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Okay so me and this guy i have a thing with were on the couch and we cuddled madeout he even took my bra off and we touched each other and stuff but we didnt really do anything... he never got a boner through any of that amd i was womderinf if he should have. Is it bad that he didnt did i do something wrong and how can i make him get on next time?
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Men usually get an erection at the drop of a hat so I'd say, yes he should have got it up for you. 'Performance related anxiety' can prevent it...which is a pyscho-babble way of saying 'nerves' really. Tiredness and fatigue can do it. So can alcohol...had he downed a 'few too many'? (That's a common one, you feel horny and 'drunk-confident' but the old chap just won't stand-up!. Any of the above apply? There are real medical reasons. They usually involve blood-pressure problems, possibly long and uncontrolled diabetes which damages the blood vessels...but he'd know so I assume none of these are applicable. I also assume he's not approaching pension age! Now the likely ones, listed first will take care of themselves in effect. I don't honestly think there's anything you can do to make it happen on demand, but helping relieve any anxieties he may have will make it more likely everything will work as it should. Talk's good...but a little word of caution. Guys are very often extremely touchy about this, feeling it's a slur on their manhood (our fragile egos!). So before you sit down and have a full-on enquiry (which WILL make him squirm!) I should keep on kissing, cuddling, stroking...intimacy in general, and just wait and see. Be alluring. A bit of sexy chat at the time is a good bet, knowing you want it too is a huge 'aphrodisiac' for mosy guys. We don't really like to feel you're just tolerating sexual activity for our amusement...some women can make a guy feel that way without realising it.
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so me and my bf were on a break and i was texting my guy friend about what i should do. I still really love him and i wanted to work things out. he looked through my phone and saw that i was talking to him and some other guy but they were just friendly conversations. it wasnt flirtatios at all. My ex got upset and broke up with me. He thinks that i was talking to these guys throug out our entire relationship. i wasnt. i really want to work things out with him. and he said we can start by being friends and work up from there. my question is how do i show him that i love him and that i want to work on us. (link)
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I think the first thing to discuss while you're still 'just friends and working at it' is the completely unrealistic demand that being his boyfriend means you are not allowed to speak to any other member of the male sex (excluding family I assume!). Possibly presenting him with your phone every evening for him to inspect for male contacts would prove it to him? Apologise if that's a bit sarcastic...but really before you go all out trying to win him, he's got a bit of 'proving' to do himself first I think. Try 'prove you're mature enough for a relationship with me' should be at the top of your list. Really...breaking-up because you texted a male friend...is that any way for a bloke to behave?
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Hi so as I said before I'm very striaght and would only date girls and stuff! But when I'm really horny i get bicurious and horny because of my age, (16) so going into locker room showers... I only want serious answers because im young and striaght and a horny teenager and need on serious advice. Thank you. So if I was in a locker room shower and got hard and another guy was alone with me in the showers and he offered to "do things" what should I say? Would it be worth trying something's out or would I regret it later? I would probably say no but I just want some others serious avice and opinions. Because I know I'm striaght and wanna stay like tht and I know of I expierament and don't like it I'm still striaght and just bicurious (link)
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Hello. I answered your previous question, and I hoped it was a serious reply! I didn't assume it would straighten everything out in one hit. Human emotions are much too complex for it to be that easy. You seem convinced that you're 'straight' and want to date girls. And you seem to be in that time of flux where you're basically tuned-in to male company but 'feeling horny' and these feelings are not always very discrminating in their aim. I would really advise not entering into anything sexual with other males then, at this rather turbulent time in your life. Now gay males often say they're 'born gay' and they 'always knew'. I can't say whether that's always so or not. But I do know that the 'self-fulfilling prophesy' is very real. By indulging in gay/bisexual activity you could easily make concrete something that is at the moment far from certain. In simple terms, it would not be difficult to 'convince yourself' you are and find yourself entailed in that lifestyle. There's an old saying that you 'can't fool yourself.' In fact we can, and very often do with complete conviction. At the risk of repeating myself, this is precisely why most cultures have higher ages of consent for same-sex relationships. So that we do not make 'lifestyle' choices based on what could only be a phase in many cases.
