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Q: i have one of those invisalign retainers that i have to wear while i sleep. after a couple days it starts to smell and get really gross. ive tried rinsing it with water, it didnt do anything. then i tried using toothpaste. (brushing it like i would brush my teeth) it only worked a little. so i was wondering if there was anything i could do to get them really clean?

Well...hmm have you tried keeping it in listerine or a different mouth wash that's really strong? i don't have one but it's an idea. hope i helped some...

-STEPHANiE xx

Q: okay well a few years ago i was going out with this kid and we broke up. well all of a sudden he starts talkin to me again. he says that he still likes me & wants to give us another shot. the problem is he lives kinda far away. i do really like him but i've been hurt so many times before that i'm not sure if i want to commit to another relationship. i do really like him though. im just really confused & anybody who can help please!

I have a friend who's in the same situation. You just have to listen to your heart (note that's my column name lol) but you have to remember that you did go out before. and what ever the reason you guys broke up was for a purpose. and if you really like him then go out with him...but no matter what you will get hurt...every guy hurts you...i've been hurt many many times but it's part of life and everytime you get hurt you get stronger and you start choosing a better guy. and i can tell you is you need to clear your mind first and then come to a conclusion. Go out with some friends and don't think about it. and then when he asks you or call you again then you can say yes or no.Well i hoped that helped!!!

-STEPHANiE xx

Q: i've always wondered this: can you lose weight (in a healthy way) by sweating? for example, being outside in 100 degree weather all day (and staying hydrated and all that good stuff).

Well yes you can...but it's not a lot of weight...and it's water weight so it would just go right back. But if you are in "100 degree weather all day" you might want to do like cardio workouts like running...playing a sport like volleyball, soccer,or whatever it is you like to play. even just walking around for an hour will help you loose weight but it won't be just like that it does take time....
Hope i helped

-STEPHANiE xx

Q: Im 16 and ive never really been kissed. I have..but not a full makeout session or nothing. All my friends are very experienced in that department..and it makes me feel like awkward when they talk about that stuff because i dont really know. Is it bad that im 16 and still havent "madeout" with a guy?

This is my opinion but honestly i don't think that making out is like all that great. ya you do it but it's over with after that so i mean it's just a kiss...just more deep. and if u haven't "madeout" with a guy you will....eventually...it just might take some time so don't give your hopes up and trust me your lucky to even have been kissed like kissed i know some people who haven't even had their first kiss yet and they're 14-17 so don't worry...it'll happen...but kissing is kissing and like i dont' know to me making out with a guy isn't real important.

-STEPHANiE xx

Q: i have about just-past-shoulder-length hair and a side bang. i am really tired of wearing it down all the time. i need some good hair styles. can u help?? i dont mind trying new things so just tell me some cute, possible, and kind easy things to do with my hair, please =]

Hey!
Well i have about the same length...it's a little longer of hair and i have my hair layered but i did have bangs. It depends if your hair is curly, straight, thick, or thin. I have thick wavy/curly hair and what i did is just pulled it up in a scrunchi and pinned my bangs up with it with bobby pins or a cute baratte. i also just put the bangs behind my ears...what you can also do is get extenstions but they are pretty expensive. i also pulled half of it up and just kept my bangs down. you can always try wearing it down curly or wavy or have a friend french-braid it or braid it. the braiding is a "little kiddish" but it's still cute. uh you can also just throw up your hair and whatever falls down just keep it that way. also you can use hairspray when trying to keep it out of your face. if your hair's thin use "GUTS" ya awkward name but it volumizes your hair and that can make your bangs seem longer so you can pull them back easier...well i hope i helped...if you have any other questions just e-mail me at xLiisten2urheart@aim.com or leave one in the inbox or email me at sgarrison@fuse.net

Q: 16/F
By nature I am a shy girl. I have a problem which makes life difficult for me. When I use toilet its a noisy, mean I make loud sounds (louder farts). As I said I am shy in nature so I try to avoid visit toilet when in school or out side home, or I spend too much time sitting on toilet seat trying to avoid or lower the sound or trying to just pass the urine without releasing air. This creates a big problem for me.If you have any advise please....

Well i wouldn't consider it as a problem. and everyone passes gas...it's just part of the human nature (lol) but you may need to see the doctor about gas or digestive problems....what i do is watch wat you eat...you might be eating a lot of a certain food that makes your stomach upset. you can even take this medicine called "GAS X" it works if you feel that you're going to fart loud. i take that after i have pizza, spaghetti, foods that make you fart. Well i hope i helped. if you have any other questions e-mail me at sgarrison@fuse.net or xLiisten2urheart@aim.com or just leave me one in my inbox

Much Love

Q: how do you know if you're a true christian? i mean, i believe in God and that Jesus died for our sins and i go to church and pray every night, but i also lie frequently and stuff, and sometimes i feel like, intimidated by God?idk,its weird. but sometimes i get scared about like, revalation and stuff and i feel like theres a chance i wont go to heaven, even though i deffinetly believe in God and im not sure if i'm really a christian. can someone help ?
thanks

Everyone lies...even me. i'm a christian and i do lie and i cheat and other stuff like that but i repent for his forgiveness. and yea you should fear God but you also should love him. and if you believe in him you will go to heaven don't 2nd guess yourself if you love God and you trust him everything's fine. but also remember that there's no greater sin than sin. what that means is all sins are equal sex before marriage is a sin but it's equal to something as simple as lying. it's just the way or society works. but if you have any questions please e-mail me at sgarrison@fuse.net i'll be happy to help you. and a site that you can chat about this stuff go to www.air1.com it's a radio station with awesome music (rock/pop music) and you can chat with someone online if you also have any questions...

