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I think i need counseling. I haf anger issues and me and my very best friend (friend fer 10 yrs)got into a massive fight and she said that she wasnt my friend ne more and i cut myself all over and then i started hyperventalating. i couldnt feel my hands or my feet and the room was spinning and she called me and i was freaking out on the fone with her and i was so afraid. we worked things out but i think i need help idk waht to do im so scared. (link)
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Oh my god that's horrible,yes you should seek counseling,don't get scared once you get help you won't have to worry about doing anything that could hurt you,she has got to know what happened,I'm sure she'll want to go see you,try to save the friendship,this is your life that is on the line, and you will need her by your side supporting you at such a tuff moment.
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ok i am kevin burkett i am 13 years old me and my gf have been going out for 1 year and a half.
she has these two friends and they are guys they both like her and recently she told me she liked one of them but she still loved me and it took me a while to get over it cause this is not the first serious thing that has happend. and i am trying to get them to stop talking she want stop i have asked her multible times and she want give them up. she said they are her friends and that that she is not going to stop talking to them.
do you think that it is wrong for me to try to get her to stop talking to them? (link)
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Well if you know you can trust her,ask yourself this important question has she given you a good reason as to why you should prohibit her to keep talking to those two guys.I don't see why you can't say to her what's on your mind,put some limits if necessary,she needs to spend more time with you then them because your her boyfriend.
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okay well ive been dating this guy(Fred)for about 4 months now, and well things are great! But we go to different schools and he lives 15 minutes away...so we barley get to see each other. And i pretty much love him! but then theres a problem...i still have feelings for my ex. Hes such an awesome guy and everything and i see him everyday since we go to the same school. And he wants to get back together with me and i kinda want to as well...but then theres still Fred!and i have no clue what to do.I don't know if ending it with Fred would solve my problem, cause id hurt fred and myself at the same time...but i really want my ex back=S. UGH this confuzed girl needs some help. Anything would be awesome! Thanks. (link)
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I think you should go for your ex since you get to see him all the time,plus you really want to be with your ex more than him isn't that correct?Also go for the one you know it's going to definitely work out.Follow your heart.
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14/f.
So there's this guy I really like (let's call him carter), and he's kind of confusing me at the moment. I shall summarize everything that has happened by the day!
wednesday (carter has a girlfriend): so we had school off today, so my friends and i were going to go to the movies. i called carter to ask him if he wanted to come with us. he said he couldn't, but asked me to come to a party with him on thursday since we didn't have any school.
thursday (carter still has a girlfriend): he calls me and says he's "in the neighborhood" with his friend and asks if he can come over to chill. they come over, and we end up going to a park and having fun until they decide they have to go home and get ready for the party. soon, he comes back to my house to pick me up, and we go to the party. i notice his girlfriend isn't there. on the way back from the party, we're in his mom's car after he's dropped his friend home, and he invites me to his homecoming (we go to different schools), so i invite him to mine also. so i'm wondering if this is just a friends thing or what...it's a bit confusing.
friday (no girlfriend! woot!): so after school we all go to the movie theaters together, but decide to just hang out instead of go see a movie. i tell carter that this guy who likes me has stopped liking me and it kind of made my day, and then he tells me he broke up with his girlfriend because they "had nothing in common and had nothing to talk about". mind you, we have really intense conversations a few times a week on random subjects. insomnia! anyway, we have fun.
saturday: so we all promised that we would do something together tonight, so we have a horror movie pizza party thing at my house with him and a few of my friends. so one of my friends is sleeping over that night, so he ends up doing so too. loooong story about the sleepover, so i won't describe lol. let's just say that nothing happened, but it was supahfun!
sunday (today!): so in the morning, my friend leaves at like 7, so carter and i are left alone for like an hour and we talk about random things. then we are about to go to the park again, and my mom's boyfriend decides to (of course) drive him home at this exact moment. mom's bf wants me to go somewhere with him afterwards, so i come with. so our car is a 2 seater, so if you sit in the back seat, the person in the front seat has to get out in order for the back seat person to get out. i sat in the front, so i got out when he did. usually when we say goodbye, we hug, but he just walked away this time! it was kind of sad.
so now i'm all depressed because i don't know what to do. now mind you, a few weeks ago (when he still had a girlfriend) i told him after a really intense conversation that i had liked him because i thought i didn't like him anymore.
so what do you think? advice? thoughts? thanks in advance. (link)
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It could be that he likes you back also because why would a guy invite a girl for homecoming when he had a girlfriend,the other invitations,repeat what you told him again,see what his response is when you too are alone I'm sure things will turn out fine.