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Hii, So from past few months I've been so addicted to my cell phone that I just can't keep it away from me. I'm constantly on it using facebook, twitter and checking random things on google. I have my exams like in 20days but I can't concentrate. In back of my mind I know that I shouldn't be doing this but I can't stop myself. I get really uncomfortable if I stay away from it like 10 mins. I spent min 15 hrs on internet either on my phone or laptop. I feel like it has also started to affect my mental abilities. I'm really scared. what to do??? :( (link)
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Got to agree. Classic addiction behaviour. It's screaming out of this question. Not entirely your fault, social networking sites are designed to get you on the hook. Google relies on it, the more it's used the better it gets as a search engine. With exams so close you need to take drastic action, now! You've got to give that phone to your parents and they're not to give it back until those exams are done. I'm not advocating you being treated like a kid here. It's a case of having the decision to use it or not use it taken out of YOUR hands entirely. You might even find the experience pleasantly 'liberating'. If you do...congratulations...you're a pucker grown-up! Now get studying!
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hi, so im straight but when im horny i like to watch gay porn and jerk off with guys on webcam, i would only date a marry a girl, but in the locker room showers sometimes i get turned on looking at guys d*** and a**, dont tell me im gay or bisexual because i havnt done anything yet. what is this feeling i get when i am shpwer at the gym locker room? im 16 years old. is it just hormones and puberty? thanks!!! (link)
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Relax chap. This is exactly why societies make ages of consent for same-sex relationships higher. Puberty and hormonal activity can be a bit random about it's 'targets' at times. Also, a kind of 'curiosity' about other guys is common. Plus, we're guys, when we're kids our role-models are usually male. Sports stars, TV action-guys, macho movie stars, right? Your attention shifts when you 'discover girls' as it were, but the old heroes don't always die easy in our minds. Loads of guys go through this phase. Don't get hung-up mate. You sound hetero to me, so don't start planning how to tell your parents you're gay and looking for a boyfriend yet! Of course, it's not impossible. And if I'm wrong...well being gay is nothing to feel guilty about or be ashamed of in our present age. OK?
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So last night I had a dream about my "first" and ma two sisters.but so my dream started off at a laudryomat and me and my 23yr old sister was laundry and I saw my "first" pulling up to me and my sister house so I instantly went over there n so my 30 year sister and I was wondering why they was together so I asked her was they goin out and they said yeah and he saw me talkin to her and I blacked out next thing I see was me and my sister was on sum stairs and he was at the bottom of the stairs and he was telling her to come to him and I was pullin her back telling her that he is not going to change so I went down by him to get an object I dnt know what it was it looked like a phone ,so he just sets ma sister on fire and I'm down at the bottom of the status at least 10th away and I just started tearing up going crazy then he sets hisself on fire .I never knew what happen to me and my sister that was at the laudromat wit me earlier I just knew that was how my dream ended
I just want to kno way does this mean
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Dream-analysis has been part of physchology for a long time, although it's possibly not in favour so much nowadays. It's not a area I know that much about but I could tell you a little. Dreams are reckoned to be a mental 'safety valve' in which we 'deal' with issues that we are reluctant to face head-on when in our concious state. Familiar people & items appear, but they are nearly always 'scrambled' or 'coded' and not direct & literal. I believe there are certain 'classic' subjects, dreaming that your teeth are falling out is a classic & common 'anxiety' dream for instance. Your best bet would be to try a bit of web searching on the subject and see what YOU make of it. But you MUST take into account YOUR associations rather than just applying the lists you'll find. For example, Fire features in your dream. To some fire signifies warmth and safety, to others danger & destruction. What does 'fire' mean to you? See where I'm going? Look honestly at your relationship with your sisters too. Are you protective of one? Do you envy the other? Do yoy mistrust one, or both? It's possible that your sisters are not actually the issue at all, they're simply 'blanks' which you've 'projected' personal thoughts onto. Could this relate to them? Or is it about you? Or they could just stand for 'women in general? And so on. But without knowing factors like this it is impossible to decode your dream. My attempt could be misleading, or just plain wrong and of no value at all.
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I know this sounds superficial and snotty have this dream of being wealthy. I don't want to be super rich but I want to have enough money to buy what I want when I want it. I'm also not talking about jets or mansions but things like purses that are a couple hundred dollars or lots of small things like multiple pairs of $6o jeans in one purchase.
It's just like my whole life my dad was really poor and never bought me much of anything to the point that he hasn't seen me in months because he doesn't want to spend the money on gas. He didn't even see me on my 18th birthday and it's been months since then and he's only even called twice.
