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annoying parents
so basicly i have an issue.
me and my parents, mostly my mom, have never gotten along. I am a slightly stubborn teenager, and i don't like addmitting i am wrong if im not. My parents are pretty strict and unreasonable with most things. and when i talk to them about it they never understand what i am trying to say and just don't seem to get just how redicules they are being. We fight all the time, and i am pretty good at defending myself, but all it gets me is more fights and trouble. What always happens is we yell at eachother for a while, and ten ignore eachother, and eventually forget about it. but noting is ever acomplished and they never admit they are wrong. Yet they expect to admit when i am wrong, and they yell and me, but expect me not to yell at them. And they just have way too many rules and things i should and shouldn't do that its imposible for me to be perfect. but compared to all my friends, and all kids really, im a pretty good kid, i put up with all of there shit, and they still give me the responsiblities of an adult and the freedom of a two year old. any suggestions on what to do becuase i really cant deal with this anymore?
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Hi there, read your story and would like to tell you your not alone. Your going through what everyone goes through with your parents and it's not gonna get better until you realise that they are right. They maybe do things in a way you hate and do it all to often. But you'll realise some day.... maybe when you have a child of your own.... EVERY SINGLE THING THEY DO THEY DO BECAUSE THEY LOVE YOU!!!.... This brings us to the second and most important point, something I really hope you take away with you. You can shout, scream, walk out, do anything you want. You'll never change them because they think they are right in their heads. The only thing you can control is YOUR actions. If you didn't shout back at them would that not make you a wiser person and maybe they would follow your lead. If you followed their rules, just as you'll expect your child to follow yours. Maybe they will see you for the person you really should be. It's a real hard job being a parent and we make mistakes every day at it. Remember that they are not super human either. Take a breath. Chill out with them. Sit down for dinner and speak honestly and calmly to them. I'd wager some cash just now that if you did that, they'd listen.... maybe not as much as you'd like them to listen but they'd listen all the same.
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talk it out. in a very calm way, be positive. look at what you are doing wrong, and then tell them what you think they are doing wrong. and you can both change for the better.
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Don't you think you deserved to be screamed at?
They yell at you, and you are to listen to them - not yell back. When they are talking to you, shut your mouth until they're done. Talking back & having a smart mouth is what's getting you in trouble. Listen to what they have to say, and when they are done, then you may talk. Do not talk back, do not scream like a baby, and listen when they say something to you.
You cannot expect freedom when you are acting like a baby about things. Another thing, it's their house so it's their rules. If they want to have millions of rules (whether you like the rules or not) they can have them because you are under their roof & they are the adult & you are the child. They don't have to make things easy for you if they don't want to.
There's nothing wrong with parents who look out for your well-being. I understand where you're coming from, but chances are I'm older than you, and I'm pretty sure I am, and I've played this game with my parents. You can either behave & respect them, or you can act like a brat when you don't get your way & kiss all your freedom goodbye! :) Pretty simple.
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how old are you?
Okay growing up for my I had a brother with a 4.0 was in college then joined the militery. My little brother was a mommys boy (USED TO BE) now he is a little toruble maker. well i wanted to be out with my friends doing god knows what partying etc. well my parents and i didnt get along more with my mom than dad he would scream at me until he was blue in the face trying to make me cry. never worked. you have to deal with it until you are 18 or they allow you to move out. try to sit down and talk with them. tell it is tough on you all this fighting and you want to try and work out a compermise? maybe calling when you get to a friends house calling when yo get to the movies or where you go. if you leave your friends hose let them now talk to them more. do chores around the house lots of them keep things clean. not only does the releave stress on your parents but it calms them more and gives them more trust in you.
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