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I'v always kinda knew that i was a lil distured inside cuz im usually always sad and never happy. I juss try to put on a happy face when im not home juss when im out or around my friends cuz no1 wants 2 hang around sum1 who's depressed all the time. But im so tired of being sad and feeling this way. I finally knew that i had sum serious issues today. There was a football game at my school but me and my two friends left during it cuz it was boring so we went to the mall. My mom picked me up 20 minutes late so i was standing there by myself but we got the exits confused. But when i was standing there i had a breakdown i juss wanted to cry. So instead i started punching the granet pillars infront of the mall to hold in my tears. Kinda self mutilation i guess. I dont wanna go to a therapist cuz every1 will think im crazy and i wanna kill myslef. Im juss tired of being so sad all the time. It juss seems lyk god put me on this earth to be miserable and to see how much i could take. Im tired of it...what should i do?

Tell your mom that you dont want to see a therapist and that maybe you could possibly try anti-depressant pills. Tell her you want them just to stay foccused on school and not things that upset you all the time. They work well. Hope I helped and good luck. You need to stop beating yourself up (on the inside and out) for problems being caused around you because its not the people its you. By the way. God loves you and always will, remember that. Your a very smart girl who is just going through some issues. Well all have them. Try letting them out to a friend you trust.

xO.Carrie

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Ok im 15 f and i was going out with my b/f for 6 months and then we broke up,but like 2 weeks ago he asked me back out and i said yes.When i used to go out with him, i would go to his house and hang out,but since ive been going out with him again my dad and his g/f wont let me go over there. they dont trust me, but i have never given them a reason not to, its not like me and my b/f sit around and make out all day,ya know? They said if i want to see him he has to come over here.but i want to go to his house i miss it.lol and ive tried talking to my dad and his girlfriend but they dont understand and i just cant win.

Ya know my parents were the same way with my boyfriend and I. I know you miss it but you need to invite him over a little more often just so your parents can get to know him better so they build up more trust and there more confertable with you going over there all the time. Then before you know it they`ll be letting you over there again. It works trust me. Just have them talk to your boyfriend a little, you know small conversations here and there. Good luck.

xO.Carrie

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Is it wrong to like alot of people even though you know you only love one person. Saying my brothers girlfriends brother. He is my age but in a grade younger. Late bday and all. Now everyone knows. Including him. See theres this kid who knows him, lives by him, and has the same name. He knows me and he told him. Well like i wrote a note to who i reallie love and like he said he will go out with me but he doesnt reallie know me except knowin im his sisters boyfriends sister. Confusin? anyways My parents say i shouldnt be thinkin about boys at this age when im desperate i mean like everyone else is. But im not followin them. Why try to like sum1? Anyways please help me. Should I go out with him not be shy get to know him and take a risk without the parents knowin. Or be a sloucher no risks ever bein stupid no boy and parents that tease you about it even if u cant have a boyfriend. (my brothers teases me about his girlfriends brother bein my boyfriend, and m parents. but i CANT have a boyfriend) HELP

No one can stop true love. And no its not wrong to like a lot of people especially at this age, if your under 25 at least. I think you should wait a while to go into this relationship right away but definatly hang out with him more and get to know him better. Spend time with him after school and/or on weekends, playing video games or basketball or anything productive that includes conversation and flirting =] Good luck

xO.Carrie

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does anyone know where i can go to find some hairstyles to look at because i have to get it cut soon.. & also does anyone know some places i can go to get cheap and affordable clothes & what kin dof clothes to look for

thnx

Usually at hair cut places they should have some books laying around with thousands of hair styles or you can try searching on google, but that has never seemed to work for me whenever i`ve tried it. I got myhairstyle from a book though!! And You can search anywhere Kohls, ross, macys, sears, marshels. All really good cheap prices for cheap clothes, especially Kohls and Ross. Good luck!!

xO.Carrie

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At my dance i danced with this guy...im a freshman and hes a junior...he talks to my cousin...i LOVE this kid hes perfect..people tell me he likes me but i dont know... so i wanna go to school and when i walk by he just drops his jaw at me what can i do to make my outside look good..im not changing my personality or ne thing for a guy but what are good makeup tips for a light tan and hair tips for dark brown curly hair with thin blonde highlights?? thanks sooo much :oD

Show off the most beautiful preciouse thing god has given to you. Because I know he has. Try going for something new like striaghtening your hair and very light make up with lots of mascara to bring out your pretty eyelashes. Good luck!!

xO.Carrie

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I love Halloween and I have no clue what to be. Does anyone have a good idea? PLease help!

