|
is it possible...
to be, TRULY in love with your current boyfriend when mixed and confused and unwanted feelings come to you from your long-ago ex?
i think it is. just because this happens, i cant control feelings. i love my boyfriend so much, but i am so confused about my ex and how i feel. but it's possible to still love my boyfriend while im figuring things out, right?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
This is more than a yes or no question. You have to tell your current boyfriend what you are feeling. But before you do that you need to figure it out for yourself. You need to think about what is it that is making you miss your last boyfriend and if maybe your current boyfriend lacks this so you now find yourself missing your ex. after you find out you HAVE to tell your boyfriend because it's not fair for him to live a lie. This is a complicated issue and perhaps you rushed into this new relationship with the hopes of forgetting your ex. The bottom line is that if you love your boyfriend you wouldn't be confused about your ex.
]
Hi there :]
Yes, It can be possible. Although it may feel wrong to have those feelings, there's no reason to kill yourself over it. You say you love your boyfriend, which is a positive sign. And just the fact that you know you can control your actions towards your ex lets us know you have somewhat a mature mind...As long as you don't cheat, everything will be fine. Just try to control those feelings... In some cases even letting these feelings out (towards your ex) can help!! I found that doing that and then keeping distance helps...
So yes, it's possible to love your boyfriend while still trying to figure things out... Just make sure to not hurt your boyfriend by doing something wrong you know?
Good luck, and I hope I helped!
Uniq =]
]
you can still love your boyfriend but possibly putting your relationship at risk because you are thinking about your ex boyfriend. think about this. how does your ex feel about you? did he treat you good. how does your current boyfriend trest you. what was the reason you are your ex broke up. if it was from fighting to much or cheating things more and likely will not change.
]
From personal experience, I don't think it's possible. I found that I very much cared about the new guy, but that I found it near impossible to be entirely fair on him. I was constantly comparing him to my ex and expecting them to be exactly the same. In the end, my constant demands and inability to accept the new boyfriend as an individual was the main reason we broke up.
Of course your situation is probably slightly different to mine. Having said that, if you still have feelings for your ex, I think you will find it incredibly difficult to truly give yourself to and be honest with your current boyfriend.
It can take a very long time to get over someone. It's not uncommon to get into a new relationship before you realise you're not as over your ex as you thought. If you can't work out your feelings, I think it would be a good idea to have a break from your boyfriend in order to figure out how you feel. However, you need to be careful and think about how highly you value your current boyfriend before you do this. He probably won't take too kindly to being rejected out of the blue and may not want you back afterwards. Try and be as honest and kind as possible.
Alternatively, you can try and stay with your boyfriend while you figure out your feelings, although this can be very difficult and may not work. Try and be logical and objective with your feelings as well as honest with yourself. You're the only one who knows how you really feel.
Good luck.
]
More Questions: |