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Q: how do you actually have sex i chose you to ask because i think you give good advice that is very usfull

it just comes natural really. different positions you can look up online. yo make out and get heated up and things take there own path. its hard to explain because you can only say certain things on here. just try not to be nervous and if you are let your boyfriend know you are nervous. if you are not ready to have sex please wait.

Q: My boyfriend of over 4yrz cheated on me, he was drunk and kissed another girl...Do you think I should forgive him??? He been crying and is truly sorry he said, and he said he was drunk and it didnt mean anything at all..I found out becoz the girl told me..this was over 1 month ago...Now he is not friends with her and wants nothing to do with her at all.( they used to be really good friends) thats all that had happen a kiss.

honestly you sound pretty made up your mind that you do not want to break up with him although in my opinion a cheater is a cheater.

Q: Hey everyone, if you go to google and look up "William Suh arrest". Im the victum in that change. I dont know what to do, i still love that man and the people dont even have the facts stright about any of it! they are making himout to be a horrible person and he is NOT. I love him and belive he did nothing wrong, i really want to talk to him, but i cant sit here and listen to the horrible things people are saying about him. They dont know him, I DO!
what do i do T_T

it is still rape of a minor you told your parents your parents can press charges tell your police department you wanted it you did no say no there for it isnt rape you lied abotyour age there how was he supose to know you were 13 unless you told him?? did you tell the police this?

Q: PLEASE ANSWER ASAP.....!!!!!!!!!

okay so my best friend just told me that one of our guy friends has a crush on her and thinks she is hot ... but he moved away to somewhere like 17 hours away. BUT THE PROBLEM IS.... that he said "i think you are hot" (to my friend) and then he said "but your other friend ___(me)___ is not, i never thought she was hot" SO NOW... i am totally depressed cause i think that i am ugly and i feel ugly. i know that one persons opinion means nothing really especially since i dont even like this guy. UGH .... so now i have really low self esteem and i am kinda mad for my friend to tell me this .....it is kinda like bragging. so now i am kinda mad at her for saying like that he thought she was hot and i am ugly. so what do i do cause i dont wanna be mad at her and i am losing confidence in myself :( ANSWER ASAP!!!!!
thnxs :) :(

just ignore it. you will find a guy whom likes you for you. it just takes time. and what people say doesnt matter.

Q: so basicly i have an issue.
me and my parents, mostly my mom, have never gotten along. I am a slightly stubborn teenager, and i don't like addmitting i am wrong if im not. My parents are pretty strict and unreasonable with most things. and when i talk to them about it they never understand what i am trying to say and just don't seem to get just how redicules they are being. We fight all the time, and i am pretty good at defending myself, but all it gets me is more fights and trouble. What always happens is we yell at eachother for a while, and ten ignore eachother, and eventually forget about it. but noting is ever acomplished and they never admit they are wrong. Yet they expect to admit when i am wrong, and they yell and me, but expect me not to yell at them. And they just have way too many rules and things i should and shouldn't do that its imposible for me to be perfect. but compared to all my friends, and all kids really, im a pretty good kid, i put up with all of there shit, and they still give me the responsiblities of an adult and the freedom of a two year old. any suggestions on what to do becuase i really cant deal with this anymore?

how old are you?
Okay growing up for my I had a brother with a 4.0 was in college then joined the militery. My little brother was a mommys boy (USED TO BE) now he is a little toruble maker. well i wanted to be out with my friends doing god knows what partying etc. well my parents and i didnt get along more with my mom than dad he would scream at me until he was blue in the face trying to make me cry. never worked. you have to deal with it until you are 18 or they allow you to move out. try to sit down and talk with them. tell it is tough on you all this fighting and you want to try and work out a compermise? maybe calling when you get to a friends house calling when yo get to the movies or where you go. if you leave your friends hose let them now talk to them more. do chores around the house lots of them keep things clean. not only does the releave stress on your parents but it calms them more and gives them more trust in you.

Q: I was fingering my girlfriend today, she orgasmed, I took my fingers out (two), and there was some blood on them, just a little. She said it didn't hurt and was actually surprised to see it. I figured it was because I was going a little rougher than usual. Her period isn't for a couple weeks.

Anyway, just wondering if that was normal/common/whatever.

after i lost my virginity i still bleed for i think a year or so. every time a guy did something sex or fingering it didnt hurt but it was like not having my cherry popped all the way

Q: i'm 19/female.

a couple years ago, i think it was like 3 years ago i made out with this guy. we were at a movie, and it just...happened. well i usually don't see him but recently i saw him and he is SUPER hot. he was hot when i made out with him, but he looks better (: anyways when i saw him i was in the car and he was like is that linds? and i was like ya! and he's like whats up!

he doesn't make it awkward, but everytime i see him all i can think about is making out with him and thinking that i was a bad kisser so for me, it's awkward. he never said i was a bad kisser but he was one of my first make-outs. i'm still not an expert kisser, but stillll.

it's just weird when i see him, i feel like he just goes back to that day we made out. i'd like to start hanging out with him but i cant get over the feeling!

if you feel you really like him why not go for it. ask him to hang out sometime and continue what once was.