My mom is okay. She buys me things when I really need them and I give her props for paying for a lot of the work clothes I needed (even if she expects me to pay her back).
I'm just really tired of going to a store and seeing multiple things I like and having to pick just one. For example I went to Bealls and I saw a purse for $30, wallet for $27,necklace for $22,bracelet for $15 and perfume for $30. Well I wound up not getting a single thing because I just couldn't deal with the idea of buying just one thing and I was scared of giving up even $15 at the time. My aunt gave me a $30 gift card for there and I thanked her and acted super happy about it but I got there and realized that wasn't even enough for a single pair of jeans so I still have it unspent because I'm afraid of not having that little bit of money on that giftcard anymore.
It's not like I'm poor but I'm sick of having to save for everything and really stressing over medial amounts of money. Like I saved up money from graduation and other money on the side and bought myself an iPad for a birthday present for myself. I love love love my iPad but now I keep wishing I had that money back (though I would never give up my iPad).
I had $130 from a smartphone I sold and I spent it on a replica chanel purse because I couldn't afford a real one but even the $50 for the replica is hurting because I keep seeing more things I want. Like replica Louis Vuitton sunglasses for $27, a $40 leather Louis Vuitton iPad case, $20 for a replica chanel wallet,$25 for replica Chanel sunglasses. I want to be able to know what it's like to be able to buy things like that and not feel scared about it.
I'm not saying I just want the money given to me. I would do anything to be able to be wealthy but I keep thinking the only way to be wealthy is to marry a wealthy man but wealthy men want sex toys with double D's and I just want a husband that I can truly love and cook for (I love cooking) and take care of the house and such.
Right now I have a job I start Monday making $800 every two weeks but that's not enough to ever get me anywhere in life. I understand I'm only 18 but I'm already tired of feeling the burn of money. It's just so stressful.
My friends say just to forget about meeting a wealthy man who loves me and that I can love back because they only want sex and I'm still a virgin looking to save my first time for somebody special.
Do you think my dreams of being wealthy are stupid and out of line? I don't think it's a bad thing to want to strive for...
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Hi. I live in the UK. The economic climate's as bleak as most have ever known. I gather it's similar in the US? We're all having trouble saving, mainly because the governments can't let us save right now, they need all the money ploughed straight back into the economy to keep us (just about!) afloat. Many are seeing their savings and investments badly eaten away too. At your age, well I don't want to be depressing but it will be a long time before young people get all the advantages of living in a 'well-off' country again. So hey, welcome to the club my friend! You've got a job. More than some can say. So you're on the ladder. Keep at it. Now the REAL things you're talking about. A man who loves you and wants to acquire & maintain a nice home with you. Sitting down to a lovely meal you've cooked together. Sharing laughter, good conversation and love. They're still within our reach. They always will be. You can't buy stuff like that. And treating yourself some lovely designer items, some cool gadgets? You will too from time to time, I'm sure. But the days of easy credit, big salaries plus plenty of prospects and job security? I'm afraid they're gone for a while. You are striving for good things, it's not stupid or out of line. Keep those goals in front of you, keep aiming for them day to day. If you think of your happiness as something in the future, that's where it will always stay. Start now! It is tough right now. But your dream is within reach. Money isn't going to just drop in your lap. Noticed a lot of 'name-dropping' in your wish-list by the way...remember they're supposed to be a bit elitist...that's what makes them desirable. If you're looking fill your home with LV & Chanel WITHOUT a bit of saving-up and then worrying about how much you've spent, you'd better have that DD boob-job and start looking for that lecherous old fat-cat with a Swiss bank account...wave to me from your Ferrari as you pass me by!!
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Im 11 im dating a 14 year old am i old enough to have sex with him if so can i get pregnant cuz he says he wants to have a family with me rite now
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It's sort of nice that you like the idea of being a proper settled couple. Some people really do end up marrying their childhood 'first loves' too, so who knows? But really, girls don't have families at 11 do they sweetheart? And I bet you'll be a great mum too...but not for a VERY LONG TIME YET!
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Me and my boyfriend is thinking of having sex and im kinda scared cuz I've seen his penis before.im just soo scared. He's 15 im 13 (link)
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I'm not usually so blunt, but I'm going to say just don't do it. Even if you're a very physically mature 13, a lad of 15 just ISN'T mature enough to be relied on to be responsible & accountable when being this intimate with you. Be honest, you're 'scared' because YOU don't trust him either. Girls mature more quickly, so although he's a little older, you're probably on about equal terms. There's 'other stuff' that the pair of you could enjoy to make your relationship feel more grown-up...and you know the sort of things I'm talking about. But NOT FULL SEX YET. Fair??
