food, ask yourself if you ARE hungry. If you aren't, than just go and watch T.V or do something to keep your mind off food. Besta Luck

Q: hm.. where to start.
well first i've been with my boyfriend for almost 1/2 of a year now, and I'm beginning to feel a little clingy. Clingy as in i don't want him to leave whenever he has to, don't want him to get off the phone when he has to.. I was wondering if there are any guys who LIKE clingy girls? or do they just find them annoying?

Some guys find it "cute" when girls cling to them. It makes them feel wanted and appreciated. But some guys do find it annoying. Ask your guy if he is okay with you when you whine about him leaving. Besta Luck

Q: Well, I have this bf.. and i like him sooo much and i know he likes me too, but.. hes still in that "prude stage" so we arent really gettin anywhere fast.. if ya know what i mean. And im one of those girls who likes attention and i cant stand that i dont really get that from him.. and i dont know what to do or how to tell him..?? please help! :/

Just say "I really liked it when you ______" (name a time when he gave you alot of attention). Use little hints to let him know that you want more attention from him. Besta Luck

Q: i have been on and off with this boy lets call him bob 4 da past 3 or 4 years, and over the years we have fallen inlove. we used to not go to the same school and we had a great relationship until i moved away. wen i moved back i started going to his school and once again we started dating. there has been alot of drama and we have broken up alot of times but we are still inlove. we have both dated defferent people but we still always go back to eachother. i just started dating this new guy lets call him billy. well billy an i dated once b 4 but i dumped him to get back with bob. well just a few nights ago bob tryed 2 get with me but i said no, even though i like billy i love bob, but i just donr want to do thid 2 billy again. last time billy's sister(1 of my best friends) got really mad at me and we didnt talk 4 almost a month! so i dont know what to do...some one please help! i know this is long but i promis i will rate!

I think you should dump "Billy". It's not really fair to him if you love someone else and not just him. Tell him that you aren't treating him the way he should be. Get with Bob again if you really love him. Besta Luck

Q: theres this girl i like a lot and i know she likes me and tomorrow she is coming over and its not like ive never kissed anyone or anything but i want someone elses opinion...what is the best way to get into a situation where you start kissing someone without just throwing yourself to them

When the time seems right and it looks like she wants a kiss. Try leaning in to her slightly to see how she acts. Besta Luck

Q: aiGht, well i went to tha mall with marissa and carlaa and ive been good friends wiith marissa since miidle school and she goes to a other high school now so we were meetin with her two friends brian and scott so we met with them at the foodcourt and i was walkin over to there table and there was no more chairs left so we took one from a other table and i tooked at scott and he kind of moved over so i could sit next to him and he seemed really nice and stuff so we were walkin around and he kept makin eye contact with me and we were sorta talkin alot and when we were on the escalator the two boys were infront of us and so when we got to the top they stopped so we couldnt get off and we were like piling on them and to my luck scott was infront of me so i was like on him.. so we were leaving and brian said hed drive us home but we were stopping at wendys first so brian marissa and carla were getting out and scott was like melanie are you gunna stay in the car with me? so i was like yea so we were talkin kind of then marissa and them came back and they were like so what did u guys talk about and i was like nuthin much we madeout and stuff (kiddin around) and he was like yea we didd im out of breathe then marissa and carla were kinda of being annoying and like touching his arms and they were like aww nice guns and he was like dont stop me only melanie cann.. does he like me? what can i do when i see him nextt

I think he MIGHT like you, since he did make eye contact. See how it goes the next time you see him, but whatever you do, don't tell your friends. Normally they will somehow tell him. Just act like yourself the next time you see him. Besta Luck

Q: when a guy is giving u a hickie, what should you do? just lay their? or do you kiss him or what im so confused?

Don't worry about what you should do. Enjoy it and your hands will probably start moving on their own. Besta Luck

Q: im 16!
im scared to french kiss a guy and theres this one guy that i really like an he likes me to but everytime im with him i get scared an i just kiss him on the lips an no more. im scared im goign to do it wrong or something . i dunno what to do

If you're scared you're going to mess up, your not ready for it. But if you're just nervous, go for it. There isn't really a way to do it wrong, people got different styles. Besta Luck

Q: My friends trying to quit smoking, he asked me for adviced and I told him to use those patch thingys. But is there any other ways to quit smoking? If you smoked, and now you dont..how'd you stop? Thanks and I'll rate everyone!

Tell your friend to get nicotine tubes. It basically feels and looks like a ciggarette, without the hazard. He can slowly stop smoking like that since normally NOT smoking for awhile never works. The patches are also good, but he can't just altogether stop without nothing. It's too hard on the body. Besta Luck

Q: well i love this kid named phill..when ever i havnt seen him for a long time (1 week) then when i see him i love him!! he just got out of a 1 year relaship (sp) with a girl named gina. phill likes me and stuff..but idk i love him..should i like ask him out or wait a little bit! i rate high

-confused

I think you should see if you would still "love" him if you got together. Sometimes you just like the thought of loving someone, and you aren't ready. Besta Luck

Q: I just recently invested a lot of time and money in this girl i like. She liked all the gifts that I gave her. I know because of MSN and texting back and forth. I even made tears of joy come to her eyes because of what I did on Valentines-day. Well now I think a "friend" has geven her the advice of playing hard to get. I've already done everything that I had planed and she just said that she wants to be friends. WHAT SHOULD I DO

She was playing you for your money. Sorry you had to come across such a bitch. Just tell her you're done being her slave and find someone else to like. Besta Luck

Q: Well, my boyfriend and I are going to have sex for the first time on Tuesday.