Q: Okay well I dont want this to come off as conceited or stuck up in any way because I am not like that.

But I seem to have noticed something about all my relationships that really is bothering me.

I would really like to know how a girl can make her inner beauty shine more than her outer beauty to a guy. In every relationship I have been in, most of the guys seemed to care more about how I looked. And because they liked it, they would always comment on it, and be very focused on it. But I am also a very happy, loving, but nerdy girl. Nerdy as in I enjoy learning, I like debating over issues in the world, I am very culturally aware and I would love it if, for once, a guy would notice these things about me. Which they dont. Whenever I try to have a serious conversation about something in the world, and I am being very serious about it, guys just smile and say that I'm cute, and then they change the subject. It is really aggravating when I am not taken seriously i guess because I am considered attractive...And my question is how can I get guys to see that I am more than just a pretty face, that I have ideas and maybe that i wanna discuss them????

how do you dress?? dont be reveling. maybe one day wear pjs hair in a messy bun around your boyfriend. get to know the guy before dating him you will be able to tell if he is into you or your looks.

Q: It's been like this for quite some time now. I feel lost, like I'm slipping away. I've been stressed with relationships, friendships, and school.And.. I feel so different with my boyfriend then before, and I'm not too sure why. I mean, I still care for him, but something has changed. And we got into this fight today, and it hasnt helped whatsoever. I've been in this big hole of depression. I don't know what to do. On top of this, I've had a really bad urge to hurt myself. I've already cut myself open with my nails. Any advice would be appreciated.

I am 18 now. but when i was in 8th grade i had this amazing friend amanda. she used to cut. i had a very long talk with her one night and convinced her to speak to her mother and work things out. seek some help. and she did her mom was so thank full. I graduated high school a year early but not the best grades i really regret that. its great to have a boyfriend there for you but not always helpful your not happy leave him tell him you would like to be friends if he is willing?? trust me you have plenty of time for a relationship. with the way the econmy is going you are better off focusing on school work.. as for friends dont let a little fight ruin your friendships work those out even if yo have a friend or two you are good off. you dont need a million friends. when you get sad or upset punch a pillow scream in a pillow.. get a note book and write everything down even if it doesnt make sense. good luck

Q: I'll make it as brief & clear as possible.

I am 19 and female. I live at home with my parents. My boyfriend and I are getting an apartment in a month or two (thank the Lord). But in my house, my parents always put me down and yell at me. I have clinical depression, and high anxiety. I am on lots of medication. I can't seek help b/c I am broke (just started working) and my parents think it's all in my head. My mom is an alcoholic so when she is drunk she likes to hit me, and yell at me. My dad doesn't drink [he's diabetic], but he yells at me and threatens me. Sometimes I have to go all day stuck in my room without food because my parents won't let me out.

I just started work at this bank. Well my manager has been very criticizing of me. I am a very emotional person. So when she does, I want to cry. And she says I need to be super happy with customers, like perky kinda happy. She got one complaint from a customer saying I didn't make her comfortable or something. I try my best to be happy. Yeah I smile.. but I can't be super happy. It's just really hard. At home I get all this crap, and I go to work. I feel depressed, and it's hard to be perky happy. I couldn't even pretend. I just feel so desolate.. I am trying to make everyone happy, but I don't know how.

Could someone please tell me what I should do.. how can I make everyone happy?

okay well first rule of having a job.. home problems stay at home work problems stay at work. think about the future hun you must have an amazing boyfriend if the two of you are moving in together? think about you two living together.. find ways to control the way you feel. you are 19 now so its not like you can get children services involved now. if they are abusive i wouldnt recomend talking back but breaking something go out side and break something. or scream into a pillow certain music. dont just sit in your room and think about whats bothering you let it out. you are letting it build up inside of you.. get a notebook and just start writing. write untill your hand hurts and it doesnt evben matter if what you write makes sense i went through depression. with the customers. i had that problem when i first started my job and trust me it stunk lol. but just huge smile say hi how are you today. how can i help you keep a smile. tell them i hope you have a great day. stuff like that. good luck with your boyfriend and your job dont let your parents get you down.

Q: hey i have this pain under my left rib(as if you were me right if ur looking at me) and its not the rib its right under it right at the bottom in towards the middle of my body. anyone know what this could me?

do you play sports or wrestle around? you could have bruised it or pulled a muscle. you sh ould go to the doctor and get a xray just in case. but when my husbands gets them from baseball. ben gay.