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Can i get pregnant if i have sex while i am on my period? (link)
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I suppose there's a sort of 'logic' in the idea, but just isn't true. Having sex during your period is NOT in any way a form of 'birth control'. Isn't it a bit messy as well? Use an accepted method whenever you have sex.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. We haven't had sex yet but we have done everything else. He is so good at touching me but for some reason I never orgasm. I feel guilty about this because he tries so hard and always does such a wonderful job but I still can't orgasm. Sometimes I fake it but honestly I just want to orgasm for real. Please help me I don't know what's wrong with me. (link)
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You have to guard against over-personalisation, basically 'It worked with me...so it MUST work for you.' Let's just say 'This works for SOME'. There's only one entry requirement. That is that you can come when you're on your own by masturbating. Pick a time when you're feeling relaxed, but horny. Lay down on the bed and basically let your boyfriend watch while you make yourself come. Only watch. MAYBE a gentle stroke of your thighs or tummy from time to time, but NO MORE than that. If it works it's for two reasons. When you come you're emotionally 'laid-bare' as it were. You're ultra-feminine but also ultra vulnerable. Doing this gets you tuned-in to letting-go totally with a bloke around. I've honestly known a woman say she 'bet her face must look really funny and I must look stupid when I come'. And I'm thinking 'What! It looks bloody AMAZING and I LOVE it!!' Secondly, he's watching. No need to to try and explain, he'll SEE exactly what works for you technique-wise and he can try to replicate it when it's his turn. (So soft-lights by the way, don't put on you feminine 'show' in the pitch-dark or it sort of defeats the object!). Now you might be thinking. 'No Way! Do that in front of him? I'd die of shame!' It's more likely that once you get started it's the shame that will actually die. Might be worth a thought?? Inhibitons are best killed-off. They act as a brake on what we feel and even what we do. I know plenty of women enjoy sex without reaching climax, but if YOU feel the need to come, well...you need to come and that's all that counts!
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I am 15/f a dancer, 5'7.5 and about 125-130 lbs. I wear a 0-3 in pants and a size small in shirts and a small to medium in leotards for dance.
my problem is when i look in the mirror i see someone who is obese. Sometimes i see myself normal but different mirrors give me different looks.
I would never be able to be anorexic or bulimic because i am deathly afraid of throwing up and i love food and am always hungry :)
how can i improve my body image?
also i am NOT fishing for compliments... i just want some things to tell myself that will help me see myself in a better way.
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Hi there. Well spotted, you've identified that anorexia & bulimia involve looking in the mirror and seeing an obese person looking back. They still see a fat person when they're down to skin and bone and needing medical treatment you know. It's psychological, not physical. And yes, mirrors can most certainly distort images. The obvious fact of course is that you are VERY FAR from obese indeed. Feeling hungry and eating plenty...answer's in the first five words...you're a dancer. That burns LOADS of calories and you've got to put them back!! I'm a guy...do you know I've always had a 'fear' of throwing-up strangely. Always struck me as 'losing control' of myself somehow. That's encouraging...it'll help keep you away from that bulimic path, you don't want to go there. Accept that at your age you have a lot of self-doubts and insecurities bubbling away. Dancing, like modelling involves a lot of self-confidence & a great self-image as you are basically judged on 'how you look'. Put the last two facts together...there's your answer! Just keep hold of the fact that it's in your mind. Just imagine how damaging these feelings could be if you weren't clever enough to have an idea where they're coming from. Happily, you are clever enough. Really...are those stats in your question those of a 'fat girl'...I think NOT!!!