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Over the past year, I lost a bit of weight. Okay, maybe not a bit, approximately 40lbs. I do not weigh that much at all. I'm under 120. The thing is, I get a lot of comments & looks at school. I lost the weight in a healthy way. I was on a strict but good diet. I ate a ton of fruit & veggies, avoided extra fat/sugar, etc. The thing is people talk about me a lot. They always comment on how thin I am & make jokes about it. I do not find it funny. I know my friends & family are a bit concerned, but people at school are taking it a bit extreme in my opinion. At lunch time, my friends always watch what I eat. I get stared at by people from other tables. 'Anorexic' and 'Bulimic' was thrown at me a few times. It really frusterates me & is quite annoying. I don't understand why this is necessary. Not only do people joke with me about it, they talk about it behind my back with other people. They don't understand that it's actually embarrasing. Sometimes I feel like I'm getting more comments than girls who are overweight & I'm underweight. How can I avoid this?? I don't think I should have to hide myself in huge clothes because I don't want people saying anything. Especially when swimming in gym comes around. I want people to just drop it, but they don't. It's one thing to be concerned and another to talk about me for daily gossip, especially when the comments are rude. Any advice or suggestions?? Any opinions?? I know you aren't supposed to care about what people think or say, but it happens a lot & lunch has become a hard thing to do since everyone stares. I also don't want rumors going around. Thanks!! (link)
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The answer I gave you is now erased because you don't deserve it to be shown on my column if you're going to insult my advice fine so be it people like you I don't like many other people that received my advice they said thank you,others just wanted some advice or anthing would help for them,if you don't like other people's advice then deal with it you just like people keep saying you are whatever they say maybe it's true because instead of taking your anger on those who insult you what do you do you have the nerve to take it on me you are so immature grow up!
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Well now he jst told my friend today that he likes me, but i told him that i like another guy!(whick i do) so what do i do now with the friendship what if he asks me out what will my crush say? (link)
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You can still be friends with him as long as he is willing to accept the idea that you like someone else.If he asks you out you have to tell him you only look at him as a friend,that you're interested in someone else already.As far as your crush he will probably get the wrong idea,or he may be confused of what is going on but, you have to talk to him first about your feelings,that you like him,so he doesn't think your mind is on another person.
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okay well i have kinda a big problem.
me and my boyfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago.
and my ex from before him is starting to come back and wants to be with me again.
but before in our relationship he was an ass and he did kinda treat me like shit and cheated on me. and alll my friendds hate him because of what he did to me.
but i lost my virginity to him last year, so i never really got over him completely.
and now hes back, and saying hes never got over me and hes always loved me and all this stuff
so my question is should i give him another chance?
or just kinda be with him for a couple weeks and see how he is?
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No,you shouldn't,you can't be with someone who treated you like dirt,let him beg all he wants you have to make him feel bad,by you rejecting him he'll most likely learn his lesson,know that you were the wrong person to mess with,and not do the same thing to other girls.
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Ok well my brother..well he likes to share a lot of good things but most of the time he kinda mis-hears the information so to others it sounds like he's bragging or boasting or showing off and then it comes out as if he's a liar.
Like this one time I got the highest test mark in my class and i said 85% but he though it was 95% and he told my friend and my friend congratulated me about it and I'm liek what? (cuz that test was like 3 months ago and he thought it was 3 days ago) so the person is like boasting brat..
Noone ever said stuff like this to him in hsi face but behind his back (to me). I want to tell him to like, shut up but shut up isn't realyl the word.
How can i put it to him nicely so he doesn't get sad and offended? He's super sensitive and really young (link)
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Well you have to tell your brother that the next time he should ask you first about something that is about you to make sure that he doesn't say something that is incorrect or something that you rather keep to yourself because you don't want people to think he's trying to rub things in their face or he is not the type that tells the truth,and you are saying it to him because you care about him.
