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picking a fight for no reason
18/m
okay well about 7 months ago i got out of a 8 month relationship and with that girl i found myself always trying to pick a fight just so i could be mad and angry with her
and i hated it but i figured it was just because our personalitys clashed or something because it seemed like she did the same thing sometimes (that wasent what ended our relatinship tho)
oh and i never loved her only liked
but now i have a girlfriend that i absolutly love more than anything and i have been with her for about 5 months but i have been good friends with her for a cpl years
but anyways im finding myself starting to do the same thing i did with my ex. where im starting a fight for no reason
and im hating this so much because i dont want to hurt my girlfriend.
is there something wrong with me?
is this normal?
please help!!!
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talk to her about it maybe the both of you can get thru this.
one away to show her that you care and that you don't mean to be that way is that you tell her you want her to help you and be by your side.
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Yes,I'm afraid so but,the good news is that you don't want to hurt her which shows the good side of you,you can get help like get counseling before things get worse,before you end up hurting her more as it is,but,first tell your girlfriend your problem she has to know then take the second step when you get the help you need it will make you a better person so don't worry.
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Hav you ever felt little relationship scared? Though some people may say "No way! I have had tones of relationships!" that might not be the case. You can have a million relationships, but if pattern begins to form its a reason that goes way deeper into you. Think, are you soemtimes afriad of commitment? Have you seen a relationship that ended badly? Maybe not, maybe life was pretty perfect in seeing love and feeling love. If that's the case then great! Yet your subconcious mind is pushing these girls away. That's why you keep picking fights. NO nothing is worng with you! This is normal in cases of fear. If something was wrong with you you wouldn't be screaming HELP! This may take some time, but when you find yourself beginning to pick fights with your girlfriend stop! Breath! And tell yourself, look at her, you love her she's beautifule, and you don't want to hurt her. Think of a good memories, or inside joke. If she notices and asks what's worng? Why are you acting strange, an easy way to cover that up with a girl is a mind boggeling kiss, and saying "You just make me feel so great! I love you." That will put all her suspicions to bed. Yet this is easier said then done. Sometimes you won't catch yourself, but this is trial and error, and the best thing you can do is reason with yourself.
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