Depends on your personality. You could be a cartoon character, or a goblin? Ha it really depends on what your into.
Good luck!! Halloweens fun!!

xO.Carrie

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One of my best friends from school asked me out, i don't really know how I feel about it. I kind of want to try but I kind of don't. I like to be with someone for one night and have a good time [basically i just like to have a good time] But i'm not the relationship type. What do I do?

Tell him/her you need time to figure things out. Tell him/her you dont mind being commited (such as kissing and/or partying) but your not ready for a relationship.

xO.Carrie

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There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?

Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it.

You know what i do when someone complains to be about there looks? I sit there and agree. and if they say "oh god im so ugly" I just say say "ok?" and if they get mad i say "you know how i feel so i shouldnt have to repeat it to you" and then ignore whatever else they have to say. You should try it. Good luck.

xO.Carrie

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my b/f's mom is saying that shes leaving her boyfriend(they've been living together for 4 years) and shes going to either cali or arazona and he has the choice of going with her or finding somewhere in new york to stay. im trying to convince my family to let him stay here. i might get them to say yes but i need some more things to tell them. i mean me n my b/f have been goin out for over a year and we both want to marry eachother, think im crazy if you want but hes the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. i dont know what to do. i dont want him to move. he knows that if i ever lost him then i would kill myself. he could live with his dad but his dad is a total jackass to him. my family doesnt really like him either. they say we dont have room but if we tryed then i know it could work. i really dont want him to go...what can i do?

Tell them that he could stay with you and that you truley love him. Tell him he could have child support send money from his parents to yours or her could live on Welfare. Basically tell them everything you just said. That you love him and you cant live without him. Good luck, seperating from the one you love can be hard. I know you can do this.

xO.Carrie

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I have a friend, lets refer to her as Lonnie. Well Lonnie recently admitted to having a crush on our friend Steven. Steven had a crush on Lonnie last year, he even asked her out multiple times. She also said NO every single time. Seeing as she hated him. Now that he has moved on away from her she was happy with it. Now all of a sudden she loves him. She hates him, then she loves him. I am so sick of her little " I Hate Steve!" spells. I feel draggd in the middle cause he does nothing except treat her like shes so kind. She tries to control him. She does not realize it, but everyone talks abou ther behind her back. I am so sick of defending her when everyone is right about her. She needs to grow up a little. So my question is how can I tell her she needs to stop putting everyone else in the middle making them look so stupid? Please help!

Kasey

Next time she brings it up. Tell her with all due respect that you just dont want to here it. Good luck.

xO.Carrie

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I don't know what's wrong with me... Maybe it's low self-esteem or something but I never think i'm good enough for any guy. There haven't been many guys that I've known liked me. Most of them look right to my friend... So the guy i reaaaallly liked likes her now. But whenever guys flirt with me i never take them seriously because I always think "oh he would never like me" and then I turn kinda mean to the guy... can anyone help me out here?

Start acting nicer. Accept your body and yourself for the way you are because your beautiful no matter what. Guys hate low self-esteem. So start being flirty to the guys you like for a chnage. Take them seriously. You`ll see what happens. Remember you are beautiful.

xO.Carrie

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okay i went out with this one boy we'll call landon, and he was sooo sweet.but i felt so insecure about myself,that i borke up w/ him.well he knows i like him know but my friend told him to call me if he still liked me,and he hasn't.what do u think is going on?!?!?like can u help?

Most guys hate low self-esteem. and he probably hated the fact that you broke up with him because of it. I suggest you call him and appologize and just tell him whats going on. Good luck.

xO.Carrie

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I know this sounds completely messed up, and might gross u out. but i need help. sometimes when im bored, ill just start scratching my head to the point where it bleeds and forms scabs (very little ones!) and now i cant help but pick at them and scratch them. theres no reason i do it, its just a realllllllly weird habit. i dont know whats wrong with me?! any tips on how i can make it stop?