Q: Hi,
I am a 17/f. I live in a tiny town, full of older people... and in my pre.k to 12 school, there aren't a whole lot of good friends. I am not saying that there aren't people,there are.. there just aren't very many that don't smoke, aren't jerks, won't stab you in the back, wreck havoc, and so on. I have never had any (what I consider) real friends that a person can rely on. Until.. I met this one new girl, several years ago, we were best friends for several years, then she dumped me for my brother Whom she dates, sucks faces with, sleeps with, and excetera excetera. My mom who I live with (my parents are divorced) doesnt seem to care about what I think/do no matter how many times I confront her. She has a boyfriend now (he seems sort of decent) that she spends almost every spare minute with alongside my little sister (who is twelve, but acts like a baby and has my mother on the end of her pinky).
Anyhow, I really need someone I can just hang out with, be myself with, who will make me laugh, and help me smile more. I really wish I could meet some different people, get out there, find a boyfriend maybe, and yeah.. theres not much to do in a little town.
Sometimes I want to go to the city, but I want someone close to my own age to go with me. I am not a very depressed person. I draw,bake,crochet,sew,design,bike ride,play sports,play with my dog, and listen to music. I am very artistic. I just need something more exciting in my life. All these simple things are getting boring. And no, there aren't any clubs or sports that I can be involved in. What to do what to do...

I live in a small town now but I grew up in the city. Have you thought about getting a job? I know it sounds boring, but i meet alot of cool people where i worked at. It takes a little while. The kids at school may smoke or drink but some of them are pretty good people. You can hang out with them but you don't have to smoke or anything. I hope I helped. You know when i first moved to a small town I hated it.. but now when I go to the city I get so annoyed haha. My parents got divorced to. It was a realy tough time in my life. I blamed my self. When they got divored I endded up pregnant. I was 15. My mom is now dating a dude who is a complete jerk smokes weed and has it around my little brother. they live about 13 hours away and there is nothing i can do about it. stay strong..

Q: So last night I had sex with my boyfriend. It was both of our first times, so we didn't know what we were really doing hahah, but he was really nervous and so was I, and he couldn't 'put it in' It was hard to do and the only way it worked was me on top of him. We would get it in for a little then it would slide down. Is this normal? Is it hard to fit in the first time? And is it normal for my 'area' to feel weird and kind of hurt? I feel stupid asking this but I am curious cause I had never done this before! thanks=]

Very Very Normal for you to be sore during and afterwards. My first time he have a lot of trouble as well. It worked easier with me on top but still kind of slipped out a lot. You are both beginners and with time you will get better learneing what ways work better for him legs up legs down one up how to move, etc.

Q: What is pre cum exactly? My boyfriend and I had sex and he said he just had pre cum. Is that bad? When does it happpen? And I think he did with the condom on, the condom didn't break so i just wanted to make sure.

it is totally normal it is just a clear liqud before he cums.

Q: I have been texting and chatting it up with this guy for a pretty long time and we were getting really into eachother. We both admitted that we liked eachother. For the last six days he has not text me back or anything, but I got my friend to text him and he text her right back. Now his relationship status in In a Relationship.
what should i do?

he more then likely found a girlfriend. instead of being polite and telling you that he has a girlfriend now he is just ignoring you. i would just forget about him and remember there are plenty of guys out there.

Q: ive been on birth control for a long time now. ive been taking it on time but 2 days ago i accidently took 2 i thought i hadnt taken it so yesterday i didnt take my pill and i had unprotected sex today i took my pill. what are the chances of me getting pregnant?

there could be a good chance it depends on your body.

my friend lisa got off the pill to try for a baby took her one try

my friend sam took her two weeks.

okay i dont remember how long it takes for a pill to work 3-4 weeks??

well you just started all over again. make sure now you take it everyday at the same time.

good luck

Q: I sweat a lot during sports and on hot days. what is the best deodorant that is over the counter? are there any other ways to prevent sweating to much? thanks in advance

i dont know if you are a male or female but my husband sweats like ALOT lol. but he uses axe spray deodorant. and the roll on stuff. he trys to get clear though..

i used to sweat when playing sports and stuff when i was in school i started using secret scented stuff i think it really helps

Q: I need to find sculptures (with artist name etc.) that relate to Chinese culture. I've searched for aaaages, I just can't find anything >.< anyone know any websites or anything?

http://www.chinaculture.org/gb/en_madeinchina/2005-12/28/content_77563.htm

Q: to be, TRULY in love with your current boyfriend when mixed and confused and unwanted feelings come to you from your long-ago ex?

i think it is. just because this happens, i cant control feelings. i love my boyfriend so much, but i am so confused about my ex and how i feel. but it's possible to still love my boyfriend while im figuring things out, right?

you can still love your boyfriend but possibly putting your relationship at risk because you are thinking about your ex boyfriend. think about this. how does your ex feel about you? did he treat you good. how does your current boyfriend trest you. what was the reason you are your ex broke up. if it was from fighting to much or cheating things more and likely will not change.

Q: School starts the 27 and I've been going to bed at 3 am every day and waking up at 12..to make this short how do I get back into the rhythm of Going to bed like 6 hours earlier??

maybe some running during the day?? tv off, phone off, no computer after 7.. 8' clock get in bed. close your eyes lights off lay there youll fall asleep set an alarm 30 minutes before youd get up for school strech.. then take a cold shower. dont just sit down and get tired keep moving.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.