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17/f
okay so i have a crush on this kid jimmy in my math class. he's in my grade i just never had any classes with him so i've never met him..until now. he's sits diagonally behind me so i talk to him during math along with this kid joe that sits behind me. some of jimmy's friends are friends with my group and hang out with us all the time. so what would attract jimmy more to me? like how do i get him to become interested in me.. and how do i slyly get either my friends to invite him over or for me to invite him to out hang outs? i just have a huge crush on him and i want him to like me back but i don't know how to do that. thanks (link)
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Yes,get him to become more interested in you,tell your friends that he could come if he likes to,find out if he really likes you,if he has a girlfriend,if luckily he's single you have to try to act fast, and get him to notice you.
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me and this girl jenn have been best friend for three years already and i hate to see the friend ship end but latly she has been talking behind my back and ditching me and when i try to tell her she just gets mad what should i do? (link)
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Confront her again,it's obuvious the truth hurts her,tell her way does she have the nerve to talk trash about you,real friends don't do stuff like that,if she does the same thing again,then there is nothing to try to fix,because since she doesn't want to cooperate or give an explanation for her bad actions just send her to hell people like that don't deserve your friendship.
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One of my friends back in 5th grade who is still kind of my friend now, well he acts as if i was not even in his presence. Also he used to like me in 5th grade and then he like me now,but when he tells me and he becomes my boyfriend, he breaks up with me the next day because he claims that he like another girl....
What do i do? (link)
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Don't even bother anymore with him he'll just keep continuing with the same dirty game,you could get him back by making some other girl hurt him the same way he did to you so he gets the taste of his own medicine.
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PLEASE HELP IM DESPERATE!
I'm so pissed at all my friends. Like I can't even find the words to explain it. Michelle and Hana and I all had this thing were we slept over Hana's house and snuck out with this guy. They just did it yesterday and didn't invite me, even though weve only done it once before it annoyed me.
Michelle is kinda like the "leader" of our group and everyone listens to her. She like makes fun of me for being tall and it pisses me off. And everyone is obsessed with theses people and I feel left out. Some times I just want to cry. Im pretty and everything but im not loud and outgoing and people just dont listen to me. What can I do to make them like me and be in the middle of things? PLEASE HELP! Thanks so much. Anything helps. %% (link)
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There is nothing worng with being tall anyways try being outgoing,see why they are so obessed with them,ask yourself is it the way they dress,act or what,be better than that,you could even create your own crew,be the leader so others can look up to you for that.
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So I am really not too happy here. There is this guy called mark who I guess everyone likes but not for the obvious reasons, but because he is really funny and easy to talk to. I have had the biggest crush on him for a while now, and for a while I thought he liked me too. But then, I found out my best friend claire who is best friends (like, really, BEST FRIENDS, top on myspace, talk to eachother for hours on the phone each night) with mark, and she has a HUGE crush on him. She told me (and only me) about it because she thought that I didn't like him while everyone else did. Now I still really like him, but telling him wouldn't do any good because girls tell him daly that they like him and he never cares, and it might ruin our friendship. Plus, my best friend is in love with him and has a much better chance of him actually liking her. What I'm asking is, is there someway I can get over this guy quickly for my friends sake? (link)
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Yeah,go after another guy that you like,hang out with him or with your friends have some fun go partying,visit different areas,watch some movies,don't talk about him anymore,have your friends not mention him anymore to you if that's possible.
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Okay, sorry if this gets long.
I have this crush who is a grade ahead of me (8th grade). I've never talked to him before but last night at the football game, my friend, Ashley, who is two grades ahead of me (shes in 9th grade) told him to hug me. And he did, lol. And he kept smiling at me or looking at me is what my friends told me.
But then another 9th grade friend of mine, Dana, pulled me aside and told me that she liked him too and that she was going to ask him out. She knows that I like him, but I didn't really make a big deal out of it because I really don't want to get in a fight over a guy.
I still don't want her to ask him out though because I like him too and she knows it. She knows him more than I do and she's prettier than I am and whatever, but she already went out with him. Twice. And she broke up with him after like four days both times.
I mean usually Dana's so nice to me and everything. She doesn't know that I'm sort of upset over it, but she should know since SHE KNOWS THAT I LIKE HIM!
What should I do..?
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Talk to her face to face that you are upset over the fact that she wants to ask him out again,see what she responds if she's willing not to still step aside,then you have to ask your crush if he's interested in you or her if turns out that he wants then you have to go for it,don't let that girl take him away,she has to understand that when two people want to be together she has to let it go,and let them be happy whether she likes it or not.