Good luck and God Bless!

-Steph

Q: ok im totally not saying i want to cut or i do cut or whatever im just stupid..

how do you cut? what is it? what do you do? where do you do it? what do you do it with?

im just looking for random answers not a lecture on WHY YOU CANT CUT YOURSELF BECASUE PEOPLE LOVE YOU bla bla bla becus im NOT like that i love my life

thanks ♥

I have a friend who cuts herself and it's not good. but like it's a way you harm your body with sharp objects...and just like it says you cut youself and i'm not gonna give you any ideas on where because there are certain spots that can make you die. and cutting is very serious...it's a mental problem and an emotional problem...and like no don't get any ideas to cut yourself if you do talk to someone you trust and yea people do love you and you don't want to leave everything you've accomplished. don't commit suicide. or anything if you have any questions feel free to e-mail me at sgarrison@fuse.net i'll be sure to help you and nothing will be posted...it's all confidential!

-Steph

Q: well i am 13 and having my second child. that pretty much says it all. help?

well. have to agree with bella but there's nothing really i can give advice to you on other than...you need to stop having sex. gosh. 13 years old and 2nd child. wow. but if you have any questions e-mail me at sgarrison@fuse.net i keep things that you ask me confidential and i'm 13 too. so if you have any questions e-mail me or i.m. me (aim) at xLiisten2urheart

Good Luck

Steph

Q: Alright, this is the thing. I HATE my highschool. Really, HATE it. So I've been pretty much miserable, which is why I've been skipping alot, and now I found out..because of this, I might not graduate. Now you'll probably never understand my culture, but there's nothing more important than education, My father has said it straight to my face "I don't care abotut your happiness, as long as you get into a GREAT university, and have straight A's" and last night he said "Go study! If you have any B's this year, I'll be really dissapointed, and you won't be my daughter!" And when I tried to tell him how dumb that is he said "I've only ever asked you for ONE thing in your life, and that's good grades, just that one thing..I think it's reasonable to ask you to do good in that" or something along those lines. I'm so scared :S and the thing is, since I've feared my father basically my whole life, I've never told him th truth about my grades, my mom has covered up for me, and told him I get straight A's even though I don't. And we were going to do that this year too, but now we can't..because I might not graduate. I can't stop crying, because it seems like there's no solution..I can not get anyone else involved, I can't ask my mother to help me anymore..I just can't. And I CAN NOT talk to my father, it's just not in my culture. So please..don't suggest any of those things. But..what can I do? Is there anything? Please help me :'(

Thank you!

wow. tough situation. well you can always tell your mom and have her say something like...she has to do another year of school so she can get into a good university. it's only for the best. and even tell your mom that you're afraid of your dad. but if anything tlak to your MOM. and have her talk to ur dad. that's really all i have... i hope it helps...

-steph

Q: Hey guys sup?? Well I've been working at my local Dunkin Donuts for the past 4-5 months for extra cash. Recently my boss has been a real dick and given me a real hard time about everything. He even talks behind my back when I'm not at work saying how bad of a worker I am. The ironic thing is that he hasn't fired me yet..He's really rude to me all the time and even curses at his workers, becuse he has a really bad temper. Maybe he really likes me in a sexual way and that's why he doesn't want to fire me...(he's 50 and I'm 16) I really don't know. Anyways last night I even hd a nightmare abut him that he was like yelling and screaming at me. I'm really afraid of him...
I feel like I should quit but what should i use as my excuse?? Should I be truthful or should I make up some bs and leave?? Or should I try to stick it out even though I'm really scared of him?? Please help me..I'm facing the Devil here. lol. Thanks in advance!!

I would definitly quit. ur excuse could be that i don't like a worker here and he/she (make it descrete) is giving me a hard time. and that's all you need to say. and i bet you he isn't a "dick" but he is a little strange. Leave cause it isn't worth working somewhere that you're afraid or completely dreading. there's plenty of other places you can work. you can even report ur boss to the person who is the boss of him...if that makes since. haha. but yea i would definitly leave...
Good Luck

-Steph

Q: Hello :)

