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too imposing friend
I have a friend that just came here to vacation for three months from England. I've only known him for two years, and now I feel that he's taking advantage of me, my mom and my family. I truly hate how he schedules us to go places, not regarding our time or what we have to do. And now he's brought a friend, without the superintendent's permission, but leaves the burden on us in bringing the BOTH of them around Hawaii and things. Their like staying really far from where we live, and still they ask us to drive them back to our house for meals! We are not a hotel! Okay, I'm overreacting. But the main thing is, how can I conduct myself around him without blowing up, but showing that he should be reminded of his limits? Sorry for the length, but thank you very much...
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Well to do it in a casual way, just call a "family meating" and sit evry one down and lay out the rule's and consicuences, if any of the rules are broken. he should get the clue. I realy hope this help's
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Tell him to fuck off
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wow it sounds like they are taking advantage of you...you call them friends but do they act like friends? it sounds like maybe they are just taking advantage of you..friends should have consideration for one another..this is very imposing and i would be furious.
i think them joining you for dinner sounds nice, but not all the time! when they DO join you for dinner..tell them what time they should be there and do NOT give them rides like that! they should be thankful and appreciating that your feeding them..if anything they should offer to help or bring dessert over or something to be kind.
i would most definately adress this to your parents becauuse they should be feeling the same way. when he schedules you to go somewhere tell him no..or that your busy..ask him to confirm with you first before planning out your day..dont be taken advantage of..its not a good way to live at all
-good luck! i hope i helped out
meliss*
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Talk to your parents about this because it is certainly partly thier problem.
It is definately time to start drawing some lines. Start by saying no. Even be polite about it. Tell them dinner is at 7 if they would like to join you to find thier own way. Tell them you are busy and cannot guide them today. Hopefully they will get the picture that they are not being gracious guests.
Conduct yourself pleasantly but stay distant. They are only asking you for things that you have, in the past, given to them. So just politely stop doing so much.
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Your friend may not realize that you do not have time to guide them. The next time they call for you to come and get them, politely tell them that it is not a good time for you. Let them know that you've had a good time touring with them, but, alas, you have things that need to be done.
If your friend gets upset over this, tell them this would be a great opportunity for them to explore the islands, and to learn their way around them. They may stumble into a place you've never seen before. Then, they would get to take you on a tour. Good luck to you!
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