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Hello my name is Rebecca Anne. I have a 7 month old daughter named Rylee. I'm 18 years old. So for the past few nights Rylee hasnt been sleeping well. Its like when I put her down she screams and if I pick her up she stops. But I cant hold her forever because adventually my arms get tired. Can someone give me some advice on what to do please? I'm desprate lol. (link)
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The thing is she's very used to being picked up,all why don't you give her some toys to play with or something to eat so she could entertain herself or her pacifier or a lot of milk to put her to sleep,pat her on her back a lot which will be faster for her to fall asleep,and try for her not to get the hang of it to being carried all the time.
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okay, well i had a boyfriend for like 6 months and we had sex like once a week, maybe twice. but sometimes we would go without it for a couple weeks. but the point is, i had sex in my life. well now were broken up and i crave it so much but i'm not the type of girl to just go out and have sex with anyone just to get some. is there anything i can do to make me stop craving it so much? (link)
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You have to be able to control it,not see any of those sexual videos,try thinking of other things besides that,getting yourself busy with other important things that you see you need to fix or finish in your life.
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15/f Lately I have been so afraid of dying. The other day i started crying hysterically and trying not to scream while thinking about it. I am fine when I dont thinka bout it, but lately I can't help it. The other day in school i had to get out of class because I started feeling like that again. I told my mom and she said not to tell anyone because theyll just try to make me go on medication and my dad just says not to worry so much. What can i do? please help! (link)
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You have to let the fear disappear by you not letting it get to you,you can overcome it,it's okay to be afraid were all human beings everyone no matter who you are have something that they're afraid of,also you have to be able to confront them with all your strength, and believe in god to help you guide your way.
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18/m
okay well about 7 months ago i got out of a 8 month relationship and with that girl i found myself always trying to pick a fight just so i could be mad and angry with her
and i hated it but i figured it was just because our personalitys clashed or something because it seemed like she did the same thing sometimes (that wasent what ended our relatinship tho)
oh and i never loved her only liked
but now i have a girlfriend that i absolutly love more than anything and i have been with her for about 5 months but i have been good friends with her for a cpl years
but anyways im finding myself starting to do the same thing i did with my ex. where im starting a fight for no reason
and im hating this so much because i dont want to hurt my girlfriend.
is there something wrong with me?
is this normal?
please help!!!
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Yes,I'm afraid so but,the good news is that you don't want to hurt her which shows the good side of you,you can get help like get counseling before things get worse,before you end up hurting her more as it is,but,first tell your girlfriend your problem she has to know then take the second step when you get the help you need it will make you a better person so don't worry.
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my best friend used to be in our group but then she left us for all these gothic kids. she denys being gothic. today at school she wore all black and dark purple. her friend started talking to me and he was sayin ew omg shes so gothic and she cuts why are you her friend. i was so embarassed i looked at her and her other friend just stared at me and he said why are you acting so happy! and her friends do kinda give me chills in this class ther was her 2 guys and a girl of her friends. she never usually takes any shit from people shed stand up for her self and her friends usually do to. but she sat there peeking smiling. after class she said o what a friend to me and i thought she was talking about me. was this like a setup? we were talking yesterday about our old group and she sounded kinda mad. she said i act like i dont know her at school. could she have told her friends. im still in it but i feel like an outcast with out her. but she seems so much happier around these friends. whats with her always being with guys well and girls and what happened im just confused? her friends accept me and she keeps me safe if im around them i have a soft heart shes a great friend but what am i? well im 14 girl shes 13..girl lol shes been my best friend my whole entire life but i gues i do tell my other friend their my best friends.. (link)
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People change as time passes usually for bad,you shouldn't feel like an outcast just because you're different from them,plus you said they accepted you,just try to get along with them to avoid conflict,but,I don't see them as trustful people that they go talking about her her like that you really need to be very cautious with them.
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This is pretty long.
First time asking a question here.