I was just wondering if I should, like, shave you-know-where. I've tried shaving that hair before, but it didn't really go over so well... It was still stubbly and I couldn't get rid of that, and it was really just wierd.

I was wondering if the hair would gross him out or something... Would it?

I think that if your not comfortable with it, than shave it off. But if you don't see a problem with it, keep it. Besta Luck

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liquidgeneration.com

funnyjunk.com

Besta Luck?

Q: okay so my boyfriend of one month has a reputation of kinda player.. and well i knew that comin into this relationship that he might play me over like some of the other gurls.. but i really liked him alot so i took the chance. and everything has been goin good every thing is GREAT! hes always tellin me how crazy he is about me and how he only wants to b with me and how he cant stand not being with me for a day! and so it reallym akes me feel good about myself. my only concern is.. he flirts with alot of girls. and he prolly doesnt mean to its just natural i gues.. but i always get jelous! how can i cope with this? i mean i dunno how to bring this to his attention w/o sounding stupid. and i dont wanna b the jelous girlfriend.. so please help me quick! thank you

Once a playa, always a playa. No matter what he might say, he is always going to be talking and flirting with girls. It's just his style, and there isn't much you can do to change it. Whenever he talks to other girls, you could just pull him away and start talking to him. Besta Luck

Q: hey...ummm....ok ive been talking to this guy for about a two weeks and were both talking to each other because well he this each other are hot and like each other lol....i want to ask him about his past girlfriends but i dont know how to bring it up??? and even if i should bring it up...also one more thing we have nothing else to talk about so any suggestions..weve talked about family, school, pets, sports that we do.....so anything else...please help thanks

I don't think talking about Ex's is a good idea, because than both of you are going to start comparing eachother to your ex's. Try just talking about favorite things and what you do in your free time. Besta Luck

Q: Alright, these past two nights I've been crying myself to sleep because of my boyfriend.

I RARELY get to see him because we go to different schools, maybe once or twice every TWO/THREE months. :/ But we talk on the phone like every 2-3 days, and on the computer a lot.

So, a few days ago..Thursday, I was expecting him to get on the computer, but he never did..and I didn't call, because, I dunno. i just hate calling when he doesn't tell me to right at the moment..even though he told me I can call anytime. So, I don't know..I just started crying because I was so upset and stressed out from not seeing him anf stuff. Tonight, he hasn't gotten on, and I started crying again. I think a lot of you won't understand really, because you don't know how much I miss him, you have to know the situation better.

But..what do I do? Because, he hurts me a lot. I mean, this has happened multiple times. But like..a couple days after this goes on he finally comes online and says 'hi', and I CAN'T be mean to him..or tell him that he just made me cry. I don't know why, I just can't do it. It's like emotional abuse, and i just don't think I can take it anymore.

I think that you should tell him how you feel. He won't take it offensively if he really likes/loves you. Just tell him that it hurts you. Besta Luck

Q: I have been pretty depressed. I dont know why. On the weekends I pretty much just go to work from 11-4, come home, watch tv, do homework, eat and maybe get online or talk on the phone and then do it again the next day. My parents dont like me going out too much. Then on weekdays I go to school from 7:55-2:15, stay after school sometimes till 4 or just go straight home. Or if I can I get outta school and stay after till 4 call my bf n hang out w him till 8. I just needa know whats going on, like why am I go DEPRESSED n how can I get over it?

You may be depressed because your life is kind of scheduled. Try to do something interesting on the weekends or go out shopping or go see a movie with your bf. Besta Luck

Q: is it okay to wear a black hat (like the french type of hats) when you're wearing a black dress, black sandals, and nude tights? and the dress is like 3 inches above the knee...

Yes, I think it would look o.k. Besta Luck

Q: I really love my boyfriend, but hes scaring me. He keeps saying "it would be better if i was gone" & he keeps talking suicidal. Other times hes not though. I keep telling him to stop talking about it cuz its scaring me. He says "sorry I'll quit" but then he does it again. He says he wont kill himself cuz he cares too much about me & I was thinking, if we do ever break up, whats he gonna do then? Sometimes I think hes saying stuff for attention. I dont know what to do, I might not be able to do anything, but any advice would be appreciated.

He probably is doing it for attention. If he doesn't have any school/family/medical problems ask him whats up. If he can't give you an answer quick enough, he is just looking for attention. Just try changing the subject (if he is looking for attention) everytime he talks like that. Besta Luck

Q: I really like this guy...he knows now and i hate it! I like him a lot though! What do i do???

Try talking to him about it and asking him how he feels. Guys like it when girls just say it to their face. If your too shy, write him a letter and put it by his locker/desk. Besta Luck

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