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I shave all my pubic hair once a week, and it starts getting itchy after 2-3 days and I get these red bumps (kinda look like pimples) just on the outside like where my underwear rub I was thinking maybe that's why, but was wondering why this happens and if there's a way to prevent it and stop or minimize itching (link)
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Just a bit of the old razor-rash. Use a nice quality, sharp razor and a soothing-gel lotion. Shave in the direction of growth, even though against it seems to be quicker & more effective. Wash-off all traces & dry well straight away. The itching is when the stubble starts to pop back up, and shaving does make it grow back more strongly and 'spiky' if you like. Waxing yanks the hairs out root and all (just saying it hurts eh??), so it's a more effective way and avoids many of the little snags we've got here. It also lasts longer. But shaving's fine too. I wouldn't plaster myself in a variety of scented skin creams down there though, sensitive area right? You might swap one itch for a much more annoying one! Comfortable underwear, loose fitting in natural materials will cause less irritation. Cotton is natural, so's silk but only real silk, not shiny satin garments. I know loose cotton undies aren't very sexy and you ladies feel good wearing pretty ones. Maybe put them on when you're dressed-up and partying, and wear not-sexy cotton ones when you're casual? Having exposed skin all the time by removing the hair on a regular basis should minimize the effects anyway over time.
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how do i get really really wet natruly (link)
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Getting wet is of course a result of, and a sign of sexual arousal. And you can ONLY do it naturally. But not all women produce the same amount. Trying to put it delicately, you might not sort of 'gush' however turned-on you get. Also, how much is 'really really wet'? You might be, realtively speaking already there? Maybe you could kind of 'steer' the conversation round to the subject when you're having a chat with your female friends and 'compare notes' as it were? Male opinions could well be less reliable, as they might suggest that it actually IS some indication of how sexy and aroused a girl is. Utter rubbish! You might be a real foxy-lady with plenty of sexual energy, but not one who gets especially wet. They only thing I can think of that will alter the actual amount is how long you remain sufficiently aroused. Best wishes.
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My daughter is in middle school and she really wants to become a fashion designer. She loves matching stuff together and things like that. I try things to help her develop what she likes to do. So far all I've tried putting her in a sewing class for the summer but it was so expensive I could only pay for 3 classes. I would love for her to countinue following her dream. But i know nothing about this catagorie. I want something cheap and not so expensive. Or maybe a little program or game on the computer to help her learn how to sketch or how to do whatever other things she needs to learn about fashion desighing. So if you could please help me with this problem that would be fantastic. Thanks! (link)
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Tough field to get into. First thing you need to learn is to sketch correctly proportioned figures. Try to get her a 'lay-figure'. They're little wooden jointed, poseable 'people', cheap and easily available. You'll recognise one when you see it even from that description. She's not aiming at anatomically perfect figures like in a medical textbook, but you've got to be able to quickly sketch a human figure in a variety of positions. Meantime, search on the net using 'fashion+resources' or similar, download some sketches of figures in classic fashion poses, print them and she can start sketching creations over them. They're often called 'croqui'. Expensive computer design packages are for commercial illustrators really, fashion designs are about ideas, and coloured pencils put them down as well, if not much better. It's a much more natrual & intuitive way to work. Of course, look at all stuff you can from designers, bet she's got her favourites! The resource sites will have plenty of other free download stuff. Backgrounds, clothing items, fabric 'swatches', loads of stuff. A copy of Vogue doesn't cost much, and should occupy her for HOURS! When it comes to textile design, cutting and sewing...it's going to be virtually impossible to teach herself to a high enough level really. To learn that you've really got to go through the all the accepted channels. Of course this means making coursework choices in relevent subjects that will lead to entry at a university, and starting about now. In other words, commitment and hard-work! Actually she'd love the further/higher education fashion design environment, and it puts her in a place where the right people are looking to encourage and recruit. Now you might be thinking you'd prefer her to put all that effort into something a bit more predictable job-wise. But a degree is not 'job specific', more a proof of all-round intellectual ability. And there are VERY MANY fashion-related positions out there. A 'lighting designer' who works out the catwalk lighting rigs is still working in 'fashion' for instance. I hope she follows her dreams...all the way. Talent will show, same as in every line of work, but she's got to put herself in the right places and communicate it, or how will anyone ever know she's got it?
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Female / 17
My boyfriend and I tried to have sex a few days ago. ( I'm a virgin, he is not.) He couldn't get it fully in because I couldn't stand the pain. What could help me to stand the pain?