I’m 16/f
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months. He’s my first boyfriend. We started dating towards the end of 8th grade and we’re are now in the beginning of sophomore year in high school. Towards the beginning of our relationship he was the one who would always want to hang out and he always said really nice things like “you look beautiful”. And then a little later he would tell me he loved me a lot. I always said it back and I meant it. Then towards the middle of our relationship I was the one who always wanted to hang out and he always had plans with his friends who I used to be good friends with and liked at the time. Well back in middle school I didn’t have many friends that were girls and I was only friends with him and his friends. But then in freshman year I made friends that were girls and I am well aware that I became a little less laid back. But he also seemed a lot different to. His friends became jerks to me and he wouldn’t stand up for me. I wasn’t able to joke around with him anymore he took it all to seriously. He doesn‘t seem to care about anything anymore. Grades, holidays, rules, my interests, and all that kind of stuff. We used to talk online for hours. He is never online anymore. He used to call to hang out all the time. But I found myself being the one to call all the time. I could never see him being one to cheat. But I was always still paranoid. He doesn’t really get along with other girls. I still have a lot of guy friends and he never had a problem with it because he was sort of friends with them. I never hung out with them outside of school. So up to date now, he rarely ever says I’m beautiful anymore or say any of the other nice things that he used to. Unless he’s trying to get me to do something to him. Which I have never agreed to. I just don’t feel ready. Well, actually I don’t find myself wanting to. I don’t find myself as attracted to him as I was before. We don’t seem to have as much in common anymore. During the summer there were a few times where he wouldn’t call me for a whole week or even see me. I would call him but he doesn’t have a cell phone and he was never at his home. He started hanging out with his band a lot. Lately I found myself not being jealous or really being motivated to hang out. We don’t have the same sense of humor anymore. My friends are really fun and outgoing. And I find myself being more like them. Today we had to sit in the auditorium for an assembly. One of my friends that was a male was joking around with him and he got pissed. He has never accepted the fact that I think some of his friends are jerks. He usually doesn’t associate with my friends but today he was talking mean about my friend that was joking around with him and I didn’t think it was fair that I’m not aloud to say anything bad about his friends but it’s alright for him. There are a lot of things like that. Where it’s okay for him to do something in his eyes but then he gets pissed when I do it. When ever we have an argument I’m never aloud to be the mad one. He always makes it about himself. If we’re hanging out and he does or says something that upsets me (which has been happening a lot recently) I just kind of move away from him and just sit there. I would just like for once to not be the one who talks first or apologizes first. He always turns it into some sort of game to see who talks first. It’s always me. If I get angry he makes it about himself and then gets mad at me. Sometimes he curses at me in argument. I told him I don’t like that. I don’t have a problem with cursing at all. But when it’s directed towards me from him in an angry tone. It’s kind of scary. He’s only made me cry once. Well only once in front of him. But he’s made me cry before like after a phone conversation or something. It takes a lot to make me cry. He doesn’t listen to my problems and whenever he does his answers are always to just yell at the person I have a problem with. I don’t think that’s always the best way to handle things. I’ve found my taste in music getting less picky. He loves metal/grunge. I like it too and I grew up with it. But I also like other things and for some reason I can’t even talk to him about that because I know how he acts about that. He will just sit there and tell me how much he hates that band and make me feel stupid for even having the slightest bit of interest in that band. I’ve told him all of this stuff and he doesn’t have much of a response he just makes it about himself. So this is getting pretty long. I guess I'm just venting but I just thought I’d let you know where I’m coming from. I’m not really sure what I’m asking here. But the thought of breaking up has been racing through my mind a lot recently. But the thing is, I can’t imagine being the one to do that. He’s my first boyfriend, I love his family, and I don’t know how he would react at all. Once bringing that up in conversation to your boyfriend I can’t imagine it ever going back to normal. Also we have lunch together and sometimes he doesn’t sit with me which is okay, he has friends too, but I can’t imagine how awkward that would be. We also have art class together. I know those would be horrible reasons not to break up if I’m unhappy. It’s just something that’s been on my mind. My best friend and her boyfriend have been going through a lot trouble in their 2 year relationship and I think that, that might have gotten me thinking about my own relationship. Can anyone tell me what you think and if you have any idea something I could say to him about any of this.
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What I think is that he's like not wanting to show his feelings for you probably he feels uncomfortable,he is selfish for not caring for your feelings,it shouldn't always be about him it also includes you,try to talk to him about what is really going on his mind,if he really cares about the relationship,if he's willing to try to make it work because you don't want the relationship to go down the drain without giving it another shot,and that perhaps the relationship could be saved if he wants to understand you,communicate well with you,not leave you out,and is willing to change his ways.
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