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Anyone ever have laughing gas and conscious sedation dentistry? I am due to have 6 teeth removed and IV of anxlolysis is to be used. To say I am petrified is an understatement! (link)
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I'm NOT a dentist or expert on this. However, if I'm afraid as you are I would do the following. Know deep down that your dentist is an expert and does this almost every day and will not harm you or any other patient.
Secondly, call him/her up and explain that you are terrified about the appointment and having 6 teeth removed etc. Ask him to explain what is being done, how the equipment works, what the IV does and al the complications.
Ask him/her to post-pone for awhile until you feel fully educated about this and not as fearful. You should also ask for a parent to be present or near the chair when this happens as often moral support makes it easier. They probably see this a lot with young people.
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I'm always having dreams that i'm checking my boyfriends phone & just snooping around. Why does this happen? Or what could it mean? (link)
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Dreams are thought pictures. When you are asleep your brain is still going through thinking about what you fear, like, and have general concern about or with like you do when awake. The thoughts are registered in moving pictures which we call dreams. That's all it is.
It's your fear and or trust issues coming across in the form of a dream. It cannot hurt you but is rather making you aware of a persistent issue that you haven't dealt with. Dreams are almost always stuff like this that we push aside while awake to the subconcious rather than deal with head-on while awake. Dreams can also be about frivolous things or to do with desire/hormones at this stage too.
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I am currently working towards moving to Cali by december. I want to pursue singing and maybe some acting. I am currently working on a demo tape to hand out to people. What are some ways I can know about casting & where to look & where to go about pursuing music. Any suggestions would be awesome as this is a recent choice of mine. (link)
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You should find a reputable agent through SAG's list of them before going out there. They deal with casting directors and you don't. The same with music they can get you the gigs and put demos in the hands of the right people.
That's what you need professional representation. That and a backup plan as California is full of talented young people in music, dance, acting like you are and all gunning for the same dream. Have your education, funds, and a plan B too for common sense.
I don't know how coffee houses and bars work as each are different but I know that's the only type of gig where you don't need an agent but could sure use one to work out all the business. Also agents and yourself for that matter check the trade magazines for auditions too.
If you are a singer, dancer or actor try to get as much training as you can be it in improv, sketch or whatever else with people who are well known in your city in those areas especially in voice.
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Hii .... 14/F. I got this song on my computer and it was about a girl who's dad has died.* so here's my story... When I was 3 years old my mom and dad got divorsed because my dad is a alcoholic and he was allways like abousing us and most of the time we slept lockked up in the bathroom*..* so my mom met my stephdad and we bacame very lose bacause I never had a dad when I was 10 he died of cancer...* it was so bad I had to get help.* it worked but someyimes I just really miss my stephdad..* and I don't want to cry bacause my mom don't really understand why I'm crying..* I really miss him..* what should I do? And there's no one I can talk to..* (link)
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Grief is a difficult thing and experienced differently by everyone and for children is often more intense than adults. It's okay to be sad one moment and not know what to feel the next. You had a deep connection to this man and processing that and feelings about his death is profound.
I know your mother would understand and appreciate that this is troubling you. It's important to be honest about this to her. You would benefit greatly from professional counseling with a grief counselor and or therapist who can help you understand your feelings and reaction to this event in your life. Definitely tel your mother or a trusted adult what's going on. I know they will assist you.
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I just took 22 advil pm and 5regular asprsin what will happen (link)
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Proceed to the nearest emergency room a.s.a.p and be brutally honest about what you took and why. It's a serious situation.
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Well I have lots of spots on my forehead right in between my eyebrows and it isn't getting better its just spots and a few red spots and blemishes and it really just isn't nice because when I go to a friends house she has no spots or anything obvious and if we take photos together my acne is really obvious and now its just getting annoying. So I was wondering how can I get rid of it in a few weeks or so. These are the things i have and am able to use:
Sudocream
Toothpaste
Vapour rub(i read it gets rid of spots i haven't tried it yet)
Tee trea oil face wash
Neutrogena visibly clear moisturiser(i use it because it doesn't clog pores)
So which of these things will get rid of the spots which of them will get rid of the redness which things work best what order should i use them in ???
Thank you (link)
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Toothpaste is a new one. I've never heard that before. One thing I do know is that with acne that isn't going away you need the big guns. You need to see a doctor for a prescription cream.
That will eat away at the acne and what causes it and keep it from reappearing. The methods above don't contain enough medication or any to get the job done the way prescription strength can. My recommendation is to ditch methods that don't work and see a physician. They can even give you free tubes to try.
