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Q: Recently i got a progress report with a lot of negative comments from my teacers like i am unable to be focused in class and that i don't complete my homework on time. That is sort of true. I really need help because i don't know what I'm doing wrong..

I come home, do my homework, sometimes i forget. But i listen to music while i do my homework and I am probaly on the computer more... I really do not know what to do and my parents are making me go to the councelor but i have already been there on Thursaday and i will be called back in on Monday or Tuesday. The councelor was also at a parent teacher confrence this morning but i don't know what he said and i don't want to know.

You should try scheduling your afternoons. Like an hour or two for homework each night and with that left over time you use to read REAL books.

If it still doesn't get better, try seeing a psycologist. You might have ADD or ADHD. It's not that big a deal as long as you fix it early. I live with someone who has it and just one pill and determination can make a whole hell of a lot of things better. hope i helped! ~Kylie~

Q: 14/f my boyfriend is 17 and we had sexaa coupel of monthes ago but like nothing went in just like kissing with a clthes off. But I asked him if he wanted to have sex yesturday and he said no and whe n I asked him why he said becuz he didnt want to hurt me. But the thing is he had sex with his ex gfriend when he was 16. Well all I want to no is why did he have sex with her and he doesnt want to with me..He hurting me say that he doesnt want to have sex becuz he doesnt want to hurt me... plz help

You should appreciate him saying this. He's not doing it to PROTECT you. Not cuz he doesn't want to, he wants to PROTECT you. Isn't that what a bf's for?

Q: my boyfriend is supposed to hug me on valentines day and it would our first hug ever... but i don't know what to do... this may sound stupid but please helpp.... i love him soo much... also im afraid my arm pits will smell because lately my deoderent hasn't been working... any suggestions on good deoderents and no spray because i have a reaction to it... thanks... 13/f

Take a shower in the morning that day and use a LITTLE deoderant. If you put on a lot it will 1. smell like deoderand all around you and 2. you will sweat easily (i've actually found that true)

Good luck! Hope it works out! Be as confident as you can because you've earned him. Be happy and be yourself. Don't be nervous!

Q: okay i like this guy we'll call him erik so anyways erik and i have been good friends since school started and well now that he had found out that i liked him he flirts with me even more and gives me at least one hug everyday but you see the hug is longer then it is with the rest of the girls that gives him hugs and also he holds me really close to him so i really want to ask him to the dance this friday but im not sure how does anyone have any ideas so i possibly wont get rejected if he was just playin with me? sry for the length

If you think that you will have a great time with him there, ask him. You can text him, do it in person, send an email, im him, slip a not in his locker, any number of things. Good luck!

Q: See, ive liked this girl for a long time now, but i never got the urge to ask her out yet because i never get to see her much. just recently, i figured out she likes this other guy and shes probably the only girl ive ever liked in a while. yeah, sounds corny and sry for the longness, so now what should i do? it seems that i have nothing else to live for in this life and that im just wasitng space and air and food

I AM A GIRL. I KNOW SO LISTEN. Even if she does like this other guy, it's not a world where people like one guy and its an arranged marraige. Some girls (like sometimes me) change crushes weekly. If you want to ask her out, i'd wait to get to know her really well and make sure that she knows that you don't think she's a pile of poo (which most girls think boys think they are). Make her know in some way or another that you are there for her (i wouldn't SAY that..) and you are her friend, then you can ask her out. but if you want to skip all of that crap cuz you've already done it, then just ask her out, the worst she could say is no. Hope i helped!

Q: I asked this guy out. He said no cuz he can't date till he's 16. So, is there a chance that he likes me, but just can't date. Or is it one of those lines? He flirts with me, and a few people think he likes me, and his sister told me she thinks he does.

If he says that he can't date till hes 16, become really great friends until that time and notice that you have a better chance of him liking you when he gets to know you and it might progress. He might just be saying that cuz hes nervous of having a girlfriend. Just let things flow. If you two were meant to be, then it'll happen sooner or later. If not, you still have a great friend!

Q: Ok, I have the opportunity to go to this really good highschool, where you can have 2 years of college finished when you graduate and it looks better on your college application and everything.The problem is,I know some people that go there and they said that htey were straight A students, and when they got there they started making C's and D's, and that it was ALOT of stress and they never get to do anything anymore.Everybody keeps telling me to go, that I can handle it, but I don't really want to, and I'm scared to. At my school now, everything is going good, and there's a guy that I really like, and I would never get to see him again if I went to that other school. I just have no idea what to do. I don't want to give up a great opportunity, but I don't want to go either. I have alrady prayed about it, but I'm still confused. Please help! And please, no rude answers, I'm stressed enough as it is. Thanks! I'll rate!