Okay, so yesterday I saw one of my friends do something I've heard about for a long time, but never actually seen...lie. Yes, he lied. And it was pretty obvious, and also..pretty scary. You see, pretty much ALL YEAR I've heard one of my tightest friends talk about how he's changed, and lies, and so on..and ofcourse I belived her, but I guess it never really sunk in. Because when I actually experienced it for the first time (him lying straight to my face) it freaked me out. I was sp sworried for him, I wanted to cry. I was about to, but didn't. It hurts to see someone I've looked up to for such a long time lie. They're BIG lies too. And he should know that we can't possibly belive all this, it's crazy. And we basically have prrof that he's lying, but confronting him wont work, it's been tried already. And it didn't help, if anything..it made things worse, he had to lie even more to excuse his lies, and it was just..really bad. He was basically shaking when we were questioning, it's like he doesn't WANT to lie. But he still does it for some reason. I cant think of a reason WHY though, attention? I'm just really confused, you know. I really can't talk to him about this, and my friends have already tried. So what do I do? Just ignore it? Or stop ebing his friend? Tlak to his family about it? His other friends? Pleease help me, because I want to be able to help my friends (it's making them feel EVEN WORSE)

i have expierenced this...i think that's how you spell it.haha. but yea confronting him is probably not the best idea. it could be something with his health, family problems, friend problems, just hormones overall. i mean i would either talk to his friends and see what's going on mayb his family to. but don't go overboard or he could get even more mad and lie even more. or you can lie to him and when he figures out say "see you need to stop cuz that's how i felt when you lied to me" something like that.

I hope everything goes well and i hope this helped atleast a little!

Good luck
-Steph

Q: Does anyone know a website where i can get rainbow flip flops for less? not ebay or overstock.com i tried those. for example, i get my ugg stuff at www.fleecefootwear.com its a place where uggs are really cheap. does anyone know?? thankss!!

I'm sorry i don't know of any site on the top of my head but you can always look at outlet shops or even walmart...i kno but they are cheap. i think i saw some at aeropostle for like 10 dollars. but you can always go to www.shoes.com that's where i got my etnies for only 40 dollars!!!!! and they ship within like 2-5 days. i got mine 2 days after i ordered them. or go to www.dogpile.com and search it!

*hope you find it!*

-Steph

Q: Hello,

I woke up yesterday morning with an awful itchy white spotty mouth, the spots are tiny, white heads in patches all around the mouth area, extremly itchy, feel really dry when scratch them and came from no where.

I am going make a doctors appointment, but i really would like you advice before

Hope to hear from you before

It could just be break out. There's different type and some people get different types of "pimples" or spots lol. But since it's by your mouth it could be comething you ate. or you might consider putting blistex or some kind of chapstick around your whole mouth. but that's a good thing that you're going to the doctors. because it COULD be something a little more serious..

Hope it goes weLL!

-Steph

Q: I have a crush on this kid in my grade and the thing is i don't even like know him...I never talk to him and when he comes online i go onto my friends sn to talk to him because they talk more...i don't know why i like him and i think it is ridiculous but i really want a way to be closer to him and start talking any suggestions?

Just start a conversation easily with your friend or something...hang out somewhere. and you never know after a while he gets to know u he might lik you too!

Good luck!!
-Steph!

Q: hello advice givers. does anybody have the motorolla razor phone? because i kinda want it but i heard it gets bad within like 3 months, is this true? if any one that has experienced with this phone, let me know if its worth buying

Honestly my friend has one and it's not worth getting. yea it's really cool lookin but like the other advice giver said that it gets dirty fast...it does and i mean what would i'm doing because i started out with a Nokia 6010 but like i'm going up to a different phone that has FM radio and a camera...but it's not as expensive as a razor!

Good luck
Steph

Q: ok well i was wondering if the workouts in the seventeen magizne actually work because i dont want to waste my time doing it and then it doesnt work lol but if they dont work is there any workouts on the internet u could tell me about?? well thankzz i will rate 5

Well i really dont' know. But you can't just exercise. you have to eat right too. and like i say to everyone just eat healthy, walk everyday or run, and do cardio workouts like crunches or walking on a tredmil

Q: I know this sounds gross, but I'm concerned. Is just touching the pubic hairs of your vagina considered masturbation? Just feeling the pubic hair, nothing else. I've done it a few times and I'm really curious. If you think it's too gross to answer, you don't have to.

mmmk wow. ewe. i'm sorry i really don't like answering these type of questions...uh maturbation is not considered love life question if you read the bulliten or w/e on the side. but actually i really don't know i'm sorry.

Q: how long can you go without eating before you pass out?

I really don't know but i would not try that. You won't get skinny you'll just loose tons of nutrients in your body and you will be very slow. you will get skinny but i bet you won't like it.

Just make sure you eat a healthy diet and that's all you really need to do. and run each day or walk you can just do cardio work outs...you might think of joining a gym near you. But don't "NOT EAT" it's not healthy and it's not a good idea.

-Stephanie

Q: There is a condom lodged in my vagina how do I get it out??????

Ewe. that's not good. I would just try to pull it out and everyone answering this is right and i have a grandma who works in the ER at a local hospital...and like that young grandma i think...it's not uncommon. but u should get medical attention and get it out of there!!!
Hope you get it out!!!

-Steph

bio

alright well 1st off my name is Stephanie.
i'm 13... in 8th grade

i cheered my 8th grade year. i didn't cheer 6 or 7th [that was volleyball]

i love sports

i love God!

uhm. anything else i guess just i.m. me

-Stephanie

p.s. i'll proly get a new column soon. xLiisten2urheart the name is getting boring. lol...but then again i might wait a while.