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i have always liked to hang out with my cousin but now that he is always with his friends i dont see him with out them. i am starting to like one, is that ok? (link)
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I can't see why it wouldn't be okay to like someone even if you met through a cousin. It's fine but I suggest being honest and make him aware so it's not a surprise. If your heart skips a beat around this person get to know him and go from there.
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I have to notify my office of the complex that I live in about renewing the lease or moving. I only have 6 days to let them know otherwise they charge a huge fee that I cant afford. My fiance and I will be paying 1100 for a 1 bed room in a complex that has a pool gym and tennis court that we barely use. The rent use to be 945 but it goes up depending on the market. In order to move most places require first last and security which could end up being 2000. We dont have that kind of money to come up with. I like where we live but the rent is way to much for the area we live in and for a 1 bedroom. Most places we looked at online that are nice are almost the same price a couple hundred cheaper a month but we would have to pay first and last also expenses to move. Is it better to pay the down payments and have a cheaper rent every month or is it better to not have to pay a down payment and pay the extra every month? (link)
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You have seen through your history with the landlords that they are pretty money hungry and are always upping the rent.
Who knows what it will leap to next especially if it's hard enough now for you.
I would tell them that you aren't renewing your lease for that reason plus the fact you never use the other facilities.
Next I would tell your parents that the rent is sky high right now and you have to get out of that place or you're finances are screwed and they only gave you six days to decide before raising a penalty on you.
Stay there and pay them rent until you can find the right place and scrape together the $2000 you need first/last. It's not ideal but seems an option unless they could put up the deposit money as a loan. Either way your current situation is not one I would stick with. You're getting rooked and they can up rent any time they please without much warning. You should look to see if they're breaking any laws in how they constantly do this to renters without much notice as well as that 6 day penalty.
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Hey F/14. ..... So my (ex) bf and I broke up cauze he slept at my best friend...* (girl) so we broke up and she and her bf broke up..* ( me and her bf is good friends and was a item be4) so we are single.... I really like him a lot!* he's a great person!* and we say stuff like " I love you" and so on...* I think I'm inlove with him.... But my ex asked me back!* what should I do? And how?*
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Do nothing. You aren't clear on what or whom you want. When that is the case people usually get hurt pretty badly--chiefly you. I would wait and see over time if you genuinely like him and he likes you. Wait and see as it's too soon to act upon.
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I need thoughts & opinions on why it may Be that I'm having problems urinating. About 5 days ago everything was okay and I was having no issues using the bathtoom. Then the next day (about 4 days ago) I got up and used the bathroom in the morning. I speed and everything felt fine... until the end. When my urine started slowing down as if I was done urinating I felt like I want done though so I pushed (not harsh) but it hurt and I felt a discomfort and pressure. I'm not sure how to explain it very well. When you per you obviously know when you're done pending, but now when I have the urge to pee, I go and the urine does not burn or sting, but when I get 'done' peeing I still feel like I have more in me that should come out but it doesn't and when i push out even slightly my private feels like theres a lot of presure in it. It's very discomforting and it stings a little to push out because of the pressure i feel. I've had the feeling to urinate very often. Like almost a day for the last 4 days. I should go to the doctor because im very curious to know why this is and i want it to go away of course because there Is something wrong. But theres reasons why im not going, yet. I've never had this happen to me (when I was little maybe but I'm 18 now and I've never had problems urinating). This really came up from out the blue. I feel like there's a block age or something in my private so when I pee the pee comes out fine but there's a pressure I feel and it feels like my tank is still full. I came off my period about a week and some days ago or so. Now when I pee though almost every time I wipe I have a Little bit of yellowish-brown gunk come out. It looks slimy, kind of like semen. Also I had a LITTLE bit of blood come out a couple times too. And yesterday, as I was on my way to go someplace, I had an urge to pee n all of a sudden it got worse n I actually had a couple drops of per or something leak. (Just a tad not a lot at all) but that's never happened. Maybe its the pressure that I've been feeling that didn't let me to hold that. By the way I have a boyfriend and we've had intercourse often for the last 8 months. We had intercourse about a day or two days before my problem occurred. My problem has Nothing to do with an STD though. And I don't believe it has to do with a pregnancy. Any ideas? Any advice is appreciated. (link)
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I'm not a doctor and none of us are. You really need to see one and have them check you out. I had a similar issue. I'm male but it shouldn't make a difference.
The possibility and the only one the doctor gave me was an infection of sorts that needed medication to resolve. One key thing he asked was about discharge from the penis or in females similar thing with urination and you mentioned that.