P.S. Sorry so long!!

This is a really sticky situation.. I've moved 8 times in my life and gone to 7 schools. I know what it feels like to change schools a lot. Maybe you should write the pros and cons of each school down. Decide what matters more. A good job and good school but with a lot of stress, or your friends and crush in a regular school with AP classes? I had the chance to go to a specialty school in middle school but didn't take it cuz i wanted to be with my friends. Goo dluck!

Q: My friends popular friends don't like me much, so they told her I said I didn't like her. She believed it and now won't talk to me and I was supposed to go to a dance tonight but now am all depressed in my room. Also she's my one and only best friend. What should I do?

You should call her, email her, write her a note, or tell her in person that it wasn't true. You should say "Who do your trust more, me or your other friends?" Hope I helped! --Kylie

Q: i'm 16/f. is it okay to date a guy that's younger than me? i like this guy but hes 2 years younger than me, i'm a junior...hes a freshman. Thanks guys!

Of course! The only people talking about you would be the ones who are jelous that you have a great bf and they have a crappy one!

Q: There is a guy I like at school and today, when the last bell rang, i saw him walking in front of me to the busses. He turned around and looked right at me. I was thrilled, so when we got out of the building, I watched him get on the bus and he looked at me 2 more times. does this mean he likes me? i need advice from both girls and guys to get different views! THANX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He might like you, he might not. Wait a few more days and see what moves he makes towards you. Just don't get in over your head. If it doesn't work out you'll be embarrassed and hurt. Hope I helped! ~Kylie~

Q: How lond does weed stay in your system. because iwant to apply for this job but there doing a drug test and i dont know when to take the application. i smoked yesterday.
thursday January 20, 2005

Let's start with
1. WHY THE HELL DO YOU SMOKE WEED!!! You can go to jail for it, and eventually you will get killed from it. It ruins your life so if you ever want to get a good job and have a good life, STOP.
Sorry if it sounds mean and nasty, but it's the truth.

Q: Lately I have been noticing that down around ,y vaginal area I have been kinda itchy... and like I went to the store and bought some kinda cream stuff but the last time I out it on it was like my skin was pelling! Can some1 plz give me an Idea on what I have?
Thanks.. I rate 5's!

Go see a doctor. It may be a yeast infection and before you buy or use any cream they will want to see it. If you do have one and creams don't work, go back to your doctor and they'll give you a sronger cream or pill to take.

Q: i'm a freshman in high school.. 14 years old, and i'm dating a sophomore. all these girls my b/f hangs out with don't like me. today, these two girls - anna and liz were talking to my ex boyfriend, corbin about me and ryne. anna asked corbin if me and my b/f had sex.. (its not true).. liz said no, corbin said no, and anna didn't believe them. anna hates me w/ a passion by the way.. but yeah.. she's going to go around telling evryone a stupid rumor, and my b/f already bitched her out and went to the dean and told him. but what can i do to make this rumor go away or stop? or how can i stop them from ruining my reputation? i have a good rep right now and i don't want it ruined.. plz help! i'll rate all 5's for an effort.

If you love your boyfriend, that's all that matters. Anna and liz just like him and are jelous and would do anything to get your rep down and you guys broken up. Real people with brains and any balls whatsoever will know that you're way more responsible than that rumor and they won't believe it. for everybody else, just use your acting skills and say things like "Where the hell did you get that from?" or laugh and say "You retards actually believe that?!" I hope I helped. ~Kylie~

Q: i have trouble getting boyfriends. i mean all my friends tell me that im outgoing, funny, and pretty..but its like the boys dont see those qualities in me. i mean i act no different around boys than i do girls but its just wierd. and whenever a guy does like me i feel like he doesnt really like me because my self-esteem, when it comes to guys, isnt very high. what should i do?

I have that problem too. All of my friends say that about me too, but guys are intimidated because I'm what the cool kids call "a genius". If they're not smart enough to notice that you're the best girl for them, then they're not worth it at all. What's worse? Being single, or having a bf that doesn't care about you as much as you like? Hope I helped! ~Kylie~

Q: Hey. My parents always fight, and my dad is always cursing at my mom and calling her mean things. Now, i think they are going to get a divorce, and it is my fault!!!!! What should i do? I love them both, and i do not want them to get a divorce!