Just sounds like your scalp is extreamly dry. Have your mom buy you head and shoulders shampoo and everything should be fine. Nothing to worry about. Hope i helped.

xO.Carrie

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When was 13 i made a terriable mistake...i got pregnant by a 16 year old boy....i though that the boy and i had true fellings together that i could share my bodyh with him....but you see what thatg leed to...i was afraid to tell my mother but i told my sister and she paid for tol get and abortion she still hasnt told my mom and i am paying herf almost all of my allowences to pay her back...ever since thatg day of my abortion i feel like a killer...am i?????pleases help...

Well I dont believe in abortions so im not going to give you my opinion on it. But since you were really young you could have put your life at risk if it werent for that abortion. I know how it feels to feel like you`ve murdered your baby. And its something that will stay with you forever but you just have to lock it away in your upsetting memories. Its hard i know. Hope I helped.

xO.Carrie

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i like this boy that goes to my school but one of my went out with him but she is just now tellin me..... i think it is because he is always nice to me and stuff like that but ever time i say something about him she is always like that was my ex-boo and i be gettin mad because i think that she don't want me to go out with him what should i do...............someone please help me..

Chicks before Dicks. Your risking you friendship with a boy, You need to pick wich one is more important to you, your friend .. ? or this boy.
Good Luck.

xO.Carrie

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I'm awkward and shy. I don't know how to talk to girls or tell whether or not girls like me. I'm in my senior year of high school, and i'm turning 17 on 10/10. so i realize this is kinda pathetic. I'm not very funny or spontaneous either. How do i flirt/be funny so girls will like me? I am being myself 24/7, and that isn't really working.

Be yourself is the number one key. Just keep up conversations with them. Dont be too shy around them. You`ll find girl friends soon trust me. Good luck, talk to me anytime. I can be your friend! =]

xO.Carrie

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Okay well met this guy on the internet .. and we've been talking for about a year now . and i really think im in love with him ..and we talk about our fellings for eachother.. and he feels the same things for me as i do him ..He has never saw my pic befor .. bur he said it dosent matter if im Ugly or..pretty .. he said all that matters .. is the way he feels .. and he said ..that it WOULD NOT CHANGE anything if i was ugly .. well what i want to kno is .. if i should just cut it off with him because i kno were never going to meet i mean we might .. he lives in flordia and i go there every summer but ..i dont want my feeling for him to get any stronger then what they already are for him .. what should i do ?

15-Taylor-Gender:Female

It1s very risky meeting someone on the internet and falling in love with them. I suggest you keep talking to him on the internet only and find someone else. We wouldnt want you to get hurt or anything like that. Hope I helped.

xO.Carrie

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Ok..Me and this guy lets just say his name is Bob.Well,me and Bob talked for a month and we eventually went out.I have really strong feelings for Bob.Well,we broke up 2 months later because he thought I cheated on him because one of his friends said I did.Well,we still were best friends after we broke up and we can talk about ANYTHING!Well,after me and Bob broke up I started talking to his brother(i know thats SO wrong)Well,me and his brother talked for about 3 months and we eventually went out but we only lasted for 2 weeks.After me and his brother broke up,Bob called me out of nowhere.I didnt realize it was his # and so he got on AIM and I asked him why he called me?He said because I missed talkin to u and I want to be in a relationship with u and I want it to last this time.I've been with a lot of girls but ur the only girl who has been there for me through everything and I want our relationship to last.I asked him if he really meant that and he said he did.We're not exactly goin out again yet but were about too.Anywayz...to my question.I've always had feelings for him as the b/f type and I can actually picture myself marrying him if thats crazy!But...ever since he said that to me,hes ALL I ever think about!!!Could this be love?does it sound like love to u?I've known him over a year.I have been there for him through everything.I know everything about him.Please help me because I'am not sure if I'am in love or not!I RATE!Thanx!

I think he totally loves you. And it sound slike you love him back. I say you give it a try, and follow your heart. Good luck.

xO.Carrie

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I have 2 change schools in 2 weeks and i wont no any1 @ my new school and + ive never been 2 a public school before. What should i do?
from,
Alicia

Talk to people in all of your classes the first day and try making friends with them. Public schools are incredibly fun! Good luck.

xO.Carrie

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im gonna live with no regret im gonna take up every chance i get im gonna laugh until i cry im gonna live like ive got money fallin from the sky


does any1 kno who sings that song and where i can get lyrics to it?

i have no idea but there great lyrics!! Sorry i wasnt of much help.

xO.Carrie

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