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Q: I'm thinking about getting my cartilage pierced.. but im afraid its gonna hurt a lot. Does it? How much does it hurt? (How much more than getting ur lobe pierced?)
yeuh it does hurt really. and sleeping on it hurts a lil so yeuh.. but uhm you just have to clean it alot.. but not too much cause it will irritate(spelling?) it

Q: Hey people i was wondering could everyone tell me what they think of a 15 year old going out with a 13 year old girl?

tell me ur honest opinions please
thats DEFF.not bad. im 13 and my boyfriend is 17..so yeuh i dont think so.

Q: Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.

I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....

And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time.
Woah that must have taken awhile to type haha. Any ways if you really liek her liek you say.. Tell her. Go for it. ask her out. explain that she means the WORLD to you. If you havent already, show her the song you wrote about her. she will ~Love~ it no matter how horrible it is. girls liek that kind of stuff.

i dont really know whut else to say.. so i really hope i helped!!!♥

Q: Can anyone get me the code for the song "Hear you Me" by Jimmy Eat World? Thats the song they play at the football game at the end of "A Cinderella Story." I want to be able to listen to it and put it in my xanga. I rate 5's for any help
http://a425.v8384d.c8384.g.vm.akamaistream.net/7/426/8384/3b858b51/mtvrdstr.download.akamai.com/8512/wmp/5/4814/22811_1_6_05.asf

if this doesnt work then you can just liek iM me on aol and ill try to make it work ♥

Q: Can i simply have a yes or no answer to this question:
My brother used to put his hands down the back of my trousers and grab my butt and stuff like that, i told him to stop but he wouldnt. is this abuse?
Sexual abuse...Yes

Q: hey...well within the last year i have become christian. but lately i have been having my doubts. i have depression, and have had it for about 2 years now. i pray so much but i dont seem to be making any progress to becoming happier. i dont understand why my prayers arent getting answered.
Well i am a christian, and Praying works. but it doesnt just happen over night. Keep doing it and results should come sooner or later

hope i helped♥

Q: hi, im 13M and somtimes my sister gets on my nerves. when ever she gets upset she comes into my house with this (my life is bad so ihave the right to be rude) attitude. and somtimes she can really hert me.and everytime i tell her to stop it or try to get help they or her to stop being a baby and get over it. how do i get my sister to stop treeting me like i have no emiotions.

please hurry, i'll rate super high
the best thing i can say really is to just ignore it. thats how it was with my 18 year old sister when she lived with me still. we fought about every lil thing and she rele hurt my feelings sometimes. but i just ignored it and let her have her lil moments.

hope i helped♥

Q: everyone labels me as a punk, a punk-goth, and a goth! and some of my friends are like ick you listen to that music its all about oo lets go slit our throats...but its truely not! they just dont understand me!one of my friends is exactly like me though!i hate how people diss my music!if they would just listen to it they would be able to tell!! i`m getting so sick of it! what should i do??

i rate well!
jjust be liek look..you have your kind of music and i have mine. im not about to go slit my throat because of the music i listen to. Or be liek woah you listen to THAT music?! its liek hi im barbie. i think im perfect!!!! or sumthing haha

hope i helped!♥

Q: Ok i'm ahving a swimming party for my b-day and i might invite some guys and i kinda ahve a pooch and the guy i like might coem and i was wondering how i get a flat stomcah in about 1-2 weeks.i have volleyball practice in the mornings at 6 30 so we run there and when i get home i'm really tired so no like real powerful stuff.i rate high
Uhm try doing liek crunches and stuff liek that just do liek 50 in the morning and 50 at night and progress as time goes on.. Tae-bo and things liek that works to.

and eating healthy is a good thing to do too.

Q: Does anybody know of any spiritual books that will change my life drastically for the better? I am specifically looking for something that will boost my self-esteem and turn me into an optomist.
Yes there is .. the 2 i can think of is first the Bible. if you have god in your life i think that Your self-esteem will sky rocket.

and the other one i think is The Five People you Meet In Heaven. That is one of my fave. books. Hope i helped =)

Q: i dont know wat to do.. when im sad i go hyper to hide my pain.. the same with when im mad or anyhting and so then im like hyper almost all of the time and i dont really think that its all that healthy to cover up things like that but i just cant help it and its seriously exausting to be hyper all of the time and i drink coffee all of the timee so i like never sleep because i'm always pumped full of caffeene so if i wanna go hyper i can and i dont kno watss wrong with mee im only 13 and im addicted to coffee and i never sleep and im hyper 24/7 idk wats wrong pleaseee help

i will give u a 5! i just need helpp =]]

♥*hailey*♥
Heyy. Alright first of all you need to find out whats making you sad/mad or w.e and try to do sumthing about it. if liek sum1 is makin you feel bad then ignore it. Go to the gym and work out your frustration. drawing\writing poetry always helps to. just do something else to take the anger and pain away.

and about the coffee .. just liek ask your friends or family to help you and be liek.. Hey if you see me drinking coffee stop me.. and only have it liek 2-3 times a week..

i rele hope i helped!!

Q: OKay I know there's a lot of questions like these, but I really need your absolute HONEST opinion about what I should do.

Me & this kid named Joshua met in May, and we've been very close since, we started dating the day we met because we had a lot in common, and we straight off the bat liked each other. We dated for about two months, until he broke up with me because he had feelings towards another girl. Which I was okay with, because I knew he'd come to me, our relationship was just too strong to be friends. We dated, again - I took him back because I just really liked him (not loved.)

In about July I started having extreme feelings for Joshua, he made me so happy, I thought maybe I was falling in love? I was really unsure, so we were still dating, & he broke up with me again, and he didn't tell me why. Then we dated AGAIN & I broke up with him because I thought I felt feelings towards my best guy friend. Now we're just pretty good friends, we talk a lot, & I just found out that while we were dating, he was telling his best girl - friend that he loved her, and calling her baby. That makes me extremely mad, because he's hurt me so much & I've never done anything like this to him before.

My question is: Should I still remain friends with him?? I don't think I'd ever be able to date him again. But he hurt me so many times in the past, I'm just unsure. If you were in my situation would you be friends with him, or would you never talk to him, again?

Thanks =)
I'll rate you a five just for answering my question. Sorry it's forever and a day long.
Hmm well you seem to be in a not-so-cool situation. if i were you i would still talk to him from time to time.. i just would keep it strict. liek if he starts saying im such a fool for hurting you and stuff liek that.. just be liek Yeuh you are missin out on alot. your loss. or sumthing liek that haha.

Maybe if you find another guy, that would take your mind of him. that works for me.

i really hope i helped!!

Q: is it good to have sex at the age of 13 ? because my friend has several times and she asks me if i have all the time I mean it gets soo annoying help me please i wanna tell her its bad but i dont know what to say?
Hmm. well i think that if you Really think you are ready to take that step in a relationship and if you REALLY love the person, i guess its okay..its a big step and there are alot of risks. Dont just do it because your friend is cause then you would be doing it for all the wrong reasons. i guess all i can say is just think about it and talk about it with your partner. hope i helped =)

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heyy every1. my name is alese and im here to help with nethin i can. A lil bit about meee..
i am a compeition cheerleader for the DeMarco Stars♥I play Volleyball for my School♥I love to shop♥I hate when ppl call me a prep cause i wear Hollister and Abercrombie♥I love these hearts♥I have friends that are prolly better than yours♥I put bologna in my left pocket♥My cellfone is my baby♥thats pretty much it for nowww.♥so Im me on aol if you have any questions♥Love ya!

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