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I have a friend that just came here to vacation for three months from England. I've only known him for two years, and now I feel that he's taking advantage of me, my mom and my family. I truly hate how he schedules us to go places, not regarding our time or what we have to do. And now he's brought a friend, without the superintendent's permission, but leaves the burden on us in bringing the BOTH of them around Hawaii and things. Their like staying really far from where we live, and still they ask us to drive them back to our house for meals! We are not a hotel! Okay, I'm overreacting. But the main thing is, how can I conduct myself around him without blowing up, but showing that he should be reminded of his limits? Sorry for the length, but thank you very much...

wow it sounds like they are taking advantage of you...you call them friends but do they act like friends? it sounds like maybe they are just taking advantage of you..friends should have consideration for one another..this is very imposing and i would be furious.
i think them joining you for dinner sounds nice, but not all the time! when they DO join you for dinner..tell them what time they should be there and do NOT give them rides like that! they should be thankful and appreciating that your feeding them..if anything they should offer to help or bring dessert over or something to be kind.
i would most definately adress this to your parents becauuse they should be feeling the same way. when he schedules you to go somewhere tell him no..or that your busy..ask him to confirm with you first before planning out your day..dont be taken advantage of..its not a good way to live at all
-good luck! i hope i helped out
meliss*

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one day you and your boyfriend together spending sometime away from friends and he is kind of horny and he is just touching you all over and you justlaying there taking what he has to offer,what can i do to turn him on more?

well things like giggling, kissing him, touching him back..are all things that will really turn him on. you could like moan or something..that should reeeally turn him on .
have fun!
-meliss

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can someone help me? me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months. we still havent kissed yet. does anyone have any advice on where and when to kiss? (where as in romantic or fun place not specific.)

thanks! 13/f

i wouldnt put a limit on when to kiss..it might be in a romantic setting like in the movies, or while your watching a movie, or at a fair..who knows where..when it feels right for you..go for it! :)
i think its awesome you guys have been going out for so long..keep it goin!
-meliss

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my boyfriend and i have been dating for a month r two now, and when i first started going out with him, i didnt like him that much. but now i like him a lot of course, thats why im still with him. well we never do anything, only a little kiss here or there, i know with school and all its hard to hang out a lot but we usually chill every weekend but nothing. im not upset because i like him a lot, but what is wrong? what can i do to get a little more??

hey no worries..once you get the ball rolling..you will have no probs at all. this guy sounds a little shy which is fine.. i suggest something like
- going over to his house after school to study..maybe if your in the living room watching tv...take the remote, turn off the tv..and start to passionatly kiss him. im not sure how far you want to go..but if you want him to touch your chest..take his hand and put it on your chest..lol he should catch on

so something like that could work really well..i bet hes waiting for you to make the first move.so go for it and have fun!

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is it ok to make out with a retainer will it be any differnt do you think the guy will notice?

well..i mean if its your first kiss i would take it out for the following reasons
-when his tongue goes on the roof of your mouth he will feel the plastic thing..so idk it might be cool for him but idk might be weird
- i remember with my retainer if you dont like soak it ..it smells so thats a huge turn off..
-if you take the retainer out it will feel better..you will have more flexibility with your kissing..

im not sayin you should take it out every time but for the first time i would..i think if he cares about you he wont really mind

-meliss

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ok i was going out with this kid who lives 3 houses away from me we were going out for 2 days then i deiced to break up with him because i didnt want to go a long time then break up and not talk anymore because we use to be best friends...do you think what i did was right

no..i dont think breaking up and not talking anymore is the way to go..stay friends with him because a good friendship shoouldnt be lost over a failed romance
-meliss

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okay so i have to wake up at 6 tomorrow for school because my bus comes around 630.. well what are some good suggestions so that i wont be so sleepy in the morning.. like should i eat an apple before i go to school to keep me up?

going to bed early, a morning shower(maybe a nice cold one) , a quick workout, and a good breakfast will all help you stay awake

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13/m Ever since I tried to show my crush how much I loved her, she's had something to do whenever I try to talk to her. Like just now. We were both on AIM, but she had her Away Message on. After a while, she turns off her Away Message, and so I say hi, and all of a sudden her little brother wants to go ride bikes. This has happened about two or three times. Is she ignoring me? Is she trying to give me the slip? I really need advice here...

she could be shy..feeling unsure about her feelings..she might not know how to let you down..it can really be a number of things..the only way to findd out for sure whats goin on is to talk to her...really talk to her. over aim might not work because she would put an away up...the phone or in person would work better in my opinion
-meliss

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I couldnt take them off, my cloths, i needed some drinks to get them off but we didnt have any. I'll just wait until this campout my friends and i r going to.

i insist that you dont need drinks for this, but you make your own choices..will drinks do the job? yeah. they probably will. but..im tellin you..you can get a lil crazy and have fun sober! yes my friend , thats right..you dont need to be drunk to have some fun. buuuutt..i know how insistant you are, so yeah wait for this campouot and have a great time.
much

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Hi
I am daniel 24 .I am working for years as ateacher and for now working in acompany.
In these years I faced with the following problems that i would like tp share them with you.
I have so much problem to star talk with girls at the first time.
even though I may like to start our friendship but I donot know how to start and some forces avoide me for any request from girls.
Please provide me with your response,
of course I would like to talk on phone to hear my answer.then please mention your phone number.
waiting for your response.
Best regards
Danyal

your grammar is horrible, your no teacher..everyone here knows your game..you want to get our phone numbers and play creepy stalker with us. your a fraud.
nobody is going to give out their number so turn to somewhere else like creepystalker.com haha