That's what happens a lot with my parents. It's not your fault if you don't gactually tell them or provoke them to do it. Tell them you love them as much as you can, try to get them to go out on family outings so they can see how great they are as a family. If you're creative, try making a scrap book of your family and showing it to them from time to time. As long as you still have a good relationship with your parents and it doesn't get any worse, then it'll be fine. If it DOES get worse, try really sitting down and talking to them about it. Tell them what your fears are. It's their job to listen to you. Hope I helped! ~Kylie~

Q: How do you know when you're in love? And I mean really in love, not lusting after something you can't have, not loving someone, IN love, with 'the one'. How do you know?
Thnx,
Hallie

Probably it's when you dream about him, you miss him on the weekends, you talk a lot on the phone, internet, and at school. He knows you, you know him, he's what you want in your guy. He's someone you know is worth your time to care about and love. I hope I helped~ Good luck with him! ~Kylie~

Q: my mom is sick n its getting really bad n shes in the hospital...
ive been told by my sundai school teacher to keep on praying no matter wut n its been a long time since i started n...nothings happening...
im getting really impatient n starting to think that God doesnt love me.
wut should i do?
^$SiCknSaD$^

God DOES love you. Keep praying and do good deeds and show yourself to god that you deserve to have a mom. Best hopes for your mother and your family. ~Kylie~

Q: ok there is this guy i like named Chris, and i love him so much, and we have talked a lot and all. but i asked him out and he said "no". but i got so attached to him, that when he turned me down i started to take razors and cut my arm, and i still do. and i want to stop but it helps to controll pain. how do i stop?Note:i am 14/female. i rate 5 to anyone who answers!

I got cheated on and used in the beginning of the 6th grade (in 7th grade now)(by the same person). I started a diary. If you can't talk to anybody else about this subject, talk to your diary. It sorts out your thoughts. I've been keeping one since 1st grade. It's a place where I can dump out all of my felings. you can even show it to your mom or your best friend or someone like that if you cna't tell them your problem with cutting. If that doesn't work, I'd suggest telling your mom or asking to see a psycologist. This will get serious and might end up to suicide if you don't try to stop it now. Good luck!! ♥~Kylie~♥

Q: There is this guy at skool he has a girlfriend (his girlfriend is my friend) but I don't think that he likes her. He is always looking at me and like walking by me and smiling ( we have a very big school so there are many different ways for him to go) I really like him. Does he like me? What if he does will my friend be mad?

Ever heard of the "two week rule"? If your friend breaks up or gets dumped, you have to wait two weeks to ask them out. I'd say after he breaks up with her (from what you say, sometime soon), then progress the friend/classmate relationship and then start the whole "can you find out if he likes me or not?" thing. DO NOT WHATSOEVER include your friend in this. She'll be depressed. But after a month or so when she's recovered, you can talk to her about it and if she gets mad at you for liking her ex, she's not a real friend. Hope I helped! ~Kylie~

Q: Theres this guy I like and he just tried asking out this girl whos a grade ahead of us but he got turned down(plus if she said yes, this guy in her grade and his friends would have beat up "my guy". Now, all through the year. Ever since August, this boy has been flirtin with me and acting like he seriously likes me. We talk on the phone, chill together at school. We're almost always around each other when we're not in classes we don't have together. And whenever we are around each other, we always end up talking about something and everyone else in our group just talks amongst themselves. Well, last night, me and him were talking on the phone and he asked me who I wanted to go out with in our school. And I said, "I don't know. I have someone in mind. He's cute and sweet and funny and nice and..." and he said "Come on, stop talkin about me" and I laughed. Then he said, "But you know, a lot of people have been coming up to me telling me that you like me" and I was like "Ok, well you know a lot of people have been comin up to me telling me you like me" and he said(in a sarcastic tone that means the same as "duh") "No, really?" and so I was like "Yea" and well, I'm just wondering what you all think. I'm thinking hes liking me but I'm not too sure and I don't want to tell him I like him. At least not yet. I plan on calling him tonight and talking about it a bit more but, in the meantime I'd really appreciate any advice you all might have for me. Thanks.

He loves you. You love him! If you can talk to him, laugh with him, and have fun with him.. you should go out with him! If you can't ask him yourself, then try to get a friend to do it for you! Good luck! ~Kylie~

bio

I'm Kylie and I'm here to help. My dream is to go to the Naval Academy and be a Navy Shrink. Please ask me whatever you want, because I will try my best to help you to solve your problem.
Kylie:)