I know it may cost you to see a doctor or be embarrassing but you really need it cleared up. Another thing it could be is drinking too much that it creates a constant feeling of having to go or going too much and then straining etc. If you've been drinking more than normal that can occur. I would see a doctor and try to figure out why.
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Sometimes I feel like I have the best life. Like I can do anything. I am the person who can look in the mirror and smile because I know I can do anything I put my mind to. Then come the days like today. Filled with watching old television shows and wishing I was someone else. I get fixated on these shows. I don't even know if this all makes sense but it is what happens to me. I have nothing to do during the day I feel completely helpless and am forced to look at my life from a completely different and depressing view. I worry that if I just keep busy all the time I'll be missing on what is really happening but I avoid. (link)
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Depressed perhaps but not likely bi-polar. I have that affliction so know the signs. First, are your moods going from normal to depressed, to elated and back in endless fashion?
Secondly, do you have any feelings of omnipotence, in charge of the world, are an important figure be it government etc or grandiose ideas or what others would think are delusions?
Do you hear voices that won't go away? Do you have thoughts as well as speech that is far too rapid and extremely noticeable? There are other signs but those are key with bipolar. Also a big symptom is extremely poor financial decisions, and promiscuity.
If you have a firm grasp on what reality is and what it isn't that's key as those with Bi-Polar Disorder II won't. There is to my knowledge another type of the disease that is all of the above symptoms minus the delusions.
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I used to be an artist, back in school. I used to be a musician. That weird kid who knows he's weird and doesn't care, because that's who he is.
So what if many people didn't like me because of who I was? So what if they mocked me and tried to make me feel bad? It never worked, because the friends I had loved me for it.
I had skills that even I can't imagine(not being cocky, others always thought better of my art and music than I did), and I loved to draw and paint and play guitar and keyboard. I could sit down with nothing but a piece of paper and a box of charcoal and get lost in time for who knows how long, visiting places I'd never been, places no one had ever been, just completely in tune with myself, and for a few hours, nothing else would exist.
I'd go for what felt like 5 minutes and realized the whole day slipped away, and in front of me lay the image I saw in my mind.
I even had people offer $300-$400 for something I drew or painted. So I was going to go to college for 3D animation. I loved art, and I was good with computers, so it seemed like a good idea. The traditional arts don't make much money today, so this was a good compromise I could make. One that I could live with and love every day for the rest of my life, with enough money to afford paints and paper and charcoal and musical instruments on the side.
So I was dead set on going to college, but being a young, healthy, white male with parents who make good money, there was no such thing as grants for me. I didn't get any scholarships. And I certainly couldn't afford any loans - not yet.
And so I looked for a job. I searched and I searched, and the only place hiring was my least favorite fast-food restaurant paying minimum wage, part time. I've worked there over a year and a half now.
I used to be creative, weird, eccentric, making something new and beautiful every day, enjoying life even when it could be rough. People noticed me. People I didn't even know EXISTED knew me better than I thought they possibly could.
But now I'm not creative. I have artist's block. I'm a plain, boring guy working a dead-end job for minimum wage, 15 hours a week, pushing out the same old crap day in and day out. The same worthless crap. Shoveling it into the faces of plain, boring people. And the occasional success, who rubs it in my face with their $100k cars in the drive-through. I blend in. I'm boring, and most of my old friends consider me just a memory. No one knows me anymore.
I'm not me, and I'm trapped by this awful job that makes me hate every minute of this all. I'm trapped because I don't even make enough money to keep my car on the road.
What do I do to get out of this mess? How do I get back to being me? (link)
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If there's one thing I know for damn sure it's that people do not ever lose God Given talents. They're your birthright. They may appear hidden at times but they never fade or get taken away.
What is robbing you here is criticism from others and the fact you've accepted negative messages from your head that you can no longer do these things, that you're boring, whatever other lie it tells.
The fact is you are likely and I would bet on it depressed or have some mental-health issue making you think of yourself like this and robbing you of what you enjoy in life and making functioning hard.
What you need to do is get back to making art or whatever else you loved and devoted all your time to again. This time do it for you regardless of whether anyone sees it. The offers in the past from people are validation of a talent that still exists. Trust me you'll see it. Then you'll get confident again. Get back to basics and what you loved about it before and what motivated you then.
Next you should visit your physician and mention everything you told us here and get referred to a psychiatrist (you're not crazy) to figure out where these recent views of your own self stem.
College can still come so don't rule that out as never happening for you. As far as your job goes for now this is where you work and a temporary situation. Keep searching but do get to know your real self as I'm sure you're someone people in your past and present want to know just as much as you do.
