idk if my friend set me up but her friends are creepin me ou
Question Posted Thursday September 13 2007, 7:16 pm
my best friend used to be in our group but then she left us for all these gothic kids. she denys being gothic. today at school she wore all black and dark purple. her friend started talking to me and he was sayin ew omg shes so gothic and she cuts why are you her friend. i was so embarassed i looked at her and her other friend just stared at me and he said why are you acting so happy! and her friends do kinda give me chills in this class ther was her 2 guys and a girl of her friends. she never usually takes any shit from people shed stand up for her self and her friends usually do to. but she sat there peeking smiling. after class she said o what a friend to me and i thought she was talking about me. was this like a setup? we were talking yesterday about our old group and she sounded kinda mad. she said i act like i dont know her at school. could she have told her friends. im still in it but i feel like an outcast with out her. but she seems so much happier around these friends. whats with her always being with guys well and girls and what happened im just confused? her friends accept me and she keeps me safe if im around them i have a soft heart shes a great friend but what am i? well im 14 girl shes 13..girl lol shes been my best friend my whole entire life but i gues i do tell my other friend their my best friends..
sunnyville answered Friday September 14 2007, 8:48 pm: People change as time passes usually for bad,you shouldn't feel like an outcast just because you're different from them,plus you said they accepted you,just try to get along with them to avoid conflict,but,I don't see them as trustful people that they go talking about her her like that you really need to be very cautious with them. [ sunnyville's advice column | Ask sunnyville A Question ]
christina answered Friday September 14 2007, 8:11 pm: People like you upset me. You think that just because your friend gets new friends & they're not like you that they're weird, creepy or even insane. Honestly, you need to grow up. Just because your friend has new friends that are different doesn't mean anything. Instead of judging her friends by what they wear & how they act, why don't you get to know them? You could be judging the nicest kids in the world but instead you're acting like a stuck-up little bitch just because she ditched your ass, and I honestly see why.
So here's what you do. You get your head out of your ass, look past people's differences, talk to your friend, be nice to her friends & find some common ground with them. [ christina's advice column | Ask christina A Question ]
bluemoonw747 answered Friday September 14 2007, 7:20 pm: Labels! Throughout school all we here about are jocks, preps, gangsters, punks, goths...but what are these groups really? A bunch of normal kids that's what! It doesn't matter what you ware or how you act. A person's a person! Do not feel embarassed with your friend you sound like you care about her alot! Do not let group identity ruin realationships. Do not feel emabrassed. The next time someone asks you "Why do you hang out with her?" Simply say "Because its a free country. She's my best friend! I won't give her up just because she's in a different group. Are you insane or just imature." It's o.k. to feel your not a good friend. That's just a feeling, what matters is what you do. Just because your friend acts different doesn't mean she's still not your friend. If you paint a yellow cat black, is in not still yellow? You might get a little wirded out at first, but that's normal. You're going into the uknown and people label them as freaks all the time. Do you know how much that hurts them. If your best friends new "goth" group asks you "Why are you so happy?" say "Cuz I'm so happy to see you! Plus I'm with my best friend in the whole world!" She matters don't care what people say. Put yourself in her shoes! Imagine being shuned becuase you're doing something you like. Something you feel comforftable with. Do not change becuase you might feel people not likeing you. BE YOURSELF!When people see how ready you are to accept another group, some will admire you and you may be the start of a peace among groups! Yet some will envy you, or not wish to change your mind. If they drop you...were they really your friend to begin with? Or were they just friends with an image of you that was not true. [ bluemoonw747's advice column | Ask bluemoonw747 A Question ]
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