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Not everyone has the same 'threshold' or tolerance to pain by any means (some people say having tattoos done for instance hurts like mad, some say it's hardly noticeable). But if you were hurting so much that you couldn't have sex I'd bet the problem is that your the muscles 'down there' are tensing-up too much to let him in. Now that's a natural physical response to stress and anxiety ('panic' if you prefer a simple term). So you've got to relax mentally, when you do the muscles will behave themselves and it won't be anything like as painful. I know, easier said than done when you're having sex first time eh?? The semi-failed attempt last time will pile on the pressure next time you try too, making things even tighter. Intuitively you probably know the answer, remove the worries. Are you ready, not being pressured into it? Do you trust him to treat your body with respect? Have you sorted-out birth-control arrangements to remove unwanted pregnancy worries? Ticking these boxes should remove plenty of anxieties for a start. There's nearly always some discomfort when you start having sex, and often a little vaginal bleeding. Now pain & bleeding equals damage normally with our bodies doesn't it? More worry! Well, they DON'T signal damage when it comes to 'losing your cherry', they're perfectly natural and harmless responses and once they're over, they're over and done with for good, letting you relax and have fun in future. Obviously, you want to make sure your chap spends plenty of time getting you FULLY and properly aroused before he enters your. By all means use extra lubricant if you feel the need. Wow...that was the longest way of saying 'RELAX' in the world I bet!! You'll be OK.
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I'm 18 and still a virgin, I'm very sexually frustrated and I'm horny like 24/7.. Not that anyone wants to hear about me masturbating, but I took an old toothbrush that used to sing (has a thicker handle) and put a little sock around it, and put it inside a condom and have been using that lately..I keep feeling like im so close to cumming but I never can and it's really annoying so I always end up giving up because I'm tired of trying after so long. I was wondering why I'm having so much trouble cumming for one, and if there's any tips for that. And also if anyone knows of a way to make a homemade dildo or something because I don't have the guts to go into a store and buy one lol and I dont have the money either. Anything helps, thanks. (link)
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Hi there. I know...sexual tension's no joke. And now you're getting even more frustrated because you're not quite reaching a climax and letting it all out? Probably safe to say that's not doing much for your mood in general, quite apart from the 'constantly horny' factor!! Buying sex-aids is a potentially embarassing event, although you really WON'T drop dead of shame in the shop, I promise. But let's start at the beginning. Now every lady's got her preferences and they're personal to her, but I wonder if you might be concentrating a little bit too hard on 'simulating sex' rather than bringing yourself off? Now of course the whole area is sensitive, and it's true that, 'feeling full' is a big part of it for some, hence the shops full of toys. For others, that may have no appeal at all, so the toys won't help any. As you no doubt are aware, the clitoris is the part which is really responsible for making that orgasm actually happen isn't it? Possibly you could concentrate on stimulating that...which of course doesn't require any shop-bought or home-made items being inserted at all. Worth a try? Not going on long enough is a possible problem, but if your doing it until you're tired out I doubt it's that. A nice quiet place and time where you won't be disturbed will help loads. You do need to be able to really let go when it starts to happen. A proper lubricant from a chemist might help. Indulging in favourite fantasy scenaria in your mind definitely will. Physical problems that actually prevent a woman coming are very rare. I really doubt you have one. It's nearly always psychological and/or a question of technique. Getting stressed because it won't come definitely won't help. You're chatting quite openly about it so I take it you're not one of the 'it's wicked and I'll go to hell if I masturbate' clients! I reckon you'll get there, but don't get side-tracked by the do-it-yourself dildo thing too much. Concentrate more on yourself... knowing your body...what feels nice...where. Hope you might find something of use here?
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12 turning 13 / Female
Ok, so I'm in seventh grade and so is this other guy. Here's the story, he's from another school but we still see eachother everyday because our schools do 7thand 8th grade sports together so we go to waterpolo practice everyday. he's really funny and everry single guy is friends with him. Plus, its not like I'd ever feel awkward around him because I'm surpirisingly used to seeing guys in speedos everyday (im on a lot of swim teams) :) anyway so yeah just to give you an idea of him- great body, blonde, blue eyes, and his name is that of a sad taylor swift song about a little boy. He's reaally nice the only bad thing is this- my friends think he's weird. in the, always kinda hyper wierd. -his nickname's little creeper.- :) haha well anyway it's just that my friend is always saying how he's aalways staring at me and at our last game he smiled at me and then his friend asked me for my name and when I asked why he said oh, {his name} just wants to know. and at picture day he was standing next to me and my friends and then one of his friends said, 'wait which one?' and he was like, 'ssh! and he pulled them aside and when I 'casually' looked over they were looking at me. :) and then later at practice I accidentally hit him in the head with a ball and he yelled, 'ow who did that!' but when I said 'oh sorry that was me' he smiled and said it was ok. and then later when he wasjust fooling around throwing the ball on the roof and catching it when it came backdown I was underther roof of the canopy and he was looking at me the whole time and when I looked at him I blushed and looked away and I think he smiled. (link)
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Got to second that answer. Lucky old you! If guys his own age like him, he's sound. Lads of that age will be ruthless with a real 'weirdo' and wouldn't hesitate to make a total outcast of him if he was. Cruel...but true. You've got stuff in common. He's blond-haired, blue-eyed & fit. Makes you laugh & smile. He doesn't even mind being whacked on the head if you do it! Now...your girlfriends. They're not stupid. They've picked-up on how he's looking at you and how he's acting when you're around. Bet you a pound-to-a-penny...they're jealous as HELL! So they're trying to knock him down a bit in your eyes, put some doubts in your mind. You'll get plenty of that. Proves you're on a winner! OK...don't fall out with them. But don't let them mess it up either. Have fun!