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Hey everyone! So I'm a f/15:) I like this guy who is also 15 very very much and it has been practically "love at first sight" for us because we never had that friend zone between us; we just skipped to the flirty stage!:) we've been on a date last week to the movies and dinner after wards and all went super well!:) Im so happy when I'm with him because he makes me smile and laugh constantly. Although, he hasnt kissed me yet.. I invited him over to my house for thursday and he said he wants to kiss me then and practically asked for my permission which I thought was super cute:) I have kissed 3 different guys before (many many times each) but I've never been this nervous to kiss anyone before.. What can I do to keep calm because I'm so nervous that I've broke down into tears a few times:/ help? (link)
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You need to know he's as scared shitless as you are silly ;) You both feel the same way and it's okay to both admit it to the other. You obviously like eachother and both want this to occur. My advice is to stop thinking and analyzing it and just do it. It will work out fine and you'll know what to do from previous experience.
Just let it happen. If you want to kiss him nothing says you can't first. He's asked permission which means he's unsure of himself and wants to make sure you're down with the idea. Take the pressure off and initiate the kiss and let it unfold. One of you has to do this or nothing will happen.
It's unfortunate you were in tears over this with anxiety I sure he'd be heartbroken to know that. However, once you lean in and go for broke as they say it'll pan out with what you hoped for.
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I accidentally hit the back of my head on a corner (not sharp) of my cabinet. It isn't bleeding or anything (It didn't bleed at all), but I'm kind of scared I might have a concussion or something... I remember who I am and where I am, obviously, haha. I can't go to the doctor.
Also, if age matters, I'm 13. (link)
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I would have to think you're fine. However, if you start feeling dizzy, light-headed, vision issues or something really weird that you wouldn't normally after awhile I would see a doctor then. For now, show an adult if concerned any bump etc. and get their take.
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I come from a fat family (not to be mean or anything lol). And my brother is 4 and has because over weight :( he's going to school in about a week and I don't want him to gow to kindergarten and be picked on especially because I'm in middle school and I can't protect him. I try to tell him no even when my parent say it ok to have extra because I know he doesnt need it. But they give in so easily, and I'm just a kid so it's not like their going to listen to me so what do I do?? (link)
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The problem is your whole family eats this way and your parents don't seem to care about the end result but merely the food in front of them. That may sound too blunt but you illustrated above that it's 100% true.
Rather than deal with this head-on they dodge it continually. I think what you have to do is take a stance. Go to the doctor alone about your own weight, tell him your family eats the same way and doesn't listen to reality. Have him/her put you on a plan you stick to for your own diet. Then lead by example.
Point out to your parents that you are concerned about him being picked on for his weight which they can control and the family's eating habits and soaring weight and that you want them to follow your lead and do something about it.
You should talk to relatives, teachers, any adults your parents trust and value opinions from and have them confront them about this issue. In the meantime keep watch over your sibling and teach him how to stand up to any taunting or even tell his teacher what you are worried about. That may cause her to approach your parents about him needing to control out of control weight.
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I am casually talking and getting to know this guy at my college named Anthony. He's older, works at the bookstore, and very cute. We text back and forth and I see him Monday and Wednesday around noon and he usually gets off at two, so we hang out until my ride comes.
This Sunday, he agreed to go to the movies with me at 1:50. My phone was out of service so I wasn't able to contact him. He seemed like he'd for sure be there. It hits two o'clock and he's not there, so I wait a little longer. At 2:15, I call him on the cinema phone over and over, but he doesn't answer. At this point I am very upset and don't even see the movie. I decide to call my ride, and as I'm walking away in tears, a cinema employee says that Anthony is on the line. I ask what happened, and he said he crashed at his grandparents and they left early. He didn't get a chance to go home and shower or anything, and his parents aren't answering the phone for him to get a ride. He has no car because his got wrecked, and he's paying off a lot of loans. I offered to give him a ride home, but he said his morals were against it. I begged him, but he still refused and told me to go home. He kept saying "I'm sorry sweetheart." and he seemed genuinely sorry. We stayed on that dang cinema phone for about 40 minutes.
The next day, after feeling hurt, I went by the bookstore to pick up an order. I said hi to him, and he was very friendly, but I was so upset. I think I am just overthinking that he's not interested. He was at work, and I just had lunch with him a few minutes ago, but of course he was rushing. He's still flirty and sweet, but there's this feeling that I am just a bother. He didn't offer for me to sit with him even though he saw me in the lounge, and I sat with him once I saw him. I just feel like I'm annoying, but he insists he's not. Is this just a weird feeling and I'm overthinking it, or does he seem not interested? Am I just being a worry wort?! (link)
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First of all get yourself a reliable cell-phone at the next possible opportunity. You need it for emergencies. Hell, even a pay-as-you-go is a better option than none.