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ok so i have kissed a boy before but i have never made out with one. i know this might sound stupid but where do you put your hands and know when to stop.

i'm kind of scared incase he thinks i'm rubbish

i'll rate 5's

hands are agood thing! you dont have to be like constantly rubbing your hands all over him during the kiss..but placing your hand on his face to pull him closer, behind his ear, run fingers through his hair, wrap your arms around him, just something will make the kiss more intimate,deeper,itwill get him into it, and i guarentee if you put your hands somewhere, hewill put his hands somewhere and get you really into it.
you also mentioned you doont know when to stop..do you mean stop kissing or stop touchiing?
you doont have to stop touching..,you can keep your arms wrapped around him, you can run your fingers through his hair, then change it up wheneveer you want and wrap your arms around him...do whatever you want to do with your hands.

when to stop kissing:
you will just know...one of you will pull away for a sec to get air, if its him first you will feel him pull away and you will also, it comes naturally.

i hope i helped!

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why is my mom such a bitch

iask myself the same question sometimes..i have come up with the following theories:

-if your mom is in her 40's..she could be starting menapause...yeah beware cuz moms get extra bitchy

-your mom worries and loves you..wants to protect you

-your mom is under lotsof stress

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I am 15 year old male, gay, and attending High School. In the past year, I've come to terms with who I am and I've come out to 2 of my friends. My huge problem is that nobody my age comes out of the closet so I am going to be single for a while. I am despretely lonely and wanting someone to sweep me off my feet. I just feel so deprest and want to have a boyfriend like all the other straight couples have where you love each other and understand each other and comfort one another. My problem is that there is this guy that I like but he has no clue I exist. I think that he is gay. The signs are that he is in tennis, went to tennis camp and is trying out for the tennis team, is in drama class, his eyebrows look plucked, he looks well made up and his hair is curly and conditioned, he is fit, and all his friends are strangely attractive. I also see the way he looks at guys and can kinda tell. I really want to become friends with him so that I can be around him and be happy and possibly get him to come out to me and maybe even become my boyfriend but I don't know how to go up to him and become his friend. It's like I can't just walk up to him and say hey what's up because we don't know each other so I was thinking of bringing up tennis because I've started taking lessons and stuff and I'm going to try out for the team just so I can be there with him and possibly go to his camp and get closer to him. I just don't know how to become his friend or how to talk to him. What should I do?

yes tennis is an excellent way to get to know him,..approach him and say something like"iknow yuo play tennis.i was wondering if you would want to play with me some time and givee me some pointers"
after playing exchange phone numbers and hang out..eventually after hanging out becoming close...bring up the subject of gays..if he seems very trustworthy,,come out to him..and if your right and hes gay,, he will come out to you as well

good luck!

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What tea bagging it mean or something to that effect cause boys say that in my class and i have no clue what it means!

the act of lowering one's balls onto someones face, or into their mouth while they are laying down. Kind of resembles dipping a tea bag into a hot cup of water.

^from urbandictionary.com

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how old do you half to be to get a job at mcdonlods,bugerking,or wendeys. and do girls normally get cashier jobs more then boys

well it depends on what you would be doing at mcondalds or wherever..i remember when i was 14 i knew a couple people who were 14 also and worked as janitors or something. so although i know people who were hired at 14..when your 16 more options open up.
doesnt it seem that girls normally get the cashier jobs? especially at shop rite.this grocery store by me..i always see women doing cashier jobs and guys stockiing sheleves or something..although i have seen some women in the kitchen..it seems the guys are never cashiers if there is a girl around to do it.

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Is it wrong for me to be a little jealous/upset that my boyfriend just left my house to go out hang out with his "Best Friend" [which I've never heard of] who happens to be a girl?

yeah its normal to be a little jealous..i know i woul;d be feeling a little jealous.

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Help!!! I need you to help me pick out my new cell phone!!! The reason this question is in the Lovelife category is because depending on how cool my cell phone is means if I get booty!! So should I get the Samsung sch-n33 or the Kyocera Koi? Thanks for your help! I rate high!!!

my friend, cellphones dont get you booty..lol o man..you just be yourself and get booty. im sure both phones are hot so pick the one you want more..alrighty?

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I love ice pops!!!!!! especially this mango flavored one!! Help me pick more flavors-ok?--Luv ya. Dont fart-Stay smart!!

MMMMMmmmmMmmMmM mango! :)

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I always have trouble on picture day, I have wide shoulders and a large bustline, and not many styles of shirts look flattering, tank tops make me look like a football player, and halters are even worse. I look too busty with a v-nack, but simple shirts seem to just make everything look worse. Does anyone have any shirt ideas that can flatter or disguise my flaws?


14/female.

i think try layering ..like one of those blazers with a shirt underneath..or a button down shirt left open with a shirt underneath

a plain black shirt works..if you dress it up with something like a nice necklace or whatever

i think as long as you dont wear something like a tanktop or halter, you will be fine..the layering thing is something i would try though..im a big person and i find that layering is somewhat appealing...i mean it wont make you look like 90 lbs but it still looks nice in my opinion.

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I have this boyfriend and he has a friend .And hes friend is like messing up me and my boyfriend`s relationship.What should I do??
Need help

you have to talk to your bf about this so called "friend;"..get everrything straight..then talk to your bf about why a friend would try and mess up a relationship..maybe he isnt such a grreat friend afterall.

talk to the friend..tell him to back of..but most importantly..talk to your bf about the lies, etc this "friend" might be telling

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