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Alright, here is the deal, I am 17 going on 18. I am a single, female senior in High School. I decided to have sex when I was 16, I was peer pressured into it, and after that I told myself I would never do it again. Well, teenage hormones started pumping, so I called a friend, we hooked up twice. Then I ended up getting a boyfriend not to long afterwards, and about 3ish weeks into our relationship, I slept with him, well My Aunt and Uncle found out about this encounter, and I never told them, I didn't want to tell them, anyway, my uncle disowned me and every chance he gets he calls me a slut, and told me I don't deserve to live anymore. He doesn't want me around his children anymore because I am a "stupid cunt" IDK what to do ): I need help.... He won't let me move out until I am 18 and that's in 7 months, I don't think I can handle this verbal abuse... (link)
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This seems a particularly violent reaction by your uncle, wholly out of proportion with the event in question. I would think that some 'demon' in his own mind is at the root rather than simply your actions, and any sort of counselling would only be of benefit if HE would agree to it. Which is unlikely. I can't add a lot to the answers you have already, this form of emotional/mental brutality is NOT acceptable in any way, guardian or not and teachers etc might be your first port of call. I can only think of one aspect not covered. How long is it since it happened? I only ask because such irrational and violent emotional outbursts are quite often reasonably short-lived, and almost impossible to sustain. The situation may calm down in a little while. Either way it's essential to shut yourself off to the negative nature of his remarks. They're more about him than you. You've done nothing immoral, unethical or illegal here, I assure you. Finally...would you say he was, in your opinion a fair, reasonable and open minded man before this? Did you like him? Did you respect his opinions and judgement previously? Answering these questions might be quite enlightening for you. Positive answers might suggest good hope of him calming down. Negative answers? Despise him, ignore him, use him for now because it's convenient and leave when you're ready. Best wishes.
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So I like this guy and I haven't talked to him before because I'm too scared. He gives me the states sometimes and when ever I'm around he becomes really quiet. He is actually really talkative normally. Once he turned around on his bike and stared at me.i don't know if he likes me but I really like him. There is this other girl who likes him and they used to date and he talks to her sometimes. He also never makes eye contact with me. I think he knows I like him but I don't know if he likes me. I want him to ask me out! Ahhh what should I do? (link)
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Now, all my life I've known girls and far older women holding on to the idea that they have bags of self-doubts and insecurities when a new relationship possibilty presents itself, and that guys on the other hand have none whatsoever. Wrong...very wrong...we're FULL of them! But talking about them to our mates the way girls do?NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS. It's not very 'manly' to talk about feelings at all, y'know!! Really...we do. Will she like me? Will she say yes when I ask her...or fall about laughing? Am I good looking enough? Will she be horribly dissapointed after a day or two? I bet she gets asked out all the time by guys. We ask ourselves stuff like this, beat ourselves up with it. And many a golden opportunity is missed. You find that out much later, sadly. So. Use your feminine savvy and try and make it easy for him to ask you out. Be around where you know he'll be. Looking your best of course. Try and find some common subject. You mentioned a bike? Look up some stuff on bikes on the net, ask him if it's a two-stroke thingy or a double-camshaft doodah or something. Basically, ask him something he knows about and can look cool answering...we like that! Try 'leading questions'. Something he can only answer with a proper sentence, not just yes/no/grunt. The 'I think he knows I like him' bit's familiar. Does he? HOW??? Getting the picture? Sounds to me like you've got him on the hook already. Now just reel him in!
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