For all you know this guy probably dialed your broken number expecting to confirm things or remind you why he wouldn't be there at 2. Then because of this your phoning over and over when you didn't see him on the cinema's phone came across as needy.
That's how I think he sees you now. Doesn't matter about your phone being out. Also, nice of the cinema to allow you to use their line for that long.
I think what you need to do is realize that he's no longer interest and or if you think he could still be WAIT. Don't text, call, or go to where he works and now let him do the initiating.
The fact he had a date with you that he suddenly forgot the morning of and had an excuse about grandparents and not getting up on time is BOGUS. You're not dumb and he should know that. If he cared he'd remember. This is his way of brushing you off, standing you up and trying to look good afterwards.
He ain't worthy of you and just isn't in to you and that's okay. You deserve much better but yes, when it comes guys or vice-versa guys with gals don't overdo texting, phoning or anything that can be taken as needy even if not intended as such. It's all about his perception and not the facts you laid out about the phones.
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I'm planning on getting a new number (Because I've had the same one for SO long, and I've gave that number to people I don't talk to anymore), but I'm kind of afraid of something happening...
The service recycles the number after 30 days of non-use, so I'm scared that my one friend that has my number (I only like to give my number to family) will text it. I don't want to be associated with her anymore. She's "bad news", if you know what I mean... That being said, I won't give her my new number.
Should I be scared? Or is it just me? Also, we don't really text anymore. (link)
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I'm not American so I don't know whether it costs you to receive a text or not. If you don't like someone, think they are bad news, than why care if they can't reach you?
I would get a new number and make sure you don't give it out except to family. Don't take the phone out at school and only use for emergencies. If anyone asks if you changed your number tell them your parents put you on a new plan for emergencies only and leave it at that.
The moment you give the # to anyone at school they'll all have it. Stick to Facebook and have your phone for family either that or see if you can block texts and calls from certain people now.
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Ok so my first day of eighth grade is coming up, (August 21) and I'm super nervous!!! At least 15 kids (out of 60 in 8th grade) left last year, so a lot more are coming in. Basicaly, I need advice on how to get people to like me on the first day (how to leave an impression). I have short blond hair, I'm white, I get strait A's, I'm 5'2, and 89 lbs, (I have health issues so I need to eat or I'll get really sick, but I just end up losing weight) and I'm 13. Ps: I reallly want a boyfriend this year ! I've had one before, but we broke up like 2 years ago. And it's really hard to get one because I 'hang out with a slut', and they notice her and not me :× ---Thank you! (link)
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It's cliched as hell but the old "be yourself" slogan is true. If you want people to like you the best way to do that is to treat EVERYONE the way you want to be treated no matter how different they may be or annoying befriend anyone lacking one for whatever reason.
Be who you KNOW you already are and don't compromise for anyone no matter what. If people don't like you for you so be it. Hang with whomever you want. What people think of your friend really shouldn't reflect on you any. Trust me, the guys who she attracts aren't the ones you want as they likely don't like her for her but rather for physical appearance and bad choices she makes with guys.
Also-unless she's sleeping around with guys don't call her a slut or treat her like it. She will make her own mistakes and learn from them. The right guy for you is out there but stop trying so hard and let him come on his own. People can see you trying and it looks bad.
What you should do is if you like a guy ask if he can use a friend and then try inviting him to a group event ie bowling etc. and see if you hit it off. If he doesn't want to go it means he doesn't have interest. You want to hang with the right not the wrong type of guy.
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If I eat healthy, drink water and work out an hour everyday can I lose 80 pounds by December/January? (link)
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NEVER go on any diet without consulting your physician first and especially for safety. 80 lbs is a lot in a short time. A doctor will tell you what is safe and realistic and determine if you are obese enough to even need to lose that much. They can get you a nutritionist and a plan to follow for success.
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18/f
Okay, so I already take medications from to dr. to ease period pains,
Every time I have a period though I throw up. Alot. I don't want any girls that answer to think its an over-reaction, trust me, I do try to cope, but I just can't.
Its known that sickness will ease as a girl gets older-mine hasn't changed for years now.
How can I cope? What is it? (link)
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Do you get headaches particularly migraines before you vomit? If that's the case what you may want to do is ask your pharmacist about Advil Liquid Gels. If you take them right when a headache hits especially a migraine it usually thwarts vomiting.
Another thing you may want on hand is Gravol so you can end nausea and feeling like you are going to vomit by taking a pill before you do. Next time you see your doctor talk to him/her about the vomiting as they